Stoic Coffee Break

THE PROBLEM Are you too busy? Are you working too hard to be productive with every minute of your time? In today’s episode I want to talk about the perils of over-optimizing your life, and what the Stoics had to say about managing your time. “So, concerning the things we pursue, and for which we vigorously exert ourselves, we owe this consideration – either there is nothing useful in them, or most aren't useful. Some of them are superfluous, while others aren't worth that much. But we don't discern this and see them as free, when they cost us dearly.” — Seneca Here's a question I want you to think about for a moment: When was the last time you did nothing? And I don’t mean meditation with a timer. Not a "recovery walk" you logged on your fitness app. Not a vacation you planned three months in advance and packed with activities. I mean genuinely, unscheduled, purposeless nothing. If that question makes you a little uncomfortable — good. Stay with that discomfort. It's worth paying attention to. We live in a culture that has turned busyness into a virtue. Hustle culture doesn't just govern how we work, it's taken over how we live. We optimize our mornings and time-block our evenings. We have productivity systems for our productivity systems. And somewhere along the way, the pressure to be efficient with every minute stopped being about work and started being about everything. We feel guilty resting, like we're falling behind if we're not growing, improving, achieving. We half-listen to our kids because our brains are already solving tomorrow's problem. We treat our relationships like line items — something to maintain, to check in on, to be efficient with. And the really insidious part? We've gotten very, very good at it. By every external measure, many of us are crushing it. The career is moving. The goals are being achieved. The metrics are trending up. And yet, quietly, underneath all of it, something feels off. Like you're running hard but not sure where you're going. Like you're winning a game you didn't consciously choose to play. That feeling, that discomfort? That's wisdom trying to get your attention. Today I want to talk about what the Stoics, and specifically Seneca, had to say about this. Because he diagnosed this problem two thousand years ago with surgical precision. And his answer isn't what you might expect. THE PHILOSOPHY Seneca was a wealthy, powerful man. Advisor to an emperor. One of the most successful people in Rome. He knew ambition from the inside. And late in his life, he wrote a short essay called De Brevitate Vitae (On the Shortness of Life) that I think is one of the most important things ever written about how we spend our time. He opens without pulling any punches: "It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a great deal of it." Read that again. He's not saying life is short. He's saying we make it short — by squandering it on things that don't deserve it. And here's what's critical: Seneca isn't targeting the lazy. He's targeting the ambitious. The strivers. The people who are busy every minute of every day, and still somehow missing their lives. He writes: "People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy." Think about that. We password-protect our phones. We lock our cars. We negotiate our salaries. But time, the only resource we cannot earn back, cannot borrow, cannot buy, we hand it over to anyone who asks. We let hustle culture tell us exactly what to do with it. Now here's where Stoic philosophy gets really sharp. The Stoics made a distinction that completely collapses hustle culture. They separated preferred indifferents — things like wealth, status, achievement, success — from the actual good. The actual good, for a Stoic, is virtue: living with wisdom, justice, courage, and temperance. Preferred indifferents aren't bad. It's fine to pursue success. But they are not the point. They are not where meaning lives. Hustle culture has convinced us otherwise, that the scoreboard is the point of the game. And so we optimize furiously for things that, when we finally get them, leave us standing in the end zone wondering why we don't feel the way we thought we would. Marcus Aurelius asked himself a question I think we should all have tattooed somewhere: "Ask yourself at every moment: is this necessary?" Not "is this productive?" Not "is this optimizing my outcome?" Is it necessary? Does it serve the life I actually want to live? Because far too often, we’re chasing things that others have told us are important, not necessarily what really make a good life. Maybe it’s the job we hate but want for the prestige. The expensive car to make others jealous. Or even the fancy house that we don’t get to enjoy because we’re too busy being productive. And Seneca is pretty clear about this. He calls out those that are busy building fortunes with no time to enjoy them. Those that ingratiate themselves to others for promotion. Others who are driven by greed traveling here and there for wealth. And this is where temperance, one of the four cardinal Stoic virtues, comes in. We tend to think of temperance as moderation, as holding back. But temperance, for the Stoics, is discernment. It's the wisdom to know what deserves your energy and what doesn't. It means the appropriate action, with the appropriate amount of energy, at the appropriate time. It's the discipline to say no to the noise so you can say yes to what actually matters. Busyness Here's the harder truth Seneca is pointing at: busyness is a choice. Not always a conscious one, but a choice nonetheless. But why do we choose to get stuck in being busy? I think for many people busyness, striving, and achievement are how they gain their sense of worth. It’s like they have to prove that they have value, rather than recognizing that they are valuable because of who they are, not what they achieve. External success is a substitute for internal character. A secondary reason for busyness is that it pushes off time being alone with yourself. Because if you're always busy, you never have to sit with the harder questions. You never have to ask whether the life you're building is the life you actually want. Busyness is armor. It keeps the big questions at bay. But Seneca reminds us that it truly is the inner life that matters, not externals: “A man thus grounded must, whether he wills or not, necessarily be attended by constant cheerfulness and a joy that is deep and issues from deep within, since he finds delight in his own resources, and desires no joys greater than his inner joys.” — Seneca Busyness is a way to feel productive, but ignoring what really matters—building character and connection with others. What is it all for? I think the most important thing to remember is that life is about living and experiencing. We strive because being useful and creating is important. It give us purpose and a sense of accomplishment. There’s nothing wrong with striving. But when we go so caught up in striving and being productive in all areas then we miss out on the happy accidents of life. We don’t leave idle time for creativity and just thinking about things. When our minds are bored then we have space to connect things that we might not have ever thought of. This is why we have shower thoughts. This is why walking away from a problem and allowing our minds to wander often brings the eureka moments that help us break through resistance. It opens us up to chance encounters. One of the things that I noticed when I was living in Amsterdam is that when I first got there I would regularly chat with people on the metro or on buses. I often had great conversations with people that I otherwise wouldn’t have met. But I was kind of an outlier. Most people were staring at their phones or had their headphones on. Over time adopted this behavior as well and missed those unique encounters. The point of this whole episode is make sure that we leave time for enjoying life, that we allow our minds time to relax, for connection, and being open to chance. THE PRACTICE So what does this actually look like? I'm not here to tell you to quit your job or spend three hours a day in contemplation. The Stoics were practical. They were active in the world. What they asked was simply that you live in it deliberately. Here are three practices I think are worth sitting with. Audit Your Striving This is the core Seneca practice. Regularly, maybe once a week, maybe once a month, ask yourself: What am I actually working toward? Is it creating joy, or just getting more? Write it down. Don't just think it. Write it. Because writing forces honesty in a way that thinking doesn't. You may find that what you're grinding toward is something you genuinely care about. Great. Keep going with clarity. But you may also find that you've been chasing something because it's expected of you, because it's what people like you are supposed to want. And that discovery, uncomfortable as it is, is worth everything. Seneca writes: “There is nothing the busy man is less busied with than living: there is nothing that is harder to learn.” Is what your busying yourself, worth your time? Protect unstructured time (and defend it like it matters). Not as a reward. Not after you've earned it. As a non-negotiable part of a well-lived life. This is where real thinking happens. Where creative ideas surface. Where you remember who you are outside of your output. Where your relationships get space to actually breathe. If you need to schedule it to protect it, schedule it. But stop treating it as empty space to be filled. It is not empty. It is where your life is. Be present with the people in front of you. This one might be the hardest, and it might also be the most important. The most insidious cost of over-optimization isn't burnout. It's the slow erosion of connection. When you're al

In today’s media environment do you know how to think well? How do you know who to trust? Today we’re going to talk about how Stoicism can help you to think critically about what you consume, and how be skeptical without being cynical. “You become what you give your attention to…If you yourself don't choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will.” — Epictetus ACT 1 — THE PROBLEM When was the last time you read a headline and immediately trusted it? Not skeptically clicked through to check — just trusted it? If you're like most people, that moment feels increasingly distant. And honestly? That makes sense. We've been burned. We've shared things that turned out to be wrong. We've watched experts contradict each other. We've seen the same event reported in completely opposite ways by outlets that both claim to be telling the truth. The result is a kind of information exhaustion. A low-grade weariness that comes from not knowing what to believe anymore. And I want to say clearly at the start of this episode: that exhaustion is valid. You're not paranoid. You're not stupid. You're a person who's paying attention in an environment that has made paying attention genuinely difficult. But here's where it gets interesting. Because that exhaustion tends to push us toward one of two wrong responses. The first is blind belief — you find a source that feels right, that speaks your language, that confirms your worldview, and you just... outsource your thinking to it. It's comfortable. It's simple. And it's dangerous. The second is total cynicism — you decide everyone is lying, everything is propaganda, and the only rational response is to trust nothing. It feels like wisdom. It isn't. Here's a distinction I want you to hold onto for this entire episode: Skepticism is a method. Cynicism is an identity. The skeptic says show me. They stay open, ask questions, and update when the evidence changes. The cynic has already decided the answer is "they're all lying" — and that's not a conclusion, that’s surrender. It feels like critical thinking but it's actually the opposite. It's just a different kind of lazy. The Stoics had a lot to say about this. And what they built, two thousand years ago, is one of the most practical frameworks for navigating an information-saturated world that I've ever come across. ACT 2 — THE PHILOSOPHY Impressions and Assent Let's start with Epictetus. Epictetus was a former slave who became one of the most influential philosophers in history. And at the center of his entire teaching was something he called the discipline of assent — in Greek, synkatathesis. The idea is simple but demanding: you don't have to accept every impression that arrives in your mind. In fact, you have a duty not to. Here’s how he explained impressions and assent: “Impressions, striking a person's mind as soon as he perceives something within range of his senses, are not voluntary or subject to his will, they impose themselves on people's attention almost with a will of their own. But the act of assent, which endorses these impressions, is voluntary and a function of the human will.” — Epictetus (Fragments 9) But more directly on this point, he taught his students to meet every incoming impression — every piece of information, every claim — with a kind of active interrogation. He called it confronting the phantasia, the impression, before assenting to it. He put it this way: “Don't let the force of the impression when first it hits you knock you off your feet; just say to it, "Hold on a moment; let me see who you are and what you represent. Let me put you to the test.” — Epictetus (Discourses II, 18.24) That's a media literacy practice, written in the first century AD. Think about what that means in the context of a headline designed to provoke outrage, or a video clipped out of context, or a statistic stripped of its methodology. The impression arrives and feels like the truth. Epictetus says: slow down. That feeling is not the same as fact. Take the time to interrogate it and see if there is any truth behind it. It’s Okay to be Wrong Now let's talk about Marcus Aurelius. Marcus was Emperor of Rome — arguably the most powerful person on earth during his reign. He had every incentive to believe his own perspective was correct. And yet the Meditations are full of reminders he wrote to himself about intellectual humility. In Book 6, he wrote: "If anyone can refute me — show me I'm making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective — I'll gladly change. It's the truth I'm after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance." — Marcus Aurelius Read that again. The most powerful man in the world writing a personal reminder that being wrong is okay, as long as you're pursuing truth. That's the mindset we're after. Not "I'm right until proven wrong." Not "everyone's lying so nothing matters." It's: I am genuinely open to being corrected, because the truth matters more than my ego. That takes courage. In a world where changing your mind is called flip-flopping, where admitting uncertainty is seen as weakness — saying "I don't know" is one of the most rebellious, intellectually honest things you can do. I'd also note something Marcus wrote that speaks directly to the media environment we live in now. He reminded himself: "The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are."  — Marcus Aurelius Not look away or catastrophize. Rather, look clearly and try to see the truth. That's the goal. Protect Your Mind And then there's Seneca. Seneca was deeply concerned with what we let into our minds. He saw the mind as something to be guarded, not left open to whatever happened to walk through the door. In his Letters, he wrote: "Retire into yourself as much as you can; associate with those who will make a better man of you; welcome those who you yourself can improve." — Seneca He also warned about the danger of consuming too many voices indiscriminately: "Be careful above all things to avoid a book that is a hodgepodge of many different authors... Restlessness of spirit is the mark of a sick mind."  — Seneca He was talking about books. But replace "book" with "social media feed" and it lands with the same force. The point across all three of them is the same: there is a gap between the event and your judgment about it. That gap — however brief — is where wisdom lives. And the entire modern media ecosystem, from cable news to social algorithms, is engineered to collapse that gap to zero. To get you reacting before you're thinking. The Stoic practice is an act of resistance against that. It's taking back the gap. Misinformation There one more thing worth pointing out: why misinformation works. Conspiracy theories, and misinformation more broadly, are emotionally satisfying in ways that truth often isn't. They resolve chaos into order. They provide a villain — someone to blame. They offer community — fellow people who see what you see. And they deliver certainty — the comforting feeling that the confusing world suddenly makes sense. Sitting with "I don't know" offers none of that. It's lonely. It's uncomfortable. It requires tolerating ambiguity without resolution. That's not a cognitive failure. That's an emotional challenge. And meeting it honestly — choosing the harder, more uncertain path — is exactly what emotional courage looks like. ACT 3 — THE PRACTICE Okay. Let's make this concrete. There are three things I want to give you today. A practice for curation, a red flag framework for evaluating content, and a way to think about who you actually trust. Part One: Curate Actively Most people are passive recipients of information. The algorithm decides what they see, and they scroll. But algorithms are trainable. They respond to what you engage with. Which means you can shape them intentionally. Follow primary sources over commentators. Wherever possible, go to the scientist rather than the pundit summarizing the scientist. Go to the actual speech, the actual study, the actual document. Commentators have agendas — sometimes explicit, sometimes not. The closer you get to the source, the less filtering you're receiving. That said — and this is important — even experts have to earn your assent. Having credentials doesn't mean someone is immune to incentive, bias, or being wrong. A credentialed source raises your floor. It doesn't end your critical thinking. Part Two: The Red Flag Framework Before you share something, believe something, or let something shape your view of the world — run it through these six questions. 1. What's the motive? Who benefits if you believe this? Follow the incentive. This applies to media outlets, individual commentators, studies funded by industries, politicians making claims before elections. Motive doesn't automatically disqualify a source, but it's always worth knowing. 2. Is this a fact or an opinion? This sounds obvious but it's constantly blurred. Watch for opinion stated with the confidence of fact. Watch for interpretations presented as conclusions. Ask: what is actually being claimed here, and what would it take to verify it? 3. Is it trying to make me feel before I think? Emotional language, urgency, outrage, fear — these are persuasion tools. Sometimes they're legitimate. Often they're being used to rush your assent. If content is working hard to provoke a strong feeling *before* giving you anything to evaluate, slow down. 4. Look at the language and framing. Here's an exercise worth trying: find two different outlets covering the exact same story and compare the headlines and word choices side by side. You'll see the bias immediately — not in what's reported, but in how it's framed. The words chosen to describe the same event reveal the perspective of the outlet. Neither version may be lying. Both are shaping. 5. Are they citing primary sources? Are they link

How often do you put things off? Why do you put things off that you know you should do?  Maybe waiting for circumstances to be just right before you make a change? In this week’s episode we’re going to dive a deeper into why put things off, and what you can do to build momentum, and move forward. “It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested.” ― Seneca Last week I had a Q & A episode, and one of the questions was about not taking action. I thought it was a great question, but I wanted to dive in a little deeper into it this week. One of the things that we struggle with is putting things off. We know what we should do, but sometimes we have hard time getting ourselves to do them. Maybe it’s habit that we want to start or one we want to stop. It could be a creative project that we spend a lot of time “researching” but never seem to get started. Maybe it’s a hard conversation that we need to have, but keep putting off. We have good intentions, but even with those good intentions we avoid taking action. What makes it even harder is that we don’t struggle like this with everything. There are things that easily capture our interest and we happily and enthusiastically do them. We’re successful in some areas, so why do we struggle to get started in other areas? In this episode we’re going to dive into why we put things off, and what we can do to get momentum to move us forward. Act 1: The Problem Most people assume that it’s a motivation problem. That we just don’t have enough willpower or discipline to start what we know we should. We beat ourselves up over it, telling ourselves that we’re lazy, not motivated enough, or that we should just try harder. But that framing is simply wrong. This type of framing leads to a shame spiral which makes it even worse. It’s like a double whammy—you don’t accomplish what you want, then you feel even worse for not doing it. To be clear, this is not a character flaw. Getting ourselves to take action is something that isn’t new to our modern era. It’s such a part of human nature that philosophers have been wresting with understanding this for 2500 years. The ancient Greeks had a word for this: akrasia. It roughly translates to acting against your better judgment — knowing the right thing to do and doing something else instead. Or nothing at all. The author Steven Pressfield calls this Resistance—the force that gets in the way when we want to do something that is important to us. I love how he describes it: “Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will perjure, fabricate; it will seduce you. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.” Even the philosophers argued about why we failed to act in our own best interest. Socrates believed that a person, with enough knowledge would always choose to do the right thing. Aristotle found this idea troubling because it violated reason—why someone with knowledge still work against themselves? It’s a question that doesn’t have an easy answer. Even Marcus Aurelius, the most powerful man in the world at his time, and a life long student of philosophy still struggled with this. He had to remind himself to get out of bed in the morning: "At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I'm going to do what I was born for?"  — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 5.1 He was fighting some of the same battle we still fight today, and had to talk himself into doing what he knew was the right thing to do. Akrasia doesn't discriminate. It visits everyone. The question is what we do when it shows up. Act 2: The Philosophy The Stoic Diagnosis Here's where the Stoics cut to the chase. They held a position that, at first, sounds almost too clean: if you truly and fully judge an action to be good, you will do it. If you don't do it, that tells you something. It tells you that you don't actually believe what you think you believe. Not fully. Something else is winning underneath the surface — some competing impression or belief that's being treated, in that moment, as more real. So the Stoic diagnosis of procrastination isn't “you're weak.” It's something more precise: you are holding a false impression, and you haven't examined it. That's a different kind of problem. And it requires a different kind of solution. The Hidden Trade-Off Here's what I've come to believe, drawing both on Stoic philosophy and on modern psychology: procrastination is always a hidden trade-off. We're not avoiding the task — we're avoiding the feeling the task brings up. Psychologist Tim Pychyl, who has spent decades researching this, frames procrastination not as a time management failure but as an emotion regulation problem. We put things off to avoid the emotions those things trigger. Fear of failure. Fear of judgment. The discomfort of difficulty. The anxiety of beginning something we're not sure we can finish. And in the moment of avoidance, we make a trade: short-term emotional relief now, for long-term cost later. We choose the comfort of not starting over the discomfort of beginning. And we dress that choice up in rational language: "I'm not ready." "I need more information." "I'll do it when I have more energy." Strip those away and what you usually find underneath is fear. That's the competing belief that's winning. Not laziness. Fear. The Disguises Akrasia is a shape-shifter. It rarely shows up wearing its own face. Here are the most common disguises I've seen—in my clients, in myself, and I suspect, in you. It shows up as perfectionism. We tell ourselves, “I’ll start when I can do it right.” The hidden belief here is that imperfect action is the same as failure—so we protect ourselves from failure by never starting. Sometimes it shows up as over-preparation. Endless research, planning, optimizing—everything except doing. This one is insidious because it feels productive. You're technically working on the thing. But you're circling it instead of landing. It even disguises itself as productive procrastination. You stay busy with smaller, easier tasks so that you feel like you're making progress while the important thing remains untouched. All of these are about waiting—for inspiration, for motivation, for conditions to be right. In Stoic terms, all of these are a failure to examine the impression driving the behavior. Carl Jung, writing from a completely different tradition, captured the same idea: "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."  — Carl Jung The false belief driving avoidance is usually unconscious. We don't experience it as a belief — we experience it as reality. As just the way things are. The Stoic practice of examining impressions is, in this sense, the same work as making the unconscious conscious. Seneca even wrote a whole treatise on it called On the Shortness of Life. “Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow, and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune's control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.” There's a fiction we tell ourselves — that there is a future version of us who will do this. Better rested. More inspired. Less busy. More ready. Shoving everything off to the future and loading all those things onto someone else—our future self. Seneca is saying: that person is not coming. The key to getting things done is not having the right circumstances, not when we’re better or stronger. It’s consistency, now. It’s doing even just one step today rather than waiting until tomorrow. Marcus Aurelius echoed this idea, writing: "Do not act as if you had a thousand years to live... while you have it in your power, while you still may, make yourself good."  — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 4.17 This isn't meant to be anxiety-inducing. It's meant to be clarifying. The urgency of life, held clearly, is a gift, not a threat. Act 3 — The Practice This Is Not a Willpower Problem I want to be clear about something before we get into some of the practices you can use. If your approach to procrastination is to grit your teeth and force yourself, that strategy will eventually fail. Not because you're weak. Because willpower treats the symptom, not the cause. You can white-knuckle through the task this time. But the underlying impression — the fear, the false belief — is still there. It will show up again tomorrow, and the day after. The Stoic approach is more surgical: don't override the impression. Examine it. The Core Practice: Examine the Impression When you notice yourself avoiding something, pause. Don't shame yourself for avoiding it — that only makes it worse, and Brené Brown's research on shame confirms what the Stoics already understood: shame doesn't produce change. She wrote: "Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." Rather motivating us forward, it produces more avoidance. So how can we combat the tendency to shame ourselves for not acting? Instead, we can get curious. Ask yourself: “What am I actually afraid will happen if I start this?” “Is that fear true? Or is it an impression I've accepted without questioning?” “What do I actually believe about this task — not what I say I believe?” Now remember, this is self-investigation, not self-criticism. The Stoic doesn't stand over themselves with a whip. They stand over themselves with a lamp. They look at things objectively, withholding judgment so they can see things as they are. When you find the fear — and you usually will

How do you stop worrying about what others think of you? Is worrying ever useful? Can Stoics be ambitious? How can I actually do what I know I should?In this week's episode I answer some of your questions through the lens of Stoicism."It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own."— Marcus AureliusSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What if the thing you've been quietly doing your whole life — the thing that feels almost too easy to count — is actually your greatest gift to the world?And what is it costing you to keep holding it back?"If you have a talent, use it in every which way possible. Don't hoard it. Don't dole it out like a miser. Spend it lavishly like a millionaire intent on going broke."— Brendan FrancisSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How do you get back up when too many things in life hit you all at once? How do you get your momentum back when it feels like every step is like wading through molasses? Today I want to talk about how Stoicism and friendship can find your balance and get moving again when life knocks you off your feet. When you have been compelled by circumstances to be disturbed in a manner, quickly return to yourself and do not continue out of tune longer than the compulsion lasts. — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations VI.11 Send us Fan Mail The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment! My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! Find out more at https://stoic.coffee Watch episodes on YouTube! Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads. Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How do you make a decision when all the choices in front of you feel like bad ones? Today I want talk about how Stoicism can help us take action when faced with impossible choices. “What should we have ready at hand in a situation like this? The knowledge of what is mine and what is not mine, what I can and cannot do.”— Epictetus, Discourses I, 1.21Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Is Stoicism all about being strong and serious? Is it too pessimistic and always looking for where things can go wrong, where the next challenge or struggle is? Today I want to talk about the softer side of Stoicism, and how many of the tools the Stoics teach us can actually lead us to joy.“To live happily is an inward power of the soul.” — Marcus AureliusSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why does virtue matter in leadership? What happens to a community, a city, a country when there is lack of virtue in leadership? In this episode we’re going to discuss power, leadership, and why virtue matters."Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." — Abraham LincolnSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why is it important to resist and stand up against injustice? What happens when we don’t stand up to injustice? Today we'll explore why virtue is necessary, what the Stoics taught about resistance, and how to actually practice moral courage in your daily life."The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." —Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 6.6Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Are you living the life you want? Are you waiting for something to happen to push you into becoming the hero of your own story? In this episode I want to talk about why we fear stepping into greatness, and how you can be your own hero.“Every difficulty in life presents us with an opportunity to turn inward and to invoke our own submerged inner resources. The trials we endure can and should introduce us to our strengths...Dig deeply. You possess strengths you might not realize you have. Find the right one. Use it.” — EpictetusSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Do you approach a problem from only one perspective? Are there ways that you could expand your understanding and incorporate different perspectives? Today I want to talk about the power of multi-perspective thinking and how it can help you dig deeper into challenges in your life.“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”—Marcus AureliusSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Can you stay calm in the storm? Or do you let your emotions cloud your judgment, leading to poor decisions? Today I want to talk about the Stoic concept of ataraxia and how it can help you be more mentally tough.“Don't hope that events will turn out the way you want, welcome events in whichever way they happen: this is the path to peace.”— Epictetus, Enchiridion 8Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

At the end of the year is always a good time to step back and think about the year to come. Maybe you have some goals that you want to accomplish. Maybe get in better shape and eat better or pick up a new skill. But have you thought about what kind of attributes you want in the next year? In this episode I give you some words of advice of how to approach the new year.“Things do not touch the soul, for they are external and remain immovable; so our perturbations come only from our inner opinions."—Marcus AureliusMeditations IV.3Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What do you believe about yourself? Do you have beliefs that keep from stepping into your true self? Today I want to talk about self-beliefs and how the ideas that we hold about ourselves might just be your biggest obstacle to becoming who you want to be."When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."— Lao TzuSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Love is the greatest thing in the world. We're all trying to build relationships that enrich our lives. But can Stoicism help us love better? Today I want to talk about how Stoicism can help you be a more loving person."Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart." —Marcus AureliusSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What do you invest your attention in? Are you investing in things that enrich your life or keep you distracted? Today I want to talk about the importance of attention and what it’s costing you.“You live as if you were destined to live forever, no thought of your frailty ever enters your head, of how much time has already gone by you take no heed. You squander time as if you drew from a full and abundant supply, though all the while that day which you bestow on some person or thing is perhaps your last.”—SenecaSend us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this week's episode I answer questions from my listeners. I give my thoughts on practicing temperance in everyday life, practicing self-forgiveness, and how to deal with the chaos in the world.As always, please feel free to let me know of questions or topics you'd like me to answer in future episodes.Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Anger is a powerful force in the world, but the effects of anger often cause greater harm than the cause of it. Many see anger as a necessary emotion for human survival, but the Stoics warned us against anger, calling it a "temporary madness". In my personal life, anger has been a recurring theme since childhood. I've worked hard to overcome the trauma from childhood, as well as my own anger, having been caught up in that temporary madness more times than I'd like to admit.But is anger necessary? Is anger an emotion or a reaction to something deeper? As we see more and more outrage online and in person, I wanted to talk with Donald Robertson about anger and see if we could open my perspective on  anger, and see if I could get a better understanding of the root of anger, and how we might be able to make the world a little less angry. Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What do you value in this life? Maybe your home? Your job? Your family? But do you value yourself? Today I want to talk about the importance of self-value and how Stoicism can help you find the treasure within."Do not degrade your own soul; it will soon be out of your power to bring it to honor. The life of each of us is but a moment, and this one is almost finished, and yet you do not respect yourself."— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 3.6Send us Fan MailThe Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! The Build an Unbreakable Mind program for building mental discipline is now open for enrollment!My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here!Find out more at https://stoic.coffeeWatch episodes on YouTube!Find me on linkedIn, instagram, or threads.Thanks again for listening! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.