Addiction Makes Three

When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it's natural to focus on the obvious signs. Are they drinking? Using? Going to meetings? Following through with treatment?But what if some of the most meaningful signs of recovery are the ones we almost always miss?In this first From My Notebook episode, I'm sharing a story that has stayed with me long after a coaching session ended. It starts with a lemon tree... but it's really about recognising the quiet moments that tell us someone is slowly finding their way back to themselves.If you're supporting a loved one with addiction, feeling exhausted, hypervigilant, or constantly searching for reassurance, this episode will gently invite you to look beyond the crisis and notice the ordinary moments where hope quietly begins.In this episode, we explore:Why families and spouses naturally become hypervigilant when living with addiction.The quiet signs of recovery we often overlook.Why recovery is about more than sobriety.How noticing the small moments can help you reconnect with hope.Why healing begins long before life feels "fixed."Because sometimes recovery doesn't arrive with fireworks, or a grand entrance announcing itself.Sometimes... it quietly arrives with lemons.🌿 Looking for more support?👉Discovery to RecoveryIf this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.👉Recovery ReclaimedIf you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.👉 Pathway to WellnessIf you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.👉 Not sure where to begin?If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your peace didn't have to wait?So many of us quietly tell ourselves:💛 "I'll feel better when they stop drinking."💛 "I'll relax when they get help."💛 "I'll be happy when things settle down."But what if peace doesn't arrive at the end of someone else's recovery journey?In this episode, Amanda shares two powerful voice notes from a listener whose words capture something so many families affected by addiction experience:We can't make someone stop drinking.We can't force someone into recovery.But we can begin changing where we put our time, energy and focus, and support someone in a healthy way.In this episode we are talking aboutWhy trying to change someone else's drinking leaves us exhaustedThe difference between supporting someone and carrying themWhy your wellbeing doesn't have to depend on someone else's choicesWhat you can and can't control when living with a loved one's addictionHow to begin finding peace, whether your loved one is drinking, sober or somewhere in betweenIf you've ever found yourself searching for:• How do I stop worrying about my husband's drinking?• How do I find peace when someone I love has an addiction?• Why do I feel responsible for someone else's recovery?• How do I support someone without losing myself?This episode is for you.👉 READY FOR THE NEXT STEP?If today's episode resonated, I'd love to invite you to explore Discovery to Recovery.Discovery to Recovery is my coaching programme for partners and family members affected by addiction. It's designed to help you stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, reconnect with yourself, and find more peace, regardless of where your loved one is on their journey.You don't have to wait for someone else to change before you start changing your own experience. Find out more here👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been feeling exhausted lately... but it's not the kind of exhaustion sleep fixes... this episode is for you.When you're living with a partner or loved one struggling with alcohol addiction or substance use, it's not just the drinking that's exhausting.It's the constant worrying.The overthinking.The planning.The scanning.The mental load of trying to keep everything together while wondering what kind of day or night it's going to be.In this episode, Amanda shares more powerful listener voice notes from the OUT LOUD series and explores the invisible weight so many families carry but rarely talk about.If you've ever found yourself thinking:💛 Why am I so exhausted all the time?💛 Why can't I switch off?💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?💛 Why does it feel like my brain never stops?This episode will help you understand why.FREE LIVE WORKSHOPHow to Let Go Without Giving UpHow to Find Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or NotIf today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to invite you to my free live workshop.Together we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to reconnect with yourself again - without giving up on the person you love.Whether your loved one is actively drinking, in recovery, or somewhere in between, you'll leave with practical tools and a new way of thinking about your own wellbeing.July 2nd | 3rd (replay will be available)Register your spot here 👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you spend so much time focused on someone else's addiction that you stop recognising yourself?In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores one of the quieter impacts of loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours: the loss of self that can happen along the way.Through powerful listener voice notes and Amanda's own experiences, this episode dives into what it looks like when your thoughts become consumed by someone else's drinking, recovery, moods, choices, and wellbeing.You might recognise yourself if you've ever found yourself wondering:💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?💛 Why do I feel so exhausted all the time?💛 Have I lost myself in this relationship?💛 Why don't I know what I want anymore?💛 How do I stop addiction consuming my life?Amanda shares why this happens, how loving someone with addiction can slowly pull us away from ourselves, and why reconnecting with who you are doesn't have to start with a huge life change.This episode is part of the OUT LOUD series, sharing the real voices and lived experiences of people impacted by a loved one's addiction.👉 FREE LIVE WORKSHOP - July 2nd | 3rd replay will be availableLetting Go Without Giving Up - Finding Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or NotIf you've ever found yourself thinking:"I'll feel better when they get help.""I'll relax when things settle down.""I'll be happy when the drinking stops."This free live workshop is for you.Together, we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to start reconnecting with yourself again.Because your life doesn't have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change.July 2nd | 3rd replay will be availableRegister your spot here👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the hardest part isn't their addiction...What if it's what living alongside addiction has done to you?For this special 100th episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares real voice notes from listeners around the world about what it's really like loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours.Together, their voices share...Feeling exhausted from constantly worryingWalking on eggshells and living in anticipationLosing themselves in someone else's addictionThe loneliness nobody seesGrief, heartbreak and wanting peaceIf you've ever found yourself searching:"Have I lost myself?""Why am I so exhausted all the time?""Why does nobody understand?"or"This is consuming my life..."This episode is for you.💛 OUT LOUDThis episode is the beginning of a special series sharing the voices, experiences and stories of people impacted by a loved one's addiction.Want to add your voice? Visit: www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.