Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

In this episode of *Betrayal Recovery Radio*, Dr. Jake Porter hosts a discussion with Pam Blizzard and Steph Farnsworth, exploring the complex layers of relational abuse within the context of betrayal trauma. They define relational abuse as a covert, disempowering experience, highlighting how behaviors like gaslighting and manipulation compound the pain of betrayal, creating a "double abuse" effect. Together, they discuss the challenges betrayed partners face in reclaiming their sense of reality and autonomy, while also offering hope for healing through boundary-setting, group support, and personal empowerment. For betraying partners, the episode offers insights into developing empathy and understanding the importance of transparency. This episode is a resourceful guide for both partners navigating the path to relational healing. Links: ⁠http://apsats.org⁠ ⁠http://drjakeporter.com⁠ ⁠http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers⁠ ⁠http://recoveredpeace.com⁠ ⁠http://recoveredpeace.com/about-steph⁠ This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this episode of *Betrayal Recovery Radio*, Dr. Jake Porter hosts a discussion with Pam Blizzard and Steph Farnsworth, exploring the complex layers of relational abuse within the context of betrayal trauma. They define relational abuse as a covert, disempowering experience, highlighting how behaviors like gaslighting and manipulation compound the pain of betrayal, creating a "double abuse" effect. Together, they discuss the challenges betrayed partners face in reclaiming their sense of reality and autonomy, while also offering hope for healing through boundary-setting, group support, and personal empowerment. For betraying partners, the episode offers insights into developing empathy and understanding the importance of transparency. This episode is a resourceful guide for both partners navigating the path to relational healing. Links: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers http://recoveredpeace.com http://recoveredpeace.com/about-steph This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In recent years, the demand for "intensive treatment" has increased, as more and more betrayed partners seem methods of accelerating their healing process. Though relatively new to the field of professional counseling and coaching, intensives have become keystone elements of some individuals' recovery journeys. In this episode, Dr. Jake is joined by APSATS Board Member Aarti Chidambaram to discuss what intensives are and how they can benefit betrayed partners. Links: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com https://www.therelational.com/staff/Aartihttp://instagram.com/discovery_to_recovery This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

Advances in neurotherapy now allow specialized clinicians to take much of the guesswork out of understanding and working toward healing for those affected by trauma. APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Laura Childers is just such an expert, using cutting edge technologies to look into the brains of betrayed partners and recovering addicts in order to better diagnose and device treatments for deep change. Join this fascinating conversation between Dr. Jake and Laura as they discuss how neurotherapy can open new pathways to health and restoration for betrayed partners. Links: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com https://houstonneurosolutions.com/ This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In today's episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, we delve into the complexities of the holiday season, a time filled with joy but often marred by the challenges of betrayal trauma. Joined by Rebecca Ray, we'll navigate the delicate dynamics faced by those affected by betrayal, whether as the betrayed or the betrayer. Rebecca Ray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in Texas, Colorado, Missouri, and Florida and owner/founder of Ray Family Therapy in Houston, Texas. Rebecca is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and certified in EMDR therapy. Rebecca is married, has three children ages 18, 14, and 9. In her free time, she loves reading, hiking with her dog, and when it isn't too hot she does HIIT workouts in her garage. In January, Ray Family Therapy will offer training to therapists and coaches to develop practical skills working with adoptees and adoptive families; Treating Adoptees and Adoptive Families Across the Lifespan. As an adoptee, Rebecca understands first-hand the trauma experienced in foster care and the adoption process. Additionally, Rebecca wrote an ebook, The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship, to help couples get off autopilot and into the core awareness of their core needs and desires.  Links to find Rebecca: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rayfamilytherapy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rayfamilytherapy LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rayfamilytherapy LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rebeccaraytherapist Ray Family Therapy: www.rayfamilytherapy.com Ray Family Therapy Adoption Training: https://www.rayfamilytherapy.com/adoptiontraining To download The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship go to: https://keap.page/ivx304/creating-healthy-relationships.html

In this interview I share the results of my Masters thesis which show that rates of domestic violence are considerably higher in the lives of partners of sex addicts than in the general population. This is significant because women are arriving daily on therapists’ doorsteps seeking help for betrayal trauma, but with their experiences of DV under recognized and under disclosed. Moreover the study looked into what factors were associated with more frequent violence and damaging types of violence (i.e., physical and sexual) and what factors were associated with violence mitigation.  Links to find Lisa! https://beyondbetrayal.community https://nakedtruthproject.com/get-help/ 2024 Daring Way Retreats: https://go.drjakeporter.com/daringway2024?r_done=1

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. In this engaging installment titled "Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast," we delve deep into the complex landscape of betrayal within relationships. Joining Dr. Jake in this enlightening discussion are esteemed colleagues: Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Tim Stein. These experts are not only colleagues but also close friends who co-host the Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships Podcast. Their chemistry is palpable, and their wisdom profound. In this episode, we confront the challenging questions frequently posed by those grappling with the revelation of betrayal in their relationships. You'll witness a civil and enlightening exchange of perspectives, showcasing the power of dialogue and empathy in navigating the intricate web of betrayal. Links in this episode: Check out Conversations!: https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZpYca91XJ0DIkTt2CCjSZ https://podcasts.apple.com/is/podcast/conversations-on-sex-addiction-and-relationships/id1576738924 Dan Drake: https://www.banyantherapy.com Wendy Conquest: https://wendyconquest.com Jeanne Vattuone: https://jeannevattuone.com Time Stein: https://timsteinmft.com Jake Porter: https://go.drjakeporter.com/?r_done=1

Often when doing couples recovery work, the approach is from a neurotypical lens following betrayal trauma and sex addition. This may work for many couples, but what about when these approaches aren’t working for the long term healing of the relationship? Many couples share that it can be frustrating and discouraging especially when both partners in the couple ship desires growth and change. We are going to be talking about another lens and perspective to consider when one or both partners are autistic, have Asperger traits, or wonder if they may be on the spectrum. We will be: • Recognizing this may be a consideration to explore • Understanding the impact on healing and recovery • Moving forward with adjustments and unique tools Navigating The Depths Summit: navigatingthedepths.com

In this podcast episode, we explore the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training (BTRL), a customized program designed for professionals within religious and faith-based communities. Our interview with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens uncovers the core of BTRL, focusing on the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). Attendees learn to provide response, assessment, and support to those experiencing betrayal trauma, incorporating faith into their approach. The four-day training, supplemented with mentorship groups, equips participants with the skills needed to serve their religious community, emphasizing empathy and understanding, and enabling various religious organizations, non-profits, and clinicians to address betrayal trauma within their specific faith setting. Links: https://www.apsats.org/BetrayalTraumaReligiousLeader http://www.apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com

Sex addiction and betrayal doesn't have to take your parenting to new lows. In fact, by focusing on your core values you can realign your efforts to breathe new life into your parenting. People wonder what to tell the children and how to become a "family in recovery." It is possible to achieve peak parenting by recognizing your weak spots and using tools to combat the things that are pulling you into defeat. Join us as we discuss how to navigate the road of recovery while reaching new, more meaningful connections with your children. Believe it or not, your family relationships can blossom and flourish during this time. Windell Gill interviews Stacey Sadler for this impacting session.

When your partner has a sexual addiction, acting out comes with the territory. Dealing with it is hard, even learning about it can be traumatic. But what about the behaviors INSIDE the relationship? How do you recognize and respond to inappropriate treatment from a partner? How do you become personally and relationally healthier when at least some of the trauma you find yourself experiencing is due to your partner's behavior inside the relationship? Whether overt or covert, whether emotional, psychological, sexual, or physical- considering the health of the patterns within the relationship can add another layer of complexity when looking at partnerships struggling with sex addiction. And yet, it is so necessary to take a deeper look at what is happening in order to really understand and serve women and men impacted by addiction. Links to find Kim: www.onesafespace.com (Safe Space Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100082947741547) kim@lifechangingservices.org or kimssafespace@gmail.com

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal.  Links in this episode: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions: https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries Website: https://RecoveredPeace.com Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery: https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal.  Links in this episode: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions: https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries Website: https://RecoveredPeace.com Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery: https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all." Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all." Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

In the second part of this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more than just maintaining sobriety. He was committed not only to addressing the root causes of his addiction and the behavioural effects of his dysfunctional childhood, but also to learning how to help Fran heal, to rebuild their relationship, and to continue his own personal growth journey. Gradually he became able to open up and share his secrets so that they were able to fight their respective trauma demons together. Richard took full responsibility for his actions and fully embraced recovery so that they could build a fuller and deeper relationship, increasing intimacy at all levels, especially emotionally and spiritually. They were deliberate in creating new memories and in making the most of moments of joy. As part of his post-traumatic growth, Richard was deeply committed to supporting other men in recovery gain freedom and growth.

In this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more than just maintaining sobriety. He was committed not only to addressing the root causes of his addiction and the behavioural effects of his dysfunctional childhood, but also to learning how to help Fran heal, to rebuild their relationship, and to continue his own personal growth journey. Gradually he became able to open up and share his secrets so that they were able to fight their respective trauma demons together. Richard took full responsibility for his actions and fully embraced recovery so that they could build a fuller and deeper relationship, increasing intimacy at all levels, especially emotionally and spiritually. They were deliberate in creating new memories and in making the most of moments of joy. As part of his post-traumatic growth, Richard was deeply committed to supporting other men in recovery gain freedom and growth.

"What if my husband won't see a therapist?" "When should we start having sex again?" "Why is he sober but still not connecting?" In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews the hostesses of the Hope for Wives podcast — Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, and Pam Blizzard. The three women are able to balance a plain-spoken, no-nonsense telling of the truth with compassion, support, and wisdom. Drawing from both their personal experience and professional expertise, Lyschel, Bonnie, and Pam take on hard questions Dr. Jake has received from betrayed partners of sex addict. You won't want to miss this informative and hope-giving episode! Links in this episode: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com https://hopeforwives.com/ http://hoperedefined.org http://strongwives.com http://recoveredpeace.com

Over the last two decades, the way mental health professionals understand and treat the experience of betrayal has radically shifted from an emphasis on co-addiction and codependency to an embrace of the traumatic nature of intimate betrayal. In this conversation with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, and Kathy Reynolds, they reflect both personally and professionally on this evolution and discuss how neglecting the treatment of betrayal trauma has consequences not only for the betrayed partner, but also the entire family system. Modalities for treating this trauma are discusses, as well as a paradigm for seeing betrayal trauma treatment as a matter of justice. Stacey, Cheryl, and Kathy are teaming up to provide a brand new program for betrayed partnered, Returning to You™. They give a preview of this unique therapeutic retreat designed from the ground up for betrayed partners to address their trauma. If you are interested in the Returning to You™ Partner Program, use the link below. Mention that you heard about the program on APSATS Betrayal Recovery Radio to receive a 5% discount on the cost of the retreat. http://apsats.org http://daringventures.com/returningtoyou http://drjakeporter.com

Grief: The sticky middle piece of the betrayal recovery experience and the place many partners and couples get stuck. It seems that many in Western culture have lost the intuitive communal mourning processes that are still so common in other cultures. We have individualized and privatized our grief and mourning into a strictly personal affair. But there is so much value in the shared and collective experience of mourning, the knowing and being known of letting it be seen. Join Cat and Jake as they explore the value of communal mourning and discuss ways to share the grief experience between couples and communities. Links in this episode: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-Texas https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-Australia https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texas http://www.nakedtruthproject.com Discount codes for retreats: $100 USD off US grief retreat using code - RET100USD $100 AUD off Australian grief retreat using code - RET100AUD $200 USD off couples retreat using code - RETREAT200USD