Before You Go There Podcast

Marriage is a privilege, not a right. Though it's tempting to use the union as an excuse to get things out of life that you can’t get on your own, if you rely solely on your spouse for happiness, security and self worth, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. By developing an attitude that sees your marriage as an opportunity rather than a problem, you'll be able to strengthen your bond and create memories in which you are both proud.Follow us on instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforeyougotherepodcast/Follow us on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/beforeyougotherepodcastMikel on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/iammikelbrwn/Maria on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/vintageone_/

Maria explains that the main reason most relationships end up in the wrong direction is the failure to build a solid friendship. If your partner is not your friend, they will not be your go-to person. Mikel also speaks about self-sabotage and why it is a major sign of your relationship heading in the wrong direction. Lastly, we tell you how you can go past your wrong-direction relationship. Tune in to listen to this and much more! Key Highlights00:00 Intro03:48 How Mikel’s and Maria’s relationship started going in the wrong direction08:25 Why you should build a solid friendship with your partner22:49 Signs of your relationship heading in the wrong direction28:30 How Mikel realized their relationship was headed in the wrong direction33:22 How Maria realized their relationship was headed in the wrong direction39:20 How to go past going in the wrong direction46:07 Book a vent session with us Are you constantly at odds in your relationship? Seems like you sometimes would rather be away from home than at home? Everyone wants to be seen, heard and loved. Click the link for a FREE 30 minute vent session with us to discover the relationship mistakes you didn't know you were making.www.iknowyougottavent.comFollow us on instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforeyougotherepodcast/Follow us on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/beforeyougotherepodcastMikel on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/iammikelbrwn/Maria on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/vintageone_/

Setting boundaries is not usually the topic of conversation on a date night. However, it can cause havoc in your relationship, if it is not addressed. Many people have a negative connotation when it comes to setting boundaries. There is usually a thought that something has to be wrong if a boundary is being set. In Episode 8, Maria and Mikel discuss the importance of boundary setting and what happened to them when they failed to set boundaries. They also discuss how it has been healthy for them to set boundaries in the relationship, with friends and family and even in parenting. Show Notes00:00 Introduction2:40 Topic3:10 Definition3:33 Maria used to never say "no"3:53 No Boundaries = People Pleaser4:57 You can't pour from an empty cup5:20 Mikel's view on boundaries5:42 No boundaries means people will take advantage of you6:56 Set boundaries in every area of your life8:29 Level of access9:00 When you forget, others remember10:24 Dating Boundaries14:26 You can't change anyone19:50 In a Relationship Boundaries26:46 Trigger Conversation is necessary37:23 Married Boundaries40:58 Boundaries protect you41:33 Boundaries with your kids45:06 Set the environment for boundary conversation45:50 How did we get through boundary setting47:57 Fine line between caring and controlling49:11 Establish boundaries52:50 Setting boundaries tips54:39 Sponsor- Free 30 min. vent session56:17 ClosingAre you constantly at odds in your relationship? Seems like you sometimes would rather be away from home than at home? Everyone wants to be seen, heard and loved. Click the link for a FREE 30 minute vent session with us to discover the relationship mistakes you didn't know you were making.www.iknowyougottavent.comBuy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

It is said that the best relationship is one where your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. What this means is that you should be able to impact your partner positively and not negatively, so as to bring out the best in them.This, however, cannot happen when we are suffering in silence in our relationships. What does this mean? It is when one person or both people in a relationship are suffering and acting like everything is okay. They don't speak out about their problems and challenges in the relationship. According to relationship experts, keeping it all inside is not good for anyone involved and can cause more harm than good. In today's episode, we share with you how suffering in silence affects you, how you can open up about it to your partner by developing healthy communication channels with each other, and even seeking therapy when needed. We also share with you some of our past experiences when we suffered in silence, how we dealt with the situations, and how the lessons we learned from these experiences made us a better couple! We hope that you enjoy the episode! Key Highlights[00:00] Intro[01:06] Our special day[03:22] Mikel’s 31-day seller’s challenge manual[06:01] What suffering in silence means to you.[08:30] Emotion arousal[11:40] Opening up about your relationship[12:40] Being negatively content in a relationship[17:42] When Maria suffered in silence[26:14] When Mikel suffered in silence[29:02] Lessons we learned from our suffering in silence[32:08] How you could be suffering in silence in a good space[34:05] Creating healthy communication channels in your marriage[35:18] Double suffering in silence during COVID-19[39:41] Cheating in marriage and how we overcame it[42:54] Suffering in silence during separation[45:49] Why men cheat[47:46] Why women cheat][48:20] Going past suffering in silence[52:25] Creating a definition dictionary for healthy communicationClick the link for a FREE 30 minute vent session with uswww.iknowyougottavent.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

If you’re married, most likely, you have spoken the common vows of, “In sickness and in health, to death due us part”. However, it’s not real until it’s real. In this episode, we will discuss some of the darkness moments in our relationship. We will give our perspectives on the subject, as well as talk about what things we wish we could have changed. In full transparency, marriage is hard work! Those vows are usually said as part of the routine in a marriage ceremony, but you never know how you will respond, until it’s standing at your front door. Before You Go There Podcast will show you how important it is to mean what you say and say what you mean. Show Notes0:00 Introduction4:38 Today’s Topic5:30 Sickness & Health vs. Good & Bad6:06 Identify the area of sickness7:39 Followed the “blueprint”8:43 Who’s going to coach you out of bad?9:11 Memory Lane28:02 You don’t suppose to be here30:30 We separated31:31 2020 was horrible32:06 A man needs to feel wanted35:00 I cared but I didn’t 36:54 I should have been there41:05 Am I creating an environment for my partner to communicate? 43:50 I don’t need you to agree, I just need you to understand48:09 It has to start with you51:07 How did you get through it?52:38 It’s not real until it’s real57:33 Sometimes you might not get it right59:42 Closing Download 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

In this episode, we discuss how hitting below the belt can be detrimental to the current and future state of your relationship. It is not uncommon to have a disagreement with your Partner. It is almost expected because there will be times where you both are not on the same page. The problem becomes when a disagreement turns into a TKO and you hit below the belt. It is vital that you effectively communicate your concerns without disparaging your partner. In a fight, your ultimate goal is to knock out your opponent but this should never be your goal in a disagreement with your Partner.0:00 Introduction1:28 Today’s Topic3:01 Why are you arguing?4:09 We were good for hitting below the belt8:38 Running out of words12:14 What did you just say?15:19 I said what I said19:43 Steps to prevent you from hitting below the belt20:00 Don’t go to bed angry21:55 Let your partner know y’all are good24:27 Using what was told to you in a vulnerable state24:47 TKO: Hitting below the belt affects the future28:28 In the wrong weight class29:01 Do check-ins with yourself, your Partner and your Therapist37:02 How did you get past it?37:08 Maria’s Response37:35 Mikel’s Response*38:06 You don’t have to agree, just understand40:46 Perspectives and Definitions matter46:34 Call to ActionDownload 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

We can literally make an argument over anything. It can begin frivolous and turn into a heated argument. Communication is imperative but sometimes you have to simply ask yourself.... Does it even matter? Does it matter, in this moment. It's important to stay in the moment and try not to make decisions based off of past experiences that you've healed from. Before You Go There Podcast talks about how asking yourself, "Does it even matter?" can help you reassess the current situation at hand, without formulating opinions based off of past experiences. •Crazy Day •Today’s Topic •Bringing things from childhood •Help Me•Didn’t know what to help with•Partnership starts•Bringing people into your marriage•Live in the moment•In this moment, does it even matter? •Predicting your future •What Matters? •Not fair to say, “that doesn’t matter” •Doesn’t mean nothing matters •It’s about timing •The way you present it, matters •Ask yourself, does it even matter? •How did you get past it? •Remember the reason •Closing Download 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

It is easy to go through the motions and become so routine that you fail to realize how much you need each other. We were on auto-pilot and acted as if there was no purpose in being together….until we separated. Separation showed us how much we complimented each other and how we took our presence for granted. •introduction •The Topic • Maria’s Response •Mikel’s Response •Mikel’s First Meal •Things we take for granted  •Maria’s Dream  •Mikel’s Grocery Shopping  •No more arguing  •Are you saved or nah?  •What did we miss during separation  •How did we get past the separation  •The hardest part for us  •Mikel’s health issue •ClosingDownload 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

Sometimes life can cause you to go into “Survivor Mode”. The place where you focus on doing and disregarding the emotional aspect of life. In this episode, we talk about how Survivor Mode played a part in the disintegration of our marriage.Download 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

Sometimes knowing is half the battle. The other half is knowing the WHY. Before You Go There podcast talks about the reasons they found themselves cheating. They discuss what they felt they were lacking and how they overcame it.  Download 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram

This introduction is about us being transparent about the obstacles in marriage. Our goal is to help you overcome them using the analogy of melted chocolate! Follow us as we take you on our journey. Download 5 FREE steps to love recovery guidewww.beforeyougothere.comJoin our Patreon Community Buy us a cup of coffeeFollow us on instagramFollow us on FacebookMikel on InstagramMaria on Instagram