Ambitious Mom Mindset | Mindset, Nervous System, Boundaries, Present Mom, Emotional Regulation

Do you know exactly what you don't love about your life right now, but go blank when someone asks what you do want? Have you been quietly hiding, camera off, snapping at the kids, one more glass of wine at night, and calling it "just tired"? Do you believe your big dreams are possible… just maybe for someone else? Highlights of This Episode I'll be honest, when I was creating my 90-day reflection journal, I was writing it in my car between soccer practices, one hour at a time. I had a deep inner knowing that I was meant for more than the to-do list, and I bet you do too. But knowing it and becoming it are two different things, especially when you're stretched thin, running on empty, and carrying the full mental load of work and home. That's exactly why I wanted you to hear today's conversation. My guest, Lindsay Hack, is the founder of The Identity Hacker. For more than 20 years, she's helped people see and step into who they're becoming, first through visualization and transformation coaching, and now by using AI to make that future self visible. Lindsay started her business the day her first daughter was born and built it through babies, toddlers, sleepless nights, and moving her family across the world, from Canada to Australia to Mexico and back again. Her girls are now 16 and 18, raised inside the reality of what entrepreneurial freedom actually looks like. Today, she helps women stop hiding and finally show up as the person they've already become. Inside this episode, Lindsay and I dive into: Why you can't think your way into a new identity - and why the "boring basics," the small daily habits nobody claps for, are what actually change who you are "Body before business" - how Lindsay's self care became the foundation for being a more present mom, wife, and business owner (and why it's okay if not everyone understands that) Nervous system regulation as step one - simple grounding tools like box breathing and journaling to come down from survival mode before you try to change anything The "love / don't love" exercise and the "perfect day" visualization to get clear on what you actually want The pendulum effect - why trying to swing from burnout to your dream life overnight backfires, and how to find neutral first AI visualization and your reticular activating system - how seeing hyper-realistic images of your future self helps rewire the brain to believe it's possible The signs you're hiding - and how mindfulness and awareness help you catch the pattern a little faster each time "Zero days" - why doing something small every day matters more than doing everything perfectly You are not alone - why finding a support system and community lifts the shame and mom guilt off your shoulders I also share my own moments of getting triggered, at work when my boss handed me "just one more thing," and at home over the never-ending laundry pile and how naming the trigger opened the door to setting boundaries, delegating, and better emotional regulation. If you're an ambitious, high-achieving mom who's tired of waiting until "someday" to become the woman you know you're meant to be, this conversation will help you get out of your head, calm your nervous system, and start showing up as her today, right where you are. Connect with Lindsay Hack: Website: https://theidentityhacker.com/ Socials: https://www.instagram.com/lindsayhackcoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/coachlindsayhack https://www.linkedin.com/in/theidentityhacker/ 1:1 coaching with Lindsay: https://tidycal.com/theidentityhacker/quick-win-call-find-your-biggest-visual-leak Resources: Awaken to the Divine Self 90-Day Reflection Journal — the mindfulness journal I wrote between soccer practices, created to help you reconnect with who you are: josieanderson.co/journal BLACK FRIDAY SALE - 20% OFF WITH COUPON CODE: PODCAST (ends 11/29/26) Journal Prompts: What does the woman I'm becoming do every day that I'm not doing yet? Where am I hiding right now, and what are the signs? Let's Connect: If this episode helped you, I'd love it if you left a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps more ambitious mamas find the show. Sign up for my weekly Insider newsletter for mindset tools, nervous system support, and encouragement straight to your inbox: thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.kit.com/insider Receive personalized support with Mindfulness Coaching: josieanderson.co/coaching Follow along on Instagram:@thedivineselfbyjosie With love and gratitude, Josie Anderson

Have you ever caught yourself judging someone and had no idea why? Do you snap at everyone during the morning rush, then carry that frustration through the rest of your day? Are you second-guessing a decision you knew was right when you made it? Highlights of This Episode: Mama, today we're talking about triggers, and how we can either react from survival mode or respond with integrity. I used to think being triggered meant something was wrong with me. Now I see triggers as a sign of awareness, and a nudge from God / universe, showing me exactly where I'm being asked to grow. In this episode, I'm getting honest about a recent trigger of my own. About a month into a business mentorship program I was so excited to join, I caught myself sitting on a coaching call, judging the mentor and wondering if I'd made a mistake. It had nothing to do with her. So I pulled out my journal, right there on the call, and walked myself through my 5-step Reframe Your Mindset framework: Trigger, Emotions, Situation, Thoughts, Reframe. What I uncovered surprised me, and it completely changed how I show up. This is the same mindfulness practice that pulled me out of anxiety and burnout years ago. It's what I teach my coaching clients and what I live by. I'll walk you through each step using my own story, and then we'll apply it to a regular Tuesday morning: it's 7:15, nobody has their shoes on, and you've just yelled at everyone. You'll see how to notice the trigger, feel the emotions in your body, separate the facts from the story, uncover the subconscious thoughts underneath, and reframe into one empowered action, like asking for help and setting a simple boundary around who owns the morning routine. If you're an ambitious mom who's tired of overthinking, tired of negative self talk, and ready to trade reacting for emotional regulation and nervous system regulation, this one is for you. You'll walk away with a simple journaling practice you can use the very next time you're triggered, so you can stop spiraling, stop blaming, and become the calm, present mom you want to be. Because when we respond from peace, we don't have to chase. We attract. Resources: Your journey is the greatest story ever told.  Start with the Awaken to the Divine Self 90-day guided journal created for ambitious moms craving more time, mental clarity, and purpose. https://thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.com/journal/ - 20% OFF COUPON CODE: PODCAST Journal Prompts: What am I judging right now, and how does it feel in my body? If this had nothing to do with the other person, what might it be showing me about myself? What would my Divine Self tell me about this, and what's one empowered action I can take this week? Let's Connect: If this episode helped you, I'd love it if you left a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps more ambitious mamas find the show. Sign up for my weekly Insider newsletter for mindset tools, nervous system support, and encouragement straight to your inbox: thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.kit.com/insider Receive personalized support with Mindfulness Coaching: thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.com/coaching Follow along on Instagram:@thedivineselfbyjosie With love and gratitude, Josie Anderson

Do you find yourself walking on eggshells in your relationship, waiting for the "right moment" to bring up money, the kids, or what you need, because you're not sure how your partner will react? Have you ever caught yourself saying, "This is just how marriage is," while your life keeps getting smaller and smaller? Highlights of This Episode Mama, so many of us are holding it all together on the outside while something feels off on the inside. We're juggling work, kids, the mental load, and a relationship we tell ourselves is "fine," and we rarely stop long enough to ask whether it's actually healthy. That's exactly why I wanted to have this conversation. You can't be a calm, present mom when your nervous system is stuck on high alert, and you can't set healthy boundaries when you don't yet see the pattern you're living in. My guest today is Dr. Wendy Burchett, a licensed therapist who works with women who have complex trauma, helping them work through their pain and reclaim their identity in Christ. Over the last 15 years, Wendy has developed a deep passion for helping women who are hurting in their relationships. She brings both personal and professional experience to this work. After nearly three decades of toxic and emotionally abusive relationships, she hit rock bottom, committed to four years of weekly therapy, and finally recognized the subconscious belief that kept drawing her back to the chaos. She is also the host of the podcast Navigating Toxic Relationships. Inside today's episode, Wendy and I dive into: How subconscious beliefs (what therapists call core beliefs) quietly shape who we're drawn to, and why trying to be seen by someone who doesn't see us is a recipe for heartbreak The type of partner many high-achieving women are attracted to, and why it can be so hard to get your needs met Clear signs of a toxic relationship versus a healthy one, including control, criticism, a stifled sense of independence, and walking on eggshells, even when there are no big blow-up fights How to set boundaries in relationships and in marriage, with real boundaries examples you can use word for word, plus why a boundary is a movable lane marker, not a cement wall Why following through on your boundaries matters just as much as stating them Practical nervous system regulation tools for busy moms: mindfulness breathing exercises, movement, sunshine, and time in nature Why emotions are information, and how noticing them early (mindfulness in action) helps you catch anxiety before it spirals Reparenting yourself and turning toward your own feelings the way you would comfort your child Why learning to truly love and respect yourself is the foundation for confidence that can't be shaken If you're a people pleaser, a perfectionist, or a mom running on empty who has quietly normalized a relationship that drains you, this conversation will help you name what's really going on, give you language for setting healthy boundaries, and hand you simple emotional regulation tools you can use the next time you feel that tension rising. Most of all, I hope it reminds you that you're allowed to take up space and that your needs matter too. Connect with Dr. Wendy Burchett Website: Dr. Wendy Burchett Instagram: @drwendyburchett Podcast: Navigating Toxic Relationships Resources Mentioned Insight Timer app for guided meditations, breathwork, and calming music: https://insighttimer.com Awaken to the Divine Self Journal, my 90-day guided journal for noticing your feelings, uncovering the thoughts behind them, reframing, and taking aligned action. Wendy's favorite breathwork pattern: breathe in for 4, hold for 4, then slowly exhale everything out of your lungs Journal Prompts Where in my relationship do I feel like I can't fully be myself? What conversation with my partner am I waiting for the “right moment” to have? Is my relationship helping my life grow bigger, or making it smaller? What am I accepting in my relationship that I no longer want to accept? Let's Connect: Sign up for my weekly Insider newsletter for mindset tools, nervous system support, and encouragement straight to your inbox: https://thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.kit.com/insider Get more personalized support with Mindfulness Coaching: thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.com/coaching Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivineselfbyjosie/ With love and gratitude, Josie Anderson

Do you walk past the laundry pile and suddenly feel like you could snap at everyone in the house? Are you saying yes to your boss, your kids, and your husband, and somehow never saying yes to yourself? Highlights of This Episode I'm sharing something a little different today. I was invited onto Rachel Cross's podcast, Faith Over Anxiety for Moms, and she asked me to go back to the very beginning: three kids under 14, a full-time job, and a life where I said yes to everyone and everything until my body finally said no. Rachel is a fellow mom and podcast host who, like me, grew up shy and felt a nudge from God that there was something more for her. Our conversation felt like two friends being honest about what burnout really looks like behind closed doors. Inside this episode, I open up about the signs I ignored for way too long: the racing heart, the panic attacks, getting triggered easily by a pile of laundry, and snapping at my kids in a way that just wasn't me. I walk you through the simple journaling practice that changed everything for me. You'll learn how to pause, name the emotion, write down the situation, and catch the subconscious thought patterns running on repeat underneath it all. This is where real emotional regulation and nervous system regulation begin. Not with a massive mindset overhaul, but with one tiny, honest shift in the story you're telling yourself. We also go deep on healthy boundaries, and not just the kind you set with other people. I share how boundaries within ourselves protect our peace, why the story of Martha and Mary speaks so directly to every mom who feels she has to do it all, and why stillness is our birthright. Then I walk you through the six things that helped me overcome anxiety and burnout: asking for help, letting go of perfectionism and people-pleasing, lowering your expectations, practicing mindfulness, and setting boundaries even when saying no feels uncomfortable. If you're an ambitious mom carrying the mental load, running on empty, and craving more peace and presence with your kids, this conversation will help you feel less alone and give you one small step you can take today to become the calm, present mom you want to be. Connect with Rachel Cross: Podcast: Faith Over Anxiety for Moms Journal Prompts: What am I feeling right now, and what am I telling myself about it? Where am I saying yes when it isn't a full-body yes? Let's Connect: Sign up for my weekly Insider newsletter for mindset tools, nervous system support, and encouragement straight to your inbox: https://thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.kit.com/insider FREE Reframe Your Mindset Masterclass - Tuesday, October 20th @ 10am - https://josieanderson.co/mindset/ With love and gratitude, Josie Anderson

Are you the one in your house holding every schedule, every permission slip, and every "don't forget" in your head? Do you feel like you're running on autopilot, doing it all, but never fully present with the people you're doing it for? Highlights of This Episode This conversation took me right back to being a new mom 18 years ago, up at 1 a.m. with a colicky baby, googling articles and wondering who on earth I could ask. So many of us are still carrying that same invisible mental load, just with more kids, more calendars, more group chats, and a nervous system that never gets to power down. That's exactly why I wanted you to meet today's guest. Carly Church is the founder of We Got You Mama, an author, speaker, actor, producer, and the creator of MomBot. Carly has spent the last decade building communities for mothers, and her work comes straight from her own life: postpartum, an ADHD diagnosis in her late 30s, and hitting perimenopause early, then sitting in doctor's office after doctor's office hearing "you're just stressed." As a mom of three busy kids, she knows what it feels like to be stretched thin, and she decided to build the support system she wished someone had handed her. Inside today's episode, Carly and I talk about how she trained her own AI to become a "second brain," one that understands her values, her priorities, and her boundaries, and even tells her, "No, Carly, you don't have time for that." We dig into why no is a complete sentence, how knowing your values can pull you out of burnout and back to your true self, and how one mom saved hours every week simply by letting go of control over the logistics. Carly also shares how she's using technology to become more human, not less, so moms can spend less time managing the family calendar and more time being a present mom. If you're an ambitious mom drowning in decision fatigue, mom guilt, or overwhelm, this episode will remind you that you don't have to do it alone. You'll walk away with a new way of thinking about support, a little more permission to slow down, and practical ideas for protecting your peace of mind, your emotional regulation, and your energy, whether you have a newborn, a teen behind the wheel, or an emptying nest. Message from Carly: My Mom Bot is a personalized AI support system designed to help moms, parents, caregivers, entrepreneurs, and other high-capacity people carry less of the invisible mental load. What makes it different is that it gets to know the person, including their values, priorities, boundaries, family logistics, decision-making style, and what they want protected when life gets chaotic. Connect with Carly Church FREE RESOURCE - AI-Powered Family Flow System A simple way to try one practical piece of the My Mom Bot approach and start getting some of the mental load out of your head and into a system that supports you. https://links.wegotyoumama.com/widget/form/idCXvO48JsciinziN1F7 MY MOM BOT PRE-LAUNCH My Mom Bot is currently in a limited pre-launch phase, with personalized setups available to the first 50 moms. It’s built around your actual life, family, work, priorities, and mental load so the support is personal, not generic. Learn more + apply for pre-launch access: https://join.wegotyoumama.com/home--my-mom-bot WEBSITE - https://wegotyoumama.com INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/we.got.you.mama/ Journal Prompts What am I carrying right now that I could ask for help with or hand off? What are my top values, and where am I saying yes when I really mean no? Let's Connect: If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other ambitious mamas find this community and I read every single one. Sign up for my weekly Insider newsletter for mindset tools, nervous system support, and encouragement straight to your inbox: https://thedivineselfbyjosieanderson.kit.com/insider FREE Reframe Your Mindset Masterclass - Tuesday, October 20th @ 10am - https://josieanderson.co/mindset/ With love and gratitude, Josie Anderson