Too Awkward for a Twosome

Learning to surf in our 40s: Johnna and Clint on the first weeks of surfing almost every day on Kauai, the soreness, the fear and the ego, and what starting something new teaches you about everything else. Johnna surfed on Maui 25 years ago. Clint had never surfed. We bought boards, drove five minutes to a learners' spot, and decided there were no more excuses. The new muscles surfing found, and why recovery came before lifting Starting something new in front of other people Fear dressed up as excuses, and the Costco foam board that ended them Why getting from zero to one changes everything Consistency, impatience and trusting the process Making room for other people in the water Clint going from a fear of water to surfing Why a coach saves you trial and error, in the water and in lifting Starting is the cost of entry. Feeling like you suck is part of the price, and confidence is on the other side. Chapters: 0:00 Hook: Confidence on the Other Side 0:39 Intro 1:01 Mic Check and an Elephant Fun Fact 2:16 Surfing Every Single Day 2:53 New Muscles From Surfing 4:31 Why Variety of Movement Matters 5:25 Too Sore to Lift Our Arms 7:22 A Word From REBUILT 8:08 Not Lifting While We Surf 9:18 Starting Something New in Front of People 11:20 Nobody Has Told Us We Suck 12:18 Not Wanting to Get in Other People's Way 14:13 From Zero to One 14:43 Fear Dressed Up as Excuses 15:38 Smashing the Ego and Buying a Board 16:15 Our Goals for the First Sessions 17:24 Learners' Waves and Glassy Water 18:25 No More Excuses 19:19 Consistency and Impatience 21:36 Applying It Beyond Surfing 22:45 How Do You Feel When You're Done 24:22 Making Room for Learners 27:33 Where to Find REBUILT 28:37 Practicing in the Living Room 29:42 Starting Something New in Our 40s 31:10 Why We Love Surfing 32:16 A Double Rainbow 33:16 Clint's Fear of Water 35:13 Graduating From White Water 36:07 Surfing's Version of RDLs and Deadlifts 38:13 Why a Coach Helps 41:10 Our Obsession 42:25 Apply It to Your Life 43:19 Wrap-Up: Do the Thing Starting something new and sticking with it is the point. REBUILT guides you through the first 12 weeks of a habit you keep for life, with lifting you can do at home. REBUILT for Men: Build Muscle. Own Your Strength. Rediscover Your Power. 2awkward.com/rebuilt-men REBUILT for Women: Build Strength. Trust Your Body. Reclaim Your Power. 2awkward.com/rebuilt-women More conversations like this, twice a week: 2awkward.com/#newsletter

How Clint changed his relationship with alcohol on July 4, 2023, and why he says the fight was never with the booze. It was with the voice. Clint did not have a rock bottom moment. He decided he was done fighting, kept a fully stocked bar in view on his counter, and spent his nights proving to himself that he had control. Johnna asks the questions we think you would ask. This is Clint's experience. He says it would not necessarily work for everyone and he is not advocating it. It is not medical advice, and Johnna points out that detoxing from alcohol can be dangerous, so talk to a doctor before you change how you drink. The decision on July 4, 2023, and why there was no single bottom Why he kept the bar stocked and in view Talking back to the voice instead of silencing it Golf with his drinking buddies, no drink in hand "One is too many and one more is never enough" Johnna on food, discipline and control (chips and cookies) Why he wishes he had written down how he actually felt Chapters: 0:00 Hook: Fighting the Voice, Not the Addiction 0:33 Intro 0:56 Getting the Goof Out First 4:47 Today: How Clint Changed His Relationship With Alcohol 5:10 Why Addiction Quiets the Voice 6:50 Starting With the End: Fighting the Voice 8:33 No Rock Bottom Moment 9:03 Alcohol as a Socially Acceptable Mask 10:01 July 4, 2023: The Decision 12:47 Dealing With It Instead of Holding It at Bay 14:15 Keeping the Bar Stocked 15:47 Johnna on Food, Discipline and Control 16:56 A Word From REBUILT 17:48 Evenings Alone in the Farmhouse 19:53 Talking Back to the Voice 22:19 Journaling and Living in Victimhood 24:24 Healing Is Not a Straight Line 25:23 Golf Without a Drink 29:36 The First Drink After 30:13 One Is Too Many, One More Is Never Enough 31:30 A Word From REBUILT 32:07 Tools When the Urge Hits 35:34 What Detox Looked Like 41:25 It Took Courage 43:12 You Already Did the Hardest Thing 45:37 Regret and Gratitude for Writing It Down 46:20 The Journal Inside REBUILT 49:34 Wrap-Up Johnna on the journal that comes with REBUILT, and why being specific about how you feel matters. REBUILT guides you through the first 12 weeks of a habit you keep for life. REBUILT for Men: Build Muscle. Own Your Strength. Rediscover Your Power. 2awkward.com/rebuilt-men REBUILT for Women: Build Strength. Trust Your Body. Reclaim Your Power. 2awkward.com/rebuilt-women More conversations like this, twice a week: 2awkward.com/#newsletter

Social media vs. real life: Johnna and Clint on the comments that followed Clint's video from Kauai, and why the real world is the people in front of you. Online, a pile of comments. In person, since we moved here, every interaction has been great to amazing. This episode is about knowing which one is real and not letting the internet run your day. Social media comments vs. face-to-face life on Kauai Clint on embodying what he reads in Meditations Why people stop learning in public Why we stay online and how we protect our peace Sunday brunch, tipping and the luxury of being served Chapters: 0:00 Hook: Embodying What You Read 0:20 Intro 0:43 Sunday Brunch on the South Shore 3:08 Why Tipping Matters 4:46 Live Music With Brunch 7:54 The Hesitation of Pronouncing Things Wrong 10:13 A Word From REBUILT 11:08 Clint's Video and the Comments 14:47 Friendly Corrections and Phonetic Help 16:07 A Different Language, a Strange Land 17:34 Learning From the Locals 22:38 Why People Stop Learning in Public 24:00 Clint on Words Rooted in Land 25:18 How the Locals Taught Us 26:47 Clint Chooses His Teachers 27:21 A Word From REBUILT 27:58 Embodying What You Read 29:45 Social Media Is Not for the Weak 30:11 The Land Welcomed Us 31:35 The Internet vs. Real Life 32:01 Why We Stay Online 33:44 Incremental Steps 35:50 Real Life Is Happening in Front of You 37:45 Wrap-Up: Speaking With Heart Build habits you keep. REBUILT guides you through the first 12 weeks of a habit you keep for life. REBUILT for Men: Build Muscle. Own Your Strength. Rediscover Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-men REBUILT for Women: Build Strength. Trust Your Body. Reclaim Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-women More conversations like this, twice a week: cjelevatedlife.com/#newsletter

Someone commented on Johnna's training post asking about the cost. She answered, and this episode breaks down that answer: what you pay for when you hire a trainer, why free workouts are everywhere, and why most people will spend on instant gratification before they invest in lasting value. This is our lived experience, not medical advice. Why Johnna responds to mean comments now, and the bot theory The $100 an hour comment and her reply What you get for the price: guidance, nutrition, mindset and habits you keep Slippers, burgers and green juice: what we pay for without a second thought Why trainers, accountants and investment advisors earn what they charge Standing up for yourself without attacking the other person Chapters: 0:00 Hook: Skin in the Game 0:19 Intro 0:45 Why Did the Chicken Cross the Road 2:35 Why Johnna Responds to Mean Comments 4:14 Real People or Bots 5:24 Why Johnna Is Saying Bitches Again 6:48 Middle Age and Being Yourself 8:56 Training Again and a Branding Update 10:12 A Word From REBUILT 11:03 The $100 an Hour Comment 13:02 Johnna Reads Her Reply 15:13 An Investment, Not an Expense 16:26 Putting a Cap on Our Value 17:25 Slippers, Burgers and Green Juice 19:30 Instant Gratification vs. Lasting Value 19:56 A Word From REBUILT 20:43 Why Johnna Charges for Training 24:01 Accountants, Investing and Paying for Synthesis 26:51 Why She Responded 27:58 Skin in the Game 28:48 Responding From Self-Value 30:13 Take the Trash Out Tuesday 31:33 Wrap-Up: Value the Craft Build habits you keep. REBUILT guides you through the first 12 weeks of a habit you keep for life. REBUILT for Men: Build Muscle. Own Your Strength. Rediscover Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-men REBUILT for Women: Build Strength. Trust Your Body. Reclaim Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-women More conversations like this, twice a week: cjelevatedlife.com/#newsletter

Shit's changing: Johnna and Clint on outgrowing who we were and sharing what our real lives look like. We aren't the same people we were when we started, and we're done pretending we are. There's a funny story behind it, and it starts last week. Whether we've outgrown what we've been doing A funny story from last week How the podcast started, and Johnna's iPad in the closet Why we want to share what our elevated life actually looks like, not only the tools A week of hitting bottom and pushing back up Menopause, boundaries and getting more unfiltered Why podcasting is hard and cringy Chapters: 0:00 Hook: Shit's Changing 0:14 Intro 0:36 What Johnna Has Outgrown 2:47 Are We Still Talking About Things From Two Years Ago? 3:42 A Funny Story From Last Week 7:06 A Word From REBUILT 7:57 How Awkward We Really Are 11:23 Clint's Role in the Podcast 13:31 Johnna in New Social Situations 15:07 What's Changing 16:01 Behind the Scenes: Recording This Podcast Three Times 16:29 How the Podcast Started: Johnna and the iPad in the Closet 18:05 A Detour to the Hanapepe Art Walk 18:51 A Word From REBUILT 19:28 Why We Don't Share Our Real Lives Enough 20:15 A Word Johnna Can't Stand 21:21 The Funk Week: Hitting Bottom and Pushing Back Up 22:09 You Change and That's Okay 23:05 Menopause, Boundaries and Getting Fiery 23:49 Do You Crack Yourself Up? 24:37 A Weight Has Been Lifted 25:44 Real Things That Worked for Us 26:05 Podcasting Is Hard and Cringy 27:29 Wrap-Up and What's Next If you're ready for a starting point that fits your real life, REBUILT guides you through the first 12 weeks of a habit you keep for life. REBUILT for Men: Build Muscle. Own Your Strength. Rediscover Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-men REBUILT for Women: Build Strength. Trust Your Body. Reclaim Your Power. cjelevatedlife.com/rebuilt-women More conversations like this, twice a week: cjelevatedlife.com/#newsletter