A Leader’s Purpose: Navigating Career and Life-Defining Moments with Clarity, Confidence, and Purpose for High-Level Leaders Ready to Lead with Purpose over Pressure

Crisis doesn’t reveal your plan — it reveals your posture. Nobody hands you a syllabus for crisis leadership. It just shows up, taps you on the shoulder and says "you're up." In this first episode of our Resilient Leadership series, we're diving into what actually happens when everything shifts and your team is looking at you, not the plan. I share my experience on an Air Force crisis response team and why the person with the biggest title isn't always who you want leading when chaos hits. Plus, what my new client discovered when they realized they had zero idea who on their team could actually handle pressure. Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop managing your lens and start mastering it? Book a Leadership Strategy Call to discover which of your three filters is running your life and how to finally see clearly. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call  🔑 Key Takeaways: The three crisis realities every leader must know (and why most leadership training misses them completely) Why your team reads your breathing before they hear your words The exact four things to say when crisis hits (short, clear, unshakeable, human) How to identify who should actually be on your crisis team (hint: it's not about titles) Why uncertainty spreads faster than facts and what to do about it The difference between suppressing emotions and regulating them for your team The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: Your team isn't reading your crisis plan. They're reading your nervous system. In crisis, people don't follow procedures - they follow your breathing pattern, your shoulder tension, that micro-pause before you speak. You don't need all the answers. You need to be the person who refuses to panic first. That's it. That's the whole game. Your calm becomes a resource your team borrows to survive. Challenge if you choose to accept it: Look at your team right now. If crisis hit tomorrow, who would you tap for communication? Who would study the room? Would it be you? If you don't know, that's your first step. Start observing who stays steady when small stressors hit. Those are your crisis leaders, regardless of their titles 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: What is my default response when uncertainty hits - do I go silent or flood with information? Who do I need to be in order to lead (not what do I need to know)? When has my energy shifted an entire room, for better or worse? Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025  

You know that feeling when you walk into a room and instantly know who's going to irritate you? Or when feedback makes your body tense before your brain even processes the words? That's not intuition. That's your Leadership Lens at work. Today I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible filter that's making your decisions before you even realize it, and why this is the real reason all those leadership books aren't fixing what you thought they would. 💬 "Most leaders spend their whole careers trying to change what they're looking at instead of adjusting how they're seeing it." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop managing your lens and start mastering it? Book a Leadership Strategy Call to discover which of your three filters is running your life and how to finally see clearly. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Your Leadership Lens has 3 filters making decisions before you do: Core drivers (unchangeable), personality wiring (your 30-year-old autopilot), and internal narratives (stories on repeat) You're not broken, your lens is just outdated - like wearing scratched 20-year-old prescription glasses and wondering why you keep hitting the same walls Surface solutions can't fix root issues - It's like putting premium gas in a car with a broken transmission When you bring things to light, they lose power over you - This is why awareness without integration is just noise Your next level isn't about doing more, it's about seeing differently - And that starts with seeing your lens ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: ➡️ The Reed Hastings story at minute 8 - How the Netflix CEO almost destroyed the company because his lens was "I'm smarter than everyone" and what shifted when he finally changed it. This is the pattern I see in every executive who's stuck. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: This week, notice your physical reaction BEFORE your brain processes feedback. When someone challenges you in a meeting, pause and ask: "Is this my lens or is this actually happening?" Track what you discover. Your patterns will shock you. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What criticism from my past am I still hearing in today's conversations? How is my 20-year-old lens affecting my current leadership?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

You're a growth-minded leader. You see possibilities everywhere. You believe your team can do more, be more, achieve more. So why does it feel like you're the only one? Why does every conversation about change feel like pushing a boulder uphill? Why do your ideas land with silence? Why does it feel like you're dragging them forward instead of leading them there? You've probably told yourself: "They're just stuck. They're comfortable. They don't want to grow." But what if that's not the real problem? This week, I'm sharing a question a client asked me that I cannot stop thinking about. And I promise—the answer is going to surprise you.   💬  "You can't lead authentically from someone else's blueprint. When you're leading from alignment—from deep self-knowledge and trust in your own process—your team feels it. They don't need you to convince them. They need you to be so grounded that they feel safe to discover who they are." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop performing growth and start embodying it? Book an Aligned Leadership Call and get strategic clarity on who you are as a leader and how to create the conditions your team actually needs. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call  🔑 Key Takeaways: Being growth-minded about yourself doesn't automatically mean you're leading growth-mindedly. When you label your team as "not getting it" or "resistant," you're actually operating from fixed-mindset patterns disguised as frustration. The 4 hidden fixed-mindset patterns growth-minded leaders fall into: (1) "They just don't get it" assumes they CAN'T see what you see. (2) "I need to convince them" treats leadership like a sales pitch. (3) "They're not changing fast enough" operates from YOUR timeline, not theirs. (4) Labeling them as "fixed-mindset" is the most fixed-mindset thing you can do. Your team can feel the incongruence. When your words say "we're all about growth!" but your energy says "why aren't you growing faster?!", that gap kills trust and creates the resistance you're trying to overcome. Growth-minded leadership is like tending a garden. You can't force a seed to grow by yelling at it. But you CAN create the right conditions—good soil, consistent water, adequate sunlight, space for roots to expand. When those conditions are right, growth becomes inevitable. Stop trying to get buy-in. Start creating ownership. Buy-in means "agree with my answer." Ownership means "help me create the answer." When people feel ownership, growth happens naturally. ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ You ARE the growth-minded leader you believe you are. But growth-minded leadership doesn't mean fixing your team. It means trusting them enough to create the conditions where they can choose growth for themselves. It means examining YOUR identity, YOUR alignment, YOUR limiting beliefs first. It means being so grounded in who you are that your team feels safe enough to discover who they are. Stop asking: "How do I lead a fixed-mindset team?" Start asking: "How do I create an environment where growth becomes inevitable?"   💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: This week, catch yourself when you start thinking "they just don't get it" or "they're not changing fast enough." Pause and ask: What fixed belief am I holding about their capacity right now? What would shift if I trusted their timeline instead of forcing mine? 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What do I actually believe about my team's capacity—not what I SAY I believe, but what I believe when I'm frustrated on a Tuesday afternoon? And what would change if I examined MY fixed-mindset patterns before trying to fix theirs?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! You've been told you need executive presence. Stand taller. Speak with authority. Dress the part. Master your vocal tonality. Control the room. But here's what nobody's saying: if you're exhausted from being "on" all the time, if you're walking into the boardroom looking the part but feeling like an imposter inside, the problem isn't your presence. The problem is you're performing a role instead of embodying who you actually are. I've worked with dozens of C-suite and government leaders who have all the right moves, all the right credentials, and they're still paralyzed by self-doubt. They're wondering when someone's going to realize they're faking it. And no amount of power poses or wardrobe upgrades is going to fix that. 💬 Quote "You can't fake alignment. You can't perform confidence. The grounded certainty that makes people want to follow you? That only comes from knowing exactly who you are and leading from that place." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop performing and start leading from your authentic identity? Book an Aligned Leadership Call and get strategic clarity on your next step. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Executive presence isn't something you perform—it's something you embody. When you're trying to project an identity you haven't fully clarified, people can feel the gap. They may respect your title, but they don't feel your authority. The real issue? Identity crisis, not presence crisis. You've been promoted into a role that requires you to be someone you're not sure you are. The title says C-suite. The internal identity says "I'm still figuring this out." That gap kills presence. Performance-based leadership is costing you everything. Every decision feels like it could expose you. You're exhausted from being "on" all the time. You avoid bold moves. Your team respects your title but doesn't fully trust your leadership. And you go home feeling like an imposter. ✨ The 3 Elements of Authentic Presence: Identity Clarity You can't lead with conviction if you don't know what convicts you. Most executives skip this step—they spend 20 years becoming the leader everyone needed them to be without ever asking, "Who am I underneath all this armor?" Once you have clarity on your core motivations, values, and how you're wired, the "how" becomes natural. Belief Alignment If you're walking into the boardroom thinking "I don't belong here" or "What if they realize I'm a fraud?", that belief will undermine everything. Your authority. Your decisions. Your credibility. The trust you're building. Presence requires internal conviction, and that means rewiring the limiting beliefs that keep you second-guessing yourself. Embodiment This is where most leadership programs stop. They give you tools and tactics but don't help you embody the shift. When you've done the identity work and paired it with belief work, your presence stops being something you project and becomes something you inhabit. You walk into a room differently because you ARE different. ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: When you lead from alignment, your presence isn't something you have to think about. It's just who you are. People trust it. They follow it. They want to be led by you. Not because you're performing—because you're grounded in exactly who you are. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Notice when you're performing versus when you're being. Pay attention to the moments you feel like you're "on" versus the moments you feel grounded. That gap is your roadmap to alignment. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Who am I underneath all the armor I've built to get here? What would change if I led from THAT person instead of performing the role I think I should play?" 🎯 How This Aligns with the SHINE Framework: S - Strategic Clarity: Uncover who you actually are—your wiring, values, core identity, and strengths H - Hone Your Conviction: Rewire the limiting beliefs undermining your authority I - Integrate Identity and Impact: Align your authentic self with your leadership role so it stops feeling like a performance N - Navigate with Intentionality: Build decision-making frameworks rooted in YOUR identity, not someone else's playbook E - Embody Aligned Leadership: Fully inhabit your leadership. No more performing, no proving, just presence.   Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025 executive presence, authentic leadership, leadership identity, C-suite coaching, imposter syndrome leadership, embodied leadership, leadership alignment, performance vs presence, authentic authority, leadership conviction  

Can I be honest? I sat down to record this episode with absolutely nothing. Zero inspiration. My first thought? "Great, Tami. You teach people about alignment and you can't even show up for your own work." But here's what I realized: that feeling wasn't writer's block. It was my soul tapping me on the shoulder saying, "We need to talk." And if you're listening to this feeling the exact same way about your leadership right now—like you're going through the motions but can't remember the last time you felt truly connected to why it matters—this episode is for you. 💬 Quote "Aligned leaders don't lead perfectly. They lead truthfully. And that's magnetic." Want to Go Deeper? Feeling like you're leading on autopilot instead of from conviction? Book an Aligned Leadership Call—your roadmap to clarity, confidence, and reconnection. In 45 minutes, we'll uncover what's keeping you disconnected, identify your next aligned step, and give you a clear path forward. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Autopilot leadership happens when you skip clarity. You show up, execute, and check boxes—but somewhere between your calendar and your calling, you lost the plot. Disconnection isn't failure—it's feedback. When alignment feels like a luxury you can't afford, that's actually the moment you need it most. Leading without clarity is like building a house without a blueprint. The Reconnection Protocol has three steps: Name what's actually happening (stop performing your way out), ask the real questions (reconnect to conviction, not credentials), and move from truth instead of "should." Alignment isn't a one-time achievement—it's a practice. The leaders who rise in defining moments aren't the ones with the best strategies. They're the ones with the clearest alignment. Your brain loves autopilot, but leadership requires intentionality. When everything feels heavier than it should, that's not a sign you're failing. It's a sign you're ready for the next level. ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: ➡️ The most powerful leadership move you can make is pausing long enough to reconnect. Not to another strategy. Not to another credential. To who you are at your core and what you're actually here to build. When you lead from alignment instead of obligation, decisions get easier, confidence gets stronger, and impact gets deeper. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Block 20 minutes this week. Not for email. Not for planning. Not for execution. Just for reconnection. Ask yourself ONE of these questions and write down whatever comes up: What's the last conversation that gave me chills? What pattern have I seen this week that made me think, "Someone needs to talk about this"? What's the thing I keep saying in private that I haven't said publicly yet? What do I wish someone had told me five years ago? Don't judge it. Don't fix it. Just notice it. Because noticing is where change begins. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "When was the last time I felt truly connected to my leadership? What was different about that moment?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I'd love for you to: ✅ Share it with a leader who needs to hear this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are absolutely ready to lead from alignment again. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! Music: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Let me ask you something—how much time and money have you spent trying to fix the way you lead? Another book, another certification, another workshop promising the breakthrough you've been searching for? Here's what nobody tells you: every time you reach for another quick fix, you're not just spending money or time. You're staying stuck in the same patterns that got you here in the first place. I've been having this conversation on repeat with leaders at your level. The strategies that got you to VP, to Executive Director, to Founder—they're not broken. They're just not built for where you're going next. And that gap? It's costing you more than you realize. "When your leadership is misaligned with your true identity, even success feels heavy."   Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop chasing quick fixes and start leading from alignment? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call   🔑 Key Takeaways: Quick fixes are expensive illusions. Books, workshops, and productivity hacks address symptoms, not the source. You can't out-strategize self-doubt or lead authentically when your identity and leadership are misaligned. Misalignment costs you six figures—minimum. Between burnout, missed opportunities, turnover, and lost promotion potential, Forbes and WSJ research shows leadership misalignment can cost individuals $125K+ and teams upward of $300K annually. The real issue isn't strategy—it's identity. When you understand your core motivations, your wiring, and your limiting beliefs, leadership becomes natural. You stop performing and start embodying the leader you're meant to be. Results happen fast when you go to the source. One client waited a year to start coaching. Within two months of working together, his team trusted him more, he delegated effectively, and he reclaimed time and clarity he thought were gone forever.   ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The strategies that got you here aren't meant to take you where you want to go next. If you keep reaching for surface-level solutions, you'll stay exactly where you are—just more exhausted and more behind. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Look at your Sunday nights. How do you feel about Monday morning? That feeling is your culture barometer—not what happens at work, but how you feel before you even get there. If Sunday night feels heavy, it's time to stop fixing and start aligning. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What am I still trying to fix about myself that might actually just need to be aligned?"   Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Can I tell you something that might surprise you? The leaders I work with who command the room, make decisions with ease, and build powerhouse teams aren't spending their time chasing the latest leadership trend. They're not jumping from framework to framework. They've mastered five simple habits that have nothing to do with business books and everything to do with becoming the person others naturally want to follow. And here's the thing: these habits happen behind closed doors. They're invisible. But they're exactly what separates leaders who perform from leaders who embody authority.   💬"Leadership isn't what you do in the meeting. It's who you've become before you walk into the room." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop performing leadership and start embodying it? Let's build the internal foundation that makes external success inevitable. Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call   🔑 Key Takeaways: The ROOTS Framework: Five Identity-Building Habits Rhythm - You protect recovery time like client meetings. Leaders who burn out lose their edge. People follow energy, not exhaustion. Ownership - You apologize without explaining. Nothing builds trust faster than a leader who can be wrong without being defensive. Observation - You notice your patterns without judging them. Self-aware leaders make different choices. You can't lead others well if you don't see yourself clearly. Trust - You keep small promises to yourself. Your leadership is only as strong as your relationship with yourself. If you can't trust yourself, why should anyone else? Stillness - You sit with questions before answering them. Reactive leaders create chaos. Responsive leaders create clarity.   ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ These aren't productivity hacks. They're identity builders. While everyone else is trying to grow bigger branches (strategies and tactics), you're building deeper roots. And roots determine whether you can withstand the storms, the seasons, and the shifts that leadership demands. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Pick ONE of the five ROOTS habits. Don't try to implement all five at once. Choose the one that would change your leadership most if you mastered it. Commit to it for one week minimum, but I'd love to see you go for 30 days. Then DM me on LinkedIn (@TamiImlay) or Instagram (@TamiMarieCoaching) and tell me how your leadership identity is shifting. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: Which of these five habits feels most uncomfortable or resistant to you right now? That discomfort is information. What is it telling you about the leader you're becoming versus the leader you've been? Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! We throw around words like they're interchangeable when they're not—and the difference matters. Weather vs. climate. Listening vs. hearing. Motion vs. progress. In leadership, we do this with self-awareness and emotional intelligence, treating them like synonyms when they're actually two distinct capabilities. I learned this the hard way as a young lieutenant walking into a room full of colonels and generals during a communication outage, knowing my triggers but needing to apply that knowledge under intense pressure. Self-awareness gave me the foundation, but emotional intelligence changed the outcome. 💬 "Self-awareness is knowing. Emotional intelligence is leading. Leaders need both." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to build both your self-awareness foundation AND your emotional intelligence application? Let's uncover your blind spots, map your clarity, and see how blending both can transform your leadership presence and decision-making confidence. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Self-awareness is the foundation - knowing your strengths, blind spots, and triggers, but it's just step one, not the destination Emotional intelligence is the application - using that self-awareness to regulate, communicate, empathize, and connect with others Without emotional intelligence, awareness becomes self-absorption - knowing yourself without applying it wisely can make you seem arrogant or unapproachable Together they create sustainable leadership presence - people know what to expect from you because you can respond strategically instead of reactively Your customers/team don't remember the glitch, they remember how you recovered - it's not what happens, it's how you handle it that builds trust ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: ➡️ There's a gap between knowing your triggers and being able to regulate them under pressure. Self-awareness without emotional intelligence is like having a foundation without building the house. You need both the inner clarity AND the ability to translate that into confident, strategic leadership presence. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: This week, notice if you stop at awareness ("I was triggered by this") or if you apply it through emotional intelligence ("Now I'll use this knowledge to respond differently"). Don't just understand your patterns—use them strategically. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Am I using my self-awareness to build stronger boundaries and say no to more things, or am I using it to push myself out of my comfort zone and lead with greater influence?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I'd love for you to: ✅ Share it with a leader who's great at self-reflection but struggles with application! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. Knowledge alone isn't power anymore—it's what you do with it that creates influence. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛   Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Why Most Leaders Fail at Emotional Intelligence (And the 5-Step System That Actually Works) Hey Friend! Building emotional intelligence is like building a house—and most leaders are trying to pick paint colors before laying the foundation. I realized this when I built my house on 5 acres in Oklahoma. My excitement about fixtures and finishes had to wait because my builder reminded me: "First we pick the elevation and style. That informs everything else." Your leadership development works the same way. If you've read EI books, taken assessments, and attended workshops but still feel like you're winging it under pressure, you're not broken—you're just building on unstable ground. 💬 "Emotional intelligence without a system is just good intentions."   Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop guessing about your leadership development and start building systematically? Let's identify which of the 5 dimensions needs your attention first and create a roadmap that turns self-awareness into leadership effectiveness. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: The 5 Dimensions of Impact Intelligence work systematically together: Identity Foundation, Growth Architecture, Leadership Expression, Strategic Vision, and Sustainable Success Most leaders skip Dimension 3 (Leadership Expression) where your internal clarity becomes external influence—your presence, communication patterns, and boundary-setting Random emotional intelligence tips don't work because they don't connect to your specific leadership wiring and core motivations High-impact leaders develop EI systematically, not randomly by understanding which dimension needs attention first Strategic clarity requires all 5 dimensions working together not just knowing your personality type or strengths   ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ Dimension 3 is the missing link most leaders never develop. You can know your values, manage your triggers, and have clear vision, but if you can't translate that into how you show up in the room, none of it matters. It's the difference between being self-aware and being strategically expressive with that awareness. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Pause and ask yourself: Which of the 5 dimensions resonates most with where you feel stuck right now? Once you can name it, it loses its power over you. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Which dimension feels most developed in my leadership right now, and which one feels like the missing piece that's holding me back?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025   emotional intelligence for leaders, leadership development, executive coaching, self-awareness, Impact Intelligence Framework, systematic leadership growth, emotional intelligence system, leadership presence, strategic leadership development  

Hey Friend! Are you watching good people disengage or leave your team? Seeing departments operate like separate islands instead of one cohesive unit? The problem isn't your strategy or your people—it's that you're leading through your own lens instead of seeing things through theirs. After two decades of guiding executives through team dynamics, I can tell you the leaders who master this aren't the ones with the most experience. They're the ones who understand that every person on their team has a different operating system. And once you learn to see through their lens, everything changes. 💬 "People don't leave hard work. They leave leadership that doesn't see them." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Surface-level leadership manages behaviors and asks "What are they doing wrong?" instead of "Why is this showing up?" Pattern-level leadership understands motivations and starts asking curious questions about the why behind behaviors Identity-level leadership unlocks each person's unique design—like giving every chef the right tools instead of forcing everyone to use the same saute pan The cost of lens-blindness includes high turnover, siloed departments, and losing your best people to organizations that actually see them Strategic questioning transforms resistance into engagement: "What's your thought process here?" beats "Why won't you just do what I asked?" every time ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: ➡️ When you have to repeat yourself three times to get through to a team member, that's not a process problem—it's a lens problem. Stop forcing your approach and start seeing their brilliance. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Next time someone on your team pushes back or seems disengaged, resist the urge to explain your position. Instead, ask: "What's your thought process here?" or "What are your concerns?" Then actually listen to understand their lens. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Which team member am I trying to force into my way of working, and what might they need instead to bring their best?"   Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Ever feel like you're checking all the boxes but still spinning your wheels? Like your team is busy but not actually getting anywhere meaningful? You're not behind, and you're definitely not lazy—but something's clouding your clarity and making you second-guess every move. After two decades of leadership coaching, I've discovered one of the most overlooked reasons high-capacity leaders feel scattered: time focus. It's not about productivity—it's about perspective. And once you understand yours, everything shifts. 💬 "The leadership you're called into requires alignment between your identity, your focus, and your action."   Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next? Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take. 👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz   🔑 Key Takeaways: Past-focused leaders (Types 4, 5, 9) bring wisdom and context but can get stuck overthinking what was instead of moving toward what's next Present-focused leaders (Types 1, 2, 6) excel at immediate problem-solving but risk burnout from carrying everyone else's urgency as their own Future-focused leaders (Types 3, 7, 8) drive momentum and vision but may skip vital steps by outrunning discomfort instead of processing it The strongest teams integrate all three time perspectives—past wisdom, present awareness, and future vision working together Your compass problem isn't calendar management—it's understanding which lens you're unconsciously leading through and learning to access the others ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ You're not trying to fix your time focus—you're learning to leverage it. The goal isn't to become someone else; it's to understand your natural orientation and intentionally access what you're missing. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Identify your time focus this week. Are you stuck fixing the past, controlling the present, or outrunning toward the future? Then ask yourself: "What perspective am I missing right now?" and intentionally lean into it. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What would change if I stopped operating from urgency and started leading from alignment?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Ever catch yourself thinking you need to have it all figured out before stepping into bigger leadership? I recorded this episode twice (tech crashed the first time—apparently even I don't have all the answers about equipment!) because this message hit me so hard on a Sunday drive. If you're waiting for complete clarity before you lead, you're actually disqualifying yourself from being the leader your team needs most. Want to Go Deeper? Ready to lead with clarity instead of confusion? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to navigate uncertainty with confidence and finally step into the leadership identity you're called to embody. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: You don't need to be the smartest person in the room—you need to embrace that you're not and surround yourself with people who know what you don't Curiosity beats certainty every time—model "I don't know, let's find out" instead of pretending to have answers you don't have Leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about having the right people and being willing to learn alongside them Your people already know you're new—authenticity builds more trust than fake expertise ever will   ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The ASK Framework: Accept that not knowing is data (not failure), Seek input from people who see what you can't, and Keep moving while you're learning. Don't stop to figure it all out—learn as you lead. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: In your next team meeting, ask "What am I missing here?" instead of pretending you have all the context. Watch how your team responds when you model curiosity over certainty. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What question have I been afraid to ask my team because I think I should already know the answer?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! You're not someone who makes decisions from panic or pressure…you're someone who leads with intentional clarity and purpose. But sometimes that clarity feels a little cloudy, doesn't it? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is exactly what you need. Today we're talking about the mirror test and why it's a complete game-changer for leaders who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading from their true identity.   💬 "Self-awareness isn't a destination—it's a practice. And the leaders who commit to the practice are the ones who actually change the game." ~Tami Imlay Want to Go Deeper? Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call  🔑 Key Takeaways: Strategy without self-awareness is expensive chaos—you can't navigate what you can't see clearly The best leaders aren't the ones with perfect instincts—they're the ones who catch themselves when they go off course Leading from reaction instead of intention costs you team trust, consistency, and burns you out fighting the same patterns The Mirror Test using the 3 C's gives you a simple framework to recalibrate in real-time: Catch, Clarify, Choose Every decision point is a choice—serve your leadership mission or serve your ego (both are human, but only one builds the future) ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The Netflix story perfectly illustrates what happens when a leader chooses to build the future instead of protecting the past. Reed Hastings lost 800,000 subscribers in the short term, but he knew streaming was the wave of the future—and he made decisions from identity, not impulse. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Practice the Mirror Test this week using the 3 C's. Before your next big decision, ask yourself: What's really driving this? Does this serve my leadership or my ego? What would the leader I'm becoming choose here? Even if you make the same choice, slow down the process and let your heart, gut, and mind catch up with each other. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "When do I default to control, people-pleasing, or avoiding hard conversations? What patterns am I noticing without judgment—just as data?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Ever feel like you're stuck in the hamster wheel of good intentions? You know what you should do as a leader, but somehow you keep falling back into the same patterns. Whether it's avoiding difficult conversations, letting your workout routine slide, or saying yes when you mean no, the cycle feels endless. Today we're talking about how to break free from behavior-based changes that don't stick and start building from the inside out. Because here's the truth: Rome wasn't built in a day, but it also wasn't built by accident. 💬 "You don't need more forced discipline. You need a clearer identity." ~Tami Imlay Want to Go Deeper? Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call   🔑 Key Takeaways: Identity beats willpower every time — Motivation has a two-week shelf life, but "I am someone who..." statements create lasting transformation The Two-Day Rule changes everything — Missing once is human; missing twice builds a different story (and identity) Your brain doesn't register negatives — When you say "I'm not someone who skips the gym," your brain hears "skip the gym" Link habits to purpose, not just performance — Move from "I have to" to "I get to because it's who I'm becoming" Let identity drive action, not emotion — Emotions are a 90-second thermometer, not your decision-making system ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The Three Bricks to Build Identity That Sticks: Speak to who you ARE (not who you're not), link it to purpose (not just performance), and let identity drive action (not emotion). This is how you go from trying to change behaviors to embodying the leader you're meant to be. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Choose ONE identity statement that starts with "I am someone who..." and ties to your leadership vision. Write it down, anchor it to your deeper purpose, and implement the Two-Day Rule. Watch how quickly your actions align when your identity leads. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Who am I becoming as a leader, and what would that version of me do in this situation?" 🧠 SHINE™ Framework Connection: Before you can lead others with conviction, you need crystal-clear awareness of who you are and who you're becoming. Most leaders try to fix behaviors without addressing identity, which is why change feels so hard. When you see yourself clearly as the leader you're meant to be, your actions naturally follow.   Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Have you ever said, “It’s just something I do” when someone complimented you on a skill or strength? I know I have. For a long time, I overlooked the things that came naturally to me—thinking they didn’t really count because they felt easy. But what if that ease is actually the clue to your zone of genius? In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story (inspired by a sweet question from my kids) and a powerful conversation with a client who realized she’d been dismissing the very thing that made her magnetic. If you’ve ever downplayed your strengths or struggled to see what makes you different, this episode is for you. Let’s take a closer look at what you’re carrying so naturally... and maybe, just maybe, stop calling it “nothing.” You’re not behind—you’re just starting to see it clearly.   💬 “Your ease might be someone else’s breakthrough.” ~Tami Imlay Want to Go Deeper? If you’ve been circling your calling or second-guessing your next move, it’s time to stop trying to figure it out alone. Let’s cut through the noise together. In a 1:1 Leadership Strategy Call, we’ll map out your next bold step with clarity and confidence—so you can lead with purpose, not pressure. 👉 Book your call now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Just because it’s easy for you doesn’t mean it’s easy for others. That might be your zone of genius. Leadership blind spots often come from what we assume is “normal.” Three leadership assumption traps to avoid: The Normalization Trap: Thinking everyone thinks and acts like you. Strength Blindness: Dismissing your gifts because they come effortlessly. The Perception Gap: Seeing only from your lens limits your impact. Self-awareness isn't self-indulgent—it's a leadership skill. You don’t have to carry it all. Leading is about cultivating clarity, not making clones. ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ You may be overlooking your most powerful leadership strengths simply because they come naturally. Recognizing and owning what comes easy could be the key to unlocking your next level. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Start noticing the things others praise you for but you tend to downplay. Write them down. This week, choose one to name, own, and use with intention. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: What feels effortless to me…and why might that be more valuable than I’ve given it credit for? Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025