Change The Odds

Welcome to Change the Odds, the podcast! Discover practical tips on how to initiate conversations with your spouse about the need for more attention and create a system for giving each other the attention you both deserve. If you want to strengthen your marriage and enhance your connection with your partner, this podcast is a must. Join the conversation and don’t miss out on this valuable advice for building a lasting and fulfilling relationship.

Love Styles, Attachment Theory, and Real Change w/ Mark Clark

Why do we love the way we do—and how can we change it? Kevin Thompson and Mark Clark break down attachment theory, love styles, and how to build healthier relationships in every area of life.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES

12-18
48:38

When Christmas Blows the Budget and Trust

He said $800, he spent $2,000. Can a little Christmas magic justify a big financial betrayal? We break down the fight, the fallout, and how to stop money issues from ruining the season.

12-10
35:24

Who Gets Christmas? Family Boundaries & Holiday Battles with Your Spouse

Christmas is supposed to be joyful—but for many couples, it’s anything but. We unpack one couple’s holiday dilemma and dive into boundaries, triangulation, and how to stop dreading December.

12-03
43:26

Why Our Marriage Works: The Thompsons on Timing and Teamwork

Kevin and Jenny Thompson join us to talk love, ministry, parenting challenges, and what makes a strong marriage work—even when you don’t cry at dedications.

11-26
58:07

Intimacy on Empty: When (It) Feels Like a Chore

When sex turns into another task on the to-do list, what’s really going on in the marriage? We unpack pursue-withdraw cycles, anxious attachment, and how real connection begins outside the bedroom.

11-19
42:43

Control vs Connection: The Parenting Fight No One Warns You About

What happens when “because I said so” meets “let’s stay connected”? Blaine and Adrienne unpack a listener-submitted parenting fight and explore how control and connection can work together—not against each other.

11-12
42:01

Fight Club

What if a fight over lost keys isn’t really about the keys? We break down how everyday conflict reveals deeper personality traits, attachment styles, and the hidden strength of a healthy fight.

11-05
34:45

5 Signs You’re Growing Together in Faith and Purpose

Struggles, spelling, and spiritual growth—this episode unpacks five signs your marriage might be aligned with God’s will (and why pain might actually be proof you’re on the right path).

10-29
46:50

5 Spiritual Practices Every Strong Couple Needs

Forget the cookie-cutter advice—this episode dives into five bold spiritual practices that build real connection, intimacy, and purpose in your marriage. It’s time to change the odds, together.

10-22
43:42

Red Flags, Real Talk, and Rebuilding Trust

From smashed wedding cakes to CrossFit crushes, we’re talking marriage red flags, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and how to guard your relationship from subtle dangers—without sounding like your spouse’s preacher.

10-15
45:19

Stop Saying “He’s Logical, She’s Emotional”—Try This Instead

We bust the “logical vs. emotional” myth, unpack the head–heart–gut framework, and share practical tools—“it felt like…”, absorbing the first jab, and naming emotions—to strengthen marriage, conflict, and parenting.

10-08
43:49

Q&A: Firemen, date nights, and dreams

Q&A time: staying connected with unpredictable schedules, business meeting vs date night, high/low drive and physical touch, dividing housework fairly, and how to align individual dreams into a shared one. Real talk, practical moves.

10-01
43:45

Truth, Love, and Maturity in Marriage

What happens when truth and love collide in marriage? We unpack why honesty, maturity, and intentionality are essential to unity—and how speaking truth in love transforms relationships.

09-24
43:23

Growth: the foundational skill for every marriage

We unpack how couples truly grow: build connection first, then stack skills. Growth mindset, tiny daily habits, community, and safety over nagging. Prehab > rehab. Practical steps you can start tonight.--Be chosen by a child. Poverty steals choices from kids—give those choices back. Sign up, submit your photo, and a child will choose you as their sponsor. Learn more about Chosen at World Vision: "The power to choose is in a child’s hands." https://go.bayside.church/worldvisionpodcast

09-17
47:33

Dreaming Together: Rest, Vision, and Partnership in Marriage

We share how a retreat reshaped our view of marriage, rest, and partnership—and why dreaming together may be the most important thing you do as a couple.

09-10
27:39

The Window of Tolerance

We unpack the “window of tolerance”—hyper vs. hypoarousal, co-regulation, and simple tools (hello, breathing) to handle conflict, parenting chaos, and work stress—so you can fight for calm, not control.

09-03
47:04

Attend & Attune, Part 2: The Neuroscience of Connection

Discover the neuroscience behind attending and attuning, why emotional safety boosts intimacy, and practical ways to connect deeply with your spouse every day.

08-27
23:04

Two Words That Could Transform Your Marriage

Discover how the simple habits of attending and attuning can radically strengthen your marriage, deepen connection, and create emotional safety in every relationship.

08-20
22:28

Canadian Chocolate, Lost Rings, and the Real Secrets of Marriage

Blaine and Adrienne celebrate 14 years of marriage—from sweet surprises to lost rings and everything in between—and reflect on what they’ve learned (and unlearned) along the way.

08-13
40:27

Why Smart Couples Don't Need to be Right

Why do some couples fight better? In this episode, Kevin unpacks the overlooked secret to healthy conflict: intellectual humility—and how it could transform your marriage.

08-06
35:19

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