Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

What do you do when your marriage undergoes a deep rupture that feels like it cannot be repaired? In today’s episode of Couples Therapy, I sat down with Carl and Laura Lentz for a vulnerable conversation, to discuss the affair that ruptured their relationship and set them on a path of healing. We talk about the cracks in their marriage BEFORE the rupture of infidelity in their marriage, how unhealed trauma from the past led to unhealthy coping, what the healing process practically looked like, and how to begin to recover the first 30 days after disclosure. We have some important conversations around childhood wounds, and how the goal of Christian marriage isn’t just staying married - it’s transformation. This conversation is honest and hopeful, and if you or someone you know is going through a serious rupture, breach of trust, or infidelity in your marriage, this episode is one you must sit down and listen to from start to end. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills YOU need to build a thriving relationship! Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you ● in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation ● in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself ● in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict ● in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of nine books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Connection is the heartbeat of a marriage, and without it, a couple can feel like their relationship is slowly dying. In today’s episode of Couples Therapy, we explore the dynamics of connection in marriage with Wade and Rebecca, a couple navigating the challenges of early married life. They’re newlyweds but due to life stressors, physical health issues, and the limitations of living with family, they’re already feeling disconnected in their relationship. We discuss their experiences and practical suggestions for finding a healthy relationship in the middle of life stress and health challenges. If you’re feeling disconnected in your marriage, this episode will give you valuable insights to help you reconnect and thrive. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills YOU need to build a thriving relationship! Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you ● in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation ● in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself ● in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict ● in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of nine books including...

Parenting tension is often a marriage problem in disguise. Today on Couples Therapy, I’m joined by Landon and Lindsey who open up about the exact cycle that keeps blowing up their home. They’ve been married 15 years, have three young children, and find that their relationship seems strong – until stress hits. They’re finding that the differences in their parenting styles are triggering each other, and bringing the worst of them – as well as their past wounding – to the surface. Debra walks them through a practical framework for healthier parenting and a healthier marriage. This episode goes deeper than behavior management. It asks the question every overwhelmed parent needs to ask: What happens when your tank is empty, your patience is gone, and your child’s worst moment collides with your worst trigger? The answer could change the way you parent, repair, and connect. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship. Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed...

Is it possible to heal AFTER separation? This episode of Couples Therapy is a heartfelt session with Meagan and Ryan, who join Debra to unpack the roots of their separation, including communication breakdowns, emotional distance, betrayal, and the need for healing on both sides. They’re wondering if it’s even possible to heal after the breakdown that’s happened in their marriage over the years. Debra helps them move beyond blame and into a clearer conversation about safety, ownership, boundaries, and what real restoration would require in stages. This episode will give you some very practical steps for repair, as well as a hopeful framework for rebuilding a struggling marriage with honesty, faith, and intentional next steps. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship. Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself  in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict  in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the

I am SO EXCITED that today my new book Relationship Skills officially releases into the world!! Because I believe that healthy relationships are not found, they’re built – I invited Levi and Sabrina to join me on today’s episode to discuss some of the concepts in Relationship Skills and how to apply them to this season of marriage. After welcoming their rainbow baby 9 months ago, they find themselves dealing with more conflict and tension in their relationship than usual...and they need some hacks to help them better navigate the conflict when it comes up. We dive into some of my favorite conflict hacks, and I teach them how to practice the skills necessary to get through conflict feeling more connected than they started. Relationship Skills is officially available anywhere books are sold, and I cannot wait to share it with you!! So grab a copy and start building the skills you need to take your relationship to the next level! Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you ● in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation ● in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself ● in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict  ● in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed...