Angry On The Inside - ADHD Women Talking Late Diagnosis

The holidays hit different when you’re an ADHD woman trying to keep yourself regulated while your kids bounce between overstimulation, sugar crashes, and relative-induced chaos. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down real-world co-regulation strategies that actually work for ADHD moms and sensory-sensitive kids without shame, perfection pressure, or Pinterest-mom energy. We talk about: 🎄 Why co-regulation isn’t codependence (and how to tell the difference) 🧠 Using curiosity instead of control when your kid melts down 🙅‍♀️ Consent hellos, body autonomy, and navigating pushy relatives 🔊 Sensory overload survival: sunglasses, Loops, headphones & coping candy 👜 The ADHD “Santa Survival Kit” for car rides, stores, and family gatherings 💬 Emotional honesty & why your kids can always read your stress 💗 How to stay connected when everyone’s overstimulated (including you) This episode is for every ADHD mom who’s trying to make the holidays feel safe, manageable, and actually enjoyable without sacrificing your sanity or your kids’ nervous systems. If you’ve ever whispered “I need a timeout too,” this one’s your episode. 00:00 – Cold Open: Holiday Chaos Meets ADHD Brains Mariah Carey, meltdowns, pine-scented overstimulation, and why December hits different for ADHD women. 01:02 – Co-Regulation vs. Codependence (And Why It Matters Today) Understanding emotional regulation during the holidays — without absorbing everyone else’s stress. 03:10 – Curiosity Over Control: The ADHD-Friendly Parenting Reset Ditching the pre-party “be on your best behavior” script and using curiosity to defuse meltdowns. 07:14 – Consent, Autonomy, and Holiday Boundaries for Kids How to model body autonomy, support kids’ comfort, and handle pushy relatives without guilt. 12:32 – Sensory Overload: Prevent, Support, Protect Holiday environments are sensory traps. Tools that work: sunglasses, scents, Loop earplugs, headphones, coping candy, and more. 17:30 – The Santa Survival Kit & Reset Rituals How to create a car-ready regulation kit to prevent overstimulation and why modeling resets builds trust. 22:07 – Survival Mode, Emotional Honesty & Staying Connected How kids read your stress, why transparency matters, and how to co-regulate through holiday overwhelm.

December hits ADHD women differently and no one talks about it. One minute you’re thriving on holiday dopamine and twinkle lights, and the next you’re in the bathroom with a six-pack of Reese’s trees wondering why your nervous system has abandoned you for the holidays. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down the real ADHD holiday arc: overstimulation, disappearing routines, perfectionism pressure, emotional labor, family triggers, and the “why am I suddenly seven years old?” regression that shows up every year. We also talk about DESR, unapologetically, hitting emotional capacity, and how to build a December that actually fits your brain without shame, without perfection, and without the meltdown hangover. If you’ve ever cried in the Target parking lot during the holidays, you’re in the right place. 00:00 – The ADHD Holiday High The early-December dopamine surge, over-decorating, organizing, and the festive identity ADHD women know too well. 00:47 – The Holiday Crash No One Talks About Two days before Christmas: bathroom Reese’s trees, sugar crashes, and the emotional flip that hits out of nowhere. 01:27 – Who We Are: Late-Diagnosed, Overwhelmed, Still Here Jess & Jeannine introduce the episode: emotional whiplash, Target-parking-lot tears, and the ADHD reality of holiday season. 02:43 – Why December Breaks ADHD Brains Overstimulation, emotional overload, disappearing routines, and why December hits different for ADHD women. 05:19 – Family Triggers & Old Roles Rebooting Why holiday gatherings send ADHD women straight back into childhood dynamics, old labels, and old wounds. 07:08 – Perfectionism, Emotional Labor & the Mental Load The invisible work behind “perfect holidays,” unrealistic expectations, and why ADHD women hit emotional capacity fast. 09:29 – What Actually Helps ADHD Women in December Regulation basics, lowering standards, cutting the list in half, redefining traditions, and building a holiday that fits your capacity. 20:13 – “That’s Not Normal”: ADHD Holiday Edition Wrapping-paper crises, 2 a.m. cleaning, Clydesdale commercials, Reese’s trees in the bathroom — and why your holiday chaos is valid. 23:35 – Closing: Take What Fits, Leave the Rest A grounding reminder: nothing about your December makes you weak, and you're not the only one feeling angry on the inside.

Gratitude season hits different when you have ADHD. While the world is shouting “just be thankful,” most of us are stuck juggling overwhelm, rumination, perfectionism, emotional intensity, and a brain that cannot seem to slow down long enough to notice the good stuff. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine get honest about what gratitude actually looks like for ADHD women not the Pinterest version, not the toxic-positivity version, and definitely not the guilt-tripped version. From Jess’s real-life run-in with an aggressively cheerful quote at her oncologist’s office, to Jeannine’s abandoned gratitude journal, to the science behind dopamine, serotonin, rumination, micro-gratitude moments, and why joy feels so huge (and so rare) when it finally breaks through this is gratitude told through the lens of real neurodivergent life. Inside this episode: Why gratitude for ADHD brains is awareness, not performance The difference between gratitude and toxic positivity How comparison, ableism, and internalized shame sneak into “thankfulness” What the science says about gratitude, dopamine, serotonin, and ADHD emotional regulation Joy as a form of gratitude (hello, “wee moments”) Why perfectionism, RSD, and negative self-talk shut gratitude down How neuroplasticity supports changing emotional patterns at any age Micro-gratitude vs. forced routines and why tiny wins actually work Why ADHD women feel undeserving of good things (and how to shift that) The emotional power of handwritten letters and intentional connection Jess and Jeannine keep it real, keep it funny, and keep it grounded in lived ADHD experience. No pressure, no journals required, no guilt if you haven’t felt thankful today. Gratitude isn’t a task it’s a moment. And you deserve to let the good stuff count. If this episode hit home, share it with someone who gets it. We’re building a space where neurodivergent women can feel seen, validated, and a little less alone. 00:00 – When Gratitude Season Meets ADHD Reality Holiday pressure, “just be grateful,” and why it doesn’t land for ADHD brains. 01:27 – Toxic Positivity in a Serious Space Jess’s oncologist-office moment & why forced positivity feels invalidating. 02:21 – Ableism, Comparison, and Misunderstood Gratitude What gratitude is not — and how comparison hijacks it. 04:33 – The Science: Dopamine, Serotonin & the ‘Wee Moment’ ADHD joy, emotional intensity, and why gratitude hits differently. 07:09 – Perfectionism, Shame Cycles & Feeling Undeserving How negative self-talk blocks gratitude and keeps ADHD women small. 10:16 – Neuroplasticity & Rewiring Gratitude Patterns ADHD brains can change — even later in life. 12:06 – Gratitude Letters, RSD & Communicating Love Why writing feels safer, deeper, and emotionally clearer for ADHD folks. 14:22 – The Shirt Spiral: Perfectionism on Full Display A relatable, classic Jess story about overwhelm, appearance, and RSD. 17:06 – Gratitude in Chaos: ADHD, Rumination & Emotional Overload Why pausing is hard, and how ADHD blocks access to positive moments. 26:29 – Micro-Gratitude: Tiny Wins That Actually Work Realistic, ADHD-friendly gratitude without guilt, pressure, or perfection. 29:12 – A Moment of Gratitude Between Jess & Jeannine

Many ADHD women move through Thanksgiving with a mix of joy, pressure, sensory overload, and invisible labor that most people never see. This episode offers a grounded, honest look at how the holiday actually feels for neurodivergent women without shame, without judgment, and without telling you how you’re “supposed” to handle it. Jess and Jeannine explore the very real contrast between the parts of the holiday that feel comforting and the parts that drain us. From early-Christmas dopamine and all-day cooking marathons to childhood split-holidays and overstimulation before noon, they walk through the full spectrum of ADHD holiday experiences with warmth, humor, and compassion. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The playful chaos of getting into holiday mode early Why cooking energizes some ADHD women and overwhelms others How invisible labor shapes the emotional weight of Thanksgiving Delegating tasks in a way that feels supportive rather than stressful Building a “Minimum Viable Thanksgiving” that actually fits your nervous system Setting boundaries that keep the day peaceful, not perfect Why small or unconventional Thanksgivings count just as much as the traditional ones How to stay present enough to be part of the memories—not just the labor behind them This episode is for anyone who wants permission to make Thanksgiving simpler, calmer, and more reflective of how their brain actually works. You’re not alone in the way you experience this season, and you deserve a holiday that gives back more than it takes. 00:00 – Cold Open: Mariah in November & ADHD Holiday Vibes 00:39 – Invisible Labor & Why Thanksgiving Feels Like a Logistics Operation 01:08 – Show Intro: Two ADHD Women, One Holiday Season 02:31 – Split-Screen Thanksgiving: Cooking Dopamine vs. Holiday Whiplash 05:23 – Delegating, Letting People Help, and Letting Go of Perfect 07:47 – Minimum Viable Thanksgiving: Presence, Not Perfection 11:55 – Boundaries Without Being a Holiday Grinch 14:15 – Alternative Thanksgivings Count Too 16:00 – Closing: Peace, Pie & Permission to Rest

Ever gone from fine to furious in half a second? That flash of rage it's chemistry before it become emotion. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine explain how cortisol, the stress hormone, acts like fuel for the fire when ADHD brains are already running hot. They dive into: Why cortisol floods ADHD systems faster and sticks around longer The addictive hit of control you feel mid-rage What happens during the crash and why shame keeps you stuck How to interrupt the cortisol loop and step back into calm This isn’t about managing anger it’s about understanding what your body is actually doing when it thinks it’s in danger. No shame. No “shoulds.” Just truth, clarity, and compassion. 🎧 Angry on the Inside is where two late diagnosed ADHD women, Jess and Jeannine, talk honestly about the intersection of brain chemistry, identity, and burnout. It’s real talk for women who’ve been told they’re too much, when really they were just running on empty. 00:00 – Fine to Furious in Seconds The ADHD Rage Experience Cold open that hooks listeners instantly with a relatable ADHD rage moment. 00:21 – Welcome to Angry on the Inside Real Talk for ADHD Women Show intro and disclaimer; Jess and Jeannine set the tone for honest, grounded conversation. 00:57 – What ADHD Rage Really Is (and Why It Isn’t Just Anger) Defining ADHD rage as chemistry, not character breaking down the real mechanics behind emotional flooding. 02:23 – Cortisol Explained Your Body’s Stress Alarm System Understanding what cortisol does, how it spikes, and why ADHD brains stay on alert longer. 03:59 – Why Cortisol Feels Like Fuel for the Fire How cortisol creates that temporary sense of control and why it’s really feeding the flames. 04:40 – Chemistry First, Reaction Second Reframing ADHD Rage AOI’s core reframe: emotional outbursts aren’t moral failures; they’re chemical chain reactions. 05:21 – When Triggers Stack Electronics, Traffic, and Tiny Explosions Everyday stories that reveal how sensory overload and stress stack until rage feels inevitable. 09:44 – The Crash and Shame Cycle After ADHD Rage Exploring the emotional hangover the exhaustion, guilt, and shame that follow a cortisol spike. 13:07 – Regulation and Recovery Finding Your Exit Ramp How to pause, breathe, and come down gently after emotional flooding without judgment. 15:54 – You’re Not Broken Just Wired Differently Final reflections and grounding reminder that ADHD rage is human, not hopeless.

Jess & Jeannine explore the ADHD tipping point.  The moment everything you’ve been holding together finally slips, and what it really means to rebuild without shame, burnout, or masks. When ADHD women hit the tipping point, it’s not failure, it’s the truth finally catching up. In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack why coping systems collapse, what “going over the edge” really means, and how to steady yourself when the scaffolding falls away. From masking fatigue and burnout to the relief and grief of diagnosis, this is the real conversation about ADHD overwhelm that most people don't get to hear. You’ll hear how life transitions, new jobs, parenthood, perimenopause, or pandemic chaos push many ADHD women to their limit, and how to recognize when that moment is coming again. ✨ What You’ll Hear: Why ADHD women hit tipping points (and how to see them sooner) How “structure” and “control” are often different things The link between burnout, hormones, and executive dysfunction Relief, grief, and what comes after diagnosis Why your next tipping point is a checkpoint, not a collapse Ways to communicate, prepare, and rebuild community support 00:00 – All the Plates Drop 00:30 – When Everything Finally Slips 01:08 – Parenthood, Promotion & Pandemic Chaos 02:26 – Masking, Overdoing, and the Slow Burn to Shutdown 05:54 – Structure Isn’t Control- It’s Capacity 10:40 – Scaffolding, Survival & Losing Your Map 14:01 – Relief & Grief: The Emotional Aftershock of Diagnosis 17:17 – The Cycles Keep Coming and That’s Okay 19:26 – Checkpoint, Not Failure 22:00 – Prepare, Communicate & Rebuild 22:59 – Outro | You’re Not Broken  

It’s Halloween, the dopamine’s high, and the masks are off, literally and figuratively for ADHD women. In this bonus “After Dark” episode, Jess and Jeannine get unmasked about ADHD, dopamine, chaos, and why Halloween feels like home for neurodivergent brains. From glow-stick jokes and dirty puns to executive dysfunction and dopamine hits, this episode celebrates the freedom, laughter, and chaos that come when the masks finally drop. It’s explicit, ridiculous, and weirdly validating exactly how AOI does Halloween. If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s ever loved the ritual, the chaos, or the permission to be someone else for a night, this one’s for you.     In this episode Why ADHD women love Halloween (and what dopamine has to do with it) Masking, unmasking, and the joy of pretending Chaos, costumes, and permission to be loud The AOI kind of “After Dark” unfiltered, funny, and a little filthy ⚠️ Explicit Content Notice This bonus episode is NSFW in the best way. Headphones recommended candy optional. 00:00 – The Neurodivergent Super Bowl Why ADHD women love Halloween chaos, creativity, and permission to be “too much.” 01:01 – Hot Glue Guns and False Starts Jess and Jeannine stumble through intros and burn jokes literally. 01:20 – Masking Meets Costume How pretending becomes power when ADHD women turn masking into play. 02:23 – Legalized Dopamine Candy, chaos, and serotonin Halloween as an executive-function win. 03:40 – Glow Sticks and Dirty Jokes From glow-stick daydreams to “After Dark” laughter unfiltered ADHD joy. 04:23 – The Only Holiday That Doesn’t Demand Happy Why Halloween feels safe, nostalgic, and sensory-friendly for neurodivergent brains. 06:10 – Belonging in the Weird Freedom, rebellion, and self-recognition the night our brains and the world align.  

For many women with ADHD, burnout doesn’t start with chaos it starts quietly. The slow burn builds in the background as we push harder, over-function, and hold everything together until it all gives way. In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack the hidden signs of the slow burn, the exhaustion you dismiss, the scaffolding you build to stay afloat, and the moment you realize willpower isn’t enough anymore. Through humor, honesty, and lived experience, they name what ADHD women often don’t recognize: the creeping overwhelm that comes before collapse. If you’ve ever wondered why “holding it together” feels harder every year, this one’s for you. Topics include: ADHD burnout, late diagnosis, executive-function fatigue, masking, medical gaslighting, and finding self-compassion when the system breaks down. You’re not alone in this and it’s not just you. 🎧 What ADHD Women Don’t Recognize: The Slow Burn Before Burnout Chapters (Exact Transcript Timestamps) 00:00 – Juggling Everything Jeannine opens with the quiet chaos of balancing work, family, and the invisible load of ADHD life. 00:45 – Naming the Slow Burn Jess defines the “slow burn” the exhaustion and cracks in the armor that appear long before burnout. 01:45 – Jeannine’s Story: Losing Structure Jeannine shares how staying home upended her scaffolding and led to recognizing her ADHD. 04:03 – Jess’s Story: When the Structure Fades Jess reflects on losing her anchors smoking, kids’ routines, motivation and seeing herself change. 07:18 – Dopamine and the Disappearing Drive They unpack ADHD, menopause, and the loss of natural motivation that turns daily life into survival. 08:43 – Comparing ADHD Stories A reminder that ADHD looks different for every woman comparison only fuels shame. 09:53 – When You “Should” Be Happy but Aren’t How meeting life’s goals can still feel hollow when executive function collapses. 11:42 – The Burnout Loop Jess and Jeannine discuss chasing unrealistic standards that drain the body and brain. 15:26 – Misdiagnosis and Medical Gaslighting Many ADHD women are mislabeled with anxiety or depression before getting the right diagnosis. 19:12 – The Shame Cycle How “doing everything right” can still fail and the loneliness of feeling broken with no answers. 20:00 – Running Out of Willpower Jess explains how discipline and willpower eventually collapse under ADHD burnout. 22:03 – The Warning Before Burnout Jess’s reflection and Jeannine’s closing reminder: burnout isn’t failure it’s your system asking for help. ADHD women, ADHD burnout, ADHD slow burn, executive dysfunction, masking, medical gaslighting, late-diagnosed ADHD, burnout recovery, neurodivergent exhaustion.

October isn’t quiet for anyone living with ADHD. In Part 2 of “October Is Loud,” Jess and Jeannine continue their deep dive through the month’s overlapping awareness causes. From domestic-violence and bullying prevention to dyslexia, LGBTQ+ visibility, disability employment, and cyber-safety. They connect every theme back to empathy, inclusion, and how visibility changes lives. Thoughtful, grounded, and real. This bonus episode closes the series with compassion and community. 00:00 – Intro & Content Warning 00:24 – Domestic Violence Awareness & Resources 01:35 – Bullying Prevention Month & Long-Term Impact 03:11 – Healing and Boundaries for ADHD Adults 03:36 – Learning Disabilities & Dyslexia Awareness 04:14 – LGBTQ+ History & Intersex Awareness Day 05:42 – Filipino American History Month & Representation 06:17 – Disability Employment & Cyber Safety Awareness 07:29 – Digital Safety Tips for ADHD Brains 08:13 – Other October Awareness Causes 08:42 – Final Reflection & Outro

Ever feel like your ADHD brain only runs on two settings? All in or completely shut down. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dive into the gray space between perfectionism and paralysis. They unpack rest guilt, hyper-independence, and why balance feels impossible for ADHD women. Honest, funny, and validating this conversation is a reminder that rest isn’t lazy, and living in the gray is its own kind of strength. 00:00 – The ADHD All-In or Shut-Down Cycle Jessica and Jeannine open with humor and honesty about living in extremes — why ADHD brains struggle to find the middle ground. 00:25 – Welcome to Angry on the Inside The hosts reintroduce themselves and clarify that these are lived experiences, not prescriptions — just real ADHD life talk. 01:14 – Rest vs. Laziness: The Myth That Won’t Die Exploring how ADHD, guilt, and conditioning make rest feel like failure — and how internalized “lazy” narratives start young. 02:42 – Feeling Perceived: ADHD, Help, and Hyper-Independence Why asking for help feels unsafe, how judgment shapes masking, and why many ADHD women equate support with weakness. 09:31 – Burnout and the Invisible Labor Load The conversation expands to hidden ADHD exhaustion — mental load, resentment, and constant overdrive that never fully stops. 11:37 – Social Media, Comparison, and Negative Independence Jeannine’s “rage about social media” leads into how ADHD brains chase impossible standards and equate worth with output. 11:48 – The Perfectionist Cycle Jessica outlines the 5-step ADHD perfectionism loop — unrealistic expectations, avoidance, paralysis, missed deadlines, shame. 16:17 – Reframing and Self-Compassion They unpack the role of reframing, self-talk, and running “in beta” — learning to release perfection and honor the process. 21:28 – What Else Could Be True? Tools vs. Tricks How to question assumptions, celebrate progress, and shift language — moving from “or” to “and” thinking for ADHD balance. 22:41 – That’s Not Normal: Turning Rest into Competition The classic AOI segment returns with ADHD humor: rest metrics, calendar guilt, and productivity cosplay gone wrong. 23:57 – Reclaiming the Gray From black-and-white thinking to naming what’s real — awareness as control, and permission to rest without earning it. 24:33 – Outro: Still Learning to Live in the Gray Signature AOI close — messy, funny, human. “If rest feels like guilt, you’re not alone… Maybe not. And that’s okay.”

October isn’t just busy it’s loud! Every awareness campaign seems to hit close to home for ADHD women. Why do they all circle back to us! In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine look at October through the ADHD lens: from breast cancer awareness and dysautonomia to health literacy, physical therapy, and mental health. They talk about how our bodies, our brains, and a healthcare system built on executive function collide and how self-awareness can become a form of self-advocacy. It’s honest, a little funny, and full of “oh that’s me” moments. Because if you’re an ADHD woman, October isn’t just about awareness — it’s about survival, curiosity, and learning to listen to your body 💛 Resources Mentioned 🩷 Breast Cancer Awareness Month Learn more about early detection, dense breast tissue, and screening guidelines: 👉 https://www.nationalbreastcancer.org 💙 The Dysautonomia Project Education and advocacy for people living with autonomic nervous system disorders (including POTS): 👉 https://www.dysautonomiaproject.org 🧘‍♀️ Physical Therapy Awareness Month Promoting movement, recovery, and access to neurodiversity-informed PT care: 👉 https://www.apta.org/ptmonth 📚 Health Literacy Month Building awareness around communication, understanding, and access in healthcare: 👉 https://healthliteracymonth.org 🧠 Mental Health Awareness / ADHD Resources Articles and screening tools for ADHD, depression, and anxiety: 👉 https://www.additudemag.com 👉 https://screening.mhanational.org 00:00 – October Through the ADHD Lens Jessica and Jeannine open with humor and hyperfocus, explaining how a simple follow-up turned into a deep dive into every awareness that October brings. 00:46 – Breast Cancer Awareness: Executive Function Meets Early Detection They discuss how ADHD impacts health maintenance, the realities of dense breast tissue, and the importance of MRI screenings and accountability buddies. 03:10 – Dysautonomia Awareness: The Overlap with ADHD The hosts unpack POTS, dysautonomia, and how misdiagnosis and medical gaslighting often mirror ADHD experiences. They highlight the Dysautonomia Project’s patient–clinician guide. 05:31 – Physical Therapy and the Neurodivergent Body They explore hypermobility, chronic pain, and the need for neurodiversity-informed PT care — reminding listeners that they’re not “just patients,” but customers deserving adaptable support. 06:57 – Health Literacy Month: When the System Runs on Executive Function Jessica and Jeannine connect ADHD with health communication gaps, emphasizing the need for neuroaffirming providers and resources that work for both sides of the exam room. 08:32 – Mental Health Awareness: Depression, Anxiety, and Missed ADHD They reflect on overlapping diagnoses, the importance of ADHD-informed therapy, and self-advocacy when working with clinicians. Links for Attitude Magazine and mental health screening tools are mentioned. 10:47 – Outro: The Body, the System, and What Comes Next Jessica and Jeannine close Part 1 with warmth and encouragement — a reminder to hydrate, rest, and schedule the appointments that have been waiting on the back burner.

Imposter syndrome hits differently for ADHD women especially those diagnosed later in life. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine unpack how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and impossible standards leave us questioning our worth. They talk about masking, burnout, and what it means to finally believe: you’re not the imposter the system is. Follow @angryontheinside for more candid ADHD conversations and unfiltered stories about late diagnosis, self-compassion, and neurodivergent life. 00:00 – Welcome & Disclaimer: ADHD, Imposter Feelings, and Real Talk Jess and Jeannine open the episode, define imposter feelings, and remind listeners that this is a real-life ADHD conversation, not therapy. 00:36 – What Is Imposter Syndrome in Women with ADHD? They unpack how self-doubt, fear of being “found out,” and difficulty accepting success often show up for ADHD women. 03:02 – Perfectionism, Negativity Bias, and ADHD Self-Doubt A discussion on how ADHD brains fixate on mistakes and confuse perfectionism with worthiness. 06:21 – Late ADHD Diagnosis and the Cycle of Self-Doubt Reflecting on the emotional mix of relief and doubt that comes with a late ADHD diagnosis. 08:27 – People-Pleasing, Overachievement, and ADHD Burnout How overworking and people-pleasing become survival tools that eventually lead to burnout. 11:03 – Letting Go of Coping Strategies and Finding Your Voice What happens when ADHD women stop people-pleasing and start speaking their truth aloud. 13:03 – Masking, Comparison, and Internalized Denial in ADHD How masking traits and comparing struggles feed denial and reinforce imposter feelings. 16:31 – That’s Not Normal: Calling Out ADHD Imposter Thoughts A lighthearted segment where Jess and Jeannine call out common ADHD imposter beliefs. 17:24 – Leaning Into ADHD: Diagnosis, Community & Acceptance Using diagnosis as a tool for self-understanding and finding connection in the ADHD community. 21:09 – Rewriting the Narrative: Self-Compassion & ADHD Women Closing reflections on journaling, acceptance, and reclaiming self-compassion for ADHD women. 23:32 – Kick Today in the Nuts: The Angry on the Inside Outro Jess and Jeannine wrap up with laughter, honesty, and that signature AOI reminder — you’re not alone, and you’ve got this (nuts and all).

Awareness Month isn’t just hashtags and graphics. It’s about being seen in a world that still misunderstands what ADHD actually looks like, especially for women. In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine get real about the emotional side of visibility: why “awareness” can feel equal parts empowering and terrifying, how perfectionism and masking show up even in advocacy, and what it really means to stand up and say, “Yes, this is ADHD.” They talk about representation that finally reflects our lived experience, the fear of being misunderstood (again), and the hope that comes from community and connection. Whether you’re loud and proud or still quietly figuring it out, you belong here. 💡 Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Awareness Month 2025 Theme + Resources: https://www.adhdawarenessmonth.org Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – ADHD Information: CDC Tool Kit (Partner Across a Lifetime) Find a Certified ADHD Coach (ACO Directory): ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO) ADDA – Attention Deficit Disorder Association: https://add.org 🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts — and remember: Visibility isn’t vanity. It’s survival. #ADHD #ADHDAwarenessMonth #ADHDPodcast #WomenWithADHD #LateDiagnosedADHD #NeurodiverseWomen #ADHDCommunity #ADHDAwareness #ADHDResources #ADHDSupport

ADHD loves extremes. All or nothing, perfect or broken. In episode 7, Jess and Jeannine unpack the sneaky illusion of black-and-white thinking and how it shapes everything from work to relationships to self-worth. They dig into why women with ADHD are especially vulnerable to this trap. The role of rejection sensitivity, executive function overload, and decades of masking that hard-wire perfectionism into identity. With humor, honesty, and a little chaos, they call out the myth that “good enough” isn’t enough and remind listeners that the gray area isn’t boring, it’s freedom. 🎙️ Angry on the Inside is a podcast for late-diagnosed women with ADHD who are done pretending they’re fine.

For women with ADHD, anger doesn’t always come out as yelling. It often hides in plain sight. Rage leaks out through tears, silence, shutdowns, guilt, or even endless “rage cleaning.” In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine break down why so many late-diagnosed women were taught that anger is unsafe, how that message turns rage inward, and the toll it takes on our bodies and relationships. They call out the lies behind “good girls don’t get mad,” unpack the shame cycle, and dig into the burnout, exhaustion, and physical symptoms that follow when anger gets buried instead of expressed. You’ll hear real talk about the ways ADHD rage shows up crying in fury, shutting down mid-argument, replaying fights for days in our minds, or feeling that buzzing intensity under your skin. Most importantly, Jess and Jeannine share how to start reframing anger as information, finding outlets that actually release it, and modeling healthier expressions of rage for the next generation of ADHD women. This isn’t about silencing anger, it’s about finally letting it breathe.

Getting an ADHD diagnosis is life-changing ,but who actually deserves to know? In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dig into the messy, personal, and sometimes hilarious reality of deciding who to tell about your ADHD. From supportive spouses and curious kids to skeptical family members and workplace politics, they explore the first circles, the second waves, and the “you don’t look ADHD” crowd. Expect raw honesty about shame, stigma, and self-advocacy.  Plus some soapbox moments and laughs along the way. Angry on the Inside is here to remind you: disclosure is your choice.

Getting an ADHD diagnosis as an adult doesn’t hand you a neat instruction manual. It drops you into a storm of relief, grief, and “Why the hell didn’t anyone catch this sooner?” In this episode, Jess and Jeannine get real about what happens after the diagnosis: the messy emotions, the missing pages, and the process of rewriting your story on your terms. Come with them into the emotional rollercoaster, the myths and misinformation, and why community, therapy, and self-compassion matter more than “fixing” yourself.

You can’t change what you can’t name and when it comes to ADHD, vocabulary isn’t optional. Women with late diagnoses have been slapped with labels like lazy, flaky, disorganized, or too much. None of those explain what’s actually happening in our brains. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dive into why words like time blindness and rejection sensitivity actually matter and how having the right vocabulary can shift the story from shame to self-understanding. We talk about family code words. How naming what’s happening in your ADHD brain can save relationships, sanity, and a whole lot of unnecessary guilt. This isn’t about fancy labels for the sake of it.  It’s about finally having the language to explain what’s going on, to ourselves and to the people around us. The truth is, vocabulary isn’t just semantics here. It’s survival.

If one more person says “we’re all a little ADHD,”! It might sound harmless but for women actually living with ADHD, it’s dismissive, frustrating, and deeply untrue. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dig into why ADHD is more than being forgetful or scattered, and how minimizing it fuels stigma, shame, and imposter syndrome. They highlight how ADHD shows up across a lifetime: through school struggles, puberty, parenting, work, and beyond. This is a conversation about the real impact ADHD has on women’s lives and why clarity matters when we push back against casual misconceptions. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re alone in your struggles, this episode will remind you that you’re not. ADHD is real, it’s lifelong, and it deserves to be understood.

In the debut episode of 'Angry on the Inside', hosts Jessica and Jeannine explore the complexities of late ADHD diagnosis in women. They share their personal journeys, the emotional impact of their diagnoses, and the importance of community support. The conversation delves into the misconceptions surrounding ADHD coaching, the challenges of societal expectations, and the emotional toll of masking. The hosts emphasize the need for understanding and validation within the ADHD community, encouraging listeners to embrace their experiences and seek connection.