Project Parenthood

704. Do you ever feel like you go from "zero to sixty" with your kids before you even realize you're angry? If you find yourself in a constant state of parental stress and "fight-or-flight," you aren't alone—and it isn't your fault.In this episode from March 2024, Dr. Nanika Coor explains why so many of us have underdeveloped "noticing" skills and how that leads to automatic, reactive parenting. She introduces the intensity scale (1–10) to help you catch your triggers early and shares how mindfulness can help you regain control of your prefrontal cortex so you can parent with clarity and compassion.You’ll learn:The Power of Noticing: Why we were taught to ignore our inner experience and how to start listening again.The Intensity Scale: How to set boundaries when you’re at a "Level 2" before you hit a "Level 7" meltdown.3 Practical Exercises: Simple ways to practice mindfulness through eating, perspective-taking, and observing strong emotions.The "Reset" Button: What to do when you lose your cool and how to use parent-initiated repair to stay connected.Stop striving for "perfect" and start being present. Discover how lowering your own anxiety through a regular mindfulness practice creates a more peaceful, resilient relationship with your child.Project Parenthood is a Quick and Dirty Tips  podcast, hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Have a question for Project Parenthood? Email: parenthood@quickanddirtytips.comDiscover more from Project Parenthood!FacebookNewsletterTranscripts available on your podcast app. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

678. Does your child have an extreme, almost involuntary need for control? If everyday requests—like putting on shoes or eating breakfast—trigger an immediate fight-or-flight response, you might be parenting a child with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA).In this episode that first ran in June of 2022, Dr. Nanika Coor dives deep into the PDA profile, a specific symptom profile often associated with the Autism Spectrum (ASD). She explains why traditional "rewards and consequences" parenting often fails these children and how their behavior is actually a drive for safety, not a choice of defiance.You’ll learn:What is PDA? The science behind the anxiety-based need for autonomy.The "Stress Bucket" Metaphor: How to visualize your child’s capacity for demands and prevent overflows (meltdowns).8 De-escalation Strategies: Why declarative language and humor work better than direct commands.The Power of Co-regulation: How to shift your mindset from "making them obey" to "helping them feel safe."Whether your child has a formal diagnosis or you’re simply struggling with a kiddo who is "extra resistant" to routine, this episode offers the respectful parenting tools you need to repair your connection and find calm in your home.Project Parenthood is a Quick and Dirty Tips  podcast, hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Have a question for Project Parenthood? Email: parenthood@quickanddirtytips.comDiscover more from Project Parenthood!FacebookNewsletterTranscripts available on your podcast app. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The pending arrival of a second child means life is about to change in a major way. In this episode from July 2023, Dr. Nanika Coor offers tips for helping you and your eldest child adjust to this new reality.Project Parenthood is a Quick and Dirty Tips  podcast, hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Have a question for Project Parenthood? Email: parenthood@quickanddirtytips.comDiscover more from Project Parenthood!FacebookNewsletterTranscripts available on your podcast app. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

674. Tired of the frustration and angst that can come with raising siblings who are often at each other’s throats? In this episode that originally ran in May 2022, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to de-escalate sibling conflict and increase sibling collaboration.Project Parenthood is a Quick and Dirty Tips  podcast, hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Have a question for Project Parenthood? Email: parenthood@quickanddirtytips.comDiscover more from Project Parenthood!FacebookNewsletterTranscripts available on your podcast app. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

684. They’re here—the teen years. The old close relationship you once had might now feel bumpy, and you’re not feeling as confident as a parent as you once did. You’re overwhelmed sometimes at how critical, sullen, or withdrawn your teen can sometimes be. Dr. Nanika Coor offers ideas for hanging on to your sanity when dealing with the ups and downs of raising teens. Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

650. Parenting kids with ADHD can be a challenge. In this episode, which aired originally in October 2021, Dr. Nanika Coor explains ways that focusing on the quality of the parent-child relationship can not only improve your relationship with your child, but also help them develop the emotional and cognitive skills they’re missing. Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

673. Getting separated or divorced is stressful enough in itself, but telling the kids about it is a whole other stress ball of wax! In this episode from April 2022, Dr. Nanika Coor offers suggestions for communicating this difficult information to your children.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

676. Feel like cringing every time you witness another adult waiting in awkward silence for your child to say “Please” or “Thank you”—and it doesn’t happen? Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to handle these unsettling situations and how to help your child develop the ability to use appropriate social behavior at the appropriate times.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

706. Should multiracial children have to "choose a side"? Many feel pressured to pick just one identity, but it doesn't have to be that way. Dr. Nanika Coor and psychologist Dr. Jennifer Noble share essential strategies for parents to help their children embrace their full heritage and build a confident, inclusive racial identity.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

670. Accurately understanding what your child thinks, from their point of view, means putting yourself in their shoes and looking at the world through their eyes. Dr. Nanika Coor explains how the skill of active listening, when practiced, can bolster your child’s well being and deepen the bond between you.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

705. Are you a White parent raising a Black child? Wondering how to talk with them about the realities of race and what that means in the world? Dr. Nanika Coor talks with therapist Abby Hasberry to hear what White parents need to know about raising a Black child to have a healthy racial identity.Find Abby Hasberry on the web:https://www.greenhouseindy.com/abby-hasberryhttps://www.instagram.com/d.e.a.r._abby/Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

758. Instead of reacting with fight, flight, or freeze, some parents respond with fawning, a pattern of people-pleasing and appeasement in the face of conflict. As a fawning parent, you might prioritize maintaining harmony and avoid confrontation, even if it means sacrificing your own needs or values. This can make it difficult to assert boundaries, collaborate, or hold space for your child's emotions. In today's episode, Dr. Coor delves into the complexities of fawning, how your child's behavior can sometimes trigger intense emotional reactions and how you can begin to heal.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

712. Is your child a picky eater or are you dealing with something more serious? Dr. Nanika Coor explains four common eating disorders and how parents can help kids who are struggling with eating disturbances. Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

656. In parenting and in life, you will experience countless challenging and upsetting situations that you just can't change. Radical acceptance can help you cope. Dr. Nanika Coor explains what radical acceptance is, how it can help when parenting gets hard, and 7 steps to putting it into action.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

701. Hoping to make some positive change in your parent-child relationship in the new year? Dr. Nanika Coor offers some ways to move toward becoming a more connected parent this year! Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

816. Should you help your family set New Year’s resolutions, or does that pressure do more harm than good? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explores how to approach the new year through the idea of right relationship, offering parents grounded ways to reflect, reset, and grow together without shame, coercion, or perfectionism.Links: www.brooklynparenttherapy.comhttps://www.instagram.com/bkparents/Sources:https://www.soiltjp.org/blog/new-years-resolutions-and-practicing-accountabilityhttps://bob-lynn.medium.com/beyond-resolutions-reimagining-renewal-in-the-modern-age-2efe973fbe0eRelated Project Parenthood episodes:How to reduce parental stress with mindfulnessCalm your nervous system to calm your child How to assert your own needs with your child Dr. Coor’s related blogs: Low-Pressure Parenting: A Universal Approach to Family Mental WellnessBreak Free: Parent Intensives Revitalize TherapyFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

728. Nonviolent communication, or NVC, is a communication strategy—and also a lens through which you can look at life—that can be used to connect with others and resolve conflict in a respectful and compassionate way.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

815. Why do kids sometimes get defensive, shut down, or lash out after they’ve made a mistake, broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to compassionately help children notice their impact without shame, while helping them take meaningful steps toward repairing relationship ruptures through the action-based making of amends. Sources:McCloud, C. (2018). Buckets, dippers, and lids: Secrets to your happiness. Bucket Fillers.Sandland, B. (2025). Neurodivergent Experiences of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Expose the Environmental Factors too Often Overlooked. Neurodiversity, 3. https://doi.org/10.1177/27546330251394516Related Project Parenthood Episodes:Stop forcing your child to apologizeRepairing the Break: How to Fix Things with Your KidThe First Step to Solve Child Behavior ProblemsDr. Coor’s Related Blog: A Stitch in Time Saves Nine: Relational Repair After Parent-Child ConflictsFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

814. Is making sure your child isn’t a doormat feel fraught with worry about them being “too aggressive”? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through the foundational skills of respectful self-advocacy and how to cultivate them in your child, helping your child move through social challenges with more self-understanding and ease.Related Project Parenthood Episodes:Navigating the "cringe": How to parent kids who hate emotionsDitch Roadblocks, Build Connections: Unlocking Effective Communication with Your ChildDr. Coor’s Related Blog: Supporting Your Child’s Self-Worth: A Daily Practice of AcceptanceFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt embarrassed because your child forgot to say "thank you"? This week, Dr. Nanika Coor answers a listener email and gives you 8 tips for helping your child develop gratitude. (Originally published November 21, 2021.)Project Parenthood is hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor.Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.