CAFFEINE WITH FJ CARTER

On this episode of Caffeine with FJ Carter will be another controversial and yet informative topic!! Many relationships are ruined simply because a person may have been too honest about their past sexual, intimate and/or loving encounters. With that being said, how much of your past should you really share with your mate? Should they know everything about your past intimate encounters or feelings that you may have possessed prior to meeting out present mate? What are the most important details you shouldn't keep from your mate? If you are not married should a person know of your past at all? Answer these questions and much much more!!!! Contact: FJCarter23@hotmail.com or visit www.fjcaffeine.com to voice your thoughts before the show airs!

CAFFEINE WELCOMES FEATURED GUEST ANTHONY RUCKER! FJ Carter will be interviewing Anthony Rucker on his romance techniques for men and his book "Relationships Cookbook" which is a book of perspectives that uses the analogy of cooking and eating as a metaphor to teach the reader how to create sexy, stunning & successful relationships. He was featured in the March 2009 Edition of Ebony Magazine giving advice to brothers about recreating romance in their relationships. His insights are uniquely his and he provides advice that empowers every individual to get everything one could want and need from any relationship, with a point of view that can't be found anywhere else. With a background in psychology, human development and conflict resolution, he created a legacy as a performance poet, playwright, & author   His keen insight helps to make previously complex matters of the heart easy to understand. Whether in a lecture or a relationship workshop, Anthony gives hope and insight that empowers people to create healthy, great-tasting, sexy relationships He will be breaking down his knowledge and understanding about true romance and true understanding of a successful relationship. Time to get everyone back to the basics of true love and romance! Visit www.relationshipcookbook.com to purchase his book and get a look into true romance and romantic techniques presented within his book.

On this episode of Caffeine with FJ Carter is a Part II Of "Trigger Happy". "Trigger Happy: 1.Having a tendacy to shoot a firearm before adequately identifying the target:2.Tending to act rashly or without due consideration" Martin Lawrence said it best "Craazy...Deraanged" when joking about encounters with a crazy man/woman and though comical the reality of this exist everyday. Why do men and women miss or ignore the "tell tell signs" of a "crazy" or "psychotic" mate? Why are we so hastily falling for mates without even properly identifying their true colors? We aim first and regret afterwards when we make rash decisions when choosing a mate or associate. This results in abuse (verbal and physical), death, unhappiness and etc.,. So why do we ignore the signs?  JOIN ME TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS AND MUCH MUCH MORE!!! COME GET A DOSE OF CAFFEINE WTIH FJ CARTER!!! Enjoy video: Martin Lawrence "You So crazy"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwNVNel8_WI

Caffeine will be welcoming Hondo Solomon who is a teacher and advocator of polygamy. He is the former co-host of "Mom's Healthy Radio Show" and former weekly guest on WPEB 88.1 FM Philadelphia. He has made appearances on other programs and spoken to live audiences regarding plant based nutrition, ecology, and women's health. He will be going in depth about the true understanding of polygamy and the direct benefits of the men, women and children involved. We will be discussing his upcoming radio show that will be airing live in October entitled "The Polygamist Perspective with Hondo Solomon" It is a worldwide broadcast solely dedicated to polygamy and polygamist ethics. He wrote articles such as "Polygyny and sex" and "Polygamy: Fact and Fictions" on Suite101.com. If you are looking for understanding or have a fogged misperception about polygamy, YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS THIS SHOW WITH AN EXPERT IN THE TRUE UNDERSTANDING ABOUT "POLYGAMY" Heres is a peek-->http://www.youtube.com/user/HondoSolomon7?blend=20&ob=5#p/a/u/1/YS9P57bVZ2s and visit his website-->http://hondosolomon.com/

Whether it's purely just in a man's DNA or the "All Men Are Dogs" cliche--The age old question remains..."How to keep your man from cheating?" Are women just picking the wrong mates? Shall we just let sleeping dogs lie? Or are there truly scientifically or psycologically proven facts on what a woman can do to prevent her man from "cheating on her? Is there even a such thing as a faithful man? If so, how do a woman keep her man from losing interest in her? Inspired by a youtube video by Jerry LaVigne Jr.--->http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vD33Qyulq34&feature=player_embedded. SPEAK OUT AND SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH CAFFEINE!!

Some men are complaining about the unfairness of child support and women are complaining that men are irresponsible. Are some women taking it too far and using child support as another selfish financial option or is this just a way to wake up irresponsible fathers by hitting them where it hurts most--Their pockets? Some men are being accused simply because they share a name with a name that was forgded on a birth certificate--How is that fairness? Some women intentionally attempt to get pregnant by a baller in order to be set for life--Is that fairness? Some men are willing to pay the child support versus having to deal with the "baby mother"--Is that fair to the children? Some women take the child support for themselves instead of spending the money rightfully on their children--Is that fairness? What other solutions are there for those males who chooses to run away instead of being a father to their children, because child support doesn't give the initiative for them to be better fathers--So what other options do single mother's have? SPEAK UP! I NEED YOUR VOICES!!!

On another controversial show of Caffeine with your Host FJ Carter we will discuss, The possible real reason why men cheat and trying to find out  is it because we were taken away from our culture where polygamy was natural and the way we were raised to co-exist? In a society where women out number men 7 to 1; will it be considered unhealthy to share a man within a polygamous/polygynous marriage? We have TV shows called "Sister Wives" and "Big Love" that portray a happy family oriented dwelling. Can love and happiness still be exhibited within a relationship of multiple wives? An article read that "Polygamous/Polygynous relationships leads to a longer life", do you agree with this theory? COME ON!!! ALLOW THE WORLD TO DRINK YOUR WORDS AND LET ME BECOME YOUR ADDICTION!!! Check out the video attached "42% of single successful black women"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCoI-B9AYjs Check out this video of "20/20 Dr. Dixon speaking on polygyny"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geJoIZEIE0I

On this controversial episode of Caffeine with your host FJ Carter; I will be discussing "Women Submitting to men" Is it a sign of weakness or a sign of true strength? I noticed that some men feel that a woman should just find a man and "submit" to him but whatever happened to chivalry and courting? I noticed that some women believe that "submission" is a form of slavery and not a form of love for your man. We went from housewives to "desperate housewives". Whatever happened to being good to your man as well as the man being good to the woman? Both men and women possess some form of submission when it comes to getting into a relationship because we have surrendered our egos and have decided to unite as one. Is it a crime to cater to your man? The "Independent women" says they don't need a man but yet turn around and says, "Where are all the good men?" Come on! Make up your minds ladies! What is the true ingredients missing in the recipes that we have indulged in called relationships? Because African American women are less likely to get married compared to our racial counterparts. Some African American men says that they date outside of their race because we don't allow them to be men and we refuse to submit. Are we criminals or is it a dominantly effected source that was developed through slavery, welfare, and Willie Lynch to keep us this way? Why do men choose to rule with an iron fist instead of using those same hands to heal those embedded wounds that keeps of from desiring to cater to a man in fear of hate and abuse in return? How do we return back to the cultural, successful, loving relationships that we used to have that developed families and happiness? Is the true definition of "submission" missing from our relationships? Join me and we will get down and go deep into these minds and discover the gold that we have lost within our relationships!!

On this episode of Caffeine with your host FJ Carter we will be discussing the definition of true marriage. Do you feel that if the papers aren't signed then true love isn't defined? Beyonce said, "If you like it then you should've put a ring on it" Do you believe those same sentiments or do you feel that the true ring is worn within the heart? Because in this society many people get married for all the wrong reasons; for ex. to prevent immigration, unexpected pregnancies, spur of the moments and etc. so is that still defined as true love because marriage was added to the equation? Some men and women have developed more comfort in family and love without all of the glamorous weddings and diamond rings; Do you feel that a couple that chooses not to go through the alimonies and prenuptial are less in love? So many people have gotten married and said their vows, uttered the words "Till death do us part", In "sickness and in health" and yet when things get tough the divorce papers are signed. Join me in this controversial topic on shacking up verses paper marriages. Does paper matter or did we forget the sole purpose as to why God created Eve from Adam and that was to bring forth companionship? COME ON! LET'S TALK REAL TALK WHILE DRINKING VERBAL CAFFEINE!!!

"Trigger Happy:Having a tendency or desire to shoot a firearm before adequately identifying the target."Ladies: Is it true that women fall in love too easy?Are we suckers for love or is it just in our DNA? Why do we choose to pull the triggers to our hearts whenever we see a peek-a-boo glimspe of hope of a good guy? Do we yearn for "Love" so strong that we settle for anyone that offers up flattery? Is it low self-esteem or lack of self love that draws us to indulge in Russian Roulette type games whenever we utter the words "I love you"? Do you feel that falling in love easy is one of the leading causes of Stds, single parent homes and etc.? Why is it that so many women shoot for a target without learning about the individual first which eventually leads to us becoming the victim of a broken heart? Do you believe that some promiscuity is a result of women believing that love is found between there legs and not within themselves? Also, do you feel that men fall in love just as easily as women do?FELLAS. Why is it so easy for a man to diss a woman that loves him instead of him trying to embrace her? When is the right time to say "I Love you"? Why do men choose to manipulate love instead of reciporcating it?Do men like playing games or are they just misunderstood when it comes to love?SO MANY QUESTIONS TO ANSWER!JOIN YOUR HOST FJ CARTER &DRINK THIS VERBAL CAFFEINE!ALSO, TUNE INTO CAFFEINE'S 15MIN.SPIRITUAL MOMENT WITH THE SPIRITUAL MOTIVATOR AS HE BREAKS DOWN THE SCIENCE OF THIS DISEASE WE ALL HAVE CALLED "DOUBT" AND WHAT IS THE TRUE ANITDOTE TO THIS SUCCESS KILLER.

This show will talk about surviving in a relationship despite the economic struggles. We live in a world where capitalism rules--We live in the midst of the "Haves and Have nots"--So how do we remain strong when the layoffs and job losses comes into our world of family and love. How do we allow love and spirituality to become the bandage to cover the bruises that the loss of income has bruised us with. Speak to the Spiritual Motivator and your Host FJ Carter as we Talk real talk while drinking verbal caffeine. Waking you up with the power of love and belief and how it can help you get through even the most heaviest struggles.

The African-American woman's new anthem is "I am a independent woman"; men are even saying that they want an "independent woman." Is the theory of "the independent" woman hurting or building the African-American woman, as well as, African-American relationships. 70% of successful African-American women are single, and the real question is--Why? Is it that most African-American men tend to become intimidated and jealous, which is driving them to the point of suppression? Is it that now, most African-American women tend to base their dating standards on the amount of money a man makes? Many many questions surrounds this topic because it is very contraversal. Why do men want an independent woman and yet, they fear her success? Is a woman less independent if she shares dependency with her mate? Does true independence purely means making your own and doing for yourself--When in all actuality we still have some type of dependency when it comes to receiving "our own." Does strippers,prostitutes,etc., qualify for the title "independent woman", because they are doing for themselves? Wake up with this verbal caffeine and let's talk real talk while drinking verbal caffeine with your host FJ Carter. Let's discuss the true meaning of independence and how do we embrace this theory without neglecting ourselves as a people.

A discussion on friends to lovers and why everyone has a preconceived notion that dating your friend will only destroy your friendship with that person. I want to refute that theory and express why it can be a benefit and how it can turn into a detriment. When a platonic relationship explodes into a lover relationship. Do you believe that it's possible to date your friend and be successful? Let's talk real talk while drinking verbal Caffeine with FJ Carter

Why do we fear change? President Obama brought hope when he said "Yes we can" and he emphasized the words that we all needed to hear and that was "CHANGE." We were so excited about one man bringing change that we forgot that true change can only be through one's self. We repeat the same type of relationships, stay stuck on the same jobs, fear leaving a certain type of neighborhood (despite the detriments); because we fear CHANGE. Change is inevitable whether we move or not. The question is: How do we move positively within those changes? Locking our growth behind bars because we fear failing. As Quincy Jones stated,"You can't get an 'A' if you're afraid of getting a 'F'. Time to come up with an escape plan to break from these prisons that we have allowed ourselves to become sentenced inside of. Join your host FJ Carter and LET'S TALK REAL TALK WHILE DRINKING VERBAL CAFFEINE!!!

It seems like it's easier just to send a text message, email, or go through a social networking site (facebook,myspace,twitter, etc.,) to inbox when it comes to hook-ups, breakups, disagreements, and/or problems at work. Technology has become our ventriloquist to speak to our mates, friends, and work associates; Although it is a great tool for communication, it has also become a misleading source that masks relationship's reality. How do we cut the strings from being a puppet to voiceless communication? Now a days it's easier to text or send a message through Facebook to communicate with our friends and/or loved ones, rather than speaking face to face or within each others ears. If you had a water leak you would call a plumber to fix it, right? So if you need real answers you will go straight through the source instead of hiding behind the masks of a text message. Sometimes people misinterpret a typed message when they do not see the person's face, and thusly, all hell sometimes breaks loose. It's time to stop emailing your boss at work when you want better opportunities and/or have an issue at work, and start learning how to intellectually speak face to face; It's time to stop using text messages and/or social networks to vent and/or communicate how we feel and start learning how to intellectually portray the issue face to face. This blog will be about voice over text; socializing over social networking. realizing the true meaning of communication. LET'S TALK REAL TALK WHILE DRINKING VERBAL CAFFEINE WITH FJ Carter & Co-Host Dizzle