1:04- behind the scenes: podcast stats - number of countries, downloads and fan favourite episodes. 6:11 - We're putting the podcast on hold indefinitely. 9:54 - Mark's favourite episode: Chris Marhefka. 14:38 - Adrian Spear episode: distance between stimulus and response. 15:39 - Grant Herbert episode: be yourself.16:13 - funniest moments: Lisa Linke, Christian Fleck, Daisy Simonis. 19:32 - most inspiring guests: Dr Everett Worthington, Ashley Kesner, Ricardo Gonzalez, Greg van Borssum. 24:29 - most surprising moments: grief (Jillian Rosoff and David Richman) and erotic empathy (Amanda Luterman), backburners (Dr Michelle Drouin).30:45 - the counter-intuitive Danish way of parenting: Jessica Joelle Alexander. 34:07 - most informative: Dr Timothy Levine. 38:43 - episodes on trust: Marie-Clarie Ross and Melanie Marshall. 39:00 - presenting and storytelling: Laurie Gilbertson. 40:26 - story telling: Francisco Mahfuz, Gabrielle Dolan. 44:07 - quick recap of topics covered in the podcast. 45:17 - leadership episodes: David Neal and Ryan Hartley. 48:02 - topics that we would have liked to do? 50:26 - benefits of doing the podcast: meeting people. 51:14 - empathy: Dr Ashok Bhattacharya and Daniel Murray. 53:11 - relationships are at the heart of life: Dr Michelle Drouin, Craig Bulmer and Ashley Fico. 54:48 - knowing better does not mean doing better: Divan's communication mistake. 59:32 - feedback: Jason Rosoff and Paul Farina. 1:01:09 - Tina Robinson: "all behaviour is communication". 1:01:40 - Mark's recommendations: Chris Marhefka, Dr Michelle Drouin, Amanda Luterman, Jessica Joelle Alexander. 1:02:45 - Divan's recommendations: Jessica Joelle Alexander, Francisco Mahfuz, David Neal, Dr Ashok Bhattacharya, Jason Rosoff, Dr Timothy Levine.1:05:15 - practice is as important as knowledge. 1:05:50 - wrapping up the podcast. 1:09:52 - connect with Divan and Mark. 1:10:28 - final words. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/the-finale/
1:33 - being present rather than prepared. 4:26 - the moments that happen when we're present. 6:04 - being in the moment allows you to interact with your audience. 7:56 - does the costume help to lower inhibitions? 9:43 - curiosity, empathy and naivete. 11:28 - training yourself to see as if it was your first time seeing. 14:00 - how did clowning start for Angie? 16:23 - clowning is vulnerable and authentic. 24:10 - how Angie's previous careers helped with clowning. 27:31 - clowning in the corporate environment. 32:10 - you are more than the role you perform. 34:23 - the value of staying in the mess. 36:50 - those moments of stuck aren't real. 38:32 - making the time and space to play. 39:53 - status games. 45:23 - clowns play, they don't act. 46:22 - overthinking makes us perform worse. 48:18 - the role of the court jester. 51:22 - how the class transforms through clowning. 56:51 - we connect through our imperfections. 1:00:02 - connect with Angie. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/angie-wakeman/
1:21 - the first person to disagree on LinkedIn.5:20 - the countries Florian has lived in. 7:18 - most difficult country to adapt to. 9:17 - are people less friendly in some countries? 12:32 - some cultures are more indirect.14:36 - how to get an insight to the country’s unwritten rules.16:30 - how Florian felt about going to a boarding school in a new country where he didn’t speak the language.18:09 - why should people live in a different country? 24:45 - a new country is a clean slate. 27:10 - finding yourself when travelling. 32:00 - fear of failure stopping us from starting. 36:57 - don’t overthink what you say because people don’t care. 39:10 - tying self worth to people’s opinions. 41:48 - learning and fear and failure. 44:18 - is social media a waste of time? 47:50 - create a learning entourage. 50:30 - the benefits of learning new languages. 57:45 - how to learn a new language? 1:09:21 - connect with Florian.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/florian-decludt/
2:43 - no fear of public speaking after doing a body building competition.8:38 - focus on who you want to be, not what you want to be.15:33 - people are not trusted to do the job they were hired for.16:26 - being trusted is not up to you to decide, its up to the other person.17:36 - why Melanie wrote the book, Trust.20:37 - respect comes from feeling trusted.21:41 - the core of communication and leadership.22:52 - what do organisations look like when there is no trust?27:26 - trust is just as important for personal relationships.31:9 - getting people to own up to bad news.38:5 - deal with conflicts early.42:47 - why beliefs about trust are important.45:46 - belief about whether trust is earned or given.47:23 - earning trust.51:50 - HEART + SOUL model of trust.55:19 - honesty: does it require trust or build trust?56:20 - earning trust is on their timeframe, not ours.58:53 - don't jump in with the answer.62:5 - does helping others build or erode trust?64:29 - responding from values rather than reacting from emotion.72:36 - can you be too nice?75:39 - when you have to build trust very quickly.81:0 - taking time to connect at work can feel non-productive.94:10 - connect with Melanie.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/melanie-marshall/
2:10 - Alexander Hamilton. 5:02 - what drew Laurie into criminal law? 10:26 - the most important lessons Laurie's father taught her was about communication. 11:55 - importance of credibility when making your case. 14:18 - logic vs emotion in arguing a case. 17:32 - the importance of primacy: making the most of an opening statement. 23:53 - knowing your audience when the audience is very diverse. 27:37 - dealing with difficult people in the audience. 30:25 - we can easily misread our audience. 31:57 - the stories we tell ourselves can hinder communication. 33:16 - how to prepare for presentations. 38:16 - can you prepare too much? 43:23 - making a closing argument. 46:36 - communication lessons from interrogating witnesses. 48:58 - if you want honest feedback, ask kids. 52:01 - let your witness be the star of the show. 55:32 - arguing cases you don't believe in. 1:02:27 - adapting your presentation style for television. 1:04:26 - biggest barrier to good presentations: being yourself. 1:06:24 - do people struggle more with content or delivery? 1:09:56 - be like a child when speaking on stage. 1:12:13 - connect with Laurie Gilbertson. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/laurie-gilbertson
1:31 - Radical Candor in the Rosoff household.2:08 - what drew Jillian to grief counselling.4:30 - people are scared to talk about death.7:06 - what to say when someone is grieving.9:47 - we will all say the wrong thing at some point.10:50 - people get less support during grief than we think.12:25 - avoiding resentment when people don't reach out.14:39 - when the platitudes don't fit.16:40 - don't give advice.17:59 - we grieve in context.19:50 - different styles of grieving.20:45 - grief has more emotions than sadness.21:54 - can grief lead people to detrimental paths?24:41 - healthy ways to deal with grief.26:27 - scared to be in the present because that's where the emotions are.28:09 - how to stay calm and take care of yourself to help others?32:55 - not feeling the "right" emotions when grieving.35:06 - what value does a grief counsellor add?37:48 - kids communicate through play.41:51 - people can have very different rituals when grieving someone.44:28 - the impact of not being able to attend funerals during COVID.48:48 - we only know how to live if we've been confronted with death.51:02 - the power of humour.55:40 - feeling like we have to be strong for others.1:0:24 - enjoying the present vs reminiscing about the past.1:01:55 - what is most important when people look back on their life?1:03:23 - sharing our stories can be a way to connect with each other.1:06:00 - connect with Jillian.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/jillian-rosoff/
2:05 - what drew Ryan to work at a call centre for the police.4:28 - lessons from a emergency call centre.6:45 - hire for character and social skills.7:55 - de-escalating highly emotional situations.10:17 - the hardest phone call Ryan ever took.12:02 - importance of self-care in high stress jobs.16:06 - managing your own emotions in high stress situations.18:34 - the importance of being calm as the leader.19:45 - leadership is an act, not a title.21:18 - everyone has a purpose.26:25 - candid conversations are not an excuse for being blunt and harsh.27:01 - mindset, skillset and heartset.31:09 - how Ryan developed a servant-leadership approach in a status-driven environment.33:03 - a leader's job is to be a greenhouse.35:01 - the importance of team identity. 39:32 - the culture deck from the founder of Netflix.41:07 - leading with your heart is hard but worth it.45:04 - feedforward instead of feedback.45:34 - love tough.49:02 - attachment theory applied to leadership.49:55 - it's more important to be relational than to be right.53:38 - the importance of courage in leadership.54:44 - coming to the world from love, not for love.57:43 - how Ryan's marriage survived a rough patch.1:02:36 - what lessons did marriage troubles teach Ryan.1:04:21 - self-defence mechanism to rejection.1:05:35 - everyone deserves to be loved.1:08:21 - what does "always better than yesterday" mean to Ryan.1:10:24 - leaving a heartprint.1:12:07 - the ripple effect of leadership.1:13:09 - get in touch with Ryan Hartley.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/ryan-hartley/
1:53 - phantom phone vibrations.2:35 - from development psychology to technology impact on relationships.3:53 - is technology helpful or harmful to relationships?7:24 - parents' concerns about kids on technology.9:06 - technology opens up communication with people across the world.9:47 - phone addiction is not all bad.11:07 - using our phones for social good.12:56 - calling her Grandma.14:28 - millennials are scared of phone calls.16:10 - does talking to strangers make us happy?21:19 - a small kindness to a stranger can make their day.23:06 - the intimacy famine why it matters.25:37 - the life-giving power of physical touch.30:24 - the importance of a shared bedtime routine with your partner.33:05 - using technology together can still build intimacy.34:35 - rules are important to avoid conflict.36:28 - make rules when you are calm.38:30 - rewards are more effective than punishment to change behaviour.40:40 - how can singles get more intimacy?42:59 - back burners - a threat to your relationship?48:35 - Ex-partners are most likely to be backburners.49:20 - social media is the cause for up to 30% of divorces.50:27 - rules around social media?52:10 - people may have different intent than you when using social media.54:31 - the lies people are most disappointed by when online dating.56:36 - lying on dating sites reduces relationship length.57:52 - pitfalls to avoid when dating online.1:00:23 - the criteria you are looking for when dating.1:02:10 - relationships are so important.1:03:21 - persisting with our current relationship vs looking for something new.1:05:32 - what if our relationship has lost it's spark?1:09:19 - connect with Michelle.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/dr-michelle-drouin/
1:39 - from enemies to best mates.6:12 - there is nothing noble about being harmless.7:06 - avoiding or engaging with conflict.7:27 - what makes a leader?8:50 - good leadership looks different in different contexts.11:40 - the leadership style in the military.12:59 - how values and beliefs impact team performance.15:12 - navigating the conflicts that arise from having a diverse team.15:35 - definition of leadership.16:30 - diversity is contextual. What are you trying to achieve?18:43 - are you trying to be right or correct?20:36 - leaders represent people authentically in forums where they cannot represent themselves.22:18 - trying to be right disengages people around you.23:41 - it's better to lose the battle and keep the relationship, especially with your kids.25:07 - extreme ownership and admitting mistakes.27:28 - where the name Eighth Mile Consulting came from.29:18 - owning our mistakes turns our weakness into a strength.31:39 - owning your faults increases your credibility and your ability to influence.32:55 - steelman and strawman debating tactics.36:01 - influence starts by listening, not speaking.38:14 - it takes discipline to shut up and listen.41:55 - I don't have time to listen.44:02 - why boundaries give more freedom.52:14 - boundaries with children.54:46 - just do what makes you happy is terrible advice.56:46 - the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.58:18 - sometimes leaders only have bad options to choose from.1:00:14 - leadership is not about you.1:02:44 - a leader's reputation is their influence.1:06:1 - making an unpopular decision that you believe will be best for the long term.1:10:49 - reputation is based on your character but not fully in your own control.1:12:57 - how to become more self-aware as leaders.1:15:30 - everyone is a leader.1:16:11 - how to create a safe space for people to speak up.1:18:55 - empathy saved the world.1:24:7 - our ego can be our greatest enemy.1:26:12 - connect with David Neal. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/david-neal/
2:28 - how Cheri and Jackie first came across the idea of Appreciative Inquiry.4:04 - how many hours in a day are you in conversation?4:32 - what is appreciative inquiry.5:34 - difference between a good and a bad conversation.7:18 - you can feel when you are in a destructive, depreciative conversation.7:42 - how many of our conversations can be worth having?9:42 - our words affect each other.11:13 - what to do when the conversation is turning sour.12:02 - our conversations with loved ones are often less intentional than with strangers.12:41 - example of using Appreciative Inquiry in the real world.14:14 - Appreciative Inquiry is not about having rose-coloured glasses.15:22 - the technique of flipping.16:52 - how Appreciative Inquiry has impacted Cheri and Jackie's life.17:15 - our words matter immensely because they shape our world.19:08 - conversations worth having at home.20:57 - how to get your children to actually talk to you.24:26 - the constructionist principle.26:32 - the poetic principle.29:01 - Are appreciative conversations something we're born with or can it be learned?31:01 - there is a place for the sceptic.31:40 - appreciative inquiry doesn't mean you ignore problems.31:54 - analytical approach: looking for positive deviants.33:17 - overcoming negativity bias.36:15 - how to manage your emotions in the moment.37:47 - asking generative questions.42:11 - dealing with negative people who don't want to have constructive conversations.44:45 - a conversation worth having is not just a positive conversation.45:23 - don't assume people don't want to talk to you just because they are shy or introverted.47:30 - example of how leaders can use appreciative inquiry.51:55 - why appreciative inquiry is more likely to influence and create change.54:21 - How Jackie used appreciative inquiry in the hardest conversation of her life.1:01:03 - connect with Jackie and Cheri.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/cheri-torres-and-jackie-stavros
2:09 - how do people respond when Amanda introduces herself at a networking event.3:52 - scared of talking about sex.5:06 - how Amanda's journey into erotic empathy started.6:43 - what is erotic empathy.7:47 - we push our partner away because of the way we feel about ourselves.8:57 - not being judgemental about your partner's sexual preferences.11:08 - is it usually females who are more likely to find themselves unattractive?12:52 - how to open up with your partner about your sexual preferences.16:01 - asking your partner: what were you fantasizing about during sex?16:16 - power dynamics are a common sexual fantasy.16:47 - example of initiating sex with a power dynamic.18:54 - the way people engage in partnered sex contradicts the way people masturbate.21:57 - lessening the pressure and expectations in sex.24:30 - how important is sex in a romantic relationship.25:57 - your marriage isn't over just because you develop feelings for someone else.27:06 - the pressure men feel during sex.29:50 - a lover is not responsible for both people's pleasure.30:35 - being good at sex is not about technique.32:18 - religious or moral constraints on sex.34:36 - therapy can help couples communicate their sexual needs and expectations more safely.35:32 - how to get better at talking to your partner about sex.38:12 - what do women want? what do men want?40:22 - power switching and taboo fantasies are super arousing.41:44 - is there hope if you are no longer attracted to each other?46:42 - marriage is a promise to look after yourself for the other person.48:21 - what if I'm not into the same things that turn on my partner?51:48 - can sharing fantasies of sleeping with other people go too far?53:52 - controlling your emotions so your partner can share their sexual preferences openly with you.54:51 - sex is about communication and emotion regulation skills.55:34 - the paradox of building confidence in your sexuality.57:01 - how important is sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.59:38 - why is sex important for your relationship and your health.1:02:02 - connect with Amanda. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/amanda-luterman/
2:40 - what attracted Ricardo to the topic of belonging.4:06 - Diversity and inclusion should have its foundation on belonging.5:52 - why belonging is more powerful than inclusion.7:46 - diversity and belonging.8:44 - what constitutes a culture?9:20 - cognitive diversity.9:41 - should all people to all groups?10:41 - why a team needs a strong culture11:45 - can't we choose to which groups we want to belong?12:49 - to belong or not to belong.14:01 - I did not belong at my own house party.16:58 - we can't belong if we have different beliefs and values.17:42 - diversity vs team fit.19:40 - company culture statement.23:26 - high context vs low context cultures.27:01 - why leaders need to be more high context.28:00 - caught in-between cultures.33:03 - how to find a place where you belong.36:39 - people are attracted to people like themselves.37:19 - belonging vs fitting in.38:41 - lack of integration has been demonised.41:14 - being unfairly rejected by the group where you thought you belonged.47:40 - ex-communication and cancel culture.48:37 - root of ex-communication is that leaders value results over people.49:06 - empathy vs sympathy vs compassion.50:27 - how to regroup after you've been hurt.53:35 - the link between belonging and performance.57:30 - making people feel like they belong in order to use them.58:18 - about the book: To belong or not to belong.01:00:02 - connect with Ricardo.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/ricardo-gonzalez-e2/
3:06 - life is abundant.6:26 - MBA consultant who turned to acting.9:50 - pursuing the path less travelled led to more admiration than judgement.12:07 - acting started from a young age.13:15 - managing your energy when you need to be "on" in front of people.15:40 - my best is different at every moment.17:56 - it's impossible to do it all.19:55 - what is improvisation.22:01 - we've learnt to supress our ability to be spontaneous.24:14 - I can say anything! vs "I can say anything?"25:30 - improv is the art form of putting the focus on the other person.26:16 - what improv can teach us about being better listeners.28:30 - we communicate better when we are in the moment.30:23 - the audience is rooting for you.31:22 - The improv philosophy of "yes, and..."35:35 - you can influence more by listening than by speaking.36:10 - the ability to listen impacts every relationship.40:16 - using "yes, and..." to improve collaboration.44:15 - creating a safe space where people can share ideas.46:39 - how to bring a brick, not a cathedral.48:29 - the best worst idea.50:04 - nothing speaks louder than who you are.51:25 - walking ten thousand steps per day is a lie!52:51 - teaching presence to executives.55:48 - no one cares what your head is doing.57:30 - being intentional about how you come across: put the audience first.1:00:55 - the Dreyfus model of skill acquisition.1:03:52 - getting involved in improv.1:04:39 - the benefits of improv.1:06:10 - connect with Lisa.1:07:18 - live improv exercise!1:09:45 - debrief on the improve exercise. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/lisa-linke/
2:18 - A sports coach who makes you push further than you thought possible. 4:19 - pushing people to perform better without being a dictator. 8:10 - getting better at leading yourself and others under pressure. 13:38 - managing stress. 15:43 - how to break free from stress. 18:50 - stress reaction is not useful. 20:51 - how can we change our habits and behaviours? 23:31 - change is emotional. 25:19 - how can we get beneath the surface to the values and identity level in a conversation? 29:19 - who am I and what do I want? 30:53 - be specific with your questions. 31:16 - how to let people find their own solutions. 33:24 - getting more clarity about what they want. 35:07 - being honest with ourselves about what we want. 39:16 - it's not about finding the thing we love to do, it's about the meaning we give to the things we do. 40:40 - being honest about yourself. 44:49 - honesty is not always simple. 48:02 - how to deal with our shame better to avoid needing to lie. 53:32 - how painful honesty opened up the relationship. 54:08 - connect with Niki. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/niki-vinogradoff/
2:39 - first impressions about Danish culture.6:24 - after reading hundreds of parenting books, Jessica still preferred the advice from her Danish family.8:13 - the birth of the book.9:49 - our default setting for parenting.12:7 - authoritarian vs authoritative style of parenting.15:7 - free play is better than structured activities for kids.18:0 - we want our kids to win but happiness is not about winning.20:30 - we are scared that our kids fall behind if they are just left to play.23:37 - how play creates an internal locus of control.26:4 - self-esteem is not built by giving praise.31:25 - cultural difference in values, such as humility.36:49 - the happiest country in the world doesn't like stories with happy endings.40:4 - sad endings normalise all feelings and improve emotional intelligence.41:40 - training empathy as a skill.45:13 - cooperation is more important than competition.46:55 - importance of reframing.48:47 - difference in how Danish people approach divorce.51:53 - Hygge: we-fulness.55:57 - get in touch with Jessica.You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/jessica-joelle-alexander/
00:01:35 – welcome Jason Rosoff from Radical Candor. 00:02:19 – the feedback Jason got about his thinking face. 00:05:37 – why is it important to give feedback? 00:07:06 – challenging the importance of feedback: discussion on The Feedback Fallacy published by the Harvard Business Review. 00:13:01 – what is Radical Candor? 00:19:18 – feedback does not have to be calculated and does not need a model. 00:20:55 – do people default to ruinous empathy or obnoxious aggression? 00:23:48 – how to start implementing Radical Candor with your team? 00:28:47 – you can't fake caring personally about people." 00:32:35 – creating a culture where people do care about each other. 00:35:13 – what about advice saying you shouldn't get too close to your employees? 00:41:55 – overcoming the fear of hurting the other person by challenging directly. 00:47:09 – most of a manager's job involves emotion. 00:51:11 – how do deliver feedback in a way that avoids the fight or flight response. 00:55:03 – leaders who are not good at receiving feedback. 01:01:02 – getting indirect feedback about people not in your team. 01:03:52 – giving feedback in an open plan office. 01:05:57 – models to help give feedback instead of a value judgement. 01:07:47 – get in touch with Jason. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/jason-rosoff/
00:01:35 – endurance sport. 00:05:04 – Running is meditative. 00:06:50 – the life events that motivated David to start endurance sports. 00:08:50 – the importance of caring for yourself first instead of impressing people all the time. 00:11:03 – adversity can make you better or it can make you bitter. 00:13:56 – I have to vs I get to. 00:16:55 – receiving help in difficult times. 00:20:37 – not worrying what others think of you. 00:24:14 – do people know how to deal with grief? 00:26:14 – why David's sister was so important in his life. 00:31:25 – how did the book, Cycle of Lives, come about? 00:35:13 – Just put your feet on the ground and make your bed every day. 00:40:07 – how to have open conversations where people were open to talk about trauma and grief. 00:44:48 – how can we best support people through difficult times? 00:47:15 – what to say when someone is going through a tough time? 00:50:25 – you might be the only person who showed care. 00:52:58 – asking open questions is more important than saying the right thing. 00:55:35 - scared of saying the wrong thing. 00:59:45 – we can choose our response. 01:00:50 – we are all passer-by's in each other's lives. 01:04:55 – get in touch with David. More detailed show notes with links to references can be found at: https://candourpodcast.com/david-richman/
2:05 - book recommendations from someone who read over 200 books on business and personal development. 4:47 -want to impact your business, family or community? Be the light. 6:12 - reading addiction. Did reading more books help you to grow?10:33 - why is it so hard to sustain a change in habit? 14:39 – does willpower and discipline work to change a habit? 18:16 – how to get beneath the surface to identify and change thought patterns. 24:40 – we think that stress is normal and a sign of success. 29:34 - isn't stress needed for growth? 35:02 – overcoming fears that seem to trap us. 42:52 – achievement vs fulfilment. 48:27 – we need an appropriate amount of pain before we change. 52:19 – Chris' story of burn out that caused him to change. 59:31 – how do we have a fulfilled life? 1:02:41 – the perfect day? 1:06:03 – relationships can be greatest source of pain or fulfilment. 1:10:23 – we treat other people through the lens of our own experience, often without realising. 1:15:37 – avoiding unnecessary conflicts in relationships. 1:19:22 – navigating conversations when emotions are high. The importance of trust and vulnerability. 1:23:21 – when I do nothing, that's when I find my best something. 1:25:00 – you get to choose. 1:28:08 – get in touch with Chris. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/chris-marhefka/
2:19 - what drew Dr Healy to study bullying? 4:18 - the difference between bullying and teasing. 6:30 - hurtful comments can be innocent or intentional. 8:40 - teasing can actually be relationship building. 10:32 - is bullying more prevalent now? 11:23 - is bullying getting worse or are we more sensitive now? 12:41 - effects of bullying. 15:46 - the risk factors that perpetuates bullying. 17:56 - how should we respond to bullying? 21:47 - standing up to the bully. 27:59 - effective strategies for responding to bullies. 31:44 - how can parents help when their child is bullied? 34:22 - empathy for the bully. 42:01 - what causes people to bully? 45:48 - what if my child is the bully? 46:54 - saying "no" to your child. 48:16 - how home life impacts bullying. 49:38 - does teaching empathy improve bullying? 54:41 - do buddy benches work? 56:04 - how to make friends? 58:50 - choosing the right school. 59:57 - importance of teaching kids to be independent. 1:01:51 - programs that address bullying. 1:05:38 - how to intervene when you notice bullying. 1:09:05 - connect with Dr Karyn Healy. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/dr-karyn-healy/
3:20 - are you allowed to talk about stories at home?5:50 - why is story so important to Francisco. 8:55 - can you remember the story you told? 10:57 - does the audience remember the story? 12:25 - homework for life. 13:41 - path to making storytelling a profession. 18:35 - impact kids had on Francisco's speaking career. 22:32 - Is content or delivery more important in a speech? 26:48 - how did Francisco learn about storytelling? 29:39 - the old science of storytelling: ethos, pathos and logos. 31:24 - you cannot make decisions without emotion. 36:08 - the new science of storytelling. 39:40 - why can stories make us cry? 43:46 - what is a story? 49:43 - how to make stories easy. 53:12 - sharing with vulnerability. 59:41 - Get in touch with Francisco. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/francisco-mahfuz/