Black Marriage Therapy

In today's episode, we're going to dive into the topic of love using Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love as our guide. This theory breaks down love into three main parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. By understanding these components, we hope to unravel the complexities of romantic connections and shed light on the different forms love can take. I'll also share some personal stories and observations I've gathered from talking to various couples. These real-life experiences will help us explore the diverse ways people express and experience love. Lastly, we'll offer some practical tips and advice based on both research and personal insights.  Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Sternberg Theory: Find out More! Psychologist Explains (Video):  Sternberg Theory Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self. In this episode, we're diving into the world of attachment styles – the unique ways we connect with others, influenced by our early relationships. We'll explore why knowing about attachment styles matters for building strong relationships and sharing our own stories to help you understand their impact. Whether it's feeling secure in closeness, worrying about being left, or preferring independence, we'll break down how these styles shape how we love. Join us for practical tips and advice to navigate attachment styles, helping you create deeper, more satisfying connections in your life. Podcast Mentions BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ Support this Podcast: Click Here Attachment Style Quiz: Quiz Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT: Wired for Love (book on attachment) Amir Levine M.D, Rachel Heller M.A: Attached (book on attachment) Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Today, we're breaking the mold by exploring the idea of going into business with your spouse. Meet Troy & Shantel Brooks, childhood friends turned spouses and business partners, sharing their journey from NYC to Atlanta with purpose, impact, and faith. In their book "Spartners," Troy & Shantel provide practical insights on how working with your spouse can enrich your marriage. Join us as we uncover reflective practices to reveal the value in your partner as a business ally and discover the gifts within your spouse for a purposeful life. In this episode, we will be learning about the Spartnership approach, the dynamics of partnership in marriage and business, and tips and advice for those of you interested in learning more about how to become Spartners. Podcast Mentions Support this PODCAST: Click Here Pre-Order the Spartners Book: Click Here Meet the Brooks:  Click Here Connect with the Brooks on Instagram: Insta Link Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Black Marriage Therapy is sponsored by BetterHelp! If you struggle to say sorry and offer your spouse authentic apologies in your relationship you are not alone. It is human nature to want to defend yourself when being critiqued about your behavior but it is essential that as couples we learn the art and the dance of apologizing. In this episode I want to share all that I have learned. In this episode, we will discuss the importance of apologies, the wrong way to apologize, the different ways people receive apologies, and tips tricks and advice to help you become better at apologizing. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self. Podcast Mentions Dr. Gary Chapman: The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships Dr. Harriet Lerner: Why Won't You Apologize? Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage Be Hard Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

There are moments in our lives that stick with us for a lifetime. Some of these moments, however, carry wounds so deep that we bury them, pretending they never existed—Until…… someone accidentally touches it. Then what?..... When left unaddressed, these invisible traumas can cast a long shadow over our lives and, more specifically, our marriages. In this episode, we're privileged to have an expert guide us through this sensitive topic. Joining us is Kaara Kiddoe, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the Co-Founder of Authentic Marriages, a Christian marriage ministry she runs alongside her husband, Dr. Jared Kiddoe. Their mission is to promote emotionally and spiritually healthy marriages in the Black and Brown communities across the globe.  Guest Info Find Kaara Kiddoe: Authentic Marriages Kaara Kiddoe:  Instagram Podcast Mentions Why Am I Like This?: Book Link The Body Keeps the Score: Book Link Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Most marriages that are successful can attribute that success to the level of intentionality they put into the marriage. In every aspect of marriage, intention is like the wheels that make the car move. As the year came to a close Junior and I felt the strain our new commitments put on our relationship and decided quickly, to make the necessary changes to realign and make our relationship a priority. So for 2024, we are learning from our missteps and failures to create a better future for our relationship through intention. So If you feel like your marriage is stagnant and having trouble growing in your relationship with your partner this episode is for you. In this episode, we will discuss how to design the marriage you want through intentionality. Podcast Mentions Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Thanksgiving is about grandmas sweet potato pie and mac and cheese but its also about being thankful and showing gratitude. so for this thanks giving we are talking about gratitude. the benefits and why its so important we are also discussing reasons we are grateful this season. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

What’s love got to do with it? Many people feel that they have to feel head over heels in love in order to pursue a serious relationship but is love truly necessary for marriage. In this episode we give our definitions of love, decide if it’s necessary or not for a marriage and which is more important love or respect. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Surprise! We are pregnant with baby #2. Yooooooo 👀 we forreal having a whole nutha baby! In this episode we are just shooting the breeze talking about why we made a decision to have another child being open to your authentic desires and many other things baby and family related . Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Is there anything that we can do that would make us end our relationship? In this episode we discuss deal breakers in marriage! Deal-breakers are the things that will cause you to call it quits — no matter how long you've been together. We discuss how are dealbreakers have changed over the years, what ours are currently and the conversation of divorce in christian culture. The story of Bobby Love Link: https://www.today.com/video/how-1-couple-overcame-a-40-year-old-secret-123631173934 Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Marriage is difficult and sometimes you just dot feel like it. over the years we have realized that those are the moments where you have to choose to stay married. When the hard times happen sometimes remembering why you made those vows in the first place helps you continue on the journey we call marriage. In this episode we go over 9 reason we are choosing to keep those vows for another year. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

WOW, we have been married for 9 years! It feels like the years have flown by! We have have lived so much life in so little time but we are forever grateful to have done it with one another. Our marriage has had so many good moments and also so many learning moments. In this episode Junior and I discuss 9 BIG mistakes that we have made over the years. But wait there's more, next week we will be sharing 9 reason we are choosing each other for another year. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

I know its not Thursday but today we throwing it back. This episode is one of our most listened to, if you're new to the podcast here's your chance to join the conversation. Do you think they hit all the points? Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall in your man’s mind? In this episode, Jeff and I discuss what we believe are some common themes men would like to express to women. Fair warning in this episode we are being raw and honest expect to get a lot of laughs but forgive us after you listen. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com.  Don't forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you!  Podcast Socials:   Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons  Facebook: @lifelemonlesson  Host’s Instagram handles:   Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13  Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

This weekend we had an amazing trip to Atlanta to visit friends, while we were there the conversation of needs in relationship was sparked. This was interesting for junior and I because we had just had an argument about this very topic. In this episode junior and I hash out some unresolved conversations and discuss what are needs are in this relationship and what to do if you realize yours aren’t being met. Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Many people use happiness as a barometer of success! Is happiness all its cut out to be or is it overpromising and under delivering? In this episode Junior and I discuss our definitions of happiness, why its so sought after and alternatives to happiness? Join us every Wednesday, topics include but are not limited to: wellness, parenting, life skills, self-discovery, marriage, etc. If you would like us to discuss something in particular, be sure to send your suggestions to lifeslemonslessons@gmail.com. Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Twitter and Instagram : @lemons_lessons Facebook: @lifelemonlesson Host’s Instagram handles: Christ-Lynn Smith: @lovelynn13 Junior Smith: @p.reach_t.each --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackmarriagetherapy/support