Ancient Intelligence

This week I thought it would be interesting to do a deep dive into the ‘Cool Girl’ archetype because it’s so prevalent in our culture. Most of us can relate to either being her, knowing her, or dating her.Listen in to learn about what drives the cool girl, how she relates to men, where her biggest pain point is, why the ‘nice guy’ is her opposite-sex mirror, and much more.The first part of the video is all about the cool girl and her motives, while the second part of the video is an analysis of two films that help us paint the picture of distinction between the ‘cool girl’ and the ‘feminine woman.’ (My Best Friend's Wedding and The Fighter).TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro00:38 — The cool girl always loses  02:24 — The gold in the shadow  04:50 — She always seeks outside herself  07:17 — The big mistake she makes  09:45 — Men pick up on the low self esteem  12:11 — Jungian frameworks  14:38 — My Best Friend’s Wedding Analysis 17:04 — Cool Girl Versus Feminine Woman 19:30 — Feminine Vulnerability is strength  21:57 — Female Psychology24:23 — The Fighter Analysis  26:50 — True Feminine Leadership  28:37 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.Interested in TRUE NORTH? An intimate group mastermind to help you get unstuck and experience power and potency in all domains of your life. Join the waitlist to experience first access, epic discounts, and the best bonuses: https://forms.gle/MpNiUgg8VtHbnZ3x9You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode, I unpack the question - could much of the frustration and difficulty in dating and mating be attributed to (at least in part) to hyper-elite women practicing what is known as ‘Reproductive Suppression’?Vogue published an article titled ‘Is Having a Boyfriend Lame?’ Which prompted Rob Henderson to put forth his hypothesis about Reproductive Suppression in this brilliant piece titled ‘Girl Boss Gatekeeping’ - https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/girlb... I draw on research from Rob Henderson and Dr. Dani Sulikowski as I break down female intragroup conflict and why all the body positivity, you don’t need a man, and red flag culture that seems like it’s in solidarity with women might actually be a covert strategy to keep women from finding mates.Listen in to learn about how high-status females (including chimps) keep low-status females away from mates, how modern tech amplifies ‘aspirational’ lifestyles, why rom-coms feel like castration for men, how dark-triad traits correlate with anti-natalism, and much more.This one is an evolutionary psychology nerding out episode - enjoy!TIMESTAMPS:00:53 —Intro 01:03 —One on one coaching spots03:15 — The Question of Elite Women as "Mean Girls"05:00 — The Proximate and Ultimate Reasons for Elite Women's Behavior06:16 — Intergroup Conflict and Covert Passive Aggression in Women 07:36 — Unconscious Competitive Strategy to Keep Women from Mates 10:12 —  Girl Boss, Body Positivity, & Female Entitlement 13:16 — Technology, Consumerism, and the Tornado of Reproductive Suppression14:37 — Heartbreak of Women Who Prioritised Career Over Family 17:00 — Reproductive Sabotage: Disrupting Women's Mating Preferences 18:01 — Demonising Traditional Masculine Traits & Rom-Com Castration20:50  — Proximate vs. Ultimate Summary & Lying to Women21:58 — Elite Women's Access to Resources and Protection23:55  — Male Envy and Psychopathic Insanity 24:50 — Dark Triad Traits and Lack of Introspection25:52 — The Frustration of double standards27:16 — Historical Examples: Elizabeth Cady Stanton & Victoria Woodhull 28:54 — The Narrative of Oppression vs. Reality for Elite Women 29:57 — The Twisting of Pain into Man Envy (Betty Friedan) 31:17 — Conclusion & Call to Action for Harmony32:24 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode I get into a soulful conversation about what it means to be a woman. I break down the three deep desires a woman has and how they are perfectly complementary to the three desires a man has. I get into why women don’t seem to be very inspiring to men these days.Listen in to learn about what a woman’s rites of passage look like, what a woman teaches a man if she’s tuned in, what is missing from women in the mainstream, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro 00:35 — The Purpose of Womanhood 01:14 — What Men vs. Women Truly Long For 04:17 — The Core Wound: Feeling "Not Beautiful" 05:33 — Womanhood's Power: Comfort with Uncertainty06:22 — A Woman's Biological Rites of Passage07:47 — Archetypes: Man as Logos, Woman as Eros 09:16 — On Faith: Trusting the Unknown 13:40 — Eros & Logos: Why Control Backfires4:59 — Example: The 'Pretty Woman' Dynamic 17:50 — Final Thoughts: Trust & PRO-Vision 22:51 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode, I get into the harmony that exists between dominance and submission through the lens of masculine and feminine energy. I break down what true dominance looks and feels like and why domineering energy is not dominance. I reflect on ancient rites of passage with an example from Africa and bring in an example from salsa dancing as well.Listen in to learn about the spiritual purpose of rites of passage for men, why dominance without care becomes domineering, why the stages of development matter so much for boys, and more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro00:34 — Welcome: The Yin & Yang of Submission00:55 — A Word on Coaching 01:28 — What Women Want: Dominance & Devotion 02:14 — True Dominance is Service 02:45 — To Be Dominant, You Must Be Submissive03:20 — Rites of Passage: The Bullet Ant Ritual 05:37 — The Difference Between Dominance and Domineering 06:00 — Submitting to a Higher Purpose 06:57 — Life Stage 1: The Bond With Mom 09:39 — Life Stage 2: Building Self-Worth With Dad 13:04 — Life Stage 3: The Male Mentor 14:40 — A Lesson in Service From a Salsa Class 15:40 — The Sioux: Warriors & Lovers Without Shame 18:11 — Conclusion & Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

Last week I read this (https://www.compactmag.com/article/th...) article by Helen Andrews called 'The Great Feminization.' There's been loads of discourse around this and I want to offer my take with this week's episode. I also published a short essay on my substack you can read here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/why-...Listen in to learn about what happens when masculine work culture goes too far, when feminine work culture goes too far, the difference between masculine and feminine communism, why men care more about precision and women care more about the experience over the results, do women or men have lower status, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 - Intro00:31 - 01:20 - Set Up01:21 - 01:58 - Work With Me 1:101:59 - 02:44  - Groups matter more02:45 - 05:18 - Comfort over Truth05:19 - 07:57  - Basic Yin and Yang Principles07:58 - 10:36  - Tyranny or Chaos10:37 - 11:59 - 75% masculine culture12:00 - 14:20 - What is toxic bro culture?14:21 - 15:15 - Positive Aspects of Masculine Culture15:16 -  16:36 - What is toxic female culture?16:37 -  18:19 - The rules have changed for women18:20 -  20:00 -  Male and female status is different20:01 - 23:40 - Balancing masculine energy23:41 - 25:47 - Training and salsa analogies for this25:48 - 26:33 - Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

This episode is part 2 of Understanding sex differences in work and lifestyle. I share observations and insights based on data collected by evolutionary psychologist, Stephen Stewart-Williams. This research is important because it negates the big narrative that says women are behind men in prestige and financial gain because of biases and barriers against them.The data tells a different story.Part 2 is focused on how money is no longer a masculine contribution, how men have lost the fulfillment in meaning in work that used to be there, how important apprenticeships are for young men, and trying to understand what is work actually for and is the answer to that different for men and women?00:00 – 00:21 Trailer00:25 – 00:45 Introduction 00:45 – 04:19 Women vs Men Narrative 04:19 – 06:27: Why Fewer Female CEOs Exist 06:27 – 07:27 Screen Share: Life Values Data 07:27 – 09:00 Women’s Primary Motivations Beyond Money 09:00 – 10:00 Why Work Feels Unnatural for Women 10:00 – 11:23 Societal Pressure vs Personal Values 11:23 – 12:20 Biological Influence on Preferences 12:20 – 14:17 Closing Reflections on Purpose and Work14:17 - 14:26 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode I share observations and insights based on data collected by evolutionary psychologist, Stephen Stewart-Williams, on work preferences between men and women. This research is important because it negates the big narrative that says women are behind men in prestige and financial gain because of biases and barriers against them. The data tells a different story. It’s much more to do with women’s actual preferences versus what they say they want. Listen in to learn about what men and women value most when it comes to work, a simple way to think about a woman’s hormone cycle, what makes work fulfilling, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 02:37 Men and women see work differently02:37 - 02:53 Stephen Stewart WIlliams02:54 - 03:24 Work with me one on one03:25 - 04:13 Men and women as complementary vs competitive04:13 - 05:58 Understanding gender roles and balance05:58 - 07:47 Key insights and reflections07:47 - 10:05 Evolution of modern work and purpose10:05 - 12:22 Redefining meaning in work and identity12:22 - 14:30 What makes work enjoyable14:30 - 16:36 Women’s perspectives and real-life stories16:36 - 18:46 Picking up motivation and direction18:46 - 21:10 Cultural pressures and gender expectations21:10 - 23:40 How life and community have changed23:40 - 25:39 Final thoughts and reflections___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode I dive into the importance of paternal masculinity & maternal femininity (i.e. father and mother energy). We are in a major deficit of true mothers and fathers leading us and with that we can see so many trickle down effects in our society; low birth rates, instability, uncertainty, and more.Listen in to learn about the four major archetypes for men and women, the life stages a boy needs to go through, why the dark feminine is an important part of the story, and more.Ultimately the way we make change in society is one person at a time and the revival of strong fathers and mothers is one of the most important things we can do.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:32 Trailer and Intro00:32 - 01:28 Episode Overview01:28 - 02:48 Spots for my one-on-one coaching02:48 - 04:40 Levels of masculinity04:40 - 07:00 Dark feminine embodiment07:00 - 11:12 Deficit of paternal masculinity11:12 - 12:19 First phase of a boy’s life12:19 - 14:35 Men’s versus women’s work14:35 - 16:03 Understanding controlling mothers16:03 - 17:49  What does being responsible mean?17:49 - 19:56 Why have children?19:56 - 22:41 God and his word22:41 - 24:43 Final Thoughts24:43 - 25:21 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at https://anyashakh.com/mentorship

In this episode I sat down with Dylan Bain - father, husband, men’s group leader, history buff, and more. We dove into how industrialization created the environment for feminism to later take hold.Listen in to learn about how industry quietly and slowly began dehumanizing society, why women lost meaningful work, the hidden costs of success, how women blamed the wrong people, why America is anti-child, and what it will take to restore balance, sanity, and partnership between the sexes.Such a great conversation with Dylan, enjoy.Timestamps:00:00:00 - 00:00:35 Episode Trailer and Intro00:00:35 - 00:01:40 Dylan Bain Introduction00:01:40 - 00:03:25 Dylan Bain's Background and Mission00:03:25 - 00:05:03 I married someone way above my league00:05:03 - 00:07:25 Industrialism caused feminism00:07:25 - 00:10:22 Why did women, not men, have to do laundry?00:10:22 - 00:12:40 What created the shift to the industrial era and hence, feminism00:12:40 - 00:15:52 Industrialization put women out of a job00:15:52 - 00:17:42 The Declaration of Sentiments and Declaration of Independence read the same 00:17:42 - 00:19:28 Bacon's rebellions and feminists made the same mistake00:19:28 - 00:21:53 Did industrialists know the revolution was dehumanizing?00:21:53 - 00:23:54 How were people in the 1950s okay with being dehumanized00:23:54 - 00:26:27 Do the Wealth of Nations and Communism have a connection?00:26:27 - 00:28:30 The difference between how men and women work00:28:30 - 00:29:57 To be successful, do women need to work like men?00:29:57 - 00:31:35 World war turned men into psychopaths00:31:35 - 00:34:27 What caused the death of women in the Bayview massacre00:34:27 - 00:37:43 In 1945, The USA was the last superpower standing00:37:43 - 00:39:11 Why were women going insane during the industrial revolution00:39:11 - 00:40:00 Gossiping is a defense mechanism?00:40:00 - 00:43:37 How the automotive industry made loneliness worse00:43:37 - 00:44:22 Feminism grew out of jealousy00:44:22 - 00:47:04 Was the birth control pill born of Capitalists' greed?00:47:04 - 00:48:16 Is feminism secretly a way to manipulate women?00:48:16 - 00:49:16 How did we get so obsessed with profits and productivity?00:49:16 - 00:50:33 This is why GDP is so misleading00:50:33 - 00:52:48 United States Military isn't really good at fighting00:52:48 - 00:54:34 This company rolled out 'Freezing Eggs' as benefits for women00:54:34 - 00:56:12 There are not a lot of female role models00:56:12 - 00:57:48 How do we fix things?00:57:48 - 01:00:37 Is leaving home at 18 a scam?01:00:37 - 01:01:54 Kids should be seen and not heard?01:01:54 - 01:04:26 Our education system was designed to create good factory workers01:04:26 - 01:06:43 There's no bad choices, only trade-offs01:06:43 - 01:08:02 Can you handle having kids while studying medicine?01:08:02 - 01:10:16 America is an anti-child society; they hate kids01:10:16 - 01:12:27 Should a neurosurgeon have kids?01:12:27 - 01:13:59 What America's ugly playgrounds says about how they see kids01:13:59 - 01:14:26 Here's why liberal feminists are the most mentally unstable01:14:26 - 01:15:21 Final thoughts and key takeaways01:15:21 - 01:15:59 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I explain the simplest and easiest way to understand the purpose of the masculine and the feminine through my favorite analogy: the river and the riverbanks. After watching this episode, you’ll have a clear framework for understanding how these energies should be balanced in relationships, work, and society at large.This is the foundation for understanding how successful relationships between men and women work.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:39 Episode Trailer and Intro00:37 - 01:44 The foundations of masculine and feminine energy01:44 - 03:30 What does it look like when the feminine and masculine interact properly03:30 - 04:44 What happens when the masculine overpowers the feminine04:44 - 05:36 The masculine is the function & the feminine is the form05:36 - 06:40 Who is more important in a dance?06:40 - 09:02 They fired him for his opinion on masculinity09:02 - 11:08 How does her cycle affect her throughout the month11:08 - 12:53 Do women thrive in strict schedules and routines?12:53 - 15:33 The masculine always knows best15:33 - 16:47 Should the masculine tell the feminine what to do?16:47 - 19:15 Man as sun and woman as moon19:15 - 20:32 How to know use this framework in the world20:32 - 20:58 Final thoughts and key takeaways20:58 - 21:36 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I dive into three themes that are helpful to understand when thinking about men and women (in no particular order). These themes focus on listening, taking things personally, and telling the truth.I touch on how important the systems of the world are to men and why sometimes women disregard that. I get into why men and women alike take things personally when they really shouldn’t. Finally I get into why men are inspired by sincerity from women and why truth telling is one of the most important attributes of a truly awakened feminine woman.Listen into learn what being “full” for a woman means, the mantra ‘listen to learn,’ and how men always ‘have a plan.’TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:39 Episode Trailer and Intro00:39 - 01:14 Today's overview01:14 - 01:33 Today's 3 topics01:33 - 02:53 Men love systems02:53 - 05:14 Men are extremely sensitive to sincerity05:14 - 07:18 More on men loving systems07:18 - 09:00 Listening to learn09:00 - 11:29 Women's fear centers are larger and twice as active as men's11:29 - 13:18 If a woman starts sharing, she wants a listener, not a solution13:18 - 15:22 The issue with assuming everyone functions like you15:22 - 18:19 Women take personal offense to men's singular focus18:19 - 21:06 Men always have a plan21:06 - 23:00 This is very disempowering for women23:00 - 25:48 This is why feminine truth is so hard25:48 - 28:31 Being overly nice makes people suspicious of your character28:31 - 29:10 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

Answering your questions - another subscriber Q&A!What do you think of children growing up with two mothers or two fathers (gay couples)? Do you support these kind of family structures? Or do you think families should only consist of a mother and a father?how much do you think hormonal birth control has impacted the natural dynamic between men and women?What are the top 1-3 (negative) relational tendencies for women and men (separately) which lead to issues or breakdown of the relationship?Would you say you can tell where a man’s attention or focus is by looking at him?What will young people need to learn how to build up their relationship skills?What are thoughts about life after death, reincarnation and so on...Did you always wanted to do this type of work? How and why did you get into this type of career, being on YouTube talking about men’s identity and relationships?TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:44 Trailer and Intro00:44 - 01:37 I'm going to Buenos Aires01:37 - 02:59 Should gay couples raise kids?02:59 - 05:17 A gay couple that opted out from having kids 05:17 - 07:02 Can you tell where a man's attention is by looking at him?07:02 - 09:08 The reason women are frustrated with men09:08 - 14:14 What are things men and women easily overlook in a relationship?14:14 - 16:16 What will young people need to learn to build up their relationship skills?16:16 - 18:45 The impact of birth control18:45 - 22:41 What are your thoughts about life after death, reincarnation and so on22:41 - 26:49 Did I always want to do this type of work26:49 - 27:50 My self-development journey27:50 - 29:45 Reparenting traumatic moments29:45 - 31:20 My mission31:20 - 32:10 Final thoughts and key takeaways_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I explain one of the most important tenets of masculine and feminine polarity. Way beyond the woo woo, this is a real exchange between men and women and we can see it play our in day to day life experiences, see it expressed in film media, film, and so much more. Men and women experience the world differently and each of us has one greatest asset in our toolbox of life - the question then becomes, do we know how to use it?Listen in to learn what a man’s greatest asset is and a woman’s, what is the masculine light switch, why does this harmonious exchange break down so easily, what do men and women instinctually want to do when they don’t get what they want, and how to fix it.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:52 Episode Trailer And Overview 00:52 -  02:22 Polarity between men and women02:22 - 03:50 Is polarity a woo woo thing or something real?03:50 - 04:50 A man's greatest asset is his attention04:50 - 06:18 A woman's greatest asset is her delight06:18 - 07:25 What is the one thing you're missing from women in your life07:25 - 10:23 A woman always wants her man's attention10:23 - 11:36 The differences in the way men and women choose to be in life11:36 - 14:28 Men are way more sensitive than women14:28 - 16:38 What makes a man deny his woman attention?16:38 - 17:17 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

I land the ‘mental load’ conversation in this episode. This is part 2 of a two part exploration.In this episode I break down why the idea of ‘mental load’ takes away from our biological inclinations as men and women. The truth is there is no such thing as invisible labor & visible labor. There is men’s labor and women’s labor and we’ve lost sight of that as a society due to industrialization and modernization.Listen in to learn about how the sacred separation between men and women got lost, what would happen if boys were on an equal playing field with girls, why there is no such thing as 50/50 in relationships, how the idea of ‘mental load’ is actually extremely sexist, and more.I reference Mary Harrington, author of Feminism Against Progress & her recent writing via her substack, the reactionary feminist. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer And Intro00:30 - 01:06 I'm finally back home01:06 - 03:02 Should men be doing 50% of household labor03:02 - 06:37 What is Mental Load?06:37 - 07:42 Feminism against progress07:42 - 09:21 Stop treating men like hairy women09:21 - 10:43 Does childbirth expand sex differences10:43 - 13:19 Did modernization create sexist or genderless roles13:19 - 15:15 We've been helping girls at the cost of boys15:15 - 17:20 Are women fulfilled17:20 - 19:22 Gender used to be vernacular19:22 - 20:50 The importance of preserving same-sex spaces20:50 - 23:01 Are men and women different?23:01 - 24:58 Why doesn't the Mental Load conversation land?24:58 - 27:44 Men don't fit in to women's spaces27:44 - 29:28 Women just want to feel safe29:28 - 30:40 Final thoughts and key takeaways30:40 - 31:19 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I dive into the conversation about mental load and why it doesn’t land with men. Women talk about this so often but don’t understand that the entire conversation is laced with a deep lack of respect for men.Listen in to learn about a story from an elder woman from my family, how men and women fundamentally don’t share the same language of respect, how men thrive in hierarchies, why ‘she’s the boss’ kills relationships between men and women, and why the ‘mental load’ debate will never actually land on a solution if we keep going the way we are.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:53 Episode Trailer and Overview00:53 - 01:53 How women disrespect men without knowing it01:53 - 04:58 This is what men want to experience04:58 - 05:52 Men and women have different ideas about what respect means05:52 - 07:26 It's more impactful to a man to be respected than to be loved07:26 - 08:52 The best definition of respect I've ever heard08:52 - 10:59 Men understand and live by hierarchies in a way that women don't10:59 - 12:24 Men take each other at face value12:24 - 13:51 How women inappropriately question men13:51 - 17:55 Why couples splitting 50/50 is a flawed idea17:55 - 20:04 The outcomes of the 'Mental Load' Conversation20:04 - 22:00 What do men really want?22:00 - 24:30 Avoid this if you want your husband to be the CEO of your family24:30 - 24:57 Final takeaways and thoughts24:57 - 25:35 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I sat down with Shah from his ‘This is Shah’ channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thisisshahWe dove into why the divorce rate is so high and what’s happening with modern dating and relating? Shah is extremely knowledgeable about family law and the court systems and we have an extensive conversation about dowry and bride price systems from the past.Listen in to learn about whether the dowry has wisdom we could implement today, why caricatures of men and women are shaping modern dating dilemmas, Barbies and Bugattis, whether Andrew Tate would become monogamous if he was presented with a dowry, what the purpose of a prenup is and why it began, what the three stages of relating are based on David Deida’s work are, which stage are we in now, how we can define actually love? And so much more.Such a great conversation with Shah, enjoy. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer and Intro00:30 - 01:39 Episode Overview and 'This is Shah' Introduction01:39 - 03:40 Who is 'This is Shah'03:40 - 04:44 Is a dowry a sacrifice?04:44 - 06:59 Is a dowry tantamount to buying someone06:59 - 09:33 Bride price is a compensation for labour value lost by the bride's family09:33 - 10:35 Why did we move from bride price to dowry10:35 - 12:44 When did people start hating dowry and bride price rituals12:44 - 14:53 Did feminism start because men stopped paying dowries?14:53 - 17:25 'You're a high status man if you can manage a housewife'17:25 - 19:11 Courtly love and romance used to be separate from marriage19:11 - 21:16 Love means something different to almost everyone21:16 - 22:36 Alex and Leila Hormozi's relationship22:36 - 23:54 What is love?23:54 - 25:16 Dowry payments are much like child support payments25:16 - 28:08 Why prenups are funny to me28:08 - 29:29 The three stages of relating29:29 - 32:05 Andrew Tate is the male version of The Barbie ideal32:05 - 32:46 What is the number one thing that any woman wants32:46 - 35:19 The Quiet Man35:19 - 37:09 The second stage of relating37:09 - 39:45 Dowry societies see fewer divorces than bride price societies39:45 - 41:50 Society has abandoned initiations41:50 - 43:46 Does being religious reduce divorce rates?43:46 - 47:20 Your upbringing determines your choice of romantic partners47:20 - 48:30 Did no-fault divorce make it too easy to separate48:30 - 52:03 Did industrialism ruin it for women52:03 - 53:57 Why I believe hooking up is bad for you53:57 - 55:50 What do you bring to the table?55:50 - 58:26 What is a good romantic scenario when two people meet58:26 - 01:01:50 Look at their credit report before getting married01:01:50 - 01:02:48 How to really lower divorce rates01:02:48 - 01:05:28 The only good thing about red pill 01:05:28 - 01:06:12 The Romance game01:06:12 - 01:07:04 The hedonism wall01:07:04 - 01:12:21 Can women stick with you when you have nothing01:12:21 - 01:13:18 Is income separate from attraction01:13:18 - 01:17:35 Are there other men besides Nice guys and Bad boys01:17:35 - 01:21:09 What is missing from how we behave these days?01:21:09 - 01:23:35 My take on how to change the world of dating01:23:35 - 01:26:37 how would I get Andrew Tate to be monogamous01:26:37 - 01:28:40 Beauty that inspires action in a man01:28:40 - 01:29:45 The one point men should take from this conversation01:29:45 - 01:30:49 Key takeaways for women01:30:49 - 01:31:27 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I dive into my experience after a women’s only temazcal (sweat lodge) experience that awakened something beautiful inside me. We got into maternal and paternal lineage, the female initiation of childbirth, vision quests, the sacred gifts men and women carry, and more.I talk about women’s responsibility to pray for men, the double power of singing our prayers, and the art of revealing ourselves. I also explain in more detail the concept of holding space and how the Ancients knew all about what is now referred to as ‘parts’ work by psychotherapists.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:24 Episode Trailer and Intro00:24 - 00:53 Episode Overview00:53 - 02:36 What does it mean to be a woman02:36 - 03:06 I fixed my Blue Yeti Mic03:06 - 06:00 My first sweat lodge experience06:00 - 07:09 A sweat lodge resembles the uterus07:09 - 09:06 Childbirth is a woman’s initiation09:06 - 12:09 maternal and paternal lineage12:09 - 13:52 Is it a woman's responsibility to pray for her man?13:52 - 16:24 Does singing your prayers make them twice as strong?16:24 - 17:04 We're so hyper-individualistic in the real world17:04 - 19:08 How to stop being afraid of revealing your true self19:08 - 21:49 Fighting the urge to people-please21:49 - 23:31 the art of revealing23:31 - 26:08 A better way to get your needs mett26:08 - 29:45 How women can hold space for men29:45 - 31:18 The healing power of a woman’ intuition?31:18 - 33:17 Men rarely get nonsexual touch33:18 - 33:59 Closing Remarks34:00 - 34:39 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I dive into one of the most attractive things that men can do and why so many have lost it. I get into my impressions on the death of the old way of masculinity and what is being ushered in now.Listen in to learn about the difference between informing and connecting, mature masculinity, whether we are regressing, male muses, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:14 Intro and Welcome  00:14 - 01:34 Masculinity and What’s Missing  01:34 - 03:39 Loss of Purpose and Brotherhood  03:39 - 05:10 New Masculinity and Presence  05:10 - 07:50 Informing vs Connecting  07:50 - 10:09 The Chair Metaphor and Emotional Blocks  10:09 - 12:13 Warrior Archetype and Focus  12:13 - 14:21 Attraction and Emotional Safety  14:21 - 16:11 Archetypes and Transition Time  16:11 - 18:45 Stages of Male Development  18:45 - 21:51 Attachment, Culture, and Bonding  21:51 - 22:04 Closing and Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I share how two elder male teachers revealed something powerful - men who lead with clarity, depiction, and decisiveness don’t dominate the world, they are the ones that make it safe. From horseback riding to the Roman Empire, I delve into the connection between patriarchy, masculine leadership, and why the presence of elders is desperately missing in our society. Listen in to learn what so many boys are missing from their mothers, why women hold privileges that men don’t, and what the three most important needs that men have.Here is the essay that I reference called ‘The Secret About Men is Out - https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-secret-about-men-is-outConsidering subscribing to me my substack for weekly insights about men, women, and society - https://anyashakh.substack.comTIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:31 Trailer and Intro00:31 - 00:51 Episode Overview00:51 - 02:15 What we can learn from horses02:15 - 03:31 What I learned about assertiveness 03:31 - 05:07 Does assertiveness make a woman feel safe?05:07 - 08:35 I love boxing08:35 - 09:42 Is there are Jordan Peterson female equivalent?09:42 - 11:05 The secret about men is out11:05 - 13:27 What are the 3 things that men need13:27 - 15:42 A man wants to be acknowledged and appreciated15:42 - 16:00 The importance of a child's relationship with the opposite sex parent16:00 - 17:16 Are men more preoccupied with death than women?17:16 - 19:33 Being ready to die is actually freeing19:33 - 20:46 What privileges do women have?20:46 - 22:00 Internal work for men isn’t complete22:00 - 22:56 Final thoughts and key takeaways22:56 - 23:35 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode I dive into why feminism was never really about what’s in the best interests of women. I talk about Phyllis Schlafly and the important role she played in delaying the ratification of the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment). I explore a different way to think about submission for men and women focused on alignment and partnership.Expect to learn about the legacy of Phyllis Schlafly, female gullibility, why motherhood should be pedestalized, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:33 Trailer and Intro00:33 - 00:51 Episode Overview00:51 - 01:58 Feminism’s misunderstandings01:58 - 03:47 Does feminism have women's best interests at heart?03:47 - 04:50 How much damage has feminism done to women?04:50 - 08:14 Was Phyllis Schlafly a feminist?08:14 - 09:02 Phyllis Schlafly thanking her husband for allowing her to be on stage 09:02 - 12:57 What is submission really?12:57 - 14:50 What was a couple's joint mission in the past?14:50 - 15:47 This simple mindset change would change the world for the better15:47 - 17:14 Are women more gullible than men?17:14 - 19:08 Two meaningful things to understand about motherhood19:08 - 20:16 How babies learn to speak20:16 - 20:45 Final thoughts and key takeaways20:45 - 21:23 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com