Change My Relationship

Spiritualizing hurts hurting people by not responding to the real needs of the person by minimizing their pain and the situation. Watch this video to understand what spiritualizing is and why it hurts. #spiritualizing #hurtingpeople #respondingtoneeds     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZgiMlLsAn8o  

Abusive relationships contain many types of harmful treatment. Some overt and some covert. Some obvious and some hidden. Some are easy to identify, and some are not so easy to identify.  We know emotional abuse is harmful, but is emotional neglect abuse? This matters when you are listening to an abuse victim, when you are in a toxic relationship, when you are assessing your behavior, and when you are evaluating the impact of dysfunction on your children. Watch this video to find out when emotional neglect is abuse.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-JwAztXG0VI

Virginia shares the hearts of those who love their wounded children and the prayers that arise from their painful struggles in this podcast. She answers the hard questions: What about the person who has prayed and prayed and hasn't gotten an answer? What are you praying for when you ask God to heal? Is it instant healing or something else? Can you contend with God? Can you share your emotions with Him? Parents with wounded children have struggled with these questions and more, and they will find comfort with this honest and practical discussion.   Virginia Wells is the author of "Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love." She combined her faith as a hospital chaplain, her education and experience as a mental health counselor working with traumatized children, and her personal heart cries as an adoptive mother to wounded children from war-torn countries or minority backgrounds.    Her devotional is both practical and deeply spiritual. It serves as both a soul cry and a battle plan, written for the parent whose heart breaks daily--who feels unseen, unprepared, or out of strength, yet still refuses to give up. Wells speaks directly to those walking a difficult parenting path, offering the encouragement and tools they need to keep going when hope feels distant. She equips parents with spiritual and emotional tools to help them stand in the gap for their children, while also tending to their own healing and hope.   You can find her book on Amazon: Praying for a Wounded Child: Encouragement and Prayers for You and the Child You Love  https://amzn.to/3HMKqa9   Website: virginiawellsauthor.com Facebook: Virginia Wells, Author Email: wellsvirginia1972@gmail.com   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WKMaijqfnMY

Toxic relationships have complicated dynamics that are hard to figure out. It isn't unusual to be confused about the specific problems you are dealing with. Emotions are intense. Conflict isn't resolved. People don't listen and seek to understand when you voice your concerns and needs.  Reactivity is high in toxic relationships. It is easy to do things you regret. One of the best things you can do is to practice stopping yourself before you react. One of the easiest ways to do that in toxic relationships is to play the movie forward. Watch this video to find out how and why to do this.  You'll be glad you did.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_wAhEAp2nGA

Abusive relationships shouldn't be hard to leave, but they are. If you've been in one, you know that it is because you are emotionally and relationally entangled. You struggle with knowing what is true and question yourself because you believe the abuser's accusations that blame you for the problems.   Understanding what a trauma bond is and why it keeps you stuck will help you identify why you are struggling. It will also pinpoint what you need to do to get healthier and stronger to break the attachment that some have referred to as an addiction. Watch this video to answer the question: What is a trauma bond in your abusive relationship?   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4WtCGDc1RPU  

When setting boundaries, how do you go from chaos to clarity? If you've been in a relationship with dysfunctional dynamics, you know what it is to be confused, frustrated, overwhelmed, and uncertain. You know how you question yourself and wonder if your thoughts, feelings, actions, and perceptions are accurate.  Is it possible to go from there to a place where you are clear on what is happening and what you need to do? Is it possible to know your boundaries and have the courage to follow through?  The answer is "Yes." Watch this video on "Setting Boundaries: From Chaos to Clarity" to learn how.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yxtOJJg-unA  

Detaching from accusations means knowing how to not take false accusations to heart and instead letting them go. Detaching allows you to keep your reactions under control and instead choosing how to respond. Learn how to do that by watching this video. #Detachment #KeepingControl #EmotionalControl #Acusations   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/y0I6udOCDXo

Do you know what not to say to depressed or anxious people? You should if you have any contact with them in your life. There are many things people say, including Christian pat answers, that cause hurt. Find out what they are. #healthyrelationship #support #positiverelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6zExlxmreck

You have probably heard a lot about anxious and avoidant attachment styles and how they make your relationships unhealthy. But what does it mean to be securely attached? It is what you are supposed to be when you get healthy. It is what helps your relationships to succeed, but how can you know you are getting closer to the goal if you don't know what it is? What does it mean to be securely attached? You need to know. Watch this video to find out.  #secureattachment  #healthyrelationship #anxiousattachmentstyle #attachmenttheory    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YTXfWJjYUKw

Christians misunderstand what the Bible says about submitting to authority. Whether it is in marriage, the church, the family or society, learn what the Bible says about this important principle that affects all relationships. #healthyrelationship #abusiverelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SdjSLqgDqfM

When you set a boundary, do you need to explain your boundary? Do you have to tell the person why you are setting that limit and justify why you came to that decision? Do you have to convince the person that you have a right to it, and do you need their permission and approval?  These are important questions for you to consider before you state your limit. Think about what you need to say, if anything at all. Watch this video to know the answer to the question: "Should you explain your boundary?" Hint: The answer is yes and no. It depends.   #setboundaries #christianboundaries    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/pMKiWOwYMnM

This video provides various considerations for low contact vs no contact boundaries with toxic people such as narcissists and abusers. #limitcontact #setboundaries #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyboundaries   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8LD1nLMxXjo

Dysfunctional people are often defensive when you try to talk to them about their problems. An alternative is to approach them by owning the problem. Watch this video to learn how to communicate with defensive people in a way that decreases their defensiveness. #DysfunctionalRelationship #ToxicRelationships #DefensiveResponses #OwningTheProblem   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gHi3XE13kdU

Unhealthy families have similar dynamics regardless of what their specific problems are. They are complicated and hard to untangle. There are common unspoken rules that everyone knows they have to abide by, even though doing so ensures that the dysfunctional drama continues.  Yet there is a way to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules and decrease the family drama. You may not be able to do it with everyone, but you can start with one dysfunctional relationship and make healthy relationship changes by how you act and react.  If you want to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules, watch this video to find out how.  #dysfunctionalfamily  #healthyrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #familydrama     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2aJ0dcB6of0

You cannot keep someone from gaslighting you, but you can choose how to respond to gaslighting. Learn effective responses by watching this video. #gaslighting #dysfunctionalrelationship #gaslighter #respondingtogaslighting     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Trv3nKQRJBc