Overstimulated and Over It: A Podcast for Women in Perimenopause with ADHD

If you have ADHD, there’s a decent chance your house is already haunted.Not by ghosts.By tasks.The return sitting by the door. The laundry that successfully completed the washer and dryer portions of its journey but never advanced to the folding round. The package you need to mail. The abandoned craft project. The mystery object you deliberately put somewhere so you’d remember it, only to completely forget why it’s there.Welcome to the haunted house of ADHD executive functioning.In this Halloween episode of Overstimulated and Over It, Blair talks about what happens when an already busy ADHD brain meets the cognitive changes of perimenopause, and suddenly the systems that used to keep everything more or less together aren’t working quite like they used to.From walking through the infamous Room Portal and immediately forgetting why you’re there, to vague to-do lists written by Past You, to hobby supplies from interests that burned brightly for seventeen days, this episode explores the funny, frustrating, and sometimes genuinely difficult reality of trying to manage everyday life when your working memory feels increasingly unreliable.But underneath the forgotten appointments, disappearing words, mystery alarms, and objects placed somewhere “safe” never to be seen again, there can also be grief.What happens when you used to be the person who remembered everything? When being organized, capable, and dependable became part of your identity? And what if the answer isn’t finding a better system for carrying twelve things at once?Maybe some of the balls actually need to hit the floor.Blair shares the practical shifts that help her work with her brain instead of constantly fighting it, including making important things visible, leaving very specific instructions for Future Blair, letting technology remember things, and asking one extremely underrated question:Can this be easier?Your house doesn’t need to look like Pinterest. Your medication is allowed to sit on the counter. Your reminders can be weird. Your clean laundry does not need to be folded to qualify as clean laundry.And you definitely don’t need to exorcise your ADHD brain.Although when you walk into a room tonight and completely forget why you’re there, you are absolutely allowed to blame the ghosts.For more information about working with Blair: ⁠www.blairpfeiffercoaching.com⁠For resources, program information, or to join The Side Quest Club: https://withme.so/blairpfeiffercoaching⁠Join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community.

Where the hell did my libido go?One day she was here. The next? Ghosted. No text. No explanation. No forwarding address.In this spooky-season episode of Overstimulated and Over It, Blair puts on both her sex therapist and fellow perimenopausal ADHD human hats to talk about one of the most complicated changes many women experience in midlife: desire suddenly feeling very, very different.Because libido isn’t just about hormones, and wanting sex isn’t always as simple as feeling spontaneously turned on. ADHD, perimenopause, stress, sensory overload, medications, body changes, relationship dynamics, sleep, pressure, and the mental load can all affect how we experience desire and intimacy.Blair explores the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why an ADHD brain may need time to transition from “household administrator” to “sexual human,” and how sensory overload can follow you straight into the bedroom. She also talks about physical changes that can affect arousal, comfort, lubrication, orgasm, and pleasure during perimenopause, plus what can happen in relationships when touch starts to feel like a contract for sex.And then there’s the bigger question: What if the goal isn’t getting your old libido back?Maybe it’s getting curious about the sexual person you are now.What feels good now? What kind of connection do you want? What does your body need? What happens when you take pressure and obligation out of the equation and make room for curiosity, communication, pleasure, and play again?If you’ve ever thought, “I love you, but please don’t touch me right now,” wondered why sex rarely crosses your mind anymore, or worried that changes in desire mean something is wrong with you or your relationship, this conversation is for you.Your libido may not be dead.Maybe she’s just haunting a different house now.For more information about working with Blair: ⁠www.blairpfeiffercoaching.com⁠For resources, program information, or to join The Side Quest Club: https://withme.so/blairpfeiffercoaching⁠Join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community.

Ever rehearse a difficult conversation perfectly in your head, only to have every useful word disappear the second the other person is actually standing in front of you?In this spooky-season episode, Blair explores the very real communication struggles that can show up when ADHD, emotional activation, rejection sensitivity, working memory challenges, and perimenopause all collide.From blanking out in doctor’s appointments to overexplaining texts, saying yes when you desperately mean no, losing the original point halfway through an argument, and coming up with the perfect response six hours too late, Blair shares why communication can become especially difficult when your nervous system is overwhelmed.She also talks about the pressure so many women feel to communicate perfectly, avoid disappointing anyone, manage everyone else’s reactions, and somehow find the magical sentence that guarantees nobody gets upset. Spoiler: that sentence does not exist.Instead, Blair offers a more realistic approach to communication built around slowing things down, writing down what you actually want to say, supporting your working memory, choosing better timing, listening to the words instead of the story anxiety is creating, and learning to tolerate the fact that someone else can be disappointed without that automatically meaning you did something wrong.This episode is also a reminder that healthy communication isn’t about never getting defensive, emotional, or saying something badly. It’s about being able to come back, repair, clarify, and take responsibility for your part without taking responsibility for everything.If you have a conversation haunting you right now, maybe you don’t need the perfect speech. Maybe you just need one honest sentence.And yes, shaky voices still count.If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who has ever overthought a text, forgotten every question at the doctor’s office, or wondered why she said yes when every cell in her body was screaming no.To learn more about The Emotionally Organized Woman, join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community, and explore additional resources, check out the links below.For more information about working with Blair: ⁠www.blairpfeiffercoaching.com⁠⁠Join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community.

Apparently, turning 40 comes with a fun little surprise nobody bothered to mention: our skin chemistry can actually change the way we smell.In this spooky-season bonus episode, we’re going down the deeply unsettling rabbit hole of “old person smell.” Is it actually real? What the hell is 2-nonenal? Why does it start showing up as we age? And most importantly, why is everyone suddenly talking about persimmon soap?We’ll get into the actual science, what we know (and don’t know), and whether persimmon soap belongs in the category of miracle internet bullshit or… probably not bullshit.Because apparently wrinkles, rogue chin hairs, and declining estrogen weren’t enough.Welcome to Tales from the Crypt: The Scent of Aging Flesh.To learn more about The Emotionally Organized Woman, join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community, and explore additional resources, check out the links below.For more information about working with Blair: ⁠www.blairpfeiffercoaching.comJoin The Side Quest ClubFind some amazing resources here⁠Join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community.

Haunted houses? Fun. Ghost stories? Bring them on. Fluorescent lights, crowded grocery stores, scratchy clothing, strong perfume, and someone chewing too loudly? Now that’s terrifying.In this spooky-season episode, Blair dives into the very real experience of sensory overwhelm and why so many women with ADHD find that perimenopause turns the volume up on everything. From bright lights and buzzing noises to uncomfortable clothing, strong smells, and constant interruptions, she explores what it feels like when your nervous system simply has too much information to process.Through personal stories (including an unforgettable office fish incident), humor, and practical insight, Blair explains why sensory sensitivity isn’t about being “too sensitive” or dramatic. It’s about having a brain that processes the world differently, especially when hormonal changes, stress, and poor sleep leave your nervous system with fewer resources than it once had.Rather than trying to push through overwhelm, Blair encourages listeners to start noticing what their nervous system is actually asking for. Sometimes relief doesn’t come from changing everything. It comes from making one small adjustment that helps your brain feel just a little bit safer.If you’ve ever abandoned a shopping trip because the lights were too bright, the store was too loud, or your nervous system simply tapped out, this episode will remind you that you’re far from alone.If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who’s ever wondered why Costco feels like a haunted house but actual haunted houses somehow feel less overwhelming.To learn more about The Emotionally Organized Woman, join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community, and explore additional resources, check out the links below.For more information about working with Blair: ⁠www.blairpfeiffercoaching.com⁠⁠Join the ADHD and Perimenopause Support community.