Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT   If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ________________________ Hey Doctor Humans!  Feeling like you're constantly failing at different parts of your life?  Work-life balance feels impossible?  You're not alone.  Dr. Becc and Kristeen Barker tackle this common struggle with you in this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong? Becc and Kristeen Barker dive into the challenge of balancing your dedication to being a great doctor with the other important aspects of your life - in particular, they delve into the common conflict between being a 'good doctor' and a 'good parent' or 'good partner' . They discuss how the pressure to meet the 'good enough' threshold can lead to feelings of failure and guilt, and offer practical solutions for creating a life you won't regret. Here are some key takeaways: Feeling like you're failing in one area of your life (work, relationships, etc.) is common for doctors. Rigid ideas about what it means to be a good doctor can limit your choices and flexibility. Watch out for common thinking traps such as over-generalisation leading us to believe that we aren't doing enough. Consider a longer time frame than just one day when evaluating your failure or success when it comes to meeting your standards. Identify where you want to set boundaries so you can show up fully in all areas of your life. Are you struggling with work-life balance? Share your experiences and challenges in the comments below! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT   If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ____________   Feeling overwhelmed by the need for completeness and like you can never keep up?  You're not alone! In this episode, Kristeen and Doctor Becc discuss the concept of creating problems for ourselves getting stuck in the weeds and losing sight of the actual goal.    There's more than one way to get to your destination. There are always multiple ways to achieve a goal.   Join Kristeen and Doctor Becc for a conversation that will help you stop feeling like you're failing and wasting time on problems that don't need to be solved.    Learn how to:   Identify when you're creating problems for yourself Frequently check in with your big-picture goal/focus  Watch out for the common trap for doctors of believing we need to know everything   In this episode:     Kristeen shares a story of how she almost created a problem for herself by feeling like she needed to become a bone marrow transplant expert to deliver this particular high-yield lesson to her doctor humans preparing for their Physician exams. Doctor Becc discusses the common trap of feeling inadequate when faced with a vast amount of scientific literature and the expectation to be up to date. They explore the concept of "emotional ransom" - withholding feelings of competence until achieving an unrealistic goal. And the way that guarantees you'll never able to benefit from feeling competent in your life.  These scenarios highlight a common trap for doctors of believing we need to know everything. Kristeen and Becc direct us to the importance of questioning your model of the world and the beliefs you hold about success is highlighted. They remind us that while we need to be able to put our head down and dive into the nitty-gritty details, we need to frequently lift our heads, step back and check that we're still walking in the right direction.  They offer strategies for getting out of the weeds and focusing on the big picture. Collaboration and seeking help from others are presented as valuable tools. The concept of "letting it be easy" is introduced as a way to approach challenges to solve problems in efficient ways.     Key Takeaways:     It's important to regularly redirect our focus to the big-picture goal and ask if the details we're getting caught up in are truly necessary. Setting unrealistic goals leads to feelings of inadequacy. This feeling of inadequacy gets us further into the weeds and further from our big-picture goal. If you want to make progress rather than strive for solo perfection, ask for help from colleagues and utilise resources that make the process more targeted and efficient. There are always multiple ways to achieve a goal. Find the path that works best for you and makes the journey easier. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT   If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠ Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💌 _____________ Hey there Doctor Humans!   Have we ever felt like our lives as doctors are just...weird? Like, way outside the realm of "normal"? In this episode, we explore the idea that a doctor's life is inherently abnormal, and how acknowledging this reality can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and self-compassion.   Summary: We discuss a listener's realization that their clinical life is not normal. We explore the ways in which a doctor's life defies typical work experiences, from high-pressure decision-making to constant exposure to tragedy. The concept of normalizing the abnormal is discussed, and how it can lead to unnecessary self-criticism and exhaustion. Acknowledging the abnormal nature of our work can be a powerful tool for self-compassion and reducing stress.   We invite you guys to share your experiences with "abnormal" situations in the medical field here with us! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠  _________ 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT _____________ Hey there Doctor Humans! In this episode, we discuss shame spirals, a common experience for many people, especially those in the medical field. But first, We fell off our chairs reading Linda's poem from social media and, admittedly, in the awe we realised we had not sought permission to share her poem on the podcast. We connected with Linda after our recording and to our delight she was happy for us to keep it in the recording for you all to experience. If you too are impressed with Linda's communication through poem, there's more where that came from. If we hadn't already been stunned by the poem, it would be more surprising to learn that Dr. Linda (Smith) Appiah-Kubi is actually a communication expert in healthcare. While we cannot confirm if advanced communication through poem is included in her courses for doctors, if you're a doctor who appreciates that our communication skills can dramatically enhance our patient's experiences, Dr Appiah-Kubi's organisation, Clear and Connected can offer you the upskilling that you seek. Clear and Connected by Dr Appiah-Kubi: Website: https://bit.ly/4b2y2fy Instagram: https://bit.ly/3y5WM7K Linked in: https://bit.ly/4dg2OTr Episode Summary: Shame spirals are common occurrences, especially for doctors who may experience feelings of inadequacy, incompetence, and vulnerability due to the nature of their work. Shame spirals can be debilitating and lead to a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions. The key to overcoming a shame spiral is to identify the source of the shame and understand the thoughts associated with it. We share personal stories of shame spirals we've experienced in their careers. Becc explains the difference between a shame spiral and processing a difficult experience. Shame spirals involve stacking negative stories on top of the initial experience, whereas processing an experience involves understanding the emotions and learning from them. Kristeen used a mindfulness technic called grounding to help her connect with the world around her in the present moment. This was a great example of how using mindfulness doesn't have to look like sitting cross-legged in silence but she engaged in sensory experiences like smelling candles to make her mindfulness more enjoyable yet effective. Becc explains the concept of mood-congruent memory bias, which is the tendency to recall memories that reinforce the emotions we are currently feeling. Shame spirals can worsen this bias. Shame can be a signal that something needs to be addressed, but it's important to go beyond the surface-level thoughts and identify the deeper beliefs that are causing the shame. By meeting the reality of the shame experience and challenging the negative thoughts associated with it, we can break free from the shame spiral and move forward. Share your experiences with shame spirals and what's worked and not worked for you! _____________ 💌 Get all your questions answered about Doctor Becc's *Dare, Darling* Group Coaching Membership - email list: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠ 💌 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ____________ 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT Hey there Doctor humans! Feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells around unseen authorities? Us too! In this episode, we discuss the concept of "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you question your every move. This episode dives into the idea of having "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you feel like you're constantly being judged and scrutinised. We explore how these "police" can make you act differently, expend unnecessary energy, and miss out on opportunities. Let's talk about what you can do to take back control and feel safe in your own skin. Key points: 📌 How the feeling of being watched can make you act strangely and unnaturally. 📌 The concept of "police" in your life can be a metaphor for internal and external pressures that make you feel unsafe. 📌 These pressures can come from people, situations, or even yourself. 📌 Allowing these "police" to control your behavior can be exhausting and steal your joy. Do you notice there are the "police" in your life? Who are they and where they show up in your life? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠ 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠ 📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠ 👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠ If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ________________   Hey team! This week on the podcast, we are talking about something we all experience but maybe don't like to think about: criticism. Specifically, we're diving into how criticism shows up when you're achieving big things and how to deal with it in a way that empowers you, not paralyses you.   Want to stop letting criticism hold you back? We've got some game-changing tips for you in this episode! Plus, there's a special announcement you won't want to miss!   We discuss the phenomenon of criticism increasing as you achieve greater success. We explore the feeling of "who do you think you are?" that can arise when you're making a difference or stepping outside the norm.   Here are some key takeaways: Criticism is inevitable, especially as you become more successful or visible. It's important to understand the source of the criticism, both from the critic's perspective and your own internal experience. Be aware of the way that fear of criticism can hold you back from taking risks and pursuing your goals. With that awareness, you can decide for yourself, "Do I want to let this fear be my decider?" There are ways to build your resilience to criticism and feel safe even when you're being challenged.   Becc's Group Coaching Membership, "Dare, Darling," is designed to help you develop the skills and mindset to handle criticism in a healthy way. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠ 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠ 📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠ 👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠ If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ________________ Hey there goal-getters! Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list and struggling to prioritize? In this episode, Kristeen shares the system that's been working wonders for her: the "Intuitive To-Do List" that will help you ditch the stress and choose what matters most. Learn how to tap into your intuition and get laser-focused on what will move you closer to your goals. Kristeen and Becc chat about the challenges of feeling overwhelmed with to-do lists and the constant pressure to be productive. They introduce Kristeen's new system, the "Intuitive To-Do List," a three-step process that utilizes gratitude, future goal setting, and intuition to help you choose the most important task for each day. Here are the key takeaways from the Intuitive To-Do List system: Start with Gratitude: Write down anything you're thankful for to shift your mindset to a more positive place. Set Your Future Goals: Identify your long-term and short-term goals and imagine yourself achieving them. Tap into Your Intuition: Write down what comes to mind for what you need to do today to get closer to your goals. Don't overthink it - the first thought is usually the best one! Listen to the full episode to learn more about the Intuitive To-Do List and how to implement it in your own life. Try it out this week and see how it changes your game! Share your experience and any to-do list hacks you have in the comments below. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT Hey everyone, Kristeen and Becc here! We're dedicating this episode to a truly inspiring event we recently attended: the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference (CCIM). It wasn't just any conference; it was an eye-opening experience that redefined what's possible for doctors like us who crave creative expression alongside our medical careers. 👫👭👬 Join in on the CCIM goodness here: https://creativecareersinmedicine.com We'll be diving deep into three key takeaways that left a lasting impression. But be warned, enthusiasm incoming! Finding Your Tribe: A Collapse of Hierarchy The CCIM wasn't your typical conference. It fostered a unique atmosphere where hierarchy dissolved. Everyone, from established professionals to aspiring creatives, interacted on equal footing. This openness led to genuine connections and a sense of belonging – a true rarity in the sometimes-rigid world of medicine. Networking Redefined: Curiosity over Competition Forget the pressure of schmoozing! Networking at CCIM felt more like making friends with kindred spirits. We were all there to learn, share experiences, and be inspired by each other's journeys. There was no competition, just a genuine curiosity about each other's creative pursuits. Embracing Your "And": Inspiration to Fuel Your Passions One of the most powerful takeaways was the realization that a career in medicine doesn't have to stifle your creative side. The conference was brimming with examples of doctors who successfully integrated their artistic passions into their lives, proving it can be an "and" instead of an "or." We left feeling empowered and overflowing with inspiration to pursue our own creative endeavors. A Call to Action: Explore Your Creative Potential If you're a doctor feeling a pull towards creative expression but unsure where to start, this episode is for you! We encourage you to explore your interests, embrace your curiosity, and maybe even consider attending the next CCIM conference. You might just discover a hidden world of possibilities waiting to be explored. Bonus: We also touch on the conference's impact on potential burnout and the changing landscape of the medical workforce. We hope this summary piques your interest! Let us know if you have any questions or want to share your own creative pursuits in medicine. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎   📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠ 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠ 📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠ 👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠ If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀 💌 Or you can join the mail list where she answers a bunch of common questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3Wih9Jh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ________________ You're a human too. You Don't Get to Be Perfect as a Doctor On one hand, we can all nod our heads at the idea that perfectionism is unrealistic, unfair to expect of ourselves and even detrimental to try to aim for... ... But what about when you're a doctors? What about when your performace effects other people in their most vulnerable states? ... Isn't this a time where we really should be perfect? In this episode, we discuss the unrealistic expectation of perfection in medicine. We bring to light a difficult fact, which is that doctors are humans and humans are fallible. At times, this means patients will, to our devastation, not be perfectly cared for. We discuss the importance and our reliance on the "Swiss Cheese Model" of caring for patients and how teamwork is essential to minimising and preventing medical errors. Main Points: Doctors are expected to be perfect, but this is an unrealistic expectation. Ironically, perfectionism can lead to burnout and medical errors. The "Swiss Cheese Model" shows how multiple layers of defense can prevent errors. Teamwork is essential in medicine. Relying on the individual being infallible is a strategy doomed to harm patients. We invite doctors to embrace their humanity and ask for help when needed. Key Quotes: "We will all have examples of times where we personally have been right at the cusp of causing harm and saved by the Swiss Cheese model..." - Dr Becc "...it's not just in our heads...there's this lack of tolerance for doctors not being precise and exact and all knowing..." - Dr Kristeen Barker "...thank goodness we are so lucky to get to work with colleagues..." - Dr Becc "...they are the true heroes in this situation..." - Dr Kristeen Barker Have you ever been saved by a teammate? Share your stories in the comments below! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT Hey there, amazing doctors humans! We're back with another episode of Am I Doing It Wrong? Have you ever looked up to someone so much they practically become a medical deity in your mind? We've all been there! This week, we're diving deep into the concept of "pedestaling" and how it can actually hold you back from what you truly want to achieve. We'll explore why we put people on pedestals, how it affects both you and the person you admire, and most importantly, what you can do to build bridges instead. This episode is packed with insights and aha moments, so grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and get ready to transform your relationships with the amazing doctors you look up to. Here are the key points: Pedestaling is putting someone on a pedestal, admiring them greatly and possibly to an excessive degree. This can create a distance between you and the person you admire. When you pedestal someone, you might: This can be negative for both people involved. The person being pedestaled might feel pressure to live up to your expectations and might not be approachable. The person pedestaling someone might miss out on opportunities to connect and learn from the person they admire. The episode also talks about how to avoid pedestaling people and build bridges instead. Here are some tips: Recognize your admiration for someone. See them as a real person with strengths and weaknesses. Don't be afraid to approach them and connect with them. Build a two-way relationship. Now, after listening to this episode, we'd love to hear from you! Have you ever pedestaled someone in your career? How did it impact you? Share your stories and thoughts in our online community. Let's keep the conversation going and empower each other to ditch the pedestals and build meaningful connections. See you online, and remember, you are amazing just the way you are! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT What to Do in a Hard Situation In this episode, we discuss how to approach challenging situations. Key Takeaways Challenge your fears: When faced with a difficult situation,  stay calm and approach it directly instead of avoiding it. You'll often find you have the resources and capabilities to handle it better than you anticipated. Embrace self-reliance: Don't wait for someone else to solve your problems. Trust your abilities and take initiative. Step into your future self: Imagine yourself  acting confidently in the challenging role you aspire to. This mental shift can empower you to make better decisions in the present. Fear is often misleading: Our initial fear response can be inaccurate. By taking action, we often discover the situation is not as scary as we thought. Actionable Steps When faced with a difficult situation, take a deep breath and focus on staying calm. Break down the problem into smaller, more manageable steps. Visualize yourself successfully navigating the challenge. Reflect on past situations where you overcame obstacles. This can boost your confidence. Memorable Moments Dr. Barker shares a story about overcoming her fear of mice by taking initiative to remove one from her house. Dr. Becc uses the analogy of fog to describe fear. As you approach your fear, it becomes less dense and the path forward becomes clearer. Overall, this episode encourages listeners to approach challenges with courage and self-belief. By taking action and stepping outside their comfort zones, they can discover hidden strengths and achieve more than they think possible. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎 📽 Kristeen's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE 👋 Kristeen's Instagram: https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq 📽 Becc's Youtube: https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl 👋 Becc's Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT Comparison Almost Stole Our Friendship: How to Respond to Comparison, Not Retreat From It Drs. Kristeen Barker and Becc explore the story of their own friendship, which almost never happened because of these comparisons. Key Points: Comparing yourself to others can be a major roadblock to happiness and connection. The podcast explores three ways people respond to comparison: competing, retreating, and collaborating. Retreating, like Kristeen did initially, can prevent you from forming valuable relationships. Collaborating, like they eventually did, allows you to learn from and elevate each other. Surrounding yourself with inspiring people can help you become your best self. This podcast is for: Anyone who struggles with comparing themselves to others. People who want to build stronger relationships. Overall Message: The way you respond to comparison matters. Choose collaboration over retreat to unlock the potential of your relationships and your own growth. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

For a long time, Becc was afraid that being positive would mean she'd drop the ball. She thought her self-doubt and self-criticism gave her an edge.  She couldn't imagine success that didn't come with anxiety and stress.  In this episode, we take a page out of Kristeen's core and characteristic outlook on life: using positive energy. We've both struggled with negativity in the past, and let's be honest, who hasn't? But guess what? We've also discovered the amazing power of positivity and how it can completely transform your life, both inside and outside the hospital. So, how do we avoid getting stuck in the "worst-case scenario" loop? Well, we've come up with a handy framework to help you flip the negativity switch: Become Aware: Pay attention to your thoughts. Are they making you feel bored, overwhelmed, or stressed? Ask Why: Pinpoint the specific thoughts causing those feelings. What stories are you telling yourself? Set an Intention: Decide how you WANT to feel. Maybe you crave calmness, focus, or confidence. Find the Thought: Identify thoughts that can evoke those desired feelings. Here are some practical tips Kristeen uses to stay positive: The Joy List: Create a list of activities that bring you immediate joy (dancing, singing, listening to a favorite song) and do one when you need a quick mood shift. Clear Your Head: Meditate, take a walk, or do anything that gives you mental space. Set the Intention: Declare how you want to feel and who you want to be in the present moment. This helps you embody your best self. Remember, everyone, shifting towards a more positive mindset is a journey, not a destination. Don't expect instant change! Experiment, observe the results, and find what works best for YOU on your path to a brighter outlook. As always, you're not doing it wrong! And don't forget to share your own tips and tricks with us in the comments below! We're all in this together. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

This episode will help you break the cycle. In this episode, we talk about all you need to know about your self-sabotage. The Nature of Self-Sabotage Difficulty Identifying in the Moment: Self-sabotage is often hard to recognize as it happens, requiring hindsight or the help of others to see the patterns. Case Study: The 'Good' Doctor - our example of prioritizing patient care over studying was a form of self-avoidance. She created excuses to protect her sense of self-worth and avoid the risk of failure in her exams. Emotional Drivers: Self-sabotage isn't about deliberately harming yourself. It's about feeling good in the moment, even at the expense of long-term goals. It's choosing the emotionally comfortable option. How Self-Sabotage Manifests Motivational Triad: Humans are wired to seek what feels good, avoid pain, and conserve energy. This drives our choices. Study Avoidance: Procrastination cleaning, feeling incapable when studying, etc., are ways to avoid the discomfort of studying and potential negative thoughts about oneself. Self-Doubt Fuels the Behavior: Thoughts like "I'm not getting this" or "I should be further along" trigger challenging emotions (frustration, disappointment) that hinder learning and focus. Counteracting Self-Sabotage Self-Awareness is Key: Monitor your mind and recognize your emotional states. How do your thoughts make you feel as you approach the task you're trying to avoid? Choose Your Emotional State: Recognize that suboptimal emotional states can interfere with learning and performance. You can choose to study from a calmer, more focused perspective. Compassion vs. Condemnation: Your brain's self-critical thoughts may stem from a desire to protect you from potential failure and a blow to your identity. Understanding this allows for a more productive negotiation with your mind. Benefits of Overcoming Self-Sabotage Transform Failure: If you understand your self-sabotaging tendencies, failure becomes less destructive to your goals and identity. Even if you don't succeed initially, you did work hard, giving less power to self-doubt. Improve Your Experience: Studying and pursuing goals can be more pleasant and effective once you break self-sabotaging patterns. You can feel better while striving for what you want. Additional Tips Don't Confuse Tiredness with Self-Sabotage: Learn to distinguish between needing rest and self-sabotaging avoidance. The Power of a Clean Space: While you don't need a clean environment to study, it can influence your mindset. The key is not letting it become a means of procrastination. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

Sticks and stones may break my bones but SILENCE… Well, it makes me a wee little bit crazy…   Negative feedback is not the only place that our minds can spin out on us. For many of us, we have a painful reaction to receiving no feedback at all. In that space, our mind fills in the gaps between people's (in)action and their implications.   Specifically, the situation we're talking about is when we're consciously or subconsciously expecting recognition or positive feedback ad we don't get it. We make a simple calculation: if positive feedback means I'm on track, I'm not failing, I'm good enough.    … Well then, a lack of positive feedback means I'm not on track  … I'm a failure  … I'm not enough    You personally may not recognise such blatant statements filling this space in your mind, but nonetheless, this episode is here to encourage you to notice where you have unmet expectations that a reaping havoc on your happiness and confidence.   This is particularly important for those of us working as doctors or in the healthcare in general as a culture that hasn't got a lot of positive feedback (or feedback of any flavour) built in. This isn't something that is going to rapidly and dramatically change, so let's do what we can to best support ourselves to show up and have the experience we want.    In what situations do you have quiet expectations of positive feedback? Where do you notice your brain jump in and fill the gaps? We'd love to hear. (TELL ME I'M PRETTY)  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

Okay guys, here's a hard truth. All of your procrastination is ultimately due to you trying to avoid emotions. Your want to avoid the unpalatable or even downright repelling emotion of what every task or activity you planned to be doing may be conscious or, more commonly, subconscious. When not conscious (aware) of our reasoning, our minds will default to avoiding discomfort. Whenever we're not conscious about our choices during our day, we are likely to subconsciously choose to avoid the discomfort. When we appreciate that about our human minds, we can start to appreciate how important it is that we prepare ourselves with strategies for following through with things we associate with discomfort - even the SLIGHTEST tinge of discomfort. In this episode, we zoom in on what things we typically find ourselves procrastinating on and dissect out what discomfort is driving that procrastination. If you can see yourselves in these examples, you will have a first key piece of awareness that can allow you to break your procrastination Cognitive Programs in the future. Getting conscious of something that is currently subconscious to you is an enormous step towards being able to change it. Are you ready to change your procrastination habits? Join us in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

Last week we talked about the PROBLEM. This week, let's talk about the SOLUTION.    Last week's episode, episode 20, was an episode that resonated with a lot of you - we started to dissect why clinical work seems to be especially exhausting cognitively and emotionally… And because of that, also physiologically and physically.   Paradoxically, an important part of finding solutions for ourselves is getting closer to the reality of the problem. When we can see the problem clearly, we are better positioned to choose impactful solutions. So if you haven't listened to our last episode, we'd highly encourage you to start there in favour of 'shortcutting to a solution'.    In this episode, we introduce the concept of DEPOSITS and WITHDRAWALS on your energy. NOTE: thinking about energy in terms of deposits and withdrawals is not an original concept but it is widely spread and we are unaware of the original creator to give credit to.     In this episode, we first talk about what it really means when we say we want to rest or we need rest. For most of us, what most of us mean is that we want to feel less tired and we think that being idle and not exerting ourselves is the way to achieve that. Like us, many of you may have found the 'just rest' and 'just do less' advice… essentially useless. It seems that with this model we can never seem to rest enough.    Luckily, there's a more sophisticated way to think about rest. In this episode, we detangle the result of feeling rested or more energise with being idle or creating ease in the body.    And, as always, we share our own personal examples of unexpected ways that we create more energy for ourselves so that you can try it on and see if it fits in your life.    We hope this one deposits some more energy into your life! We'd love it if you'd share some examples of deposits in the comments so that we can invest in them too. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

Are you EXHAUSTED or is it just me?    Clinical work is pretty magical. There is so much to love and enjoy about it. Something that comes with such highs apparently fairly comes with some lows too.    One of them seems to be that most of us will agree it's EXHASTING.    You can seemingly come home after a day of simply circling the wards at a pace that would make weekend golfers look athletic… Or sitting in a comfortable chair, chatting away with your patient and tapping away at the computer… YET, come home and be magnetised to the couch.    All you can think of is being still and doing nothing… Maybe you can tolerate a bit of TV or a book. Your body is heavy, your mind craves to be quiet. You WANT to spend time with your kids and have a laugh with your partner. You WANT to be the kind of person who goes straight on to a nice dinner… Or even just the gym.    But you hear your body's exhausted desperate whisper… "I can't".    Okay, that may be a little dramatic. But it feels not too far from reality. Many of you likely notice your non-clinical partners can come home with notably more pep in their step. So it's natural to ask… Is it YOU? Are YOU the problem here?   We've cherry-picked this topic today because clinical work seems to tire the most resilient and enthusiastic of us. In this episode, we talk about what makes clinical work special including what makes it ESPECIALLY tiring.    Join us in the conversation on the podcast! And let us know if we've missed anything or if you have any hypotheses to throw into our mix.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

TALL POPPY SYNDOME. Be excellent. But be quiet about it.   Australia has a strong preference for or even culture of humility. We don't like it when people think a lot of themselves … Even if they've got a lot of good stuff to think about. Being humble is the expectation. And bragging is perhaps the worst offence.    We even have a name for the cultural quirk: THE TALL POPPY SYNDROME.   The Tall Poppy Syndrome refers to our tendency to criticise successful people. Knowing this tendency, we form fears of loudly successful or standing out for any good reason because we have the fear that we will be criticised - we'll be cut down. It's not necessarily something we do consciously, but often something we have learned implicitly and we see play out in our decisions and behaviour.     For some of us, even just THINKING a good thought about yourself can evoke feelings of bragging. Let alone SPEAKING it.  And 'bragging' is certainly a dangerous thing if it makes you stand out as a Tall Poppy.   This actually presents a challenge for people in medicine. Many of us have learned these sentiments on our way to medicine:    Meritocracy: if you just work hard, you will be rewarded  Tall Poppy: if you stand out as successful, you will be criticised   Together: work hard and be quiet about it.  Don't think positively about yourself. … And, eventually, if you just work hard enough, you'll be rewarded or anointed.    Recipe for prosperity and a happy life? Not quite.    In this episode, we talk about our experiences with Tall Poppy Syndrome, the way that it disadvantages us and how we choose to think about success and humility instead.    We are so happy that you've tuned into this episode. We think it would be a sad thing for people like you to not recognise the value you have to offer in this lifetime. Not just because the world will miss out on it, but also because of the joy that it will rob you of.   Do you see TALL POPPY SYNDROME in your life? What did you learn about the dangers of bragging or standing out? Tell us your thoughts and experiences.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message

Well hello there, welcome back! And into another beautiful week of 2024. This week's episode is a beautiful compliment to our last episode to kick off 2024. It's all about the impact of our words. Kristeen and Becc have both personally benefited from this practice of being strategic with the words they use. This is a relatively LOW EFFORT yet HIGH-YIELD change that you can make in your life. AKA it's a shortcut you want to know about. This episode starts off with a success story from Kristeen. Her examples are so relatable and applicable to doctor life. You'll instantly recognise how this applies to you and be inspired to make the exact same small tweaks with big payoffs. Next, we help you tap into your personal experience of how words impact you - for better or for worse. We walk you through an example of recognising if and how a specific word affects you. And, of course, this episode is full of examples to get your mind open and motivated towards how choosing your words can serve you. We're so glad you're joining us! Let us know which word(s) you're going to add, delete or change your relationship with in 2024. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amidoingitwrong/message