A Gay and A NonGay

Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s. Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here. Get tickets to see James’ new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nongays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode. Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for Joan Rivers? And which Minogue sister would be amazing as a UK or Australian Eurovision entry? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed as a stage show. Trigger Warning - this episode does contain conversations about abuse and sexual violence. For help and guidance, you can find Survivors Network at survivorsnetwork.org.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think? In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'. Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance encounter with an old friend (Hillary Baack) on his way home to a dreaded family reunion that forces him to confront long-buried feelings. They explore the creative process behind creating this film and the importance of trans masc representation in cinema. This interview was part of the BFI Flare: London LBTQIA+ Film Festival. You can find more info about the festival and other great art pieces via their website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What would you do if you had to have tea with someone's mum on the first date? James and Dan are back and in this episode they explore whether online LGBTQ+ inclusivity posts actually do more harm than good... as well as responding to more of your pressing dilemmas! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Ken Day! ... But where were the gays in Barbieland?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Crystal Hefner sheds light on her time at the infamous Playboy Mansion, from the glamour of the mansion to the shadows of manipulation, abuse and control. James and Dan discuss Hugh Hefner's legacy and the dark underbelly of the Playboy empire. From the pressures of maintaining physical perfection to the emotional and financial exploitation. Crystal shares her conflicting feelings about her relationship with Hefner and her eventual realisation of the toxic dynamics at play. Crystal's journey highlights the importance of self-respect and empowerment in breaking free from abusive situations. Follow our instagram and TikTok to view this episode, search 'GayNonGay'. Grab a copy of Crystal Hefner's book Only Say Good Things here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you find yourself attractive? Would you put your honey where your mouth is and literally taste your own penis? James and Dan are back with a chat about self-image, arousal, and how to navigate intimacy in modern relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is the "girlfriend effect" real? Do straight men suddenly get their act together because of their girlfriends? Plus James wants to know if it's okay to filter your pics before sliding into someone's DMs?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to settle the score on Dan's Jamie Dornan lookalike status. Plus our listener shares his struggles with being mistaken for gay and wonders if there's something he's missing about himself. Get in touch with us via our DMs, follow @gaynongay on your socials or email us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions for his friend who's about to tie the knot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexities of love, loneliness, and the queer experience, taking viewers on a journey through time and emotion. Andrew shares his insights into the creative process, discussing the challenges of revisiting his childhood home for the film's setting and the cathartic experience it brought. As the conversation unfolds, the hosts touch on the unique ways queer individuals experience time, the nuanced portrayal of queer characters by queer actors, and the delicate balance between reality and fiction in storytelling. The hosts also explore the film's ending without giving away spoilers, delving into the profound themes of love, loss, and the ever-evolving nature of relationships. With humor and candidness, the episode touches on the impact of queer cinema, the importance of representation, and Andrew's journey as a filmmaker navigating the intersections of personal and universal experiences. From memes about the film's enigmatic ending to challenging straight audiences with intimate gay scenes, the conversation covers it all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023.  Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NHS over waiting times for trans patients, a lively debate with gay Tory Councillor Andrew Boff, our emotional conversation with the Real Jill Nalder from It’s A Sin, a chilling conversation about chemsex murders with Patrick Strudwick and legendary DJ Fat Tony opening up about his struggles with sex addiction. A Gay And A Nongay will return in 2024! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices