Change It Up Radio

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Jeannie Seeley-Smith, the newly retired CEO of Perspectives, Minnesota’s largest therapeutic, supportive housing program for women and children who have experienced long-term trauma, addiction, homelessness, mental illness, and poverty, and now the president of the “Seed the Change” capital campaign to raise completion funding for the new Perspectives trauma-informed family center.   They discuss the complex and multifaceted experience of grief and explore grief as a journey accompanied by nine friends, each symbolizing a stage or emotion tied to profound loss. Jeannie also talks about her efforts with Perspectives Family Center, detailing the initiative to raise funds and support women on their path to recovery.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   Understanding Grief as a Journey: Identifying various emotional stages such as shock, sobs, grief, sorrow, acceptance, and comfort The Foes of Grief: Exploring the negative emotions that may impede the healing process, such as fear, anger, depression, resentment, and jealousy Finding Inner Peace: The significance of actively seeking inner peace as an essential aspect of healing Perspectives Family Center: Jeannie's involvement in supporting women's recovery through fundraising and initiatives to change lives Reflection on the Season of Grief: Acknowledging the insights and contributions made throughout the season on the theme of grief     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, I explore the power of showing up, being present, and learning how to effectively and compassionately communicate with people who are in emotional pain.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The Importance of Empathy: The need for understanding and acknowledging the feelings of a person in emotional pain, rather than offering unsolicited advice The Process of Grief: How grief is a personal and individual experience rather than a linear process that can be rushed Ineffective Phrases: A list of phrases that could be hurtful or unhelpful when used in conversation with someone who is grieving or in emotional pain Advice for the Person in Pain: Several phrases a person in emotional pain can use to communicate their needs more effectively The Role of Presence: The value of just showing up and being present for those in emotional distress How intellectual responses often fail to address emotional pain and can potentially discount a person's feelings The blocks, fears, and reasons why people avoid having helpful conversations with loved ones who are hurting and grieving The essential keys to being able to develop the skills and confidence to have a truly helpful, healing, supportive conversation with someone in emotional pain   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, I explore how we can engage in supportive, healing conversations with those going through difficult life circumstances, emphasizing the importance of having compassionate, judgment-free conversations with those experiencing pain or grief. This episode serves as a valuable guide to having supportive conversations, providing listeners with tools and insights to help others navigate through difficult life changes.   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Dr. James JC Cooley, who is a dedicated business owner, motivational speaker, author, CEO and President of The It’s Your Life Media Television, and community activist whose primary focus is on our Youth development. He is the President & CEO of JC Cooley Innovation Solutions, LLC, and The JC Cooley Foundation Options & Opportunities / The Choice Program. They discuss the complex narrative of being a Black man in America, exploring the enduring impact of historical racial injustices, and the transformative power of education, forgiveness, and self-expression in healing and personal growth.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   Dr. Cooley's journey growing up as a black man in the South during the Civil Rights Movement The history and impact of slavery on African Americans, with a focus on Juneteenth, the commemoration of the end of slavery in the United States Understanding and tackling racial profiling, discrimination, and systemic racism The launch of Dr. Cooley's new book, "A Black Man's Point of View, Mind, Body, and Soul," providing a deep dive into the experiences of black men The role of forgiveness, love, and understanding in overcoming historical pain and injustices The importance of education, mentorship, and providing opportunities for disadvantaged youths Insights into the work of the JC Cooley Foundation Options & Opportunities / The Choice Program in community development and youth upliftment     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Dylan Stolba, who is going into the 10th grade at Carlsbad High School and entered a writing contest sponsored by Rotary International, winning 3rd place for her essay on Teenage Depression and Anxiety. They discuss teenage depression and anxiety, and the damaging effects of societal stigma and silence surrounding mental health issues.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The importance of recognizing and addressing teenage depression and anxiety Why open conversations about mental health experiences can help teens feel less isolated How teenage depression and anxiety can be manifestations of unresolved grief The link between unexpected or traumatic loss and the onset of depression or anxiety Symptoms of anxiety and depression to look out for in teenagers The importance of immediate action if there are signs of depression, especially talks of suicide The role of social media in exacerbating feelings of inadequacy and loneliness among teens How excessive smartphone use and screen time have been linked to depression among teens How overprotective parenting can prevent teens from problem-solving and developing resilience The role of support systems – friends, parents, teachers – in coping with mental health struggles The seriousness of self-harming behaviors among teenagers The impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on teenagers’ mental health The potential for change, recovery, and flourishing despite mental health struggles       To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Suzy Ryan, who is an author, educator, Ironman athlete, and SCAD survivor. They discuss recognizing the warning signs of child abuse and what we can do to keep kids safe.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The importance of shifting self-perception from 'victim' to 'victor' in the healing process The role of Suzy's book, "Saving Summer," in providing a "bridge of hope" for students affected by trauma The significance of child advocacy, education, and resources such as CPS in combating child abuse The profound impact of child abuse on a child's behavior and emotional well-being The responsibility of adults in a child's life to be observant and responsive to signs of abuse The emotional toll of removing a child from their home for their safety Different types of child abuse, including neglect, emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse The link between early childhood trauma and adult health problems     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by her Dad, Jack Gutman, who is one of the last living World War ll Veterans who are healthy, lucid, and able to share with us the realities of D-Day, a colossal moment in our country’s history. They discuss healing the painful wounds of war and post-traumatic stress and the grief that Veterans experience.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The use of humor as a coping mechanism for dealing with trauma and grief Jack's battle with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for 66 years The epidemic of post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and suicide in veterans The impact of Jack's book on its readers, particularly individuals also struggling with PTSD  The power of shared experiences and the healing impact of reaching out to others in a time of need     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Amy Scruggs, a Media Executive, TV host, Recording Artist, and Public Speaker, who helps others communicate a concise and professional message for network TV, podcast, social media, or in person public speaking appearances. They discuss the unique challenges, experiences, and grief that one struggles with as a single parent.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The unique grief, challenges, and triumphs that come with being a single parent The emotional turmoil of navigating difficult relationships/marriages The decision-making process that's involved when children are in a harmful environment The potential emotional toll on children when remaining in an unstable situation The balance of weighing physical necessities against emotional well-being Navigating early motherhood and personal growth simultaneously The impact of the economy and financial instability on single parenthood Maintaining positive relationships with ex-partners for the sake of the children Understanding and managing grief and regret as a single parent Creating opportunities amidst challenges, despite the hard times The creative approach to single parenthood in the face of financial crisis The complexities and challenges of blending family and work life The importance of acknowledging and addressing the sacrifices and struggles of the children The necessity of emotional support and acknowledgment of humanness in single parenting     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Marjorie Saylor, who is a survivor of sex and labor trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation and is the current Program Director of Alabaster Jar Project's long-term shelter program and drop-in resource center for adult women survivors of sex trafficking. They discuss the grim reality of human trafficking and sexual exploitation, along with the trauma and grief that survivors of these horrors experience.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   The prevalence of human trafficking worldwide, including in the United States Vulnerabilities that traffickers exploit and methods they use to lure and trap victims Marjorie Saylor's personal experience as a human trafficking survivor The effects of childhood trauma and vulnerability as a precursor to exploitation How poverty, isolation, and a lack of resources factor into the cycle of abuse and exploitation Different factors that prevent victims from leaving exploitative situations, including fear, financial dependence, threats to loved ones, and potential exposure The need for public engagement to enact legal changes and bolster the fight against human trafficking The role society plays in normalizing exploitative behaviors and the importance of challenging these norms and initiating conversations about these issues     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Rachel King, who is an attorney and the owner of King Law Firm, Attorneys at Law Inc., specializing in Elder Abuse Litigation, Family Law, Probate Litigation, Real Estate Litigation, and Conservatorships. They discuss the grief, loss, and emotional pain experienced by individuals undergoing divorce and elder abuse.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   How the multifaceted nature of grief extends beyond death to situations like divorce and elder abuse The impact of divorce and elder abuse on both the individuals involved and their families How Rachel King's personal and professional journey led her to specialize in elder abuse and family law The importance of addressing and processing grief for successful transitions in life Why divorce is a significant life change that involves intense emotions and grief Why even unwanted relationships or abusive marriages require a process of mourning How the hope of reconciliation or change can often extend the divorce process, leading to more pain How divorce impacts children and why it's crucial to maintain a healthy post-divorce environment The complex and often misunderstood issue of elder abuse, and the more subtle forms of this crime The prevalence of financial elder abuse in estate planning and the manipulation tactics used The crucial role of awareness and education in preventing elder abuse     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Art Giser, who is a gifted healer, intuitive, NLP trainer, life coach, and corporate consultant in leadership and teamwork. He is the creator of Energetic NLP, which is an energy-based method of working with loss and grief.   Some key topic points covered in this episode:   Why grief is such a unique experience for everyone and why it's not limited to death How there are common dimensions and expressions of grief, but no "right" way to grieve Energy psychology tools and modalities that can help individuals process grief more rapidly How Energetic NLP can provide valuable insights and assistance in coping with loss and grief How grief can be rooted in unhealed losses, which can sometimes manifest as addictions or avoidance mechanisms How grief can stem from absorbing other people's energies, which can make it difficult to heal and process one's own emotions Releasing other people's emotional energy in order to better cope with our authentic grief The combination of NLP, energetic processes, and spiritual principles led to the birth of Energetic NLP The miraculous self and its role in nurturing, healing, guiding, and supporting individuals The power of visualization in activating the unconscious mind The significance of understanding and accepting the diverse ways in which people experience grief     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Racquel Yarborough, who shares her deeply emotional story of losing her twin sister in a tragic incident while trying to help a victim of domestic violence. Racquel speaks candidly about her journey through grief and recovery and how she was able to find a sense of purpose in the aftermath of the tragedy.   Some key topic points covered in this episode:   The unique bond and experiences of growing up as twins The tragic loss of Racquel's twin sister, Rashauna, and how it affected her life life Coping with the tragic loss of a loved one and dealing with other's expectations of how one "should" grieve The importance of self-care and finding a balance between supporting others and healing oneself The power of meditation, prayer, and connecting with God during times of grief The importance of being in tune with a griever and offering support based on their needs The value of authentic expression in the grieving process and the necessity of moving forward The concept of Kintsugi and its relation to Racquel's healing journey     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Tracy Prior, who has enjoyed a 26-year career as a public prosecutor, and currently serves as a Chief Deputy District Attorney and the Chief Operating Officer for a Family Justice Center called One Safe Place, a one-stop-shop for victims and survivors of abuse and trauma. They discuss the effects of grief from trauma and abuse and finding help and healing for victims and survivors.   Some key topic points covered in this episode:   How One Safe Place is a one-stop-shop for victims and survivors of abuse and trauma, offering free services to those in need How One Safe Place addresses various forms of trauma, including domestic violence, elder abuse, sexual assault, child abuse, human trafficking, labor trafficking, bullying, etc.  Expanding access: The need for regional centers to ensure that victims and survivors can access support regardless of their location The impact of domestic violence and abuse on children and the importance of breaking the cycle of abuse The prevalence of sex trafficking and the importance of raising awareness The role that social media and technology play in the victimization of children The need for education on healthy relationships and bystander intervention in schools One Safe Place's pet-friendly resources and partnerships     To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Jeff Guenzburger, the former chaplain of the San Diego Chargers and the head of Reset Ministries, about his experience helping warriors, particularly NFL players and Navy SEALS, deal with the challenges of transitioning from their professional and military careers to their personal lives.   Some key topic points covered in this episode:   The difficulty men face in expressing their emotions and how this issue affects their ability to process grief Jeff's experience working with athletes and military personnel How military veterans often find it challenging to adapt to civilian life after leaving the military Why many NFL players struggle to find purpose and direction in their lives when their career ends The grief and losses associated with these transitions - including loss of income, position, and fame - and the importance of having support and a sense of community during the process The spiritual development plan Jeff is spearheading for the United States Football League The importance of expressing emotions honestly and authentically, especially for men who are not typically given permission to do so in society Practical tools and processes to help people navigate through difficult times in their lives   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by Jenna Mendez, a foster youth counselor, licensed professional counselor, nationally board-certified counselor, school counselor, and adjunct professor at Chapman University, to discuss the unique challenges that foster youth are faced with, and the support systems in place to help them succeed.   Jenna provides insight on the trauma that these children experience when they're removed from their homes, and the efforts made to place them in safe living arrangements. She describes the various ways children can enter the foster care system, including being born into it in certain scenarios, the reality of abuse within the foster care system, and the role of group homes for children with more severe situations.   We discuss the difficulties in finding suitable foster homes for children, as well as the importance of keeping them in their school of origin whenever possible, the court-ordered requirements for parents to regain custody of their children, and the need for education and awareness to help close the achievement gap and provide these children with a brighter future.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include:   Challenges faced by foster youth and the cycle of trauma in foster care The trauma experienced by foster children when removed from their homes The process of placing foster children in safe and suitable living arrangements The role of group homes in providing care for children with more severe situations The need for counseling, support, and advocacy for foster children The prevalence of foster youth in the United States and the need for support programs The importance of connection and belonging for foster children   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Paula Shaw is joined by former NFL middle linebacker Gary Plummer, who played for the San Diego Chargers and the San Francisco 49ers. They discuss the physical, mental, and emotional toll that his time in the NFL took on him, including his experience with early-onset dementia, as well as the high price he paid for greatness.   Gary shares stories from his time in the NFL, the attitude toward injuries and the pressure to play through pain, and the long-term physical and mental health consequences for football players. He emphasizes the need for players to be more open about their physical and emotional pain and seek help when needed, as well as the important role that supportive friends and family can play in their lives.   Gary also highlights the importance of taking small steps towards healing, whether through yoga, gratitude walks, or other activities that bring joy and peace, taking care of one's body through proper nutrition and exercise, and how these practices can help in mitigating the damage caused by brain injuries as well. Finally, he expresses hope that his story can help others understand the risks associated with professional sports and the importance of self-care and being of service to others.   Some key topic points covered in this episode include: The invincible mindset that professional athletes often adopt and how it can negatively impact their decision-making The evolving knowledge and understanding of the long-term effects of concussions The importance of nutrition and physical fitness in recovering from the damage caused by concussions The importance of seeking help and breaking the stigma surrounding mental health, especially for men in traditionally "macho" roles The power of taking small steps towards healing and finding the right activity for oneself The importance of being of service and giving back to others   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

Grief is a complex, multifaceted emotion that can arise from various types of loss and change. By understanding the different aspects of grief and acknowledging the emotions that come with it, we can better support ourselves and others during difficult times.   In this episode of Change It Up Radio, we discuss what grief is, how it manifests, and how to cope with it when it affects us or those around us.   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, I talk about some things we can do to survive the holidays when we are feeling sad and grieving.   This episode of Change It Up Radio is the second part of our special Grief and the Holidays series. This subject is very near and dear to my heart because when you’re hurting at this time of year, it can be very lonely and agonizing. Grief on its own is difficult enough, but it can really be magnified when the holidays roll around, and everyone else seems to be so happy and festive.   If you’re grieving a loss of some sort right now, you’re likely riddled with memories of fonder times when things felt happier, and you may be thinking, “What on earth do I do now? How do I feel better?”   It’s hard to imagine that these feelings of sadness and emptiness will ever fade, and celebrating the holidays the same way you have in the past may just not be possible right now. That’s okay. Today, I’m going to be talking about my Holiday Survival Checklist and sharing several helpful tips for those who are grieving and going through some kind of heavy emotional pain at this time of year.   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Ellen McCarty joins me to talk about how to get through the holiday season when you’re grieving a loss in your life.   Today, we discuss some of the reasons why this time of year is so tough for many people and ways that you can nurture and take good care of yourself during this particularly difficult time. We share a couple of tools and some different ways of thinking that can help you work with the feelings you’re going through and not feel so alone while also giving yourself the permission to do things differently this holiday season.   To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com

In this episode of Change It Up Radio, Ellen McCarty joins me to talk about some of the highlights of our fall season of the show, called “Giants on the Road Less Traveled." We explore and reflect on all of the beautiful lessons and learnings we've taken from the incredible guests who joined us over the course of this season.   Ellen will also be joining me in the next few weeks as we do a series on grief and the holidays. Because this is a tough time of year for people who are dealing with loss, we want to do everything we can to offer help and offer insights, awareness, and whatever is needed to help grievers not feel so alone at this time of year.    To Learn More About the Show, Visit: www.ChangeItUpRadio.com