Beyond the To-Do List - Productivity for Work and Life

Marriage communication looks different when both partners are neurodivergent — so Jackie Kelley and her husband built their own rules from scratch.Jackie Kelley is a neurodivergent storyteller, illustrator, wife, and mother based in Gilbert, Arizona. Through her social media content and viral "Marriage Rules" videos, she helps couples build communication rhythms that actually fit their lives. Her book is So You Married a Human: The Totally Doable, Unconventional Guide to a Thriving Partnership(Zondervan, 2026).In this conversation, we cover:Self-regulation before communication: Why you can't talk through a fried nervous system — and what "getting yourself right" actually looks like before a hard conversation happens.The email rule: How writing instead of talking transformed the worst season of Jackie and her husband's marriage, and why the format matters as much as the content.Microwave vs. crockpot: What happens when two people process emotions at completely different speeds — and how to stop mistaking slow processing for passive aggression.Tell me more: The practical shift from "why are you being so difficult" to getting curious, and why it works especially when neither person is actually wrong.Marriage on autopilot: How couples quietly lose the fact that they like each other, and what scheduling intentional fun actually gives back.If the standard marriage advice has ever felt like it was written for someone else's brain — or someone else's relationship — this conversation is worth your time. Jackie makes a genuine case that building structure into a marriage isn't the opposite of romance. It's what makes room for it. Grab So You Married a Human wherever books are sold.Connect with Jackie:soyoumarriedahuman.com@stayathomejackie on InstagramConnect with ErikLinkedInThreadsFacebookBlueskyThis Podcast is Powered ByBrain.fm - 20% off your first monthDescriptDescript 101CastmagicEcammPodpageRodecaster ProGrab Shortcasts from Beyond The To-Do List by Blinkist: http://beyondthetodolist.com/blinkistSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Work-life balance and boundaries are at the center of this conversation with Sarah Armstrong, author of The Art of the Juggling Act.Sarah Armstrong is the head of Global Marketing Operations at Google and the author of The Art of the Juggling Act: A Bite-Sized Guide for Working Parents. With a career spanning McKinsey, Leo Burnett, and two decades at Coca-Cola, she writes and speaks about what it actually looks like to show up for both work and life — and how to decide which is which.In this conversation, we cover:The 5-ball framework: Work, family, friends, health, and spirit — Sarah's framework for identifying which balls in your life are rubber (they bounce when dropped) and which are glass (they don't), and why that distinction is more useful than any calendar hack.Defining balance on your own terms: Why balance isn't a fixed state you achieve once and maintain, why imbalance is inevitable (not if, but when), and how deciding what balance means for you is the work before the tactics.Saying no without explaining yourself: The story of a colleague who turned down a request with no justification — and why the absence of an explanation wasn't rude, it was the skill.The Grace block and the Sunday list: Two low-friction practices that protect non-work time — a standing calendar block that signals you're off, and a Sunday habit for parking unfinished thoughts so your brain can actually stop carrying them.Outsourcing and the transference of hours: The cost-value equation for deciding what to offload, and why the real question isn't what something costs — it's what you'd do with the hours you get back.If you're a working parent who feels like you're failing at everything simultaneously, this conversation is worth your full attention. Sarah doesn't promise balance — she helps you figure out what yours actually looks like, and gives you the tools to protect it. Find her book, The Art of the Juggling Act, at the links below.Connect with Sarah:saraharmstrong.comThe Art of the Juggling ActConnect with Erik:LinkedInThreadsFacebookBlueskyThis Podcast is Powered By:Brain.fm - 20% off your first monthDescriptDescript 101CastmagicEcammPodpageRodecaster ProGrab Shortcasts from Beyond The To-Do List by Blinkist: http://beyondthetodolist.com/blinkistSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Goal setting, intentional living, and following through are at the center of this conversation with Chris Bailey, productivity author and co-host of the Intentional AI podcast.Chris Bailey's work traces a decade-long arc — from The Productivity Project to Hyperfocus to How to Calm Your Mind. His new book, Intentional: How to Finish What You Start, pulls that thread together, arguing that following through has less to do with discipline than with knowing what you actually value. He returns to the show for the seventh time, going all the way back to 2014.In this conversation, we cover:Values as the real engine of follow-through: why a scientifically validated values test (Schwartz's 12 values) predicts what you finish better than any goal hack.The CP-atone trap: how the idea of a goal — waking up at 5 a.m. — seduces us more than the daily reality of living it, and how to catch yourself doing it.Editing vs. dropping goals: treating a goal like a draft you revise, and why quitting can close the loop rather than mark a failure.Why SMART goals don't hold up: the research Chris expected to endorse and ended up taking apart.Islands of intention and the rule of three: small daily practices for stepping off autopilot and lining up your actions with what matters.If you've ever pushed through a goal you no longer wanted — or quit one and felt guilty about it — this conversation reframes both. You'll leave with a way to check your goals against what you actually value, plus a couple of small practices to make tomorrow more deliberate than today. Start with the book, Intentional: How to Finish What You Start, and Chris's free 12-values overview at chrisbailey.com.Also on the show: Laura Vanderkam on time scarcity, and Chris's Intentional AI co-host David Sparks.Connect with Chris:Chris Bailey — chrisbailey.comIntentional: How to Finish What You Start (swap in your retail/affiliate link)Intentional AI podcast, with David Sparks (confirm show URL)Connect with Erik:LinkedInThreadsFacebookBlueskyThis Podcast is Powered By:Brain.fm - 20% off your first monthDescriptDescript 101CastmagicEcammPodpageRodecaster ProGrab Shortcasts from Beyond The To-Do List by Blinkist: http://beyondthetodolist.com/blinkistSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Creativity, play, and intentional living are at the center of this conversation with Rachael Renae, artist and author of Prioritize Play.Rachael Renae is an artist, workshop facilitator, and self-described "creativity hype gal" based in Detroit. After more than a decade as an engineer and years running a handmade stationery business, she now helps people reconnect with their creativity through play — through workshops, one-on-one coaching, and a creative community called The Juice Box. Prioritize Play is her debut book, and she narrates the audiobook herself.In this conversation, we cover:Play over productivity: Why Rachael reframes creativity as "play" — low-stakes, no expectations — and why that shift reaches the people who insist they're "not creative."The monetization trap: What running a handmade stationery business taught her about pouring all your creative energy into a side hustle, and why a passion doesn't have to become a job to be worth your time.Create more than you consume: How endless inspiration-gathering — Pinterest boards, research, getting ready to get ready — masquerades as creativity, and why imperfect action beats it every time.Structure that supports, not restricts: Using "scaffolding" instead of rigid schedules, loosening the rules so the habit actually sticks, and working with your brain — ADHD included — instead of against it.Self-trust and "salad bar energy": Building confidence in your own decisions by trying things and setting them aside — plus permission to be "mid interested" in something without having to master it.If you've hit every success marker and still feel depleted — or you've quietly decided you're "not creative" — this is an invitation to put play back on your plate. Rachael's challenge is small and immediate: make a seasonal play list, or take the free hour a canceled meeting hands you and spend it on something that fills you instead of the next chore. Grab Prioritize Play wherever you get your books — and if you liked her voice here, she reads the audiobook herself.Connect with Rachael:Prioritize Play (book)rachaelrenae.comInstagram: @rachaelrenaeChaotic Creatives podcastConnect with Erik:LinkedInThreadsFacebookBlueskyThis Podcast is Powered By:Brain.fm - 20% off your first monthDescriptDescript 101CastmagicEcammPodpageRodecaster ProGrab Shortcasts from Beyond The To-Do List by Blinkist:http://beyondthetodolist.com/blinkistSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Self-awareness, mindset, and personal productivity are at the center of this conversation with Lisa Marker-Robbins, a Master Certified Birkman Method coach — one of the roughly 3% of consultants at that level.Lisa has taken more than 4,000 people through the Birkman assessment over 30-plus years. She runs an executive coaching practice for adults and founded Flourish Coaching, where she helps 15–25-year-olds find career clarity before they spend years and tuition on the wrong path. She started out as a teacher, and the through-line — helping people understand how they're built — never left.In this conversation, we cover:What Birkman measures that most assessments miss: Not just how you behave, but what you need from other people, and how you react when those needs go unmet.The four colors and nine components: Why your "usual," your "needs," and your "stress" scores tell three different stories about the same person.Working with your wiring instead of against it: Why, as Lisa puts it, you shouldn't "should" on yourself — and what to build instead.Introversion, assertiveness, and restlessness: Erik's own scores become the worked example, and what they explain about energy, recharging, and a renewed ADHD diagnosis.Career clarity as a productivity tool: How knowing your wiring narrows an overwhelming field of options down to a first step that actually fits.This one's for anyone tired of trying to fix themselves into someone they're not — and curious how they're actually wired, so they can work, lead, and live more like themselves. Self-awareness isn't the finish line here; it's the thing that makes the rest of your life work better. Find Lisa's work below.Connect with Lisa:Executive Coaching — LisaMarkerRobbins.comFlourish Coaching — Career Clarity for 15–25-year-oldsLinkedInConnect with Erik:LinkedInThreadsFacebookThis Podcast is Powered By:Brain.fm - 20% off your first monthDescriptDescript 101CastmagicEcammPodpageRodecaster ProGrab Shortcasts from Beyond The To-Do List by Blinkist:http://beyondthetodolist.com/blinkistSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.