Becoming You with Suzy Welch

Fear of change is powerful. But the deepest fear of all may be this: the fear of stepping into a life that is fully our own. In the final episode of the three-part Be Not Afraid series, your host Suzy Welch shares a deeply personal story about loss, identity, and the moment when fear gives way to decision. The episode revisits one of the podcast’s most intimate stories — one that longtime listeners will remember well — about a solitary swan who appeared at Suzy’s home, shortly after the death of her husband. The two formed an unusual bond, each navigating life alone after years of partnership. Then one day, the swan disappeared. Her departure became a powerful metaphor for something many people face but rarely name: the moment when the life we knew is gone, and the future depends on choices we are not yet sure we’re ready to make. Drawing on her own experience of grief and reinvention, Suzy explores the quiet but critical turning point that follows self-discovery — the decision to act.  Because growth does not happen by accident. Reinvention does not happen by accident. Becoming does not happen by accident. It happens when we decide. This episode concludes the Be Not Afraid series with a simple but challenging question: Are you waiting for life to change… or are you ready to begin again? Missed the Suzy the Swan story? Catch up here: Thinking of Pursuing Your Passion as a Career? Please Think Again. If You Knew Suzy...The Swan, That Is... Take the Becoming You Three-Day Intensive course this May on NYU’s campus, here. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at ⁠thevaluesbridge.com⁠ PIE360 Feedback tool is available at ⁠pie360feedback.com⁠ Want more Becoming You? Check out the ⁠Becoming You book⁠. You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the ⁠Becoming You newsletter⁠ for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on: • Instagram: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • Linkedin: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • TikTok: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • YouTube: ⁠@suzywelch_⁠ • X: ⁠@SuzyWelch⁠ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear of the unknown gets plenty of attention. But an even deeper fear lurks beneath it: the fear of what might happen if we truly understood ourselves. In Part II of the Be Not Afraid series, your host Suzy Welch explores why self-knowledge can feel so threatening — and why so many people instinctively avoid it.  The episode begins with a revealing experiment: Suzy once asked her colleagues to anonymously write down the first word that came to mind when they saw her name appear on their phones. Most responses were predictable. One was not. The word was “machine.” That moment opens a larger conversation about values — how difficult they are to see clearly, and why powerful forces constantly distort them. Suzy explains the four dynamics she calls the Four Horsemen of Values Destruction: Expectations, Expedience, Events, and Economic security. Along the way, she responds to a listener who admits she’s afraid to take The Values Bridge assessment for one simple reason: she worries the results might reveal that her life is far from aligned with what matters most. The fear is understandable. But the data tells an interesting story: almost no one is perfectly aligned with their values — and yet understanding that gap can be the beginning of real freedom. Because the truth about ourselves can be uncomfortable. But avoiding it comes at a far greater cost. And sometimes, the moment we finally face it brings something we’ve longed for: relief. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear of the unknown gets a lot of attention. But the deeper fear — the one that quietly shapes our careers and lives — is something else entirely. The fear of knowing ourselves. In this first episode of a three-part series on fear and self-discovery, your host Suzy Welch explores why so many people avoid looking closely at who they really are — and what they truly want. Drawing inspiration from the iconic film “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?,” Suzy examines the psychological reality behind what researchers call information avoidance: our tendency to avoid truths that might force us to change. She tackles a question from podcast listener Katie, who took a brave step after decades of professional success: a sabbatical to reassess her life and career. Now she faces a dilemma many people share — should she admit that she took a sabbatical on her resume, or hide it from potential employers? This episode kicks off a three-part “Be Not Afraid” series on the courage it takes to change your life from the inside out. Because the truth is simple: If you don’t stop to ask who you are… life will eventually force the question. And the sooner you ask it, the better. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the real risk isn’t oversharing…but undersharing? We spend so much energy worrying about saying too much – about TMI, about revealing something we might later regret. But in the process, many of us end up living with more unsaid than said, and with more authentic moments missed than taken. On this counterintuitive (and hilarious) episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch speaks with Harvard professor Leslie John about the underrated power of oversharing and her new book “Revealing.” The conversation explores what the Becoming You methodology calls an authenticity gap in the value of Voice – the distance between how much we value self-expression and how much we actually practice it. When should you reveal more of your inner world? How can revealing more build trust, deepen connection, and help you live more authentically? And what is the true cost of silence? Oversharing isn’t the enemy. Neither is restraint. The real skill is learning how to reveal in a way that serves both you and the people around you. This conversation is about Voice, about closing the gap between what you value and how you live, and about practicing self-expression as a learnable skill. And yes, you’ll hear a few oversharing stories that may make you rethink exactly where the line is. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’ve heard it a thousand times: What’s your why? Your purpose, your North Star, where your best life is hiding. But what if the “why” question isn’t the one that actually gets you unstuck? In this special episode, your host Suzy Welch hears from the global community of certified Becoming You coaches about the questions they use to jumpstart purpose-seeking clients. Their answers are nothing short of revelatory.  Suzy introduces three of the most powerful questions, designed to unlock forward motion when you’re feeling stuck, stalled, or secretly longing for something more. And yes, one of the questions may or may not be about dogs – but not in the way you’d think.  This is not a fluffy “find your passion” conversation. It’s a practical, sometimes uncomfortable excavation of what’s really stopping you — and what might finally set you free. If you’ve been circling the question of purpose but not making progress, this episode offers three new entry points. Forget your why. Start here. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’ve read even one headline about careers lately – who hasn’t – you may be feeling a familiar cocktail of emotions: fear, dread… and total confusion. Mass layoffs. AI everywhere. Ageism creeping younger and younger. Trade jobs suddenly looking more secure than white-collar work. Remote work still the most controversial topic in modern professional life. You might be left wondering, “What the heck is happening with careers right now?” In this special installment of Career Confidential, your host Suzy Welch is joined by co-host Dustin Liu, Associate Director of NYU Stern’s Initiative on Purpose and Flourishing, to break down five of the biggest career headlines shaping the world of work right now, including: Are mass layoffs truly about AI? Do professionals have to turn to “resume Botox” to appear younger? Is AI a net destroyer of jobs… or the creator of entirely new careers? What does it mean when trade workers are surpassing college grads in job security? Why is remote work still the defining workplace battleground? This is an episode for anyone trying to make sense of today’s career chaos, and trying to build a life of purpose and stability inside it. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the thing you’ve been told your whole life, that you work too much, that you don’t relax enough, that you should “just enjoy yourself” isn’t something you need to “fix”…but a value? In the third and final episode of this travel series, your host Suzy Welch takes us to Paris. Not for romance, not for nostalgia, not even for the croissants (though, obviously, yes). She goes for something much deeper: clarity. This is the concluding chapter in a three-part exploration of how travel can wake us up – not to new landscapes – but to new eyes. To the truth of who we are underneath the stories we tell ourselves. In Part One, Suzy stood at the Taj Mahal and reckoned with Belovedness, the value of romantic love. In Part Two, she returned to Sicily and uncovered a family history that reshaped her understanding of Scope – the hunger for a big, expansive life. And now, in Part Three, we arrive in Paris in the summer, at a moment that is both outwardly relaxing and inwardly seismic. Suzy finds herself on the Île de la Cité, standing before the newly restored Notre Dame, and confronted by a surprising realization about two values that rarely coexist peacefully: Eudemonia…and Workcentrism. This is an episode about: What it means to honor your values without apology Why purpose is not one-size-fits-all What happens when you stopping judging yourself – and others – for the ways we choose to organize a life  The goal isn’t to live someone else’s version of happiness, it’s to live in alignment with your own. Welcome to seeing yourself, at last, with new eyes. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the stories you inherited about where you come from were all a lie? In part two of a three-episode Becoming You series about the places you travel and the self-discoveries that arise, your host Suzy Welch voyages to Sicily. Not for sun-drenched escapism or waterfront glamour (hello White Lotus), but to confront the whispered mythology that shaped her childhood and, without her knowing it, her values. This is an episode about ancestry, silence, and the stories families tell to survive. Suzy takes us to Caltanissetta, her family’s ancestral village in the center of Sicily, where a long-told narrative of nobility and elegance collides with historical truth, about the kind of suffering that forces people to choose between staying—or running for their lives. What unfolds is not just a revelation about where her family came from, but a profound insight into a core value she would later name Scope: the desire (or lack thereof) for risk, stimulation, and a big, expansive life. This episode explores: How generational trauma gets buried under idealized fictions The difference between grief and gratitude when facing your family’s past How values like Scope shape whether we run toward calm and security vs chaos and excitement  With vulnerability, honesty, and unexpected joy, Suzy reflects on her ancestors’ courage, and their decision to leave everything behind, cross an ocean, and choose uncertainty over suffering. And she asks the question at the heart of this series: What do the places you’ve been reveal about who you are? Next week, the journey continues—in Paris—where a completely different truth waits to be discovered. Because sometimes, you have to travel all the way across the world to meet yourself.  The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the places you travel don’t take you far away… but bring you closer to who you actually are? In this deeply personal and openly vulnerable episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch launches a rare three-part storytelling series about travel—not as escape or travelogue, but as excavation. On this first trip, you will land in Agra, India, at the foot of the Taj Mahal. What unfolds there is not a story about architecture or history, but a reckoning: about love, power, identity, and the value Suzy would later name Belovedness (long before she had the language for it). Through the lens of her marriage, the complicated legend of Shah Jahan and Mumtaz Mahal, and the quiet ache of self-betrayal that can come from living misaligned with your deepest values, Suzy shares the kind of insight that only comes from a trip to the other side of the world. Along the way, you’ll hear about: How travel can surface buried truths about your values Why love stories are always more complicated than they appear The difference between loving someone and organizing your life around them What it means to “miss yourself” inside a life that looks beautiful from the outside How self-knowledge can arrive long before you have the words for it Sometimes, you have to go very far away to finally see yourself. Be sure to tune in next week, as we journey to Italy for a story that is at once identity-shattering and deeply clarifying. And we want to know, where have you traveled and found yourself? Leave a review with your answer.  The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ordinarily, Becoming You is a podcast about the information we have to excavate, the decisions we need to make, and the actions we have to take, in order to live by design, not default. This week, in an unusually intimate episode, our host Suzy Welch talks about the words you need to say, three to be exact, to the same end. The only hitch is, you need to say them before it’s too late. Suzy almost missed that chance with her lifelong best friend, Sue Jacobson, this week’s special guest, in an episode that brings us inside a hospital room awash with despair, and plumbs just what it means to demonstrate the very hard, very necessary act of mattering. Yes, mattering. It sounds simple. It feels obvious. And yet, as this episode explores, most of us are getting it wrong. Drawing on the research of Professor Zach Mercurio, and decades of real-life friendship, work, loss, and resilience, Suzy breaks mattering down into three teachable practices: Noticing, affirming, and needing. These aren’t platitudes. They’re behaviors. And when done right, their impact is profound. You’ll hear live demonstrations with Suzy and Sue, honest missteps, and one extraordinary story that reveals why telling people “you matter” isn’t enough. Along the way, Suzy and Sue admit to friendship ruptures, leadership lessons, near-loss, and why vulnerability is the most underused advantage in work and life. If you want to be a better boss, partner, friend – or simply a more impactful human – this episode will give you tools you can use today. Fair warning: it may also make you cry. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before you're fired, you're a ghost. You just don't know it yet. Suzy Welch calls this phenomenon "dead man walking"—that strange purgatory when your boss has mentally let you go but hasn't said the words yet. You're still showing up, still sending emails, still thinking you have a job. But something has already ended. In this special "Career Confidential" episode of Becoming You, Suzy and her NYU Stern colleague Dustin Liu pull back the curtain on the part of getting fired no one talks about: what's happening on the other side of the desk. The guilt. The anger. The calculus about when to do it. The weird emotional roller coaster your boss rides before ending your career. But this isn't just the boss's story. Suzy and Dustin dig into what it feels like to be on the other side—the shock, the shame, the strange grief of a professional death. Suzy has been fired three times herself. Once by Harvard Business Review. Once by a consulting firm. And once—in a story she tells here in full—by her own husband. Dustin watched three friends get let go within ninety minutes of each other. They've seen the drama of career collapse from every angle. This is a podcast of specifics. The five signs you're about to be fired aren't vague hunches—they're patterns, and Suzy walks through each one with the kind of bluntness that might make you uncomfortable. The meeting invites that dry up. The feedback that stops. The subtle shifts in how people talk to you. By the time you notice, you may already be halfway out the door. But here's what most career advice won't tell you: sometimes you can climb back. Not always, but sometimes. Suzy breaks down exactly what that looks like—the conversations you need to have, the moves that can reverse your trajectory, and why most people won't do them. It requires honesty most of us would rather avoid. This isn't a pep talk. It's your boss's diary—and possibly your last chance to rewrite the ending. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every year, we make New Year’s resolutions. And every year…we break them. But why? In this episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes on one of the most universal – and quietly painful – rituals of the calendar year, and explains why New Year’s resolutions almost never work…unless you understand what’s really driving them. In the Becoming You methodology, that’s called the Authenticity Gap: the distance between the values you hold and how much you’re actually living them. That ache you feel, the sense that you’re “fine, but not quite fine,” that’s where New Year’s resolutions come from. A values disconnect. Drawing on exclusive data from Becoming You’s Values Bridge digital assessment, Suzy breaks down why the average person is walking around with a 27% authenticity gap (and what that number means), which values tend to cause the biggest riffs for people, and why your resolutions might be making your Authenticity Gap worse.  Along the way, Suzy shares deeply personal stories, from a family resolution tradition that still hurts to remember, to a hairdresser’s very honest shopping confession. Plus, Suzy explores what it really means to live an A-plus life in a world that often pulls us away from ourselves. And yes…finally…Suzy explains her lifelong crush on Pitbull. If you’ve ever made a New Year’s resolution that didn’t stick, this episode will give you a completely new way to make your goals for the year ahead. So stick with Suzy for 30 minutes. This one might actually change your year. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Career success, life success – you want them, but here’s the thing, they will remain ever elusive until you know your aptitudes. Don’t bolt! We know that word sounds like jargon. Or like pure academic BS. But aptitudes are real, and you have very specific ones, and knowing what they are can and will change your life. Take it from Suzy, who in this week’s gasp-worthy pod (yes, just wait and see) tells us how she learned that very lesson the hard way. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christmas is supposed to be joyful. Magical. Simple. So why does Becoming You host Suzy Welch feel so…troubled…by Santa Claus? This week on the podcast, Becoming You is celebrating Christmas with a conversation about one of the most misunderstood of the 16 values in Becoming You’s Values Bridge system: Cosmos.  Cosmos represents religion or spirituality—not any specific religion, but the degree to which faith shapes how someone experiences the world. And here’s what the data tells us: Cosmos is the most polarized value there is. You either have it…or you don’t. Suzy does. In this episode, she explores what it’s like to live as a high-Cosmos person in a largely Santa-forward, faith-agnostic culture—especially at Christmas. Why suppressing your #1 value can be exhausting. Why faith can feel disconcerting to people who don’t share it. And why understanding this value—whether it’s yours or not—may be one of the most important acts of respect we can offer each other. Along the way, Suzy shares her own unexpected faith story, why she almost left Cosmos out of the Values Bridge entirely, and what Christmas means to her.  This is not a sermon. It’s not an argument. And it’s definitely not a typical holiday episode. It’s an invitation: to understand a value you may not share, to see the people who hold it more clearly, and to consider whether the greatest gift this season might be learning how to honor each other’s differences—with compassion, curiosity, and a little grace. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch does something few mothers-in-law would dare to do: she cold-calls her daughters-in-law and asks that question – Am I a good mother in law? Suzy is joined by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of You, Your Husband & His Mother, for an honest, deeply human conversation about values and family. Together, they ask: What does a good mother-in-law really look like? Why do the holidays so often expose unspoken power dynamics and values conflicts? And how does insecurity – especially in family systems – cause us to lose curiosity, shut down, and stop asking the questions that actually build connection? Dr. Tracy explains why staying curious about a daughter-in-law (or any new family member) is one of the most important – and hardest – skills to develop, and how inquiry can replace control without sacrificing your values.  They also explore whether couples can thrive with differing values and why sometimes the healthiest move isn’t pulling harder on either side, but dropping the rope entirely and accepting that not everyone in your family will see the world the way you do. Suzy shares a moving story about her son and daughter-in-law – a seemingly simple moment – that reveals what it really means to face family pressure together. This episode is for anyone navigating in-laws, holidays, or family tension, and wondering how to stay true to themselves without losing the relationship.   Find Dr. Tracy Dalgleish https://drtracyd.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What makes a relationship truly work? Is it chemistry, shared interests, or something deeper – something that holds when life gets complicated? In this special installment of Becoming Us, where host Suzy Welch applies the Becoming You values methodology to couples, Suzy sits down with media and reality TV personality Sam Feher and her boyfriend William Hayden, co-founder of the startup Bags. Together, they explore how aligned values create the real foundation for a strong, lasting partnership. Using the proven, data-driven Becoming You values framework, Suzy helps Sam and William illuminate exactly where their values naturally align and where meaningful gaps appear. They dig into one of their biggest value contrasts: Cosmos, the value of faith, which sits at the very bottom of Sam’s list but in William’s top tier. They discuss navigating conversations about religion and spirituality with respect instead of friction. And they unpack the reverse dynamic with Belonging – a core value for Sam, but one of William’s lowest – complete with a hilarious story about a competitive game night that revealed exactly what Belonging looks like in action for them as a couple. Throughout the conversation, Suzy shows how understanding these contrasts through The Values Bridge can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for connection. And she also reveals the “green flag” of all green flags: the one value Sam and William rank nearly identically – and how that shared priority quietly strengthens their relationship every single day. This episode is a masterclass in how clarity about your own values – and your partner’s – can turn “me” and “you” into a thriving, unstoppable “us.”   Find Sam on Instagram and CAPS LOCK podcast Find William's company, Bags The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Only 11% of Americans rank family as their #1 value. That's not a guess. It's data from nearly 100,000 respondents of The Values Bridge—the largest values data set ever compiled. On this episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch breaks down the research from Becoming You Labs behind her widely discussed Wall Street Journal op-ed, "For Americans, Family Comes First—Or Does It?" And she's brought in the perfect person to help make sense of it: renowned family therapist Vienna Pharaon. What The Values Bridge reveals about family challenges nearly everything we've been told about what matters most—and raises profound questions about how we're actually living our lives. That's why this conversation feels so personal—and important. Suzy and Vienna explore: Why our childhood experiences and the messages we absorbed growing up shape our values more than we realize. The values that consistently outrank family, like self-care and flourishing. How to honor your real values and design a life around them—without the guilt that comes from not living up to others' expectations. This conversation isn't about whether you love your family. It's about understanding what genuinely drives your choices, your energy, and how you spend your days. If you've ever felt guilty for not wanting to go home for the holidays, or wondered why you don't feel about family the way you think you should—you're not alone. And this conversation will help you understand why.   Where to find Vienna Pharaon: Workbook: https://viennapharaon.com/wound-workbooks-opt-in/ Quiz: https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7Cl Website: https://viennapharaon.com Instagram: @mindfulmft Facebook: MindfulMFT TikTok: mindfulmft The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Thanksgiving, Becoming You community. This podcast exists to help you think deeply about your purpose—and today, our host Suzy Welch is doing exactly that in one of her most reflective episodes yet. Before turning to the four things she's happily thankful for right here and now, Suzy examines three significant mistakes she's only grown grateful for over time. A highly specialized (and utterly impractical) college major. Her painful first marriage. A spectacular termination. Three consequential missteps—and the wisdom each eventually revealed may not be what you'd anticipate. This is an unusually candid conversation. The path to purpose, it turns out, isn't always paved with achievements. Sometimes it's forged through the decisions we initially wish we could undo. This Thanksgiving, we're sitting with the paradox of gratitude—for the detours that redirected us, the lessons that only time could teach, and the unexpected places where meaning takes root. Happy Thanksgiving. Let's keep becoming us, together. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's time once again for a mailbag episode of Becoming You, in which host Suzy Welch tackles three "I feel stuck" moments that couldn't be more different—except they all demand the kind of honesty that stings a little before it sets you free. First up: a stay-at-home mom who adores her kids but has completely lost herself in the process. Suzy unpacks the deep, painful ironies of motherhood and what it really means to reclaim your identity without guilt. Next: a listener who wants permission to quit a job after just two months, citing her "values." With compassion—but also clarity—Suzy draws a crucial distinction between values and virtues, and gently pushes back on what's really happening here: breaking a contract, letting down a friend, and maybe engineering a little vacation time. "This is not about values," Suzy says. "This is about right and wrong." It's tough love, delivered with heart. Finally: a 73-year-old listener asks whether Becoming You even applies in retirement. Suzy's answer? An emphatic yes. The clock isn't ticking backward, and purpose doesn't come with an expiration date. In fact, "third halfers" might be the most ideal Becoming You audience of all. Plus, a final lightning-round question about Suzy's workplace pet peeves. Warning: a pun may be involved. Tune in to find out—and while you're at it, hear a few messages that may strike home, and heart. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Yes, they’re painful. But so is being unemployed. First of all, surprise, this is a podcast that is, at its core, about ageism, a real and painful dynamic faced by way too many people in today’s hyper-fierce workforce. But in the course of coming up with solutions for fighting ageism, our host Suzy Welch realized her advice was something that applied to everyone. Because the five questions she wants you to ask yourself – and answer with brutal candor – are all about relevance, the greatest single competitive advantage you can take with you to an interview. Each week, Becoming You endeavors to help listeners discover their purpose, at home, in life, in love, with careers. Today’s work-focused episode is possibly more intense than usual. OK, not possibly. It is. The questions it urges you to ask, and the tough-love commentary Suzy provides about them, may make you cringe. But as Suzy says, “Getting the job you love can sometimes feel like one big humiliation machine.” We cannot let that scare us off. So take a deep breath, grab something to take notes, and get ready for what could be the most unexpected 30 minutes of job search advice you didn’t know you needed to hear, but did. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.   You can follow and tag Suzy on: Instagram: @suzywelch Linkedin: @suzywelch TikTok: @suzywelch YouTube: @suzywelch_ X: @SuzyWelch To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices