Beauty in Battle Podcast

Beauty in Battle is a high-energy conversation for married couples to help you energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In this podcast, Jason and Tori Benham share the stories of their relationship and the practical ways they turned conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose by leaning into their struggles rather than trying to avoid them. As a result, they discovered that fighting together drew them together. Their message is clear - you don’t need to stop fighting; you need to start fighting … the right way. When you and your spouse choose to no longer fight against each other in a personal battle but alongside one another in a spiritual war, the results are amazing as you begin to recognize your God-given purpose together. Laced with practical insights and easy-to-follow steps, our discussions will help you discover:* The number one relationship killer and how to stay away from it. * How to combat negative thinking toward your spouse. * The one key that will magnetize you to your spouse and your spouse to you.* How to win your love back when “you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.”* Why there was a wedding crasher at the first marriage in history and how he showed up at your wedding too. We all fight. The question is, will you discover the beauty in battle? We're here to help you do just that!

Dodging Relational Drift

Send us a text Busyness doesn’t kill intimacy—drifting does. In this episode, we unpack how small, unguarded moments lead to danger in marriage. You’ll learn the four-stage drift progression and simple ways to close the gap. Drift isn’t failure; it’s feedback. Enjoy.

12-17
30:43

Why You Keep Having The Same Argument

Send us a text Most couples think they’re fighting about dishes or tone—but they’re actually fighting a pattern. In this episode, we unpack the 4-part cycle that keeps conflicts on repeat and show you how to break it. This one will totally reshape how you handle recurring arguments.

12-04
26:10

The Gratitude Reset

Send us a text Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for emotional and relational health. In this special Thanksgiving episode, we explore how gratitude rewires your mind, draws you closer to your spouse, and keeps negativity from taking over your marriage.

11-25
21:08

Breaking Generational Trauma

Send us a text Emotional pain doesn’t end with us—it echoes through generations. In this episode, we unpack Reuben’s story to show how family trauma repeats and three keys that can break the cycle. Enjoy! Oh, and it's that time again - our Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat in July of 2026. Click HERE for more info. Come hang with us!

11-12
23:24

Four Steps To Calm The Chaos

Send us a text When life feels chaotic, it’s easy to get stuck in your head instead of staying connected to your spouse. In this episode, we share four simple steps to calm the chaos. Each one helps you reset your mind, release stress, and reconnect emotionally. Enjoy.

10-29
22:45

The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p2)

Send us a text Healthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 2 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage, based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy

10-14
30:06

The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p1)

Send us a text Healthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 1 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage, based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy

10-03
31:16

Fighting Together

Send us a text Charlie Kirk’s assassination shook the nation—and reminded us that we’re in a spiritual fight. In this episode, we explore how couples can grow stronger by fighting together by knowing the three battles we all face and how to achieve victory in each. Let's do this!

09-15
29:51

Labeling Emotions

Send us a text One of the deepest ways to connect with your spouse is by tuning in to what you’re both feeling. In this episode, we talk about the power of labeling emotions and how recognizing what’s going on in your body can help you identify and express what’s going on in your heart. Enjoy

09-03
23:22

The Power of Presence

Send us a text Your presence is the greatest gift you can give. In this episode, we talk about the power of being fully present in your marriage—what’s stealing it, how to protect it, and how to get it back. This one’s a wake-up call to stop drifting and start showing up. Enjoy!

08-26
35:34

Getting Back To Your Roots

Send us a text When marriage feels stuck or stale, sometimes the best way forward is to go back—back to your roots. In this episode, we draw from the book of Hebrews to break down five things you likely did when you first fell in love—and how doing them again can breathe new life into your relationship. Enjoy.

08-12
30:27

How To Stir Up Your Spouse

Send us a text Marriage is about more than just living together—it’s about motivating each other to become all God created you to be. In this episode, we dive into Hebrews 10:24 and share three keys to stirring up your spouse to love and good works. Enjoy Ask ChatGPT

08-01
36:07

Breaking Down Gratitude

Send us a text Gratitude isn’t just polite—it’s powerful. In this episode, we break down what gratitude really is and how it can transform your marriage from the inside out. You’ll learn the difference between gratitude, thankfulness, and thanksgiving, and walk through four simple steps to grow in everyday appreciation for your spouse. Enjoy

07-22
25:06

Two Staples Of A Strong Marriage

Send us a text Every strong marriage is built on two key pillars: Devotion and Discipline. In this episode, we explore two ways to demonstrate loyalty and two ways to utilize discipline so your marriage becomes stronger, sweeter, and more secure. Enjoy. Ask ChatGPT

07-09
29:08

Good Conflict vs Bad Conflict

Send us a text Not all conflict is bad—in fact, good conflict can deepen your connection and strengthen your marriage. In this episode, we break down the difference between good conflict and bad conflict, and three practical steps you can take that bring you closer, not further apart. Enjoy Ask ChatGPT

06-30
32:16

Three Levels of Unity

Send us a text In marriage, unity isn’t just about getting along—it’s about building a deep bond on multiple levels. In this episode, we break down the Three Levels of Unity from Philippians 2. When you move from simply living together to truly partnering in life, work, and faith, your marriage becomes stronger and more fulfilling. Enjoy.

06-16
24:43

Love Your Spouse Love Yourself

Send us a text Want to feel more fulfilled in life? Start by loving your spouse. In this episode, we unpack the powerful truth that when you love your spouse well, you're actually loving yourself. Loving your spouse isn’t just a gift to them—it’s the best investment you can make in your own well-being. Enjoy.

06-04
23:32

Raising Godly Kids

Send us a text Raising godly kids doesn’t happen by accident—it takes prayer and example. In this episode, we share three powerful things to pray for and three key things to model. Tune in for practical ways to lead your children with both intention and joy.

05-23
34:31

Three Ways To Listen

Send us a text In this episode, we unpack the three types of listening that show up in marriage—and why only one of them leads to real connection. It’s not about winning the conversation—it’s about winning your spouse’s heart. Tune in to discover how shifting your listening style can transform the way you love.

05-06
17:24

Three Keys To Social Awareness

Send us a text In marriage, social awareness is a game-changer. In this episode, we explore three simple keys to help you grow: paying attention to cues, bids, and triggers. When you learn to spot these little things, you’ll connect deeper, fight less, and love smarter. Enjoy

04-28
30:23

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