U n’ I with Rashmi Shetty

I’ve always believed that the most impactful leaders are those who speak from a place of deep authenticity. That is exactly what drew me to Rashi Goel. Reading  Rashi’s postson LinkedIn, I was struck by her rare ability to balance rigorous the DEI strategy with a voice that is consistently genuine, grounded, and bold. It’s that very authenticity that made me know I had to invite her to be part of this series. Who is Rashi Goel? With over a decade of experience, Rashi operates at the vital intersection of strategy, culture, and leadership. As the head of the business impact vertical at the Godrej DEI Lab, she doesn’t just "talk" about inclusion—she embeds it into the very systems of an organization. What sets her apart: She moves DEI from a "nice-to-have" to a business imperative with tangible results. She partners with leaders to ensure inclusion isn't an afterthought, but a foundational pillar of leadership. She is actively shaping the future of corporate India by championing workplaces where everyone truly belongs.

Our guest in this episode  is Gouthami T S, an Aeronautical Engineer who turned a passion for flight into a breakthrough for Indian deep-tech. As the Co Founder and CEO of the Bengaluru-based startup AquaAirX, Gouthami is leading the charge with India’s first drone capable of operating seamlessly across two worlds: air and underwater, even in challenging real sea states. She is responsible for driving the company’s overall strategic direction, partnerships, fundraising, and investor engagement. She leads business development initiatives across defence, energy, and maritime sectors while focusing on building strong institutional relationships and scaling organizational capabilities. Gouthami’s journey is  a beautiful amalgamation of Technical Excellence:, Handwork,strategic Vision & Resilience: Her story is one of "magical" grit—a reminder that when you combine technical mastery with an independent spirit, you don't just follow the future; you build it.

  "When we design with care and build with conscience, we don’t just create products or buildings—we weave a resilient fabric of dignity that empowers every woman and sustains an entire community. This International Women’s Day, on my Human Library Audio Podcast “ U n’ I with Rashmi Shetty" , we celebrate a woman who walks the talk on #GiveToGain Nivedita Banerji Nivedita is the Co-founder of Samaj Pragati Sahayog (SPS), and has dedicated over three decades to the tribal communities of the Narmada Valley. Her work seamlessly integrates social justice, sustainable design, and economic independence. Her Approach from different aspects is as follows: Institutional Leadership: As a former Secretary and current Director at SPS, she pioneered strategies to build women-led local institutions, ensuring marginalized regions have a decisive voice in Indian democracy. Kumbaya (Social Enterprise): Founded in 1994, this award-winning producer company empowers over 2,500 women and persons with disabilities through ethical, circular garment design. It is now an internationally recognized, artisan-owned brand. A self-taught architect, she has designed over 45,000 sq. ft. of eco-friendly infrastructure. Her work rejects "box-like" industrial construction in favor of energy-efficient domes, vaults, and local materials that honor rural dignity. A respected voice in national planning, she served on the Government of India’s 12th Five Year Plan working group and has co-authored influential manuals on watershed management and Indian textiles. Featured panelist for the International Fund for Agricultural Development (IFAD) in Rome and keynote speaker at international conferences on narrative practices and indigenous economies. Winner of the CITI Textile Sustainability Award (2024) and director of the award-winning documentary "The Kumbaya Story." Listen in as Nivedita shares her story with the tribal women & the lessons she has learned from them.  

As we mark World Mental Health Day, our guest in our 169th episode  on U n’ I with Rashmi Shetty is someone whose work beautifully reflects the theme of this day. Fauzia Naqui, a passionate Counselling Psychologist & Psychotherapist,  with over 12 years of experience.  She  has worked across hospitals, the corporate world, and private practice. With more than 4700 hours of supervised clinical work, she’s helped people from all walks of life navigate challenges like stress, grief, addiction, workplace pressure, and relationship issues. What makes her approach truly special is how eclectic and client-centered it is. She’s trauma-informed, DBT-informed, and draws from Rogerian and Narrative therapy—with a strong focus on helping people find their own strength and voice. She’s deeply sensitive to different cultures and backgrounds, and her curiosity about the human experience shines through in her work. Academically, she holds a postgraduate degree in Counselling Psychology from TISS and another Master’s in Human Resource Management and Development from the University of Allahabad. She’s also certified in Addiction Management and Community Mental Health from NIMHANS. She’s fluent in Hindi, Urdu, and English, and can read and understand Gujarati—a true connector across communities. Whether she’s counselling, conducting psychometric assessments, or leading workshops and webinars, her goal is simple: to make mental health care more accessible, thoughtful, and empowering.   Listen in as Fauzia shares her journey, her stories & her tips to take care of our mental health.

Our guest this episode is Teji Sethi  a Bangalore-based nutritionist-turned-poet whose bilingual works span free verse, haikai verse, and visual poetry. With a distinctive blend of sensitivity and lyrical grace, her poems and reviews have appeared in over forty national and international journals and anthologies, including The Yearbook of Indian Poetry in English (2020–24), Indian Literature Journal (Sahitya Akademi), Modern Haiku, The Haiku Foundation, Acorn, Wales Haiku Journal, The Heron’s Nest, Ribbons, Muse India, Narrow Road Journal, The Kolkata Review, haikuKATHA, SetuMag (Pittsburgh), and The Partition Museum of India.   Sethi is the author of moss laden walls (2021) and co-editor of amber i pause (2023). Her poetry often draws from the musicality of nature and the layered narratives of the India–Pakistan Partition. Her Partition-themed Hindi poem “Kapaas Ke Phool” (2019) won the Partition Poetry Contest by the Partition Museum of India and was later translated into Punjabi and broadcast on Radio Lahore, Pakistan. Her haikai work has been widely recognized, earning numerous awards and commendations. Her haibun on cancer, “it is”, won the Muse India Triveni Award (2023). Her tanka “how does one measure” was among the Top Three in the Sanford Goldstein International Tanka Contest (2024), and her haiga “surgical drains” secured First Prize in the Jane Reichhold Memorial Haiga Contest (2024). Most recently, she received the Glass House Poetry Award (2024) for her poem on cancer, “Genetically Modified Landscapes of My Town”. Having journeyed through cancer, Teji follows a unique path of art, poetry, and language — harvesting life experiences and transforming them into creative expressions while sharing positive vibrations across both her personal and artistic communities. She is also the founding editor of Triya, a bilingual micro-poetry journal.   Founder:  Triya Mag moss laden walls, amber i pause  Facebook Instagram  

Our guest for the 167 episode of the Human library Audio Podcast is Sunita Biddu. A digital business coach and blogging mentor with 20 years of experience, she owns multiple successful businesses, mostly on auto mode. Her favorite is Unusual Digital, a website and marketing agency for coaches and personal brands. She co-founded it with her business and life partner, Aditya. She works closely with coaches, consultants, and small businesses through 1:1 coaching and mentoring to build a secure profitable business and an equally fulfilling life with ample free time in hand. Practical, empathetic, and her result-driven approach, people love her clarity, calm, and big-picture strategic thinking. A celebrated speaker at multiple forums, she loves creating green spaces, Latin dancing and lipsticks. Sunita values and lives a slow life, emphasising travel, self-care, family, and mental health. Listen in as Sunita shares her tips for the successful life she leads.She blends Simplicity & depth in everything she does and has shared some amazing nuggets on the way to use social media with complete control.  Must follow her blog and downloadable resources, it is no less than an encyclopedia of entrepreneurship. For more details visit:https://www.sunitabiddu.com/

Our guest today is  Dalia Feldheim  an award -winning, Creative, brand-builder, organization-builder, and relentless results-oriented executive with a 20Y successful track record as transformational leader at Procter and Gamble and Electrolux. She has won over a dozen internal and external awards (including global best campaign and external Cannes and Effie).   Dalia is the founder of the P&G women’s network in Moscow and Singapore and author of MOM (managing our maternity) internal P&G maternity guide (translated to 26 languages) and her first public book ‘Lead Like a Girl’ promoting more feminine style of leadership with a foreword by Sheryl Sandberg IS a fantastic read.   Today Dalia is founder of Flow Leadership Consultancy, as well as Uppiness - Up your game at work online Happiness@work game co- developed with Happiness Studies Academy. She is a sought- after international key-note speaker, executive coach and organisational consultant on a Mission to humanise the workplace and drive resilience and Joy at work so more leaders men as well as women connect to their softer skills and lead like a girl!   Listen in as she shares her journey from a little girl ot the inspirational leader she is. Love her take on Failure when she says, “Failure is a  skill I haven’t yet acquired.” To learn more visit: https://daliafeldheim.com/

The United Nations General Assembly proclaimed 22 April as International Mother Earth Day through a resolution adopted in 2009. The Day recognizes the Earth and its ecosystems as humanity's common home and the need to protect her to enhance people’s livelihoods, counteract climate change, and stop the collapse of biodiversity. Climate Change,  man-made changes to nature as well as crimes that disrupt biodiversity, such as deforestation, land-use change, intensified agriculture and livestock production or the growing illegal wildlife trade, can accelerate the speed of destruction of the planet. Mother Earth is clearly urging a call to action - a need to shift to a more sustainable economy that works for both people and the planet.Protecting the planet is everyone's responsibility. On the eve of International Mother Earth Day celebrated tomorrow, 22nd April, my guest on U n’ I  with Rashmi Shetty is a self taught landscape artist Janet Yegneswaran. Her mission is to plant trees & sustain the green cover in Bengaluru.  Positive & with an amazing attitude , this 74 year old, clearly shows age is just a number if passion & purpose are equally balanced. Janet, a landscape designer  started making gardens for neighbours and then commercially for  factories, educational institutions &  government establishments. She landscaped the huge gardens for Kanteerava Stadium for National Games in 1997 and maintained the Stadium Gardens for 5 years.  In memory of her husband she started  a Trust to plant trees – Rajanet Yegneswaran Charitable Trust. It was in 2005 tree cutting started in Bangalore.  While friends implored her  to join Dharna against tree cutting, she refused. She found the dharna approach negative &  to be positive she decided to plant trees and nurture them instead of mourning. Till date  they have  planted 97,000 trees. The wide network of volunteers in Bangalore is the reason Reforest India project got its due from support from media & their work became recognised.   Listen in  as Janet shares her journey as an eco warrior who has found her purpose & her joy!        

  Our guest for this women’s day special is Usha S. Shetty.   After 14 years in the world mass media , Usha’s life led her to her  calling.. Her  boundless passion and positive energy led to the creation of Gramaantara trust in 2008, the focus is on areas of education environment, governance, sanitation, women’s livelihood & housing. She is the engine driving all the Trust programmes. She now is the managing trustee her time to rural development, seamlessly running multiple programmes in parallel.She is the founder trustee of Nivasa, an architectural NGO since 2012, apart from being a POSH consultant with 3 organisations.   Listen in as Usha shares her  journey of making a difference.    

Valentine's Day is symbolic of numerous facets of love and affection. It all about the indescribable emotion called love. The beauty is when love makes you take defining decisions that shape what you are even choosing as  life’s path.   My guest this Valentine’s day is  Shweta Ektare. A Visual Artist by passion and profession. A qualified  Chartered Accountant, she took the leap of faith and started working as a full-time artist. It’s eight years now & she loves creating paintings that tell stories.   She describes what she does everyday with these words,  “It’s an absolute honor to create unique art every day and to be able to serve so many beautiful people around the world.”   Listen in as Shweta shares her journey, her choices, her connection to art & how she listened to her heart & stayed loyal to painting over the years. Her ability to blend the creative with numbers that are logical make it a fascinating story.  

Our first guest for 2025 is Vandana Suri, the founder of Taxshe - a World Bank and UNDP awardee for creating safe mobility solutions for women and kids. One one hand they have women cabs driving kids to schools and tuitions and women to offices and late night airport drives. On the other hand they train women clients to self drive and just get off the risk of abuse in public transport itself. Taxshe has been around for a decade now and created 1.2 million abuse free drives and has trained over 2500+ women to be driving independently. Vandana is an ex investment banker, turned cabbie and driving instructor with a lot of pride, and she believes it's important to be mad to ignite a revolution. She is a TEDX speaker, has got multiple awards which she has lost track on the numbers, but she believes what actually counts is how many women have joined the revolution or got impacted by the same.  

Our guest to day is Nakul Shenoy aka The Mind Reader,  an Indian mentalist, magician, author, and critical thinker. A speaker of choice for Fortune-500 companies, he has delivered high-impact, mind-reading experiences across Asia, the Middle East, Europe, UK, and the USA. With 10 TEDx Talks and numerous television appearances to his credit, Nakul has earned a global following for his mesmerising performances.  A compulsive reader of books and a self-proclaimed tea connoisseur, Nakul epitomises a mentalist in the real-world via his demonstrated expertise in the allied fields of magic, communication, hypnotism, NLP, user experience, people behaviour, and skepticism.  Nakul’s book ‘Smart Course in Magic: Secrets, Staging, Tips, Tricks’ is published by HarperCollins and is available in all leading bookstores and online.   www.nakulshenoy.com 

Our guest today is Nand Kishore Chaudhary, a globally acclaimed social entrepreneur, is the founder of Jaipur Rugs, one of India's largest manufacturers of hand knotted rugs and is often referred to as ‘Gandhi of the Carpet Industry’. With just two looms and nine artisans in 1978, his journey four decades later stands at Jaipur Rugs becoming a global social enterprise exporting to over 60 countries while providing sustainable livelihood to 40,000 artisans in 600 remote villages across five states in India, out of which 80% of them are women. Management guru, C.K. Prahalad featured his revolutionary business philosophy in his globally acclaimed book -The Fortune at the Bottom of the Pyramid. Mr. Chaudhary has also been termed as ‘father of modern social enterprises’ by Prof. Jagdish N. Sheth from Emory University, USA. Sheth said, “Jaipur Rugs has become a role model, that business can serve society and at the same time ... can be a capitalistic institution”. In 2019, Raj Sisodia featured Jaipur Rugs and NK Chaudhary in his book, ‘The Healing Organization’ for ‘The Power of innocence’. The book highly celebrated NK Chaudhary’s steps towards healing the customers and transforming the society with love. He has won awards including E&Y Entrepreneur of the Year Award, CNBC TV18 Emerging India Award, Social Impact Award conferred by former president Pranab Mukherjee amongst  others. As a simple man, he is devoted to the Indian hand-knotted rug industry with an aim to position it rightly in the world and to empower its real owner and creator - the Indian weaver. His philosophy of totality, inclusion and for-profit solutions to society are widely discussed. Listen in as he shares significant moments in his life with some amazing life lessons.

Today as India celebrates her 78th Independence day, our guest  on "U N' I with Rashmi Shetty is Special India's first Visually challenged Foreign service officer , the inspirational  Beno Zephine N.L, IFS Under Secretary Policy Planning and Research, Ministry of External affairs. Beno Zephine received the “First Women’s Award” from the hon’ble President of India, Shri Ram Nath Kovind in January 2018 for becoming India’s first visually challenged Foreign Service Officer. She secured 343rd rank in the all-India Civil Services Examination 2014. She was instrumental in bringing out MEA’s Annual Report 2019-2020 in Audio format for the benefit of public. She excelled at learning French language, as part of her compulsory Foreign Language. At the Higher Secondary level, Beno attended Global Young Leaders conference in the US in 2008. She had Secured first place in the Secondary level Examinations, at the state level, among Visually Challenged Category. She was instrumental in making the Government of Tamil Nadu pass a Government Order for honouring visually challenged students who secure the  first 3 ranks in the Board examinations at the state level. She is the recipient of several awards like Woman of the Year Award by Deccan Chronicle and best Woman by Ritz Magazine. Google has published herquote, “We are too precious to let disappointments enter our minds” as part of its Google doodle on International Women’s day 2019. Beno has a Masters in English Literature and believes Disability should not inhibit anybody from reaching the Stars. She is often quoted as saying, “I might not have vision, but I have a vision to be a hardworking Civil Servant”. Listen in as Beno shares her love of life , her positive attitude and why she believes women are Precious.

The National Handloom Day is observed on August 7th every year, to recognise the efforts and skills of the community of weavers engaged in this sector. Our guest today is someone who has given up almost 2 decades of her corporate experience to work with the Ilkal weavers of the last 6 years. Vrunda Sekhar is an Ilkal Revivalist, Handloom Researcher and Weaver Story Teller based in Bangalore. Facilitating marketplaces for weavers and bridging the gap between weaver and consumer have been her primary areas of engagement. Marketing and promoting Karnataka Sarees, as a must have for Indian women and propagation of Ilkal Sarees as a national weave of historical and cultural significance are also her other areas of work. Championing the rights of weavers, she is involved in research and revival of long-lost design palettes of Karnataka weaves. She is followed by a cross section of women on social media for handloom specific activities of Karnataka centric handloom sarees like Ilkal, Pattadanchu, Guledgudda KhaNa, Gomi, Kote, Molakalmuru, Charaka and Udupi Sarees. With a varied experience as a Communications Specialist, having handled external, internal, customer, retailer communications, Vrunda has worked in Corporates like Bharti Airtel, Hathway, Telenor and Heidelberg India. Apart from 18 years of corporate career, she also has served as a Consultant to the Government of Karnataka, in departments of Kannada/Culture and Karnataka Urban Water Supply Board, as a Media Specialist. Vrunda holds a Masters Degree in English Literature from Mysore University, with a Post Graduate Diploma in Public Relations and Advertising from Bhavans, Bangalore. She has served as a Member of Janapada Loka, Ramanagara, Karnataka and as Ex. Vice President of Karnataka Handloom Council. She is a certified auditor of POSH. A saree aficionado and a handloom lover, her interests include wildlife photography and Indian classical music.   Listen in as she shares her journey & the inspiring story of  how she found her purpose.

The First Doctor’s Day was celebrated in India in the year 1991. July 1 happens to be the birth and death anniversary of the most famous physician of India - Dr B. C.Roy. It is a tribute to his contributions to the health domain in the country. We are in the last week end of July & so decided to make it a doctor’s day special.   Dr Sadiq S Sikora, Director of Surgical Services at Sakra Institute of Digestive and HPB Sciences at Sakra World Hospital in Bangalore, is a distinguished medical professional with an impressive background. An alumnus of the prestigious All India Institute of Medical Sciences in New Delhi, Dr Sikora completed his MBBS and MS (Surgery) training there before joining the Department of Surgical Gastroenterology at the renowned Sanjay Gandhi Postgraduate Institute of Medical Sciences in Lucknow. Dr Sikora's contributions to the field of surgery are numerous and impactful. He has made significant strides in areas such as Safe Cholecystectomy, repair of bile duct injuries, and pancreatic cancer surgery. With more than 125 published articles and book chapters in peer-reviewed journals, Dr Sikora has established himself as a leading voice in surgical research. Beyond his accomplishments in surgery, Dr Sikora is deeply committed to education and mentorship. His dedication to teaching and cultivating the next generation of surgeons is evident in the success of his trainees, many of whom are now making significant contributions to the field. Currently, Dr Sikora's focus lies on promoting "Nontechnical Skills for Surgeons" in collaboration with the Royal College of Surgeons, Edinburgh, and advocating for gender equality in the surgical discipline. Outside of medicine, Dr Sikora has a passion for sports, particularly cricket, tennis, golf, and Formula1. He also enjoys traveling to destinations rich in cultural and historical significance.

Dr. Shivananda R Koteshwar (Shivoo), Vice President with Synopsys India served as the EDA Group South Asia Site Leader providing executive management support to EDAG South Asia Teams, Nurturing and maximizing impact in South Asia Ecosystem and creating revenue growth opportunities in the region. Before Synopsys, Shivoo, as a Site Head and GM, was instrumental in setting up MediaTek, Bangalore site, defining growth strategies, creating innovation capabilities, enabling ecosystems, and building breakthrough business models. Shivoo is a versatile technology leader with 27 years of career-long record of challenging tape-outs, design team setup, and strategic operation management. Shivoo with expertise in full-chip and complex IP implementation, Verification, and Design Methodologies. He is instrumental in delivering multiple first-time-right silicon ASICs. Across his multiple stints, Shivoo has displayed proficiency in establishing a strategic vision and leading through transformational challenges. He enjoys building performing teams and takes pride in having guided and mentored a strong bench of future leaders Shivoo has received a doctorate in Education Management and is an alumnus of IIM, Bangalore & has a Postgraduate Diploma in Innovation & Design thinking, a collaborative program by MIT Sloan, Columbia Business School, and Tuck University. Shivoo has a Masters's Degree in Electrical Engineering from OGI, USA, and BTech in E&C from Mysore University. Shivoo has completed various Design Thinking, Strategy, Business, and Leadership Certification courses from Columbia Business School, Wharton School University of Virginia, MIT Sloan School, IIT Bombay, ESADE Spain, and the University of Sydney. Shivoo is the trustee in Belakoo and Aurinko Academy. Shivoo is a Professor in practice at Cambridge Institute of Technology and an Adjunct Professor at Dayananda Sagar University and ISBR. Shivoo was the Founding Director, at "The Amaatra Academy School", a Professor at PES University, and an Advisory Board member at MS Ramaiah University. Shivoo, as an author has published four books titled "System on Chip (SoC) Architecture", "SoC Physical Design", “50 Shades of Life” and "50 Colours of Love." Shivoo is a recipient of the 2007 Employee Excellence Award in Recognition of efforts as an outstanding Synopsys Employee and was awarded Distinguished Alumni of MCE in 2018 Listen in as Shivoo shares his journey balancing multiple roles & the magical work with education he and his team are doing at the Belakoo Trust.

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Our guest today is Vijaya Deepti - a Member – Board of Directors at Tata AIG General Insurance Co. Ltd. She is the Chairperson for the Risk Management Committee and Member – Audit Committee at Tata AIG. She is an Independent Director at Aster DM Healthcare where she Chairs the Risk Management Committee and Technology Steering Committee in addition to being a member of the Nominations, Remuneration and Compensations and CSR Committees She was the CEO of Tata Insights and Quants a Division of the Tata Industries Ltd. The Organization is a Center of Excellence for Data and Analytics for the Tata Group. The focus is to work with the Tata Group Companies on leveraging Advanced Analytics to address business challenges. She has been supporting a number of IEEE Working Groups to build Industrial AI Standards. She was with Tata Consultancy Services (TCS) for over three decades and played a number of roles both at Corporate and Business Unit Level. As part of the Corporate Governance Team, she supported a number of SBUs in their strategic initiatives and programs. She was on the Board of Diligenta which is a Regulated Subsidiary of TCS in UK. As Head of Global Insurance Product Business at TCS, she was responsible for product development and client delivery initiatives globally. Previously, she served as the Head of Global Insurance Delivery with an additional responsibility to grow UK and European Insurance business. Under her leadership, the TCS Insurance unit won a number of strategic large deals, acquired new customers and achieved multifold growth.   As a long-standing member of TCS Business Excellence Council, Deepti has been responsible for driving the TATA Group’s Business Excellence (TBEM) initiative. She has worked as Head of Quality Council and has championed various Six Sigma Initiatives within TCS across multiple customer engagements. In Dec 2009, she was conferred the “Leading Business Woman of The Year” award by Women Leaders in India (WLII) in recognition for her contribution towards growing the insurance business within TCS despite the global economic downturn. She has been working with a number of NGO’s in areas such as Integrated Forest Management, Education for under-privileged and grooming of leadership talent.

It Is International Yoga Day today  & my guest for the Human library Audio Podcast, “U n’ I with Rashmi Shetty” is a Yoga therapist, master trainer, functional Nutritionist & Founder of @Sankalp Yoga Shala,  Summa Ramesh, https://sankalpyoga.in/. She deeply believes in ‘The Power of Intention’ and has designed all her therapies and workshops drawing strength from the universal force. She believes in a mentor-mentee relationship and empowers her clients to take their healing in their own hands. Summa is extremely patient and empathetic approach guarantees that no kind of force is used on her clients. She lets the client’s body decide the course and her unconditional acceptance of the same delivers results beyond measure.  Her CSR Project RedTent  is all about creating awareness amongst young girls both in rural & urban areas  about: How is the female body made and its function What is the role & phases of the menstrual cycle How the lifestyle & mindset affects the body What alternative ways can be used to keep the period regular & bearable How to embrace & accept her feminity