Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let’s dive in and start thriving—togetherSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of reclaiming your power after infidelity—it’s all here. Oh, and what happens when your best friend chooses a boyfriend over you?Grab your headphones—it’s about to get deep, raw, and empowering. Let’s unpack, laugh, and grow together. Got a story or question? Call in at (310) 439-8019 and let’s make your voice the star of the next episode!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about their insecurities, not you.The episode wraps with 10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do. From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Violetta breaks down how emotionally aware people thrive without letting their feelings take the wheel. Tune in to learn how to master emotional resilience and live your best, most balanced life.Got a juicy question or wild story? Dm Violetta at @violetbenson on Instagram for a chance to be featured in next week’s episode. Let’s laugh, learn, and glow up emotionally—hit play!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too?Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week's episode where we’re diving deep into a mind-blowing chapter from Mark Manson's "The Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Get ready for some serious truth bombs!We’ll unravel how our brains are wired and how we can change that. Plus, we’ll discuss Manson’s Law of Avoidance and why you need to be super careful about what you believe, especially those tricky “repressed memories.”And finally, the quest to find your true identity – the answer might surprise you. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a wild ride!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.We discuss:The Power of Praise: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he’s "the man."Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": Tips that turn any date into the one you want.Boosting His Self-Esteem: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.Mastering His Heart by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereGet ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits.Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest.Shop the NEW G2 Boost Collection exclusively on Amazon!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won’t believe. We’ll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love (or just plain chaos). We then end the episode with some dating advice about being the other woman and men with female best friends, you don't wanna miss it! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from The Hills and The City, entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs.We discuss:Navigating Infertility: Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five miscarriages, IVF, and her decision to seek surrogacy.Surrogacy ProcessRedefining Self-Worth: How Whitney balances her identity and self-worth beyond fame and public opinion.Managing Anxiety: Insight into Whitney's personal tools for handling anxiety, from mindfulness to self-compassion.Balancing Personal and Public Life: Reflections on maintaining authenticity and boundaries in the public eye.Resilience in the Face of Loss: Whitney’s reflections on hope, healing, and finding strength in the face of grief.And so much more!!! I also give you a fun intro about the date I am going on today :) enjoy!!!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you’re not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you.What we discuss:If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I’m going through it and someone’s dusty a&& son p*ssed me the F off!The best advice my mum gave me when it comes to heartbreak3 questions to ask yourself in the beginning of datingHow your energy in the relationship reveals if they're right for you—and the kind of energy that signals they’re the one.How to stop wasting time on people who aren’t showing up for you.The key to a successful relationship: (hint: you need more than love)And so much more!! For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereThis episode will help you finally break the cycle of toxic relationships and demand the love you deserve. Trust me, you NEED to listen to this one if you want to save your love life—or finally find your soulmate/your person.Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Today's episode is brought to you by:ACORNS Investing: head to acorns.com or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future today!WANT Book: Buy your copy of this year’s hottest book, the instant New York Times bestseller WANT–available now wherever books are sold. Visit Dearmedia.com and use code PODCAST for 20% off Harris Campaign: Choose a New Way Forward and visit Kamalaharris.com/issues to learn moreGet more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Pick your colour, pick your path! In this special October tarot card reading, I’ve pulled out three different decks that predict the rest of your month—from your career to life to love! Each deck is tied to a colour that calls out to you. Timestamps:Green - 2:03Pink - 12:51Red - 21:16Each colour holds a unique reading packed with guidance for the month ahead. So, which one is speaking to you? For more premium extra episodes+ad free episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Today's episode is brought to you by:Ned: Become the best version of yourself and get 15% off Ned products with code ADULTING. Go to helloned.com/ADULTING or enter code ADULTING at checkout.Misunderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel: To listen to MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel, just search for “MissUnderstood” in your podcast appSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—this episode is for you!This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for.Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too.We discuss:How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.How to recognise when someone’s projecting their insecurities onto you.How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereTrust me, you’re stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don’t miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for! <3Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Today's episode is brought to you by:Smalls: Head to Smalls.com/ADULTING and use promo code ADULTING at checkout for 50% off your first order PLUS free shipping! Cookunity: Go to Cookunity.com/Adulting or enter code ADULTING before checkout for 50% off your first week.Misunderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel: To listen to MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel, just search for “MissUnderstood” in your podcast appGet more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Instead of colonising why don't we DEcolonise today? Trauma that is!Join me in this transformative conversation with global thought leader and TEDx speaker, Yemi Penn, as we dive into alternative approaches to healing trauma. We explore powerful topics like:Decolonizing trauma: What it means and how it changes your healing journey.Bending your reality: How to rewrite your narrative and create a thriving life post-trauma.Facing adversity and why cultivating a mindset of curiosity and rebellion is necessaryBreaking toxic patterns: Tools and practices to disrupt negative behaviors.Embracing discomfort: How leaning into vulnerability and discomfort can lead to profound personal growth.To get more information about Yemi along with her book, Did You Get the Memo?--a powerful book that explores reclaiming one’s story and turning pain into power. You can learn more about both at yemipenn.com​ Women With Purpose)Tune in for practical insights and empowering strategies to transform your pain into strength.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My most unhinged episode yet or at least in the top 5!If you have ADHD or think you might or just want to laugh your a$$ off then this episode is for you. From my worst date stories to my doctor drug testing me for a snow habit at 9am, to giving you a tarot card reading for that one burning question on your mind—this episode has it all! Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Love ya!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’m not enough?" Today, we’re calling that out for what it is—the biggest lie you’ve ever told yourself, and the one thing holding you back from living the life you’re meant for.This week, we’re kicking off a brand-new series! Every week, we’ll be debunking one LIE that’s been holding us back from living our best lives, and we’re starting with this episode.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereToday, we’re breaking down the three key drivers of this toxic mindset and debunking each one together. For every lie we uncover, you’ll get practical, actionable steps to help you step into your true potential. By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to rise above self-doubt and stop letting these lies define your worth. It’s time to let go of the lies and step into your power.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - 9:07 - Imposter SyndromeHow and why your mind tricks you into feeling like a fraudDebunking the myths fueling self-doubtActionable steps to overcome imposter syndrome9:08 - 24:32 - Social Comparison TheoryHow and why comparing your life to others’ highlight reels only keeps you stuckDebunking the myths that everyone has it betterActionable steps to overcome social comparison 24:33 - 37:40 - Negativity BiasHow and why your brain is literally wired to focus on the worstHow to reprogram your brain for growthDebunking the myths that everyone is out to get youActionable steps to overcome negativity bias37:41 - 44:09Powerful message/reminder that you are more than enoughFinal steps to help you start becoming the best version of yourself—the version that already exists, but just needs to be unleashed.Ready to crush self-doubt once and for all? Tune in now to begin your journey to self-worth and empowerment.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ready to uncover the dark, dirty secrets of starting a business? But first, Violetta catches you up on her $95,000 dentist bill (yes, you read that right), and the mid dude that made her an offer she almost couldn't refuse... ALMOST."Violetta is joined by Ret Taylor, co-founder of the wellness brand Ned, as they dive into the often overlooked, not-so-glamorous realities of starting and growing a business. From how banks can put your business on a hidden blacklist that could kill your dream before it even begins to the roadmap of how Ned managed to thrive in the Wellness space.Exposed: The secret blacklist banks don’t want you to know about and how it can silently destroy your business.Essential for new entrepreneurs: The three unmissable tips every new business owner MUST hear to succeed.Stop glorifying the grind: Burnout isn’t a badge of honor. We’re rewriting the narrative on how to build a thriving business without sacrificing your mental health.Mindset shift: Life happens FOR you, not TO you—how this powerful shift can unlock limitless potential.Stand out or fade away: Why blending in is the death of your brand and how to make your business unforgettable.Giving back: Discover how this brand is revolutionizing the industry by supporting farmers and leading with purpose.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereToday's episode is brought to you by:Ned Wellness - Visit Ned Wellness and use code ADULTING for 15% off your first purchase!!EHarmony - Get who gets you on eharmony! Sign up today CookUnity - Go to cookunity.com/ADULTING or enter code ADULTING before checkout for 50% off your first week.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Find out why this episode hit over 100,000 downloads on its first day—Tune in RIGHT NOW to learn the psychology of WHY MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!!! whether beginning, middle, or end--it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta is bringing you part two of one of her most viral episodes to explain the reasoning behind this unavoidable phenomenon and a 3 step playbook that guarantees he'll come crawling back in NO time!In this episode, Violetta covers:Reasons he pulled away according to male dating experts.A 3 step playbook to get him crawling back:"Surprise Him"Mirror his actionsDetach completely in 24 hoursA guide for the girlies who got dumped.A guide for the girlies getting the cold shoulder.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast here Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Get more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokWant more episodes?Listen to - Why Men Pull Away - part one - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000610824819Listen to - How to Detach in 24 Hours - full episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000661414993Listen to - How Men Fall In Love - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000660615151Today's episode was brought to you by:EHarmony - eharmony - Get who gets you on eharmony! Sign up today on https://www.eharmony.com/Equilibria - Ladies, take control of your health and Head to myEq.com to try out Equilibria's Hormone Balance and Use my code, adulting for 25% off your first purchase! #Datingadvice #datinghacks #relationships #AlmostAdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to stroll into any room like you own it and have people hanging on your every word? Do you want to be so magnetic that the partner of your dreams can’t resist being drawn to you like a moth to a flame? And how about finally standing your ground and making sure no one ever overlooks you again, so you can start living the fabulous life you’ve always deserved?Well, you’re in the right place because this episode is your ultimate guide to leveling up your confidence game in dating and in life with my 5 confidence hacks. Welcome to BAD B*TCH UNIVERSITY, baby! This is the third of FOUR powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast here Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Get more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokToday's episode was brought to you by:Small Cat Food - For 50% off your first order + FREE shipping, head to Smalls.com/ ADULTING and use code AdultingEquilibria - Ladies, take control of your health and Head to myEq.com to try out Equilibria's Hormone Balance and Use my code, adulting for 25% off your first purchase! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bonus episode - 3 hours of manifesting sound for anyone looking to elevate their vibrations and energy to better attract and manifest while sleeping or for anyone looking for frequency music to listen to while practicing gratitude or doing my manifesting techniques from last episode/other episodes.This powerful track uses the 432Hz frequency as a base and continuously builds on itself, allowing you to elevate your vibrations and focus your energy on manifestation. Listening to this audio track or meditating at a frequency of 432 Hz can help you elevate your vibration and connect with higher states of consciousness necessary for manifesting miracles. You can use this tool to attract wealth, achieve financial freedom, gain education, or travel to luxury destinations.*Reminder: visualisation is a crucial element of the law of attraction so remember to visualise your dreams while this sound is on*The power of your mind and the universe is within your reach, and by focusing on positive thoughts, elevating your vibration, and using the Law of Attraction, you can make your dreams a reality. Download this episode to save this sound and share with a friend.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to BAD B*TCH UNIVERSITY, baby! This is the second of FOUR powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast here TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - 13:12 - Catch up with Violetta:How to circumcise a manFemale circumcisionNipple piercings - good girl vs. bad girl.13:13 - 46:05 - How to keep him obsessed:How to attract what you wantBecome everyone's dream girlLearn the secrets to keeping his attentionBecome more confidentSay goodbye to toxic relationshipsEmbrace your worth, set your standards high, and stop settling for anything lessToday's episode was brought to you by:Pretty Litter - Go to PrettyLitter.com/adulting and use code ADULTING to save 20% off on your first order + get a free cat toy. CBDistillery – Visit CBDistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% offshopify – Sign up for a ONE DOLLAR-per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adulting Skims – Shop the SKIMS T-Shirt Shop at SKIMS.com. Now available in sizes XXS - 4X. If you haven't yet, be sure to let them know I sent you! After you place your order, select "podcast" in the survey and select Almost Adulting in the dropdown menu that follows.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to BAD B*TCH UNIVERSITY, baby! This is the first of FOUR powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast here TIMESTAMPS:First segment - Catch up with Violetta - 0:00 - 28:21Get ready to pee your pants with today’s segment! Violetta discuss a bizarre news story that involves a pink Tesla and a man caught porking it, like it's just another Tuesday. She takes it up a notch and imagines a world where women acted like men for a day. She ends the segment with a trip down memory lane to her wild childhood —including the time she almost died (not clickbait) while her parents had no choice by to watch in sheer terror.Second segment - Are You Damaged Goods? - 28:22 -54:25Today we crush the myth of "damaged goods" once and for all. Violetta breaks down the four critical mistakes women make when dating under the pressure of that ticking biological clock. And gives you 4 crucial dating tips that will save you, so you can stop feeling like leftovers and start acting like the main course you are. We’re talking:Do not make the mistake of dating when you are your lowest - you will accidentally pick up all the strays.NEVER out communicate a man - how you're turning him off. Don’t hop into bed thinking it’ll keep him—newsflash, it won’t.Ditch the pity parties—your ex was trash, and he’s gone, so stop giving him airtime.. especially on your dates.A little pep talk to close the episode that will uplift your mood and mindset when it comes to yourself and your dating life.This is just the start, bestie. Bootcamp’s gonna be your best friend this month, with each episode hitting harder and empowering you more. Share this with your friends to reclaim your worth and level up!! so hit play and let’s get into it! 🔥Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Get more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokToday's episode was brought to you by:Small Cat Food - For 50% off your first order + FREE shipping, head to Smalls.com/ ADULTING and use code AdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.