Bonding

This week we’re talking all about edging, orgasm control and denial - one of my favourite kinks as a submissive. But it’s also one of the kinks I see people get very activated about for a number of reasons. And I want to explore today, why that is, what beliefs we might have as a collective around the idea of “denial” and what that means for us, but also to explore the benefits of edging, orgasm control and denial, so we can understand what it is, why we do it, and bust some misconceptions. Support the showSign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode I talk about the rise in the "Pleasure Dom" trend, why I think this term is confusing and somewhat of a "lazy" label, and a few different theories around the Pleasure Dom label that are important to consider.If this episode resonates with you, and you want to explore your Dominance in a way that feels authentic and aligned with your own individual desires then applications are now open for our 8 Week Mentorship: Embodying Authentic Dominance. Support the showSign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe

What if you're not a bad Dom/me? What if I told you that you just didn't know how to receive submission properly? In this episode, I talk about what it means to surrender as a Dom/me and the important role it plays in a successful D/s dynamic. We'll dive into people pleasing, "topping from the top" and ways you can feel more confident in receiving submission from your partner, so you both feel the delicious flow of power exchange. In this episode, I also invite you to download our PDF "Co-create your ideal D/s Dynamic" - a 4 page PDF with the EXACT questions Master Carlos and I use to evaluate our dynamic regularly. GET IT HERE!In addition, we now have spots open for our 8 week mentorship program Embodying Authentic Dominance - Starting in September. You can apply now and be Dom/me ready by Halloween! Support the showSign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe

Happy New Year, kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and this one is a JUICY one! 💦I’ve recently been reflecting on the work that I do, both as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist and Kink Coach and Educator, and feeling fascinated and privileged at witnessing the amazing transformations that happen when people can embrace their kinky selves.Something I have witnessed when working with these Kink focused clients, is how the topic of sex, kink and pleasure, quickly open up this door to other parts of themselves that could otherwise take much longer for therapy clients to connect with. This is where, and I’ve spoken about this on the podcast before - kink really is a great form of shadow work.I suppose the main point of these reflections is that I have always found the work I do from a kink lens to go a lot deeper a lot quicker, because we’re already in the shadows from the start, which makes it much easier to reach those more vulnerable parts of ourselves.So I’m celebrating this work and sharing with you my insights on how kink can help us to connect to our full authentic selves, both inside and outside of the bedroom!Support the showSign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings, fellow kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and today’s special focus is on impact play. In this jam-packed podcast, we dive deep into the art of impact - uncovering the science behind why we enjoy pain-based pleasure, discussing essential safety and communication practices, and revealing insider techniques to level up your impact play skills.And for those of you in the London area, get ready for an unforgettable experience! We're hosting an in-person impact play workshop on December 18th, perfect for couples and pairs who want to learn in a fully equipped dungeon setting. This partnered event will guide you through impact fundamentals, introduce a variety of sensual implements, and provide personalized feedback to help you build confidence and expand your impact repertoire. Space is limited, so don't wait to reserve your spot.Buy your ticketSupport the showSign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe