Beautification of Communication - The Communification Podcast

"Something There" pregnancy announcement parody: https://youtu.be/oXxIiRkbOUE Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. Online dating while traveling can be tricky 2. When the pool of available singles is small, online dating can help open up options 3. Safety first, ALWAYS 4. A lot of the men she’s encountered online are MARRIED 5. Finding the right balance of self-disclosure in your bio is challenging for women with safety concerns Show notes: MalikaDudley.com/podcast Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):    Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media

1. Knowing what you want/need simplifies the process. 2. Misrepresentation happens, and some people might even have a blind spot for their fatal flaw.  3. Details on a study that is “everything wrong with our society in one place.” 4. Misrepresenting yourself doesn’t help anyone. 5. Our personal experiences with the “latency period” have garnered a range of results. Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):    Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media

1. Online dating is quite the journey no matter your sexual orientation and gender 2. Online dating is “work” 3. Meeting face-to-face quickly helps to not “waste time” on a relationship that won’t work 4. Meeting face-to-face quickly sometimes leads to uncomfortable (potentially dangerous) consequences 5. According to our cisgender male guest, “Men are lazy” 😂 Show notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. Self-presentation is the tool by which we manage other people’s impressions of ourselves. Dr. Hall explains. 2. As soon as we think we might want to get to know someone, our desire to reduce uncertainty goes really high. 3. Online we engage in what Dr. Hall calls strategic self-presentation. What is that? 4. Online “misrepresentations” are sometimes what some researchers call a “promise.” 5. Move to in person conversations as quickly as possible to reduce the potential for idealization. Show Notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. How aggression feeds into our digital addiction 2. Are we being used as pawns? 3. Where is the line between activism and cyberbullying? 4. Using the rules of publishing, social media tools to navigate this 5. Parenting and cyberbullying - what’s the plan? Show Notes: MalikaDudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  Mahalo to The Barrier Method and the Show Aloha Challenge for donating to local charities as a part of our pre-roll giveback program.  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. Our “mean girl” experiences were a sign of the times 2. Malika’s defense mechanism for trauma 3. Balancing freedom of speech, exposure to tech, and safety 4. Lyssa fell into a bad crowd because they accepted her & didn’t judge 5. The internet is the wild, wild west Show notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. Eighth grade seems to be the tipping point 2. We learn new terms: doxing, flaming, trolling, cyber stalking… 3. How the five trials of adolescence (physical, parental, social, occupational, sexual) factor in to cyberbullying 4. How the Skills Deficit Model & General Regression Model help to explain cyberbullying 5. When bystanders should and shouldn’t intervene 6. How to prevent cyberbullying: the rules of publishing 7. What to do if you have been cyberbullied   Show notes: https://www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/cyberbullying-social-media-agression-how-to-deal-with-it Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):   Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media

Main takeaways: 1. Body ideals change, as does our own body image 2. Transparency, authenticity and awareness are key 3. Designing our social media environment is so important 4. The relationship between desirability and self worth 5. A reflection of our own personal struggles, and the strategies we’ve used to overcome them   Show notes: www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/i-did-not-love-myself-unpacking-our-body-image-issues-kimie-anuhea Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. More than 50% of young people are unhappy with the way they look. 2. Body dissatisfaction is not just a problem for young girls, but for women, young boy, and men too. 3. Beauty ideals are very specific. It’s hard to achieve something that is simply unattainable. 4. We tend to make upward comparisons. How does that impact us? 5. You have control. You create your social media environment. Be intentional with what you create for yourself. Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/are-you-dissatisfied-with-your-body-you-are-not-alone Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  Pre-roll Giveback: Mahalo to Society Bikini Hawaii and Maui Pizza Truck for donating to the Maui Food Bank! For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media  

Malika went back to grad school after a 15 year break - to finish what she started and to pursue her passion for communication theory.  In the Spring of 2021, she auditioned to be student speaker and was selected by the selection committee. It was her great honor to represent the Class of 2021.  Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. We all know prolific liars AND transparent liars… but it’s nice to know that most people are honest most of the time. 2. When we were younger, we were liars. 3. Mika shares how she lost trust in an ex-boyfriend after incriminating texts surfaced. 4. Malika shares a personal story that will hurt your heart. 5. A discussion about “fake news” from the perspective of two journalists Show notes: www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/liar-we-talk-about-being-deceived-and-yes-lying-to-others Pre-roll Giveback: Mahalo to Society Bikini Hawaii and Maui Family Magazine for donating to the Maui Humane Society and Project Hawaii Inc. Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media      

1. You can be honest and not be rude. You can be honest and protect your privacy. It’s not all or nothing.
 2. We learn about both the positive and negative consequences of lying.
 3. How honest are people really? Dr. Levine shares his research.
  4. We break down demeanor. Can you tell someone is lying by their body language alone? 5. We talk about deception and relationships. Is it easier or harder to detect lies in our close relationships? Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/lyinganddeceptionhaveyoubeenduped Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  Pre-roll Giveback: Mahalo to Pukalani Superette, Maui Video & Marketing, and Texaco in Hawaii for donating to Alzheimer Association of Hawaii, the Maui Foodbank, and HUGS Hawaii (respectively).  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media      

1. You are not alone. We commiserate on trying to integrate technology into our lives in a healthy way. 2. The pandemic has made it even harder - and yet technology has also helped us get through the pandemic without going crazy. 3. Learning and adapting to the world our children are growing up in. 4. How recovering perfectionists can use “bumpers” to help guide us.  5. What 5-year-old Waipuna said about parental phubbing that made us all tear up. Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/mom-dad-get-off-your-phone Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media    

1. Phubbing can result in negative social and psychological outcomes 2. Why people don’t like being phubbed 3. How parents can set healthy expectations for their digital use when in their children’s presence 4. Balancing using the phone for professional reasons, personal reasons, and engaging with our children 5. The surprising research-based strategy that has been a god send for Malika and her family This episode is centered on “parental phubbing” - together, we find out from an expert (Dr. Soo Yun Shin, UH-Mānoa Department of Communicology) what that is, why we should be concerned, and get some research-based strategies to help with the beautification of our communication.  Family media plan resource can be found in the show notes.  Show notes: https://www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/communication-tips-for-the-digitally-distracted-parent Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Malika's Amazon Storefront - Book recommendations, fave non-toxic products, life and bio hacking, kids travel essentials, etc... Hearth Display - Our digital calendar and routine chart Bed Jet - The cooling system I use to manage perimenopause hot flashes 😂 Eeskin Shower Filter - 23% off, coupon automatically added to cart Lettuce Grow - $125 off, our hydroponic garden system Ahima Dishes - The stainless steel dishware we got for the kiddos as we get rid of plastic in our household Aires Tech EMF protection - 25% discount with code: Malika25 (automatically applied) Copyright 2021-2025 Malika Dudley Media