I work with people in pain almost every day and have discovered that there is no benefit to discounting the pain, trying to tell someone that "pain is gain" or that they have to push through it. Instead, acknowledging the pain, finding a new focal point of comfort, and teaching an allowance for movement through the pain with the focus of achieving even one degree of less pain after the mobility; is the approach that works time and again. Chances are that you are no stranger to pain or the effects that it has on your loved one. You may have fallen into the cycle of allowing for stagnation and compensation because of your loved one's complaints of pain. Then, noticed that they are doing less for themself, moving less, becoming weaker and ironically enough, developing more pain. In this episode, you can learn how to get mobility and activity through the limitations of pain by using assisted range of motion, and visualization, combined with breath work, and incorporation of the movement of the body around the source of pain. Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
In this episode, you will learn how you can use effleurage to help someone's body prepare to move early in the morning, after being still for a long time, or to arouse the brain-to-muscle connection for those with neurological impairments. What is Effleurage massage? A french word defined as "to skim or to touch lightly"I decided to share this topic with you after a rewarding experience I had this week as a clinician using this touch to help an individual who had been bed-bound, and very limited in her active, volitional movement very limited, to help her to participate in my therapy session. This would be a missed opportunity by many providers because, to be honest, it just seems too simple. Therapeutic touch and interventions with intention can have a profound impact and should not be overlooked. This approach used with my patient increased her ability to roll in bed, increased her eye contact, and verbal communication. What could this touch do to help the one you care for? It only takes a minute and you can learn how to use it today.An example of the sequence that you can use: effleurage massage (just a few sweeps), followed by assisted movement, then followed by active movement with purpose (such as rolling in bed). Give the body the opportunity to work. Be the facilitator of your care recipients potential. Benefits of the use of effleurage:increase arousal/stimulationincrease awarenessprovide comfortdecrease a stress responseDifferent approaches have different effects. Fast, light, repetitive sweeping motions with the fingertips along the contour of the limb or face are stimulating while slow, heavier pressure with more of the palm of the hand is calming. Know the needs of your care recipient. Practice on your own skin (leg or opposite arm) to feel the effects. Using a skill like this is therapeutic and you have all that you need to be therapeutic versus ordinary. Make a habit of looking for ways to interact with your loved one therapeutically every day and you will find that your caregiving burden lightens over time. Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Many caregivers feel stuck and experience the following according to https://www.whereyoulivematters.org/caregiver-burnout-caring-for-aging-parents/55% of CG feel overwhelmed by the amount of care they provide18hrs is the average amount of time spent providing care 1 in 5 CG report physical strain due to CGing dutiesAre these numbers your destiny? What areas can you take control over and how can you start making changes today that will help you to avoid falling into these statistics? The largest contributing factor to all of the above areas is the care recipient's level of independence and how much is required of the CG. What can you do to increase your recipient's independence? recognize the areas that your care recipient is leaning on you too much for. The areas where they have declined in the quality of movement. Where are you seeing weakness, stiffness, pain? What can be done to make improvements in these areas? Developing their independence is a key to avoiding the "overwhelm by the amount of care" required Make a goal to decrease the number of hours spent providing care, again by increasing their independence in any way possible Pay attention to the risk factors associated with your physical injury or progressive strain placed on your body during CG duties and make adjustments that focus on decreasing those risks.How do you transition? Begin coaching your loved one to greater independence vs providing the "done for you" approach. It is unconventional to consider using a "do it yourself" approach to your care recipient but I challenge you to give it a try. This is the rehab approach that will make a difference in both of your lives. Take a few minutes to watch this free training video i made for you https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining You know you need more help and are ready to start. This is for you. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coachingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Skin breakdown can have a life-threatening impact and it can sneak up on you and your loved one. You can avoid it and you can also make quick changes to help promote the healing of this condition. Here is what happens: pressure applied to the surface tension of the skin diminishes blood flow to the skin and can have very negative results in as little as 1-2hrs. A serious skin breakdown can develop into an open pressure sore within just one week. An advancing open sore can become serious and lead to complications within 1 month. Here are some examples of seriously negative complications from skin breakdown: cellulitisbone and joint infectioncancersepsisRisk factors associated with the development of skin breakdown: Immobility or decline in mobilityincontinence of urine and/or stoolimpaired sensation of skinpoor nutritionpoor blood flowYou can avoid the potential development of skin breakdown by making sure that your loved one can adjust their own position frequently and that they are not sitting on a hard surface for any period of time greater than an hour if they are at risk. If they can't reposition their own body, take a close look at why and how to help them develop this skill. (MORE on this to come, so stay tuned) . Use non skin shearing surfaces to help mobilize them if you have to do all the work. Use pressure-relieving cushions to help reduce the risk of pressure sores. (low air loss mattresses, chair cushions that are air-filled or gel-filled) signs of skin breakdown in orderred skin that may be warm and your LO complains of itchy or burning sensation or painpurple colored skin that is more painful or may have lost some of the sensation open area has developed and may be oozingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Pain is something that we all can relate to on some level. Unfortunately, it is one of the most limiting factors for our seniors and for those facing chronic illness or progressive disease. Did you know that the lack of joint mobility produced by getting up and moving around/walking or rolling in bed, increases a person's pain because of these factors? fluid builds up around the joint when a joint is immobile muscle atrophy can cause painpain elicits fear which limits movement Intervention for pain is often a missed opportunity for the use of NONmedication/pharmaceutical options that work even better than the average go-to medication choice are discussed in this episode. The elderly population and those with chronic illnesses are at a disadvantage when it comes to pain management because of how medications are prescribed. What if you could ease their pain without adding another medication? I have seen it work and I encourage you to experience it as a recipient first so that you can possibly deliver relief to your loved one in the same way. myofascial releasemeditationhypnosisYou can develop the skills to help your loved one with pain and see the relief they experience and then utilize their less painful state to increase their mobility. Remember the less they move, the more they feel the pain. So, don't be afraid to teach them how to move through some pain and to address the pain, validating it and attempting to find a solution for it, each and every time. help with guided meditation @ the mindful movement: https://youtu.be/UWOwrPW5mqwpain management article sighted in this episode: https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/treatments/pain-management-elderlybreathing video : (min 2:30 for diaphragmatic breathing) https://youtu.be/V5gfoxdv9k8get direct help/work with me: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coachinguse my therapy strategy at home: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Episode 51How can one person's fall destine them to nursing home placement while another suffers different injuries that could be seen as more limiting, yet they are able to return to their prior living situation? I share the differences between the factors of recovery in this episode chronic and progressive illnessmotivation factorssupport systemsperspective environmental factorsHave you ever wondered what OT is and how it's different from PT? I have been an OT for 23 years and I still have to explain it to people. I discuss how an OT approaches solving the challenge that someone who has fallen and can't use their arms or their legs for mobility or daily activity, and how you, the caregiver, have the same potential. You just need to know where to start, what barriers to eliminate, and how to maximize potential at every point. Too often, caregivers limit TOO much of their loved one's opportunities and in so doing, they contribute to increased risk of weakness, balance disturbance, endurance limitations, fear of mobility, and more. I share some tips with you here. I know that caregivers can successfully master a DIY rehab approach at home and avoid the avoidable costs of hospital stays, nursing homes, rehab costs, and related costs of illness and injury. Wondering how to get more help? Learn how to set a clear goal with your personal needs as the main vision. Design your caregiving experience with intention. I have a free training here that I know will help you TODAY: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingWhen you are ready to jump-start your DIY rehab at home, join this coaching series: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coachingOther media outlets where you can see me and interact: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkf3lSUFi2ER0_i33go5k2gTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecaregiverFB: https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesignIG: https://www.instagram.com/caregive_bydesignSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
I don't know of anyone who actually wants to go to a nursing home or wants to have their loved one require that level of care, but it happens. You have probably heard stories of people who fell, broke a hip, and then somehow never come home again. You might wonder how one thing, like a fall, leads to such an undesirable outcome. Well, I am going to tell you. Then, I am going to tell you what can be done differently to avoid that outcome. Here are the major factors that lead to needing a higher level of care like a nursing home: lack of additional support coming into the home as neededchronic illness/progressive illness or disease regression in mobility and strengthdecline in endudrancedecline in appetite/food intake/nutritionfailing to eliminate the cause of the initial fall/injury complacency repeat injury All of the above tend to occur but it doesn't take all of them to cause the need for long-term care. In this episode, I am sharing with you the story of someone who found themselves in this situation, and then I share what could have been done differently so that the long-term care option would not need to be considered. You can make a HUGE difference in preventing injury at home with your loved one by keeping them moving, active, engaged, and inspired. If they have recently come home from rehab or the hospital, or completed home care therapy, you MUST keep it going. Don't let them become complacent and definitely do NOT do too much for them. If you do this, you are taking away opportunities for all the aspects that they need for further recovery: mobility, activity, endurance, strength, cognitive challenge and more. If you are ready for learning a new perspective, my proven 5 step strategy to maximizing someone's quality of life and living your caregiving life without regrets please grab your free training here: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingWhen you want a tailor-designed approach, a DIY rehab at-home approach, for your loved one, so that you can live a life of freedom and they do too, this is for you: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching. You might be just right for this small group coaching series that will launch you into a life of coaching your loved one instead of caregiving all the time. Get more information at the link and get on the wait list today. Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
60% of caregivers assist with ADLs - we are going to talk about the area that tends to require the most support today. LOWER BODY CAREContributing factors: Limited hip mobilityBack painToo round in frontArthritic fingers and handsPoor visionImmobile anklesSwollen legsPoor sensation of LEParalysisIn most cases, every single one of these barriers can be worked around to allow for a person to be independent with dressing and washing lower extremities. First, look at a few important facts: Work from easiest to most challenging. For example it’s easier to pull loose pants than it is to put fitting pants on that have a button and zipper. Underwear vs pull-ups socks vs pantyhose slide on shoes vs laced Location! (where are they sitting) The height of the seated surface is very important. Higher means more reaching but it might be easier to lift the leg to clear the floor for getting it over the foot, however, reaching the foot for a sock is much harderIf you can cross one ankle over the opposite knee you have much more opportunity for successProcess: step back and do more watching, directing and add assistance as needed. Remember that the more you do leads to you doing more. If your LO can not assist more than lifting a leg while you put the sock on, then my goodness, work with that. Don’t miss an opportunity to use what they have and advance that as much as possible. If they are limited because they are tight in a joint, take a minute to mobilize that area first. Work on that area daily to make more progress. How? Get help here. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coachingFree video training "Start living a life without regrets!" https://www.caregiverbydesign.comLower extremity muscle activation is a critical part to overall health. Don’t give up on this too soon. Even if your LO has hemiplegia or LE paralysis, you have to maintain mobility of the joints to help you and them with basic mobility. When you stop allowing your LO to use their lower body musculature to do basic ADLs, you are contributing to the overall decline of their lower extremity muscle strength and this leads to mobility limitations and overall health decline. Pick a day this week during your ADL routine, and look at the clock. See how much time you are using to help with dressing and what part is taking the longest or is causing your body to work the most. I would guess that it is with LB care. Make a goal to shave some time off of this area by starting to involve your LO with it more so you can do something else while they work on it. OR, by making the task easier for you to do by changing the location, position, and/or approachDo you believe that it’s possible? If you are saying no, I’ve tried everything; I want to you pause and really allow yourself room and permission to see things differently. Need help getting started, go to : https://www.caregiverbydesign.com and watch the videoLEAVE A 5 STAR REVIEW FOR THE PODCAST HERE (subscribe and scroll to the bottom. click on "leave a review" ) https://podcasts.apSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Let’s talk about the impact of illness or hospitalization on one’s health. I see it happen firsthand as a therapist working in the hospital. People lose their ability to walk and complete self-care with independence within a very short period of time, making it harder for them to go home without additional support. Consider this: How at risk are you? How about your partner, the one you care for? We are moving less and getting out into nature less as we further develop our society. Too many hours spent in front of various screens is just 1 example and cause. RESEARCH article:https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2759840 The objective of therapists like myself is to discharge the patient to a SAFE environment with adequate support. Over the course of 1-2 weeks, I see patients move from a short-term rehab plan to a home plan when they are able to cooperate in strength, endurance, and self-care skill-building interventions with OT and PT. When they can’t participate (due to medical instability) or they refuse to participate, we see the loss of potential for home discharge The same thing can happen at home with an illness or during home recovery from a hospital discharge, so do everything you can to keep your LO moving with the intention. Look at what can happen to the body with immobility: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnut.2021.633987/fullAre you seeing this happen with your loved one, either at home or at the hospital, and feeling helpless? Here is what you can do. keep them moving and doing as much as they can for themselves so they are always at a starting point of advantage. Look at what your loved one can do easily. Any mobility or activity that you see them do like: sitting up at the side of the bed or without the support of the couch/chair. Standing up without losing balance, walking, any daily task they do well - have them do that MORE or for longer periods of time than they are currentlyThe HOW: Start a simple movement and exercise program - do it at least once a day https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/seatedexercises (FREE DOWNLOAD VIDEO TO USE)Use the right support items to maximize safe mobility and self-care: walker, canes, adaptive tools, shower chairs, grab bars, toilet seats/ grab bars, etc CONSISTENTLYGet out of the house, stay social, keep the mind engaged and this includes problem-solving through basic daily tasks. Let's get you and your partner living the life you actually want by sorting out what your vision for living is, what the boundaries are and how to build strength, mobility, and independence for you both. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Find out more at the link. I will contact you when we are ready to start. Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Patients have been coming home from the hospital sicker, weaker, and with more complications than you might be prepared to manage at home for a few reasons and the burden on you might be bigger than you expected. This is a global situation. What's going on out there? Covid 19 has overburdened the global healthcare system by adding people requiring treatment to the normal flux of patients Covid 19 has stressed the labor pool of healthcare workers who have to take time off due to exposure, and in some regions of the world, can not work unless they are vaccinated. The lack of available beds in short-term rehab settings and long-term care/nursing homes makes discharging patients from the hospital to such a facility very prolonged. So, if it is possible to send them home with the support of the caregiver vs staying additional weeks, waiting on placement to STR or LTC, a possibility, then it becomes the planlimited options for some patients (lack of any support at the home and no funds for most facilities) means that there are some patients that end up "boarding" in the hospital until a spot opens up at a facility. This can take weeks to months. What to pay attention to and what to ask about with the consideration of a "home too soon" situation : What are the caregiver's limitations (pain, mobility) and ability? What is the caregiver's availability and willingness to help with everyday activities? medications: knowing what the new ones are. What was added or discontinued? Side effects of medications and interactions. What to look for if the medication is not working correctly? community support for you and your partner/LO for the ongoing medical situation that they are dealing with. Community support for future planning and for financial support. Positioning and mobility: safety. How to assist them in a restorative way. Signs and symptoms of worsening health, flare-ups, reoccurrences. How to avoid these and what to look for. You are a vital part of the healthcare system as a caregiver and you should be informed and supported. That is what I am here for. I have 2 offers to further help you. First: a free video training "Start living your life without REGRETS!". start living a life with vision and a plan every day while you help your LO become stronger and more independent https://www.caregiverbydesign.comJoin a limited group coaching opportunity to help make BIG impact with small changes that put your needs and vision in center focus. This is geared especially for partners, spouses who are caregivers and want to develop a strong relationship through the present challenge. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coachingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Seriously, you can help just about anyone come back from physical decline if you take the right approach and know where to start. First, consider some of the causes of physical decline: hearing loss, cognition changes, and prolonged inactivity Check out some interesting facts about physical decline at https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/physical-activityAlso, consider that it takes 3x the amount of time the body was inactive to regain the lost muscle strength so be patient and approach the retraining with care. I have worked with many bed-bound and deconditioned patients lately and have discovered that just about anyone can make a commendable comeback from serious physical decline, and I am sharing with you how to do it right. I begin by re-establishing their connection to themselves and their environment. How?? Ignite the pilot light that is burning within them with oxygen. Use breath because as long as someone is breathing, they have something to work with. Waking up the body. Start moving the core, the limbs, head, and neck. Move onto isometrics if mobility is limited. Contracting muscles will increase blood flow, joint stability and help the brain-body connection. Evidence shows that isometrics are an effective approach to - improving physical endurance and posture by strengthening and stabilizing the muscles. Listen to my account ( download the podcast) of a patient that I worked with who went from laying in bed with very little interaction with his environment and very poor social interactions to walking for the first time in weeks by the end of the session. Where to start? It is absolutely unique to each person. I always start with the breath. How well do they control inhale/exhale? How much exhale power do they have? This tells me so much. If they are not breathing with force when needed, it shows a level of weakness that needs to be addressed first. Work on breathing techniques and move on from there. Use this simple exercise video to help get just about anyone moving. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/getmoving. This is a free video for you to use as many times as you need it. Check out how you can get even more help right here: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/waitlistContact me with questions: https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/contactmeTikTok: @thecaregiverIG: carergive_bydesignSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
A follow-up conversation from episode 43. Taking a deeper look at the strategy needed to build connection through the challenges of caregiving. After working with a couple the other day, I wanted to share a deeper perspective with you. Example of a couple working through a basic task that could otherwise cause stress and potential resentment; they discovered how to work together and develop a deeper connection. How could this change your life? Well, consider this: Your Types of strength:PhysicalHealthRelationshipImagine improved strength in any one of those 3 areas. What does that look like in your life? What if all 3 areas were stronger. They are pillars for a well-balanced, healthy, fulfilled life.First: what prevents effective connection? Take a listen to previous episode 43 “how to build a deeper connection with your partner” some examples:Poor communicationResentment Loss of hope and visionHistory of arguments, poor outcomesLack of self-insight. You have to know yourself very well, identify your true emotions and the cause of them, to be an effective communicatorNext: opportunities for connectionco-Developing a plan for living life with a focus on fulfillment. not just existingBuilding trust that is developed through allowing your partner to try to do more OR to help them in areas that they need help with the way they ask you to ( pause your preconceived ideas, hesitations, expectations and let them lead for this. Learn together. Remember to be partners)Exercising together or coaching your partner through a program with a specific goalMeal planningCommunity outing/travelSocializing with friendsWhat do you need?Insight (the capacity to gain an accurate and deep intuitive understanding of a person or thing.)Knowledge (facts, information, and skills acquired by a person through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject.PersistenceSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
October is national depression and health screening month: Did you know that 20% of family CG experience it? That is 2x the rate of the rest of the population! why?October is national depression and health screening month. Did you know that 20% of family CG experience it. That is 2x the rate of the rest of the population! Some causes: limited socialization, lack of touch, isolation, and stress. https://screening.mhanational.org/screening-tools/depression/?ref=CANThe one you are caring for may also be experiencing depression and is definitely at risk for experiencing it. They are more likely to face the risk factors that lead to depression due to life changes they feel out of control of, loss of independence, lack of socialization and getting out of the house with friends or engaging in hobbies, lack of exercise, etc . 1. Impact of isolation: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-020-58297-9. Depressive symptoms are associated with less social interaction, being with other depressed people, lacking group interactions, less time with friends. Research shows that social isolation increases the risk for coronary heart disease, stroke, and mortality, and can negatively influence psychological health leading to depressive symptom 2. Importance of touch in avoiding depression and dealing with depression: FROM ARTICLE https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/touch-starved#complications*affectionate touch promotes psychological well-being. * touch can also reduce the feeling of loneliness *Research also notes that those who report loneliness show dampened cognitive function and a higher chance of experiencing mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression. So, if you aren’t around people you probably aren’t getting enough physical human contact. Are you getting what your body needs? Too much cortisol, caused by stress, can cause: AnxietyDepressionDigestive problemsHeadachesMuscle tension and painHeart disease, heart attack, high blood pressure and strokeSleep problemsWeight gainMemory and concentration impairmentOxyctocin is a neurotransmitter that acts like a hormone and it is released that is the counterbalance to cortisol. And guess what? It is released most potently with touch. We were created with the most effective tools to combat stress: skin and the ability to touch. So what can you do right now to minimize you and your partner’s risk for depression: 1. Minimize isolation : Find time to be with people. Connect in person. Find time to get out or have friends come over. Avoid isolation. This includes while being with your partner. Use your partner as a source of deep connection. Make your relationship meaningful beyond your current role. Serve each other. 2. Touch/interact using affective touch that helps your brain to release oxytocin, the hormone that combats cortisol, the stress hormone. It is important to seek the help you need to stay healthy, taking care of your mental health needs to be a priority or you will not be able to provide the most effective caregiving. Talk to your doctor about stress and depression. Make time every day for your mental health Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
First some facts:61% of caregivers are women 1 in 5 Americans CG face declining health Here are some of the most common challenges faced by partners who are CGing: ResentmentIsolationDepression (research shows that CG experience at a higher rate than their partners)AnxietyLoss of employmentFailed relationshipFamily strain impacting children and extended familyWhat causes this? Focusing on limitations that face you and your partner vs possibilityLack of transparency with yourself about your feelingsNeglecting your interests, friends, activitiesNeglecting your partner’s needs that are beyond those related to health Missed opportunities to provide the support that grows your connectionRole reversalFinancesExercise to try: download a worksheet to help you hereVisualize yourself the way someone else would see you if they watched you for a few hours. How would they describe you? What energy do you put off? (sad, quiet, angry, frustrated, exasperated, chipper, positive, encouraging) Now, what would you do to help or support this person? What would you offer them? TAKE NOTE OF YOUR ADVICE, YOUR WORDS TO THIS PERSON. This is you! You need to care for yourself like this and avoid repeatedly going back to the state that you found this person in. What can you do to avoid that? What’s causing this problem? What activities, hobbies, interests would help you to make this connection/bridge to a healthier lifestyle. Repeat this process for your partner. Look at them as if you are a stranger. Someone just walked into the house and is meeting your partner for the first time. What do they see? How would they describe them? What advice, support would they offer? When seeing your partner through a 3rd party perspective: How would tomorrow be, how would it go, if you took time to see your partner in this perspective a few times a day? What emotions would you feel? It’s likely that you would have more patience and take things less personally. You might see areas of interest and activity or opportunity that your partner is missing out on that is contributing to the way they interact with you. Last thing: how do these realizations make you feel and what don’t you like about them? There is more work for you to do here and it doesn’t happen overnight. This is uncomfortable but uncomfortable is good because it means that you are moving out into a new area of growth. Need more help with this exercise: Check out the option for more support at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/waitlist to help you to see your partner differently. Develop a clinical eye that will help you see their strengths and know what to do with them.Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Get ready to train your newly recruited caregiving backup with essential skills to build confidence. Consider these top 6 areas. Comfort in physical contact: If there are any areas of injury, skin issues, tenderness issues: make these knownIf your LO has preferences about contact make that clearConversational skill and comfort with communications: asking the right questions and reading body language. If there is a certain way that you ask your LO something or an answer that they typically give you in response to a question you ask, make note of that. Write down topics that your LO easily talks about, interests, TV shows, history Bathroom confidenceShow by example then repeat with demonstration. Create a timed schedule of use of the bathroom while you are awayHave all areas accessible for different sized peopleMobility confidence / transfersStep by step approach with verbal prompts Maximize your LO participationYou can be the “test” case for them to practice on then repeat this with roles reversed so they can feel itMake avoidance of injury the goal. This is where injuries often occur ( shoulder, falls)Cooking or meal prep and mealsThe Where, What, and How. Don’t skip any details. What size are the bites? Do they cut their own? Do they use special utensils? What snacks (again, where what, and how)Drinks - make them aware of any risks for aspiration. The obvious is sometimes not obvious to others. Remember that liquid intake is usually a priority so don’t let them forget about this. Exiting the home/car transfersExiting the home should be a priority in case of emergency. Give them the easiest exit option. Car transfer should be a goal so they can go places if it is appropriate. Ready for change in your caregiving experience? Be one of the select students in a small group coaching series that helps you design the lifestyle that focuses on your needs and maximizes your LO strengths and independence. https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/waitlistSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Finding a backup caregiver so you can get some time for yourself is essential but takes some planning. You might be thinking, "Finding the perfect caregiver would be a great luxury." This is not true. First let's look at what the benefits are: Exposure to different people and experiences for your LOTime for you to spend doing whatever you need to do that adds value to your lifeSafe and planned dry runs in the case of an emergency need for help/backupBuilding confidence for the person you hire to one day help someone else or apply this to their own LO when neededHaving a person to call when you need a 2 person approach for moving your LO in the case of an emergency.Things to consider when selecting someone? Your LO personality ( be honest about their strengths and weaknesses) Do they need extra energy brought into the room or does that cause them anxiety? This caregiver does not have to interact just like you. The backup may be a nice change of pace for your LO so don’t take offense. Think about how you engage with other people. You might enjoy being around people that are very different from your spouse What are the absolute musts that the CG will need to be able to do for your day away?If it is an option for your LO to get out with someone else, that is a great option too. Consider dropping them off at a location and then starting your outing/experience from there. Watch what you do as from a third party perspective. Write down the flow of the day and times that you do things. It doesn’t have to be exact but it is easier to do this as the day is going on, in live time, than it is to sit and try to draw it all up from memoryLeave your expectations for perfection at the door. Make one absolute expectation be for no injuries and for fun. Meet the objections your LO might express upfront: Your LO objections might be related to - nervousness, control, antisocial behavior. Try this approach:Listen to them. Let them talk to you, share their thoughts. Don’t interrupt.Understand and repeat what you heard as an active listener.Respond calm, genuine feedback that validates their concernConfirm the plan you are establishing again in a positive light Selecting a caregiver without initial skills in caregiving is okay as long as they have a heart of service and you feel comfortable with them ( although a Google search of their name isn't a bad idea either). register for live workshop prior to July 29, 2021 https://wwwcaregiverbydesign.com/workshop and learn how to find freedom Join me on FB: https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesignLeave a review on apple itunes: Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Buying, building, and remodeling a home is a huge undertaking for anyone but the challenge is real when you are in need of making it suitable for your aging parents, your spouse with a chronic illness or physical challenge, or if your planning for your own future. There is a growing trend toward people aging in place, coming home from hospitals sooner, and with more significant challenges in terms of illness or physical limitations. This trend will be growing as we progress through time. You may be facing this challenge right now? I would love to hear more specifically about it and you can send me your story, your challenges to my website https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/contactme or DM me on IG https://www.instagram.com/caregive_bydesign or FB https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesignI have been in many many homes that were very challenging for people to navigate with their newly compromised LO and they were scrambling at the last minute to make changes. Sometimes, when the hospital would call and say, "your mom is coming home today?” The CG is often a bit frazzled with last-minute changes to be made.Matt, my husband, and architect answered some questions for us : Q: What are some of the biggest mistakes made or missed opportunities when people are modifying a home for an aging or disabled family member? A: 1. Overcomplicating the widening of doorways. 2. Using cheaper materials or taking shortcuts suggested by the contractor. 3. Not contacting the building inspector in your area for the clearances you may needThings to consider : seek a local home modification specialist. Consider making quality improvements that have a longevity factor. Consider asking an architect to do a consultation for your situation. Allocate your money to the most used parts of the home.Q: When looking at a new home build, what are some things to consider? A: Be aware of the updated international residential building code. For example: you no longer need to have a 6" step from garage to home entry. A: consider future use and placement of an elevator in a 2 story home. It's not as much of a luxury as you might think. it is more possible than it once was. A: consider the use of a kitchen that allows your LO to use it, socially at leastA: make kitchen mobility as safe as possible, consider railingA: more space, less clutter, is very valuableA: Bathrooms with built-in railing . The layout that would accomodate a wheelchair. Standard bathroom is 5 feet by 7 feet deep. Consider making this more spacious. Layout is very important. Consider making a bathroom connected to the bedroom for them to minimize fall risks. A: you could have a home designed so that the entire floor could be gutted and be left with supporting structure that would allow for changes you will need in the future. A: Consider laying out bathrooms with room for vertical grab bars A: Flooring is an important investment and carpet is not ideal. A: think carefully about entry and exit access for someone in a wheelchairSubscribe and leave a review on apple iTunes and share with your caregiving friends and family. Support the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
We all have self limiting beliefs but those of us who are aware of ours and work to minimize the power they have on our interactions with the world are winning. What is a self-limiting belief: assumptions or perceptions you have about yourself, your abilities, that are often subconscious yet have the power to alter your performance day to dayHow does your self-limiting belief get in the way of making progress toward more freedom and joy in your life? What is your self-limiting belief about caregiving for your loved one?Example: you’re the caregiving wife of someone with a physical limitation acquired and you are finding that as time goes by, you are taking on more and more of a “to-do list” and those things are getting more difficult Your self-limiting belief may be - “There must be something wrong with me since I feel so edgy through the day and exhausted.”Example: you're caregiving for your parent or grandparent Your self-limiting belief might be - “it’s just me, doing everything, and I can’t do anything different.” or “If I had more help, they would be doing better” “ Someone else could juggle this better than me” Why is it important to recognize this and what to do with it. Calling them out gives you the power to control them and minimize their impact on your emotions and interactions Consider journaling or voice recording into your phone Knowing the limiting belief will help you understand why you are struggling with certain emotions which could be contributing to stress and fatigueOnce you recognize your own self-limiting beliefs, you can help your LO to do the same and this helps you to ID why they may be stuck in certain areas of their cooperation, participation, engagement. Imagine what helping them get unstuck could do. As an OT , this is something that I would work through with my patients when I found that they lacked the initiation or perseverance to work towards their goals or if they didn’t have any goals and told me that they “had no purpose” and wanted to give up. There are stories that they are telling themselves, beliefs about themselves that limit their progress, or their ability to even see a different path forward. Unlocking this limiting belief is important and makes a big difference in how you and your loved one experience life. This applies to all people but I know that you, a caregiver, are facing excessively challenging situations day to day. Your loved one is also experiencing challenges that they may not be able to express and it is important to recognize this and help them to gain some control over how it impacts their life. For more help with shifting your mindset and finding more joy and confidence in your caregiving - https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingWant to hear more about a specific topic - https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/contactmeSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
These are not in order of importance but here is a quick reference list of the Top 10 preventative approaches to caregiving that you can take right now and see a difference. Optimize nutrition and hydrationOptimize activity in the home/participation in ADL and IADL if ableAnalyze and improve quality of movement with a daily routineSet medications up for ideal times for best effectiveness and consistency ( talk with your MD nurse)Engage in socializations to increase: cognitive activity, visual, verbal, muscle Get the home modifications you need ( bars, rails, toilet seat, shower seat, lighting in the home day and night)Get a toilet with a self-cleaning feature if they have difficulty with wiping ( UTI, skin breakdown)Adjust flooring in the home (carpets, flush thresholds, steps) to prevent falls Establish what walking device they should be using and keep them consistent with itAnalyze bed mobility safety and safety getting to and from the bedroom to the bathroomYou might notice that these all promote independence in some way. This should be the goal that you don't give up on because the more independence that your loved one has, the more independence you have. Want to be a beta tester of my upcoming membership for free? go here and let me know your situation and I will send you more information. I would love to get your feedback before I launch this to the general public for a monthly fee. https://caregiverbydesign.com/membershipTake part in a 3 day free training series that gives you the tools and strategies to minimize your caregiving stress https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
Caregivers are a vital part of a nation, a societies, infrastructure and there a few reasons why. First, let's define Infrastructure : the basic physical and organizational structures and facilities (e.g. buildings, roads, power supplies) needed for the operation of a society or enterprise.First, some facts to consider: The average cost of a 3 day hospital stay is 30KER on average charge about $2300 per visitAverage ALF monthly cost is 4KAverage nursing home monthly cost is about $8KAverage in-home care with an average of 44 hrs a week - the 2020 numbers show about $4400.Average hourly pay for caregiver $12-15 All of these numbers are very out of reach for most families. Most, 80% of the help provided in the home, is provided by unpaid family and friends. This lends to caregiver fatigue, stress, depression and a serious strain on their economic situation as most of them eventually leave their jobs or work less hours in order to provide care. This often results in the gradual seeking of a higher level of care that usually starts with Assisted Living Facilities. Insiders tip ( there may not be as much assistance provided in assisted living as you were hoping for) . These facilities require very mobile and mostly independent residents and they are not usually able to assist with daily tasks such as dressing, that the family and resident assume will be provided. Ex: Usually, the resident must be independently mobile throughout the necessary spaces of the environment. Here is a list of things to consider: caregivers are a very important part of the infrastructure that this country needs to progress. Without them, the ALF and nursing homes would be overloaded and they are already short-staffedGood caregiving minimizes hospitalizations and ER visitsCaregivers are a vital part of preventative healthcare and should be recognized as suchA caregiver that is paid for their role is able to continue contributing to the economyA paid in-home caregiver would be able to participate in society/economy with the one they are caring for which further adds to their well being, mobility, social skillsCaregivers organize the healthcare ( MD visits, meds ) which helps to minimize healthcare error In the US there is a current bill (the American Jobs Plan) that is being discussed by the Republican and Democratic parties that is looking at the importance of caregivers as part of the infrastructure of this nation and how to support them. This includes caregivers of children but the president has specifically mentioned the need to support efforts to keep the aging population supported if they desire to remain in their homes. This is a move that is a long time coming and needs to be taken more seriously by the citizens. I’d be so interested to hear your situation, your story. Would you consider sending me a short email ? caregiverbydesign.com/contactmetake advantage of a free training to help you minimize stress and be therapeutic https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetrainingSupport the showIf you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining