Be Rare

Stop the negative self talk and fuck what the naysayers have to say. You are exactly where your supposed to be in your life, your That B**** stop doubting yourself 🦋

We make decisions everyday of our life and they impact our life so much. I am in a space where I am learning how important my decisions are & how they can affect me long term. Follow instagram @theberarepodcast

I have problems with letting go because I either internalize people leaving as something is wrong with me or I just can’t let go because I want everybody to come. In this episode we talk about the power of releasing & how you start attract what’s for you when you learn to let go.

Bitterness can show up and so many different way. During this episode I have AshleyMarie join me to talk about how bitterness can show up in grief, your younger self and love.

Stop letting fear control your life

Understand healing is one of the hardest things you will have to do and you making the decision that to heal is the start of a new beginning give yourself grace

Be honest with yourself & reflect 🦋

Let’s celebrate our wins big or small. Your that bitch babe 💜

Embrace that your human and being wrong can actually be a positive experience

Quit selling yourself short and settling for the bare minimum

Forgiveness starts with you

This is me being vulnerable and taking y’all on my healing journey with me.

In this deeply personal episode, Raven Haynes shares her own journey of breaking free from letting past mistakes define her future. She opens up about the pivotal moment when having her daughter forced her to get real about her choices and finally look within. From people-pleasing to unhealthy relationships to self-worth struggles, Raven lays it all out—how being self-aware and honest with herself helped her shift from blame to accountability, from shame to growth.She invites you to do the same: get to know yourself, own your flaws and your power, and rewrite the narrative you’ve been stuck in. Because you are not your mistakes—you are the person who learned from them, grew through them, and is still becoming.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:Why self-awareness is the real starting point for healingHow your past decisions can be a blessing, not a burdenLearning to forgive yourself for repeated patternsThe power of reframing “mistakes” into life lessonsWhy you must differentiate between a one-time mistake and a constant choicePractical reminders to talk to yourself with graceKey Quote:"Some things that were sent to hurt me actually blessed me. I am not my mistakes—I grew through them."Takeaway Challenge:Look in the mirror and get real: What patterns are you repeating?Give yourself grace—acknowledge that you’re human, not perfect.When you catch yourself beating yourself up, pause and say: I am not my mistakes. I am growing.Reminder:Healing takes time. You won’t break every pattern overnight—but you can choose to get up, learn, and move forward every single day.Need a safe space to process it all? Text Raven at (816) 412-4604 and join the community.Be rare. Be you. Be forgiving with yourself.

In this fiery, no-holds-barred episode, Raven Haynes reminds us that healing isn’t for the weak—it’s for the rare ones willing to fight back. If life has been hitting you with stress, overwhelm, self-doubt, or emotional setbacks, this episode is your wake-up call.Raven gets personal about how overthinking and routine disruptions tried to knock her out—but instead of folding, she chose to fight back. Through journaling, movement, music, and mental rewiring, she shares how to shift your energy, stand in your power, and keep swinging when life swings first.This episode is your permission slip to stop laying down and start swinging back—with grace, grit, and real tools that work.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:Signs that you're letting life “win” and how to spot them earlyPractical tools for fighting back: walking, journaling, dancing, affirmationsWhy self-talk matters more than ever in your low momentsReconnecting to your purpose when your emotions want to quitHow to break patterns of overwhelm, chaos, and self-sabotageKey Quote: "Your mama didn’t raise no punk. Life might swing, but you better swing back—because you’ve got a purpose on your life."Challenge of the Week:Identify your fight-back tools: Is it journaling, walking, dancing, meditation, or music?Check your self-talk: Are you lifting yourself up or tearing yourself down?Text Raven (816) 412- 4604 to commit to fighting back together this week.Takeaways:Overwhelm is a signal—use it to reset, not shut downThe way you talk to yourself when you’re low determines how fast you bounce backYou already have the tools—you just need to use themYou're not alone, and you were never meant to fight alone🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, YouTube, or at www.shopberare.com 📱Text Raven to join the Fight Back Challenge this week 💬 Follow @berarepodcast on IG for your weekly reminder to stay rare🔁 Be rare. Be you. Be authentic. Be a fighter.

In this deeply moving episode, Raven Haynes takes us on a vulnerable and powerful journey of healing our inner child. She opens up about the lasting impact of childhood trauma—how insecurity, bullying, and the need to feel accepted shaped her self-image, relationships, and voice as an adult.Raven shows us that unhealed wounds from our past will continue to show up in our present until we face them head-on. With raw honesty, she shares how acknowledging her pain, shifting her self-talk, and embracing childlike joy helped her rebuild confidence and reclaim her power.This episode is a call to action: to pause, reflect, and do the inner work that sets you free.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:How childhood trauma shapes adult insecuritiesThe real reason we seek outside validationWays trauma affects relationships, self-worth, and identityWhy healing your inner child helps unlock your most authentic selfSimple steps to begin the healing process and reparent yourselfKey Insight:“If you don’t deal with your childhood trauma, your inner child will keep making decisions for you—and that will hold you back from becoming everything you’re meant to be.”Challenge of the Week:Identify one childhood experience that still affects how you view yourself today.Write a letter to your younger self—acknowledge the pain, offer reassurance, and reclaim your power.Do one thing this week that your younger self loved—dance, sing, play, laugh—something that makes you feel free.Takeaways:You are not your past. You’re the person growing beyond it.Self-awareness is the first step to healing.Your inner child doesn’t need to run the show anymore—your healed adult self is in charge now.Fun is healing. Freedom is healing. You are healing.Tune in now on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, or at www.shopberare.com.Connect with Raven on IG @berarewithraven for more stories and real talk.Be rare. Be you. Be authentic.