Relationships Made Easy

Have you ever made a decision you felt really good about, until you told somebody else? You thought it through, considered your options, and felt clear about what you wanted. Then your mother, your partner, or your best friend questioned your choice, and suddenly you're a mess. You're anxious, defensive, second-guessing everything, and maybe even changing your mind. But here's my question: What changed? Did you get important new information, or did someone else's reaction make you anxious, and now you're letting that anxious version of yourself overrule the grounded person who made the original decision?Last week, we talked about why you might have stopped trusting yourself and two ways to start rebuilding that trust. Today, I'm giving you three more practical strategies to help you follow through on what matters, trust your judgment when someone disagrees, and handle things when they don't go as planned. Because self-trust isn't knowing you'll always make the right choice. It's knowing you can count on yourself to handle what happens even if you don’t.✨ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-rebuild-self-trust✨ Free Download: The Self-Trust Recovery Plan: A quick reset for when you make a mistake or something doesn’t go as planned: https://abbymedcalf.com/self-trust-recovery✨ Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com✨ Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.com✨ Get my new book now available on Amazon, Stop Reacting, Start Connecting: No Couples Therapy Required: https://abbymedcalf.com/stop-reacting-book✨ Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resourcesSay hello on social:Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtubeOur Sponsors:* Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com* Check out Quince and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com* Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code uncommongoods.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever had that unsettling feeling that you just can't trust yourself? You think something's wrong, but then immediately question whether you're imagining it. You make a decision you feel good about, but the minute someone disagrees, you start doubting yourself. You know something bothers you, but you're not sure whether your feelings are reasonable. And when you make a mistake? Forget about it. You don't just think you made a bad choice. You start wondering if your judgment can ever be trusted.Self-trust isn't believing you're always right. Self-trust is knowing you can listen to yourself, make thoughtful decisions, and handle whatever happens, including when you get things wrong. Today we're talking about why you might have stopped trusting yourself, how that affects your relationships, and two practical ways to begin rebuilding it.____________________________✨ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-trust-yourself-again✨ Free Download: The Self-Trust Audit to help you identify where you're struggling to trust yourself: https://abbymedcalf.com/self-trust-audit✨ Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com✨ Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.com✨ Get my new book now available on Amazon, Stop Reacting, Start Connecting: No Couples Therapy Required: https://abbymedcalf.com/stop-reacting-bookJoin my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resourcesSay hello on social:Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtubeOur Sponsors:* Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com* Check out Quince and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com* Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code uncommongoods.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When you’re in the middle of a power struggle, whatever you’re fighting about feels incredibly important. You can start out disagreeing with your partner about the thermostat, and twenty minutes later you’re wondering if you should get divorced. You and your brother can start out discussing who’s taking Mom to her doctor’s appointment this week and somehow end up threatening never to speak to each other again. How the hell did we get here? Somewhere along the way, you stopped fighting about the “thing” and started fighting about something much bigger: who gets a say, who gets to decide, and who has to give in.Today I’m going to show you how to recognize when that shift happens, the three main ways power struggles show up, why you can get into them with everyone in your life, and five things you can do to stop them.____________________________✨ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/power-struggles-in-relationships✨ Free Download: Are You in A Power Struggle? The 5-minute pattern check: https://abbymedcalf.com/power-struggle✨ Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com✨ Get my new book now available on Amazon, Stop Reacting, Start Connecting: No Couples Therapy Required: https://abbymedcalf.com/stop-reacting-book✨ Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resourcesSay hello on social:Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtubeOur Sponsors:* Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com* Check out Quince and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com* Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code uncommongoods.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A couple years ago I was at Baskin-Robbins with my Gen Z kids, and when my milkshake came out so thick it was basically still ice cream, I asked the young woman behind the counter to thin it out. I asked nicely; there was nobody waiting in line, and I even tipped her extra, but my kids were horrified that I'd asked, and they looked at me like I'd just flipped over a table and screamed at her. I was shocked, and my first thought was, talk about conflict avoidance on steroids, but this shouldn't even be called conflict avoidance, because there was no conflict here.What my kids had was a low tolerance for discomfort, directness, and disapproval, so low that it made ordinary communication feel like a fight. And this isn't just a Gen Z thing, because I see the same low tolerance for basic communication in 50-year-olds too. So today we're going to talk about why direct communication feels so hard, how to tell what's really a conflict and what's just plain old communication, and my five steps to raise your tolerance so you can stop reacting and start connecting.____________________________✨ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/conflict-avoidance-communication-not-conflict✨ Get your free download of Collaborative Questions, so you have a place to start with these conversations: https://abbymedcalf.com/collab-questions✨ Get my new book now available on Amazon, Stop Reacting, Start Connecting: No Couples Therapy Required: https://abbymedcalf.com/stop-reacting-book✨ Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com✨ Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resourcesSay hello on social:Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtubeOur Sponsors:* Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com* Check out Quince and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com* Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code uncommongoods.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you’ve ever been disappointed or frustrated in a relationship, your expectations were too high. Think about it. Disappointment is what happens when you expect one thing and get another. Your own expectations don’t seem unrealistic to you, even though they often are, because you’re usually not aware you even have them. Most of them started out as preferences, you know, the way you like things done. But then, somewhere along the way, they turned into “shoulds” that are just facts everyone is supposed to follow. Today you’ll learn why you don’t realize you’re setting expectations for other people, what happens when a preference turns into a “should,” and three steps to turn your expectations back into preferences you can ask for, let go of, or get met somewhere else.____________________________✨  Full blog: https://abbymedcalf.com/unrealistic-expectations-in-relationships✨  Free Download: Take the Find Your Stealth Expectations Assessment - https://abbymedcalf.com/stealth-expectations-assessment✨ Get my new book now available on Amazon, Stop Reacting, Start Connecting: No Couples Therapy Required: https://abbymedcalf.com/stop-reacting-book✨ Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com✨ Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substackYou'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resourcesSay hello on social:Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtubeOur Sponsors:* Check out Cure Hydration and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.curehydration.com* Check out Quince and use my code RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com* Check out Uncommon Goods and use my code uncommongoods.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.uncommongoods.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy