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You did the work to understand your childhood – so why do you react in ways you swore you never would?
The CALM Parent is for the parent who had to grow up too fast — and knows exactly which parent they don't want to become.
The roles were reversed – your parents were the ones who needed regulating, but you were the one who had to do it.
This is how it ends with you.
Katie McKenna is an Accredited Psychotherapist, Author of the Sunday Times Bestseller 'You're Not The Problem', Host of 'Beyond Survival' - The Therapy Podcast, creator of The CALM Method, and Mother of four.
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What if the behaviour you're finding so difficult isn't manipulation, defiance or attention-seeking, but a child trying to get a need met without yet having the skills to do it differently? In this episode of The CALM Parent, we explore the difference between needs and skills, why children struggle with disappointment, flexibility, emotional expression and empathy, and how our own unmet needs can get pulled into the parenting dynamic. You'll learn how to look beyond the behaviour, get curious...
One Limit. One Boundary. Stop Getting Sucked Into the Escalation. Your child slams the door, shouts “I hate you”, throws a tantrum or pushes back when you say no. What happens next? Do you hold your ground, lose your cool, pile on more consequences, or find yourself desperately trying to fix things because you can't tolerate their anger? In this episode of The CALM Parent, we're looking at how to hold boundaries without getting pulled into the emotional chaos that can follow. You'll learn the...
Sorry for asking. Sorry, you can't have that. Sorry, I have to work. Sorry, it’s only me. If “sorry” is half of every sentence you say to your kids, this one’s for you. When you over-apologise, your child thinks you’re doing something wrong when you aren’t. Then, when you really do need to repair, the word has lost its weight. This week: the difference between “sorry I exist” and “sorry I hurt you,” why you never have to apologise for a limit, and the five steps to an apology that...
You sit down last. You eat on the run. You can’t remember the last time you did something just for you. You might call that being a good mum. But what if you’re not just bottom of the list? What if you’re not on it at all? In this episode, I talk about why taking even ten minutes for yourself can feel like stealing from your kids, and where that guilt really comes from. I look at why “it’s good for the kids” is still the wrong reason to rest, and the one sm...
Guilt says I did a bad thing. Shame says I am a bad person. If you grew up being shamed for so much as wanting to be seen, you probably can’t tell them apart. You’ve been swimming in shame so long it doesn’t feel like an emotion. It feels like who you are. In this episode I unpack the difference. Guilt is specific, temporary, and it moves you towards repair. Shame is global. It’s the feeling of wanting the ground to open up and swallow you. I also share what happened when, at eleven, I spent ...
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