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Waterboarding for Fruit

Hey, it's Dave—and on this episode of Building a Better Dave, I talk all about the weirdness that is Halloween in my neighborhood lately. As October rolls in, I've noticed a crazy escalation in skeleton yard decorations. What used to be simple six-foot skeletons have turned into these massive twelve-foot giants. I can't help but wonder if this is just the middle-aged version of keeping up with the Joneses. Halloween itself has always struck me as strange, especially when you factor in how expensive candy has gotten (seriously, $15 a bag now?!) and how we've all just accepted feeding our kids mountains of sugar as tradition. Confession: If I buy a bunch of candy, I'm probably just going to eat it myself, which is why I might skip handing it out altogether and let myself get "tricked" this year. This episode, I also reminisce about the good old days of Halloween pranks—TPing houses, knocking and running, and my brother's infamous police escort home after getting caught. My dad was definitely not amused. It feels like those harmless pranks just don't happen anymore—probably because today's doorbell cameras have killed the fun. Of course, I have to mention bobbing for apples, which, looking back, is basically waterboarding with fruit. Pump enough apple cider into a kid and you end up with what I like to call the "Runs" (and I list every synonym I can think of—because why not?). And what's up with every costume needing to be "slutty" these days? Slutty nurse, slutty librarian, even slutty Daffy Duck! Not sure when that trend started, but it seems to get more out there every year. I wrap up by admitting I bought a new Christmas tree—when all I intended was a little four-foot tree, I walked out with a seven-and-a-half foot beauty. Honestly, I think I'm trying to recapture one of my favorite childhood memories: coming in from the snow, curling up in front of the tree with a thick blanket and some hot chocolate from my mom. That feeling of safety just sticks with me, especially as the holidays get closer. Hope you enjoy my holiday ramblings, stories of waterboarding for fruit, and my skepticism about modern Halloween. Until next time, hang in there—it's going to get better. Highlights: Giant skeletons and the one-upmanship of Halloween decorations The economics—and temptations—of Halloween candy How doorbell cameras ruined classic Halloween pranks Bobbing for apples: my take on this bizarre tradition The rise of "slutty" costumes and my bewilderment Reflecting on the holidays and chasing those cozy, safe memories Did this episode make you laugh,cry, think, or groan? Consider buying Dave a coffee.

10-17
12:16

Old Habits Die Hard

In this episode, I open up about a recent experience I had on Reddit where, despite my own advice, I ended up feeding the trolls. I share how I got pulled into a frustrating back-and-forth with someone who just wasn't open to any input, and how that made me reflect on my own "educator mindset"—the urge to resolve every conflict or misunderstanding online. I talk about the importance of setting boundaries not just with online trolls, but also when inviting podcast guests onto your show. Remember: if someone really wants to be on your show, they'll usually find time that works for you. On the personal side, I give an update about being busier than ever at my church due to a colleague's health issues. I discuss how this has affected my routine, my stress levels (thanks for the heads up, Oura Ring!), and the push I'm giving myself to prioritize health and movement—even if it means just getting out to walk at my local park. Plus, I share a little inspiration from watching the Ozzy Osbourne documentary "Coming Home," which has me thinking about aging, health, and making time for what really matters. --- Key Takeaways: - Don't let internet trolls drain your energy—learn to recognize when to disengage (even if you think that last message might "fix" things). - When it comes to podcasting, don't be afraid to set your own boundaries around scheduling guests. - Some people just aren't open to feedback, and that's okay—sometimes it's best to step back. - Make sure your social profiles link to your website to help connect with people you actually can help. - Growth comes from noticing your own patterns—and learning from your mistakes. - Keep prioritizing your health and well-being, even when life gets busy. - Inspiration can come from unexpected places—even a documentary about Ozzy Osbourne. --- Links Mentioned: Coming Home -Ozzy Osbourne documentary  Connect with Me: betterdave.com Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, do consider buying me a coffee :)  

10-09
13:40

I'm Going to Need Some Proof Please...

So I had no idea I would get backlash about saying, "Hey I think Charlie Kirk might be on to something about this we shold all talk to each other.." thing going on. I got TONS of people tell me to dig deeper and I found a black, gay dude standing up for Charlie.  Wait, I thought Charlie was a racist homophobe? Then I was told to quit cherry picking videos. Taylor Swift casting spells? Um, no.  

09-22
12:27

Where Did My Country Go?

I just don't recognize my country. I got to see someone shot in the neck and die today. Then people cheered because they didn't like his opinions. It just seems so weird. Meawhile the mainstram media fans the flames of the divided states of America, and nobody knows how to have a dialogue anymore. All we do is shoot each other, and the bad news is I don't know how to fix it, and I don't trust the people in power.  So welcome to my rant as I scream into the void.

09-11
13:04

14 Hours in a Car

So I'm driving to Chicago and back over a weekend. That's 14 hours in a car. While I'm not ancient, I'm not young. I'm not 23 anymore. Did I just write a check with my mind that my body can't cash? I'm trying to find some food in Chicago and took a wrong turn. Chicago, like every city in America, is a good place to get shot if you're on the wrong side of the city.  How am I going find the balance of not doing things that I may not be able to do without stopping myself from enjoying life? Like the show? Buy me a coffee?

07-19
14:58

But I Can Still Play Ping Pong

In this episode, Dave shares a candid account of his recent health updates, and it's a mix of challenges and victories. From starting the year with new exercise routines to discovering unexpected health issues, Dave opens up about how turning 60 has brought a wave of concern regarding blood sugar, blood pressure, and thyroid issues. With a dash of humor, he recounts the quirks of testing his blood sugar and the surprise diagnosis of diabetes. Yet, amidst the medical hurdles, Dave finds a silver lining—a triumphant return to the ping pong table despite the obstacles.  Join us as Dave explores the balance between health management and enjoying life's simple pleasures. Whether it's doctor visits or winning ping pong matches, it's all about building a better Dave. Tune in for a story of resilience, self-discovery, and the occasional game-changing rally.

04-10
16:56

Father Time is Undefeated

Today I share some insights as I deal with the loss of a friend. Death sucks, but when you lose people who are YOUNGER then you, with no warning, it really sucks. Today I talk about losing my friend Niel Guilarte who I worked with during the making of The Messengers: A Podcast Documentary We got to room with each other at events, and we just clicked. We always made each other laugh. My favorite was when Niel would start laughing and he couldn't finish the story he had started.  When you start to see your heroes get old and some cracks around the edges, it's sad, but it's a warning sign. Niel was here, and the next day he wasn't. He leaves a wife and 11-year old daughter he adored, and a new house.  He was the best friend of one of my favorite people Chris Krimitsos. Which is one of the things that is adding to the pain. I have people in Florida who could use a hug. I love to help people, and in this case there is nothing I can do.  Mentioned In This Episode Bookends - Simon and Garfunkel Bette Midler - Stay With Me Niel's Gofund Me There are times you feel bad. The lights are off and it seems like there is no way home. Keep moving. It's funny when I have to do a sermon in my church, something ALWAYS comes up on Facebook that fits. This is what came up: 41 is Coming In the Bible, it rained for 40 days and 40 nights. Day 41 came and the rain stopped. Moses committed murder & hid in the desert for 40 years. Year 41 came, and God called him to help rescue Israel. Moses went up on the mountain for 40 days. On day 41, he received the Ten Commandments. The Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years. Year 41, they walked into the Promised Land. Goliath taunted Israel for 40 days. Day 41 came, and David slew him. Jonah preached a message of repentance to Ninevah for 40 days. On day 41, God stopped His plan to destroy them. Jesus fasted and was tempted for 40 days. Day 41, and the devil fled. After His resurrection, Jesus appeared to His disciples for 40 days. On day 41, He ascended into Heaven. All this to say...don't quit. The rain will stop, the giant will fall, and you will enter your "promised land." Don't give up at 40. 41 is coming. See you later Niel.

03-01
28:07

Someone Stop This Train

This was recorded during my last few minutes of being 59. Life is dragging me kicking and screaming into my 60s. I'm not happy about it.  Don't you get it? I'm 23 honest. I've been 23 my whole life?  Have I made my last trip to Dairy Queen? It turns out everything I eat is poison. That's something you know but don't care, and it turns out you should've cared a little more than you did. John Mayer has a great song called "Stop this Train" that has a line John  Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" I was able to renew my drivers license for 8 years which means aside from a sticker (which I can get through the mail) I will be 68 the next time I renew my liscene. WHen you go to the MBV you go in and get a number, and wait for your name to be called. I kind of feel like a 'This is not a drill" situation, and I'm waiting for my number to be called. UNlike the BMV, I'm hoping for a very long line. You can buy me a coffee for my birthday using this link. John Mayer - Stop This Train No I'm not colorblind I know the world is black and white Try to keep an open mind but I just can't sleep on this tonight Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin' in I know I can't But honestly Won't someone stop this train? Don't know how else to say it Don't wanna see my parents go One generation's length away From fighting life out on my own   So scared of getting older I'm only good at being young So I play the numbers game To find a way to say that Life has just begun Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" "Don't stop this train" "Don't for a minute change" "The place you're in" "And don't think I couldn't" "Ever understand" "I tried my hand" "John, honestly" "We'll never stop this train."   Once in a while When its good It'll feel like it should And they're all still around And you're still safe and sound And you don't miss a thing Till you cry when you're drivin' away in the dark Singing   Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin in I know I can't 'Cause now I see I'll never stop this train

02-08
12:35

I'm not a Car Guy

Episode Summary In this episode, Dave reflects on his recent struggles with his car in frigid Ohio weather and how it reminded him of the "old days" of dealing with unreliable vehicles. From the quirks of old, hand-me-down cars to the challenges of modern, fuel-injected engines, Dave humorously recounts the learning curves of car maintenance. The episode dives into the importance of adaptability, whether in fixing a car, keeping up with evolving technology, or navigating life's unexpected hurdles. If you like this show, you can buy me a coffee. Main Takeaways Winter Woes & Car Troubles: Dave shares his frustrations about his car refusing to start in Ohio's brutal winter weather. Memories of growing up with unreliable cars and the "DIY" fixes of the past (like using Bondo or ether) highlight how technology has changed car maintenance. Lessons in Adaptability: From cars to technology, Dave emphasizes the importance of staying adaptable and keeping up with advancements. He parallels learning to fix cars and his ongoing efforts to master artificial intelligence and SEO. Keeping Emergency Funds & Friends Handy: Dave reminds listeners of the value of having an emergency fund and reliable friends who can lend their expertise when needed. His Ford mechanic friend saves the day with a simple car-starting trick. Balancing Technology & Life: Dave acknowledges how fast-paced technology evolves and highlights the importance of continuous learning to avoid falling behind. He reflects on losing weight, staying updated with AI, and preparing for a milestone birthday. Humor & Nostalgia: Dave's stories about his past cars (like the "Slova" and Fred Flintstone-style Datsun) bring laughter and nostalgia. The absurd quirks of old vehicles, like passenger doors flying open mid-drive, make for entertaining storytelling. Notable Quotes "If you don't keep learning, you don't just stop—you go backwards." "I could pop the hood, look at it, and say, 'Yep, there it is. That's the engine.'" "Every car I bought, the very first day, I swapped out the stereo for ear-bleeding madness." Resources Mentioned Dave Ramsey's Emergency Fund Advice: A reminder to always be prepared for unexpected expenses. Check out his book. Artificial Intelligence & SEO: Dave's exploration of how these tools are shaping the future of technology and online presence. Listener Call to Action Stay tuned for the next episode, where Dave dives into how his upcoming milestone birthday is messing with his head. Visit Us: BetterDave.com Subscribe: www.betterdave.com/follow

01-10
15:34

The Gift of Covid

A Christmas Conundrum: What do you do when the much-anticipated family gathering is jeopardized by an unexpected bout of COVID-19? Dave recounts his experience, offering a candid and touching perspective on the true meaning of the season. Reminiscing with Friends: From cherished childhood memories to the pains and aches of getting older, Dave and his best friend embark on a nostalgic journey, bringing laughs and poignant moments. The Gift of Adaptation: Learn how Dave turned a disappointing holiday season into a moment of gratitude and reflection, even dubbing COVID-19 as an unexpected Christmas gift. Chicken Noodle Soup for the Soul: A simple can of soup leads Dave down memory lane, teaching us all the power of sensory experiences and the warmth of family traditions. Adventures in Everyday Life: From rolling into a gas station with an empty tank to making peace with life's unpredictable nature, Dave's tales offer inspiration and a fresh perspective on life's little adventures.

12-20
16:01

An Easy Way to Make $50 a Month

I filed for Bankrupcy in 2004. I know there is a difference between being poor and being BROKE.  Today I share a strategy I've been doing for most of this year and it's saving me close to $50 a month and I don't have to do a thing. A bundle of Disney+, Hulu, and Max is $30/month Peacock $14/month Paramount and Showtime $13/month. Total: $57 (and yes, I know there are more).  Rotate Your Streaming Services: Cancel all but one streaming service at a time. Saves up to $50 a month by only paying for one service at a time. Focus on quality content, avoiding time wasted on subpar shows. ⭐ Smart Meal Planning: Instead of eating out, consider quick and affordable home cooking. A simple George Foreman Grill can make delicious burgers at a fraction of the cost. This not only saves money but is healthier and faster than fast food. ⭐ Avoid Impulse Purchases: Think twice before buying things you don't need, especially during sales. Consider if the purchase truly adds value to your life. Practice this discipline to accelerate your journey towards being debt-free. Want more money tips? Check out "Get Your Money Working For You." Want to give back? Buy Me a Coffee (or two).

10-22
12:05

What's Wrong with My Brain? Dealing with Self-Doubt and Recognition

In the latest episode, I share my personal experience with podcasting, detailing how I ended up in podcasting post-divorce while living in my brother's basement. Despite successfully establishing myself over two decades and earning recognition, I still struggle with imposter syndrome. Reflecting on accolades like being called an influencer and my moves within the industry, I discuss the complicated feelings of self-worth and acceptance. Wrapping up, I share some cozy moments from my day-to-day life, which help ground me amid these introspective thoughts. Clips from Podnews Weekly Podnews Daily Like the show? Buy me a coffee.

10-10
20:14

Get Your Money Working For You

Welcome to another episode of Better Dave! Today, I'm diving into the fascinating world of personal finance and exploring how we can get our money working for us. I've spent over three decades with the same bank, but recently, I've rediscovered the benefits of modern financial tools like SoFi and Acorns.  As I monitor my income and outcome in Monarch, I have noticed the more attention you spend on your money, the more money there is to manage.  Whether you're drowning in debt or just looking for smarter ways to manage your finances, there's something here for everyone. So, let's get started on building a better financial future together! Mentioned In This Episode Sofi online bank account Acorns Banking (round up and invest) Monarch Budgeting Program Enjoy the show? Buy Dave a Coffee (or two)

06-27
13:43

Losing Everything to Gain Perspective- A Story of Hope and Humanity

Today's story reminds us there's still hope in humanity. In this episode, our host, Dave Jackson, shares a personal mishap that turns into a surprising testament to the goodness of people. After a pleasant bike ride in Ohio, Dave discovers he's lost his wallet, containing all his essential cards and cash. His frantic search proves futile, leading to setbacks as he navigates the day without his wallet. Lessons Learned: Do not put ALL of your cards in your wallet.  Enjoy the show? Buy Dave a Coffee.  

05-20
10:14

The Unforgettable Jim Blackstock: Lessons and Laughter at a Memorable Funeral

On the latest episode of Better Dave, titled "Putting the FUN in Funeral," host Dave Jackson shares a heartwarming and humorous tribute to his favorite teacher and mentor, Jim Blackstock. This episode takes us on an emotional yet uplifting journey, emphasizing the profound impact a great teacher can have on our lives. Here are three key takeaways from this poignant episode: - **Integrating Humor in Education**: Dave underscores how Jim Blackstock's unique teaching style, blending humor with education, made learning enjoyable and memorable, influencing Dave's own teaching approach. - **The Power of Mentorship**: The episode highlights the significant role mentorship plays in shaping personal and professional growth, as demonstrated by Jim's encouragement of Dave's writing, which started in his college days. - **Celebrating Life with a Smile**: The touching account of Jim Blackstock's funeral, infused with whimsy and laughter, serves as a reminder of the importance of celebrating life and the legacies we leave behind. 🎙️ Tune in to reflect on the laughter and lessons shared in this special episode of Better Dave. It's a true testament to the lasting impact of teachers like Jim, who inspire and transform lives beyond the classroom. Here is the episode I did before. The best teacher I ever had. Like the show? Buy Dave a Coffee and Say Thanks!

05-01
17:26

Dave at 59: Reflections on Life, Facing Aging, and Ditching Dairy Queen

Today I turn 59 and apparently, I have one goal: Don't Break a Hip. So I reflect a bit on my 20s, 30s, and 40s, as I have 365 more days in my 50's. According to AI, "From reminiscing about past relationships and experiences to contemplating the inevitability of aging and the challenges of staying healthy, Dave's musings offer a heartfelt and relatable perspective on navigating life's journey." So click Play already Key Points: You can't change people. I don't want to live a life filled with Ozzy Lyrics. With some lessons, you need two chances to learn. Getting old is weird, and I don't want to live in fear. While the baby of the family gets away with murder, there is still a price to pay. While she may be a queen, I need another divorce. Mentioned In This Episode River by Joni Mitchell Joni Mitchell on the Grammys 2024 Ozzy See You On The Other Side Prince Lonely Christmas ( the snare is weirdly in the right headphone) Future.co (virtual weight loss coaches) Like the Show? Consider buying me a coffee.

02-08
21:31

What A Wonderful World

Sometimes we forget what life was like, and in todays' episode I realize that I can get the answer to just about everything with a few clicks of a mouse.  Things we learned today. Which way to set your ceiling fan in the winter. Rhino Sex Elephant Sperm Collection

11-09
08:22

You've Gone Too Far With Time Blindness

Yuri Bezmenov was a russian journlist who defected to the USA. He explained a strategy of the KGB. HE said this in 1984. It was called either ideological subversion, or active measures. What it basically means is to change the perception of reality of every American to such an extent that despite the abundance of information, no one is able to come to sensible conclusions in the interests of defending themselves, their families, their community, and their country. It's a great brainwashing process that goes very slow and is divided in four basic stages.  The first one being demoralization; it takes from 15 to 20 years to demoralize a nation. Why that many years? Because this is the minimum number of years required to educate one generation of students  The ideology is being pumped into the soft heads of at least three generations of American students without being challenged or counterbalanced by the basic values of Americanism  What Is The Result? The result you can see, most of the people who were  "half-baked intellectuals" are now occupying positions of power in the government, civil service, business, mass media, and educational system; you are stuck with them, and you cannot get rid of them. They are contaminated. They're programmed to think and react to certain stimuli in a certain pattern. You cannot change their mind even if you expose them to authentic information. Even if you prove that white is white and black is black, you still cannot change the basic perception and the logic of behavior. In other words, the process of demoralization is complete and irreversible. To reverse this you have you need another 15 or 20 years to educate a new generation of common sense. The demoralization process in the United States is completed already. For the last 25 years, actually, it's over fulfilled because demoralisation now reaches such areas where experts, would even dream of such tremendous success. Most of it is done by Americans to Americans, thanks to a lack of moral standards.  Mentioned In This Episode Yuri Bezmenov Time Blindness Video Time Blindness from the Cleveland Clinic Like this episode? Buy Dave a Coffee  

10-21
17:50

Surviving a Rollercoaster of a Day: Unexpected Hurdles and Heart-Pounding Moments

Today we have a very relatable topic to delve into. We've all had those days where everything seems to go wrong, where every step forward feels like two steps back. Well, my friends, today we're talking about having a bad day.   All I had to do was go to Walmart, buy some fruit and two cables, and get to the church by five for a special event. It just seemed like I couldn't catch a break all day. No matter how bad your day is, someone might be having one that is even worse. It's hard, but try to find some gratitude in those situations.

08-08
18:48

Band-Aid Blues

Welcome back to another episode of "Building a Better Dave" with your host, Dave Jackson. In today's episode,  a mysterious bump near the armpit is getting bigger. Dave takes us on a journey of curiosity, self-discovery, and a deep desire to stay healthy. Join us as we explore the hilarious yet relatable moments of navigating waxing, dieting, financial frugality, and the pains and fears that come with aging. So grab your headphones and prepare for another thought-provoking and entertaining episode of "Building a Better Dave." 

08-04
11:04

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