A Podcast About Gender

<p>Gabriel Gara Lonning (@unitedstatesofgara) has spent the better half of ten years coming out as Transgender. Listen along as he explores the world of gender and welcome's some guests along the way. </p>

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JANUARY 10 KING AT BRANDED SALOON My head is at 6 am. Fire on the pillow and a workday for war orphans. It's falling in love with my Transgender American Pie. Sweet pride for a british gay man named Nathanial. Isolation at the manchester airport gave me an invention idea: a podcast that is also a youtube video that is also a patreon. Sorry this wasn't nuanced at all. Does it sound arrogant? Sorry... Patreon.com/garalonning Support the show

12-10
27:42

man, i'm so so so sorry

I brought my dog on a plane to the UK when I reaaaally wasn’t supposed to, ended up stuck in Manchester Airport for six hours. This is part of my darkness that follows me and somehow it has taken years to attempt to tell this specific tale. This is Chapter 5 of a longer piece. The rest of the chapters are on my Youtube, Podcast and Substack. Support the show

11-20
25:35

Chapter Four

Welcome to Chapter Four of “Man Without a Century”—a digital novel unfolding one podcast at a time. In this episode, we rewind to my personal ground zero: the moment I split from everything I knew and hurled myself across the Atlantic, reckless and reeling, chasing meaning at the Edinburgh Fringe. This chapter traces the fuse back to its unlikely flame—a father’s sudden exit, and the uncanny, impossible light that follows. FULL VERSION AVAILABLE ON PATREON Support the show

10-29
21:40

Chapter 3

"Man Without a Century," a messy, funny, and painfully self-aware narrator navigates love, testosterone, and the art of letting go. This chapter, "Genesis of An Orange Tree." It’s a dry-mouth heartbreak, and the weird rituals we invent to survive the world being left behind. Full chapter available on Patreon. patreon.com/garalonning Support the show

10-02
22:35

Chapter Two

From the first taste of suburban alienation to the neon-lit aisles of New York’s Whole Foods, the story winds through thefts both petty and profound: a Claddagh ring from the Dublin airport, rosehip oil hidden next to a rotisserie chicken, blood oranges left to dry in a vacant windowsill. These aren’t just crimes, but —a crooked catechism for a queer, trans kid desperate to rebel...and to survive. FULL RAW EPISODE: https://youtu.be/2U2bOAoTRR0 Support the show

09-17
23:38

Man Without A Century

This is a new "Digital Diary" I have been writing called "Man Without A Century". It details my decision to upend my life a year after a traumatic event altered my spirituality and psyche. This is The Prologue and Chapter One: A Living But Dying Fool. You can see the raw file on my Patreon or read the manuscript on my substack. Links to these are below. Thank you always for your support and for adapting to my creative pursuits. I like to always be moving through different artistic lenses to t...

08-26
18:16

Mashka

In this episode, Gabriel sits down with listener Mashka for a thoughtful conversation about gender. They dig into what it’s been like to mask up after COVID, explore the pressure of gender expectations in ballet and figure skating, and share stories about changing your name within your own culture. Along the way, they touch on family, identity, and more. Support the show

06-18
56:36

writing is a virtue

In this episode, Gabriel Gara Lonning cracks open his journal and shares the painfully mundane details of his life as a twenty-something writer stumbling through New York City. He’s desperate for your approval. Tune in for existential oversharing, and catch the full episode on Patreon. Support the show

06-03
23:06

Scarlet From Massachusetts

In this episode, Gabriel (@unitedstatesofgara) sits down with listener Scarlet (@scarle7hues) from Massachusetts to talk about polyamory, staying mindful while dating, following what genuinely brings you joy, trans freedom, and more. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation about navigating relationships and living authentically. Watch full video on Patreon! Support the show

05-20
01:08:29

united states of gender

Join Gabriel Gara Lonning (@unitedstatesofgara) as he dives into the latest stories shaping conversations around gender. In this episode, he unpacks headlines about transgender rights, explores the significance of lavender graduations, breaks down the recent UK Supreme Court decision, and shares his take on state-level debates. Expect sharp insights and thoughtful discussion on the issues that matter most right now. https://www.patreon.com/c/garalonning Support the show

05-06
28:07

Mars from Georgia

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Mars, living in Rome, Georgia, who shares their deeply personal journey of growing up queer in the American South. Our conversation touches on both the challenges and resilience of LGBTQ+ life in Georgia, and includes a moving reflection on the tragic loss of Scout Schultz in 2017. Mars offers a firsthand account of how Scout's death impacted the Georgia Tech community, remembering them as an influential leader who helped shape the campus's queer com...

04-23
01:16:04

why i changed my name

Gabriel Gara Lonning peels back the layers of his identity – starting with the story of choosing his own name. Growing up with a twin brother added a fascinating twist to Gabriel's journey, creating a unique mirror that reflected both who he was and who he wasn't. Gabriel weaves together a narrative that's both deeply personal and universally human. It's about more than just changing a name – it's about becoming who you've always been, even when your reflection tells two different stori...

04-15
31:54

i want to hear from you

i want to hear from you! send me an email :) details are in the episode. Excited to talk to some of you! Support the show

04-07
03:22

trans week of visibility

Join Gabriel Gara Lonning (@unitedstatesofgara) for a vibrant episode as he takes you through the streets of his new home - New York City. After years of fantasizing about life in the Big Apple, Gabriel shares his raw, honest, and sometimes hilarious experiences of finally making his dreams reality. Recorded on Trans Day of Visibility, this special episode captures the electric energy of both personal transformation and city life. Want more? Catch the full episode exclusively on Patreon, wher...

04-01
23:52

i think im still non-binary

Raw, unfiltered, and straight from the heart — join Gabriel Gara Lonning (@unitedstatesofgara) in this episode as he peels back the layers of identity and self-discovery. With striking candor, Gabriel shares his journey through understanding his homoromantic attractions, recalls the transformative moment of his first testosterone treatment, and explores the nuances of embracing his non-binary identity. This unedited conversation captures the complexity of gender expression in ways rarely disc...

03-25
40:26

are transphobes real?

In this episode of "A Podcast About Gender," host Gabriel (@unitedstatesofgara) tackles the challenging topic of transphobia in online spaces. He shares his experiences with discriminatory comments and offers valuable insights on responding to anti-trans rhetoric. Drawing from a recent interaction on YouTube, Gabriel delivers a powerful and articulate response that not only addresses misconceptions but also empowers listeners facing similar challenges in their own lives. Support the show

03-18
21:33

About Women with Mariposa Coalson

In this intimate and candid episode, we sit down with Mariposa Coalson (@suchagreatsky), a transgender artist and comedian making waves in New York City's creative scene. Joined by her roommate Gabriel Gara Lonning, Mariposa takes on thought-provoking questions from the MTF Reddit community, offering honest insights and personal experiences. The conversation takes unexpected turns as Gabriel shares his own journey of exploring identity, including the surprising challenges of shopping fo...

03-11
45:27

A Podcast About Gender

Gabriel Gara Lonning (@unitedstatesofgara) has a new name and a new outlook on gender. Join him as he resurrects this lovely podcast. He answers questions from FTM reddit. He covers topics like masculinity, therapy with family, testosterone effects and more. You can listen to the full version on Patreon. Support the show

03-03
26:48

WELCOME TO THE BIG POD

I have a new PATREON ONLY podcast all about transitioning, my past year of grief, the healing process of creating art and my new comedy-dance hour, Welcome To The Big Show (premiering at The Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2023) It's fun, it's silly, it's completely earnest. Let's do this thing. https://www.patreon.com/garalonning Support the show

04-17
03:34

The End, Baby

It's the end of EN(BA)BY, baby. My dance-comedy hour, Welcome To The Big Show will premiere at The Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2023. Please become a sweet lil investor of the show here: https://www.patreon.com/garalonning Here are tickets to my pilot premiere on March 1st at Littlefield in Brooklyn: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/one-million-girls-with-gara-emily-dayton-evans-tickets-520392095767 Support the show

02-21
41:21

Rose Anastasio

41 min. well said Maggie

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