Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In Episode 418 of The Charisma Quotient, "Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey" Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It's Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice.   This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you'll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey's own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps.  You'll hear: Why reality TV makes confidence both easier and more complicated—and what happens when the cameras shut off. The truth behind pop culture's influence on dating trends and the rise of influencer-first attitudes. Kimmy's four Cs of dating: how being compelling, having chemistry, being compatible, and compromise are essential for a healthy relationship. Insights from the Golden Bachelor: friendships, disappointments, and what really goes on behind the scenes.   If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship? In Episode 417 of The Charisma Quotient, "Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors," you'll get a special look at Kimmy's new show Dating Real Talk where Kimmy and her co-host Allison Melody, and special guests Doug and Mark—two real-life bachelors sharing candid insights.   This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy Seltzer leads a lively discussion with co-host Allison Melody and two real-life bachelors, Doug Bass and Mark Primiano, about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of seeking commitment too soon, connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial "fun."     You'll hear: The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what's different, what's hard, and what's hopeful) Insights from watching and dissecting "The Golden Bachelor"—and what applies to your own dating life How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them) Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship   If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you're still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you've been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong? In Episode 416 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor's Natascha Hardee," Kimmy dives deep into the powerful truth that aging isn't a decline, but a dynamic redesign and a superpower for living vibrantly..   In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardy, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself.  You'll also hear funny behind-the-scenes moments from the first season of the Golden Bachelor. They explore why so many feel "past their prime" and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age.   You'll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live life large at any age.    You'll hear: Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene. Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it. The skill of dating: how it's learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever. Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife. Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act.   If you're ready to redefine sexy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love," Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show "Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles.   In this episode, Kimmy is joined by her friend and fellow podcaster Allison Melody. Kimmy kicks off the series by introducing her own transformation story: from a "frumpy" newly single mom in LA to finding her confidence (and style!) again after divorce. Allison and Kimmy dive into how themes from pop culture—specifically, The Golden Bachelor—mirror the real-world dating experiences of those "in their second act." Together, they unpack why taking action trumps simply "doing the work" in dating, the importance of first impressions (and the surprising science of the red dress!), and how to balance authenticity with making a memorable entrance—especially on a first date. The hosts debate the do's and don'ts of sharing your personal story early on, discuss the concept of "trauma bonding," and offer practical advice for both men and women navigating modern dating norms.  You'll hear: The key first impression mistakes people make (and reality TV examples to avoid) How trauma bonding shows up in dating—and what true vulnerability looks like The difference between "pink flags" and "red flags," and how to spot them early How to break the cycle of overthinking and show up more playfully on dates Real talk on where to go for a first date and why "coffee isn't flirty" If you're ready to get fun and flirty, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or confusing sexual attraction for true intimacy? What if old trauma or hidden shame is quietly running the show without you even realizing it? In Episode 413 of The Charisma Quotient, "Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Inteview with Veronica Clark," Kimmy explores some of the deepest—and most common—blocks people face on their journey to love and connection.   In this episode, Kimmy sits down with celebrated intimacy coach and somatic healing expert Veronica Clark. Together, they shed light on how past experiences of trauma, sexual shame, and people-pleasing behaviors can create invisible barriers, shaping the way you show up in dating and relationships.    Kimmy shares powerful stories from her own coaching practice, including clients who unconsciously sabotage connections, avoid vulnerability, or chase unavailable partners out of old, unhealed wounds. Veronica shares her remarkable personal journey, moving from trauma and self-judgment to becoming an advocate for embodied sensuality, authentic connection, and sexual healing.  You'll hear: How hidden trauma and shame silently sabotage your love life—often without your awareness. Why people-pleasing, caretaking, and chasing unavailable partners are signs of old wounds playing out. The difference between real sexual chemistry and seeking validation or a "fix" from others. The transformative power of somatic experiencing, mindfulness, and embodiment practices. Practical tips for reclaiming sexuality, building body confidence, and healing shame—in and out of relationships.   If you're ready to unlock your true capacity for intimacy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie," Kimmy sits down with former client Leslie, a widow who embarked on a journey to find love in her second act. Leslie's incredible transformation and her ultimate love story will leave you feeling inspired and hopeful. Leslie joined Kimmy's coed dating retreat program after attending Kimmy's workshop about flirting and sexy confidence.  She was a relationship person with little dating experience and was finding herself feeling lost and not knowing how to put herself out there.  The thought of flirting horrified her and she realized that she was closed off, guarded and in her head a lot.  She also didn't realize that she was hiding in her clothes and didn't like bringing attention to herself.  YOU'LL HEAR: The key mindset shift that helped her go from outcome-focused and burnt out to open and present in her dating life. The importance of vulnerability, self-care, and expressing your needs in attracting meaningful connections. How Kimmy's style makeover and group retreat experience empowered Leslie to feel seen, sexy, and confident. Lessons on flirting, body language, and stepping into your femininity without feeling like you're "trying too hard." The turning point moment when Leslie stopped judging and allowed herself to date with curiosity—even giving men a chance she'd usually overlook.   Through undergoing a style makeover, learning dating and flirting skills, Leslie became more open and vulnerable, leading her to start dating men she wouldn't have considered before.  Eventually, she met someone who brought happiness into her life and is in a beautiful relationship today! Exciting announcement to join Kimmy in launching her livestream podcast Dating Real Talk premiering Sept 26 at 5:30pmPST/8:30pmEST.  Go to YouTube Channel @kimmyseltzer or www.datingrealtalk.com to join live! If you're ready to be the next Golden Bachelor success story, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Watch Kimmy's dating retreat and later dater success stories featured in Inside Edition https://www.insideedition.com/media/videos/these-women-prove-its-never-too-late-to-find-love-91871   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to "find the one" can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that feels lighter, more playful, and actually attracts better connections? In Episode 411 of The Charisma Quotient, "What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone's Talking About It and How to Try It," Kimmy invites you to rethink everything you know about modern romance.   In this thought-provoking episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy Seltzer introduces us to "quantum dating"—an emerging dating philosophy that flips traditional expectations on their head. Drawing from her years of coaching experience and referencing a viral term, Kimmy explains how quantum dating is less about chasing commitment and more about curious exploration. She dives into real-life stories of clients who transformed their love lives by loosening the grip on outcomes and letting each interaction become a valuable, self-revealing experience.    Kimmy goes over how quantum dating helps reduce burnout, expand potential partners, and ultimately attracts more aligned, lasting relationships by focusing on connection rather than pressure. Kimmy also addresses common concerns, busts quantum dating myths, and shares her top five actionable tips to help you put this game-changing mindset into practice—whether you're casually dating, returning to the scene later in life, or seeking something real.    You'll hear: What "quantum dating" really means (and why it's not physics, but it is revolutionary). How rigid expectations and checklists create dating burnout and anxiety. The tangible benefits of quantum dating—like increased self-awareness, resilience, and a magnetic vibe. Kimmy's answers to common listener concerns: "Isn't this just casual dating?", "Isn't it wasting time?" and more. Five practical tips for dating with curiosity, intentionality, and presence (plus, why it'll help you attract the right people!).   If you're ready to experiment, have fun, and put this theory into practice, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd.  You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com.   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food habits weren't just about the food, but were actually acting as shields keeping real, intimate connections out of reach? In Episode 410 of The Charisma Quotient, "Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk" Kimmy sits down with emotional eating and body confidence expert Amber Romaniuk to unpack how emotional eating, body image struggles, and self-worth are entwined with your ability to show up powerfully in love and dating.   Amber bravely shares her own story—starting with childhood trauma and family patterns, leading to a battle with binge eating, bulimia, and a search for self-acceptance. Together, Kimmy and Amber explore why food and weight often become "love shields"—protecting you from rejection but also keeping you from intimacy, joy, and playfulness in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and practical strategies, they reveal what it really takes to break free from emotional eating cycles and step into self-love and magnetic confidence. Kimmy and Amber don't shy away from tough questions about worth, fear, and vulnerability. Instead, they share helpful steps to spot your triggers, get honest about your habits, and move from victim mode to empowered action—both with food and with love.  You'll hear: How emotional eating and body image anxieties can sabotage your dating life—and what to do about it. The concept of "love shields"—how food and weight can become unconscious protection from vulnerability and intimacy. Why control, people-pleasing, and perfectionism often hide deeper wounds that affect relationships. Practical steps to identify emotional eating triggers and start healing from the inside out. How building self-worth creates real change in your relationships—and why dating is actually working on yourself. How control and rigidity creates masculine energy when dating. If emotional eating or body image struggles have been holding you back in love, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd and get unstuck in a fun, supportive environment.  You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to date with intention—and not just to find a partner, but to rediscover playfulness, joy, and your own self-worth?  In Episode 409 of The Charisma Quotient, "Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy does a live coaching session with  Joni, a vibrant 69-year-old woman embarking on a new chapter after a major life transition—moving to a new country and reimagining her relationship with dating.   Kimmy delves into the common blocks that can make dating later in life intimidating: fear of rejection, comparison to the past, negative self-image, the myth that it's "too late," and the tendency to take dating way too seriously. Through honest coaching and playful perspective shifts, Kimmy helps Joni explore and reawaken her inner "Pixie"—her fun, flirty, confident self who's ready to be seen, connect, and have fun. During their candid conversation, Kimmy helps Joni unpack the roots of her old patterns, including childhood wounds, self-limiting beliefs, and habits of prioritizing others at the expense of herself. Together, they outline simple, actionable steps for Joni (and listeners!) to practice playful, pressure-free flirting, embrace visibility, and lean into joyful social experiences. Whether you're dating again after a long relationship, navigating new cultures, or just looking to shake off dating dread, this episode shows that it's never too late to embrace connection with intention—and that dating, at any age, can (and should!) be fun.  You'll hear: Kimmy's framework for intentional dating and "dating yourself" The five common obstacles that keep people from enjoying dating later in life How childhood experiences and limiting beliefs shape our approach to love Practical advice for reigniting your playful, flirty side  The importance of self-image, confidence, and loving where you're at—now If you're ready to start dating with intention, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 17th and get real-time feedback and meet new people. Sign up at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Do you ever wonder why first impressions spark connections—or cause instant shut-downs? Are you struggling to translate your real-life personality into your digital presence?  In Episode 408 of The Charisma Quotient, "Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen" Kimmy welcomes executive communications strategist Jess Jensen, founder of Copilot Communications, for a dynamic conversation that bridges the worlds of business and dating. Together, they break down how your presence—online and offline—makes or breaks first impressions, and why charisma is the secret edge in both arenas.   Together, they reveal how presence, energy, body language, and authenticity matter just as much—if not more—than the words you say when you're aiming to connect with others both in love and business. Kimmy opens the episode with a powerful story about transforming a socially anxious executive's networking and dating life, setting the stage for practical tips everyone can use. Jess shares how the evolution of social media has reshaped communication and highlights the similarities between building a strong professional brand and making heartfelt connections in dating. The duo discusses the most common blunders people make with their online profiles and digital presence, stressing the importance of storytelling, approachability, and vulnerability—skills that captivate both clients and potential romantic partners.  You'll hear: Why first impressions matter even before you say "hello"—and how to control the story your presence tells The science and art behind making judgments in just 7 seconds (yes, the research is in!) Real stories of transformation: how a wardrobe change and a charisma boost led a client from boardroom nerves to romantic sparks Jess's 5-step framework to shape your online and offline presence (with actionable tips at every level) If you know your online and offline presence needs a little help, download Kimmy's style guides to get started with your wardrobe.  Go to www.kimmyseltzer.com/style  Then book a private session to get more personal help with some presence coaching here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor's new album, The Life of a Showgirl. Relationship therapist Esther Perel weighed in, highlighting the concept of "compersion" in a recent Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to Travis' celebration of her.If you have a pattern of people you date or attract in your life that tend to be competitive, jealous and critical rather than supportive and happy for your successes then this is an episode you won't want to miss.In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy, Kimmy dives into the power and importance of compersion—feeling authentic joy for the happiness and success of someone you love—and unpacks why these "cheerleader" moments are the true green flags in dating.   Relationship therapist, Esther Perel, used this term "compersion" recently in an Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to the heartwarming reaction of Travis Kelce and his brother Jason as they celebrated Taylor Swift's new album.  Kimmy unpacks why these "cheerleader" moments are the true green flags in dating.   Kimmy uses real-life coaching stories to illustrate how compersion and jealousy show up on first dates and far into relationships. You'll hear about clients who kept attracting partners that would downplay their wins, make dismissive jokes, or always steer the conversation back to themselves—leaving them feeling small, unseen, and unsupported. Kimmy explains where these reactions come from and why they're red flags you need to spot early. Through practical steps, Kimmy teaches you how to identify and cultivate compersion. She outlines a powerful homework assignment to the listeners on how to conduct a "compersion check-in" on your next date, how to reclaim your power by celebrating your own wins without shrinking, and how to recondition yourself to receive genuine support—especially if it feels uncomfortable or "foreign" at first.    You'll hear: How to spot the subtle signs of compersion (and jealousy) from the very first date, so you don't waste time on someone whose insecurity will make you feel small. A real-life client story that illustrates how someone can seem charming and supportive, but consistently chips away at your joy—and how to break that toxic cycle for good. Specific "green flags" that signal emotional maturity and genuine support, versus common "red flags" that point to competition and insecurity. A simple, three-step "Compersion Check-In" exercise you can try on your next date or even in your current relationship, to see how supported you really feel. If you are wanting to break patterns in your dating life and want a Taylor and Travis kind of love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you  https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever looked back at a breakup and wondered: Did I really miss those red flags, or was I ignoring what I didn't want to see? Do your relationships seem to fall into similar patterns—leaving you with the same heartbreak, just with a new face? In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, "The 6 Dirty "F" words and Identifying Red Flags in Relationships: Interview with Sarah Intelligator " Kimmy sits down with acclaimed family law attorney and author Sarah Intelligator, who brings not just her legal expertise, but hard-won personal insight from her own journey through divorce and self-growth.   Kimmy opens the episode by exploring the concept of red flags, explaining that most of us don't actually "miss" them—we simply learn to explain them away. As Sarah joins the conversation, she shares her own origin story, blending her professional work watching relationships crumble in and out of the courtroom with candid stories from her personal life—including marrying young and later working through her own divorce. Recognizing the emotional and financial devastation of separation, she felt inspired to help others avoid ending up in her office in the first place, leading her to author her book, "Live Laugh, Find True Love." The heart of the episode focuses on the "Dirty F Words" Sarah has identified as the most common fail factors she sees repeatedly in relationships heading for divorce. Together, Kimmy and Sarah break down how these patterns show up during the dating process and later in long-term relationships. They highlight the importance of truly knowing your own values, understanding how fear can keep you in the wrong relationships, and why having a solid foundation—built on respect, trust, communication, and teamwork—is essential for lasting partnership.  You'll hear: The six "Dirty F Words" (a.k.a. fail factors) that show up in almost every relationship that ends in divorce—and how to notice them before it's too late The #1 mistake daters make: confusing chemistry for compatibility, and what fundamental values really mean How fear—of being alone, of change, of not being lovable—keeps you stuck, PLUS actionable steps to reclaim your confidence and decision-making Why trying to FIX your partner never works, and what actually does build healthy, lasting love If you're ready to stop blaming "bad luck" and instead take empowered, loving responsibility for your choices and your future relationships, hop on a private call with Kimmy to help you come up with ways to do that.  Book it here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You're not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond):  Special Dateable Edition" Kimmy is invited onto the dynamic Dateable Podcast with hosts Julie and Yue. The conversation dives deep into the world of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond  The tables are turned as Kimmy sits in the guest seat, opening up about her own experience moving cross-country, dealing with divorce, rediscovering herself, and re-entering the dating scene as a single mom. She reveals the pivotal moment that reignited her confidence: the famous red dress story, where shopping for something outside her comfort zone became the catalyst for a complete mindset (and life) shift. The conversation dives into the real-life challenges of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond: from evolving attraction and patterns, to balancing careers, family, and social lives, to confronting limiting beliefs about "the dating pool" at any age. Kimmy unpacks why your "second act" can be your strongest yet, and how clarity, confidence, and a willingness to try new things—whether that's a new outfit or a new approach to flirting—can make all the difference.  You'll hear: Why dating after 40 isn't a consolation prize — it's often a "reset" filled with wisdom, clarity, and deeper authenticity. How to break out of old "types," refresh your flirt game, and finally have fun again—even if you haven't dated in decades. First-hand advice for navigating dating apps, balancing busy lives, and prioritizing your own happiness. The truth about age, attraction, and that so-called "shrinking dating pool" (spoiler: it's all about mindset and action—not your birth date). If you are a later dater and getting caught in the friendzone often or not feeling the chemistry on dates, join Kimmy for her next co-ed interactive workshop called Unleash Your Sexy Confidence where you will learn the art of attraction and chemistry.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You're not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game" Kimmy guides you through the essential steps to transform your love life from the outside in. Whether you're returning to the dating scene after a long break or wrestling with low confidence, Kimmy shares actionable tips, eye-opening mindset shifts, and real-life success stories to help you polish up your social and flirt skills and enjoy dating again. In this episode, Kimmy covers everything from revamping your dating image, clarifying what you truly want, to breaking free from self-sabotaging checklists and learning to enjoy the process of meeting new people. You'll discover why waiting for the "perfect time" never works, the importance of focusing on your own happiness, and how making small changes—like updating your wardrobe—can spark a sexy new confidence. Whether you're discouraged, confused, or simply looking for a little motivation, this episode is packed with inspiration and clarity.  You'll hear: Six game-changing steps to refresh your approach—including ways to stop waiting for the "right moment" and have fun on your path to finding love Actionable advice for overcoming insecurity, building a social circle, and taking small steps toward flirting, connecting, and feeling good in your own skin The story of a client who shifted from "giving up" to "excited and confident," just by tweaking his mindset, updating his dating appearance, and learning to enjoy the process Why so many of us feel out of sorts when it comes to dating—and the simple truth that you're not alone.   If you're hating dating and want help putting yourself out there, start taking action by booking a FREE private call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/.     Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, despite your best intentions to date differently? In Episode 404 of The Charisma Quotient, "Cosmic Compatibility:  Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen" Kimmy talks with renowned Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen, to decode the mysteries of relationship patterns, cosmic compatibility, and lasting love.   Carol and Kimmy have a dynamic discussion about how the interplay of your past and family dynamics combined with astrology can shape your relationships.  Carol shares her personal journey from relationship confusion to becoming a renowned astrologer, including the fascinating story of her own marriage. She reveals how astrology—and especially Vedic techniques from India, which have been used to arrange marriages for centuries—can shed light on why certain connections are so compelling or challenging, the timing of love, and what truly makes a relationship work beyond surface-level compatibility. The episode dives into the concept of "cosmic compatibility": what really happens when two people meet and there's an undeniable energetic flow. Carol unpacks how Vedic astrology analyzes both individual and combined charts to reveal innate temperament, relationship "capacity," timing (your seasons and cycles), and specific compatibility factors.   She explains why some couples experience effortless harmony while others feel like they're constantly hitting invisible walls, regardless of how hard they try.  You'll hear: Why you keep attracting the same type of partner or experiencing painful relationship patterns How unconscious patterns and "love shields" influence your dating life and emotional connections. What "cosmic compatibility" means, how Vedic astrology can reveal relationship patterns, and the factors that determine lasting love. How to use both personal growth and cosmic timing to break old cycles, increase self-awareness, and open up to the right partnership.   If you are wanting to break patterns in your love life, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you. book a FREE call with her here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣.  Want to get a personalized reading with Carol?  Book it here https://carolallen.isrefer.com/go/wgr/kseltzer/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today's world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self?  In Episode 403 of The Charisma Quotient, "Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh" Kimmy dives deep with Brad Walsh, professional photographer and host of the Empowerography podcast, to unpack the hidden challenges and unique strengths of women navigating visibility, self-worth, and empowerment.   Kimmy and Brad discuss why so many women feel invisible, carry the hidden burdens of past rejection or body image issues, and sometimes lose themselves in relationships. Through powerful personal stories and Brad's unique perspective as a man championing women's empowerment—both behind the camera and on the mic—they explore how embracing your feminine energy and authentic self is the key to confidence. Brad shares how his journey started in photography, the profound transformation he sees in women after a shoot, and why self-love and self-care go far beyond surface-level routines. You'll learn what sets empowered women apart, how to break free from old patterns and step into visibility, and actionable strategies to start seeing—and truly believing in—your own worth.    You'll hear: Why so many women (and men!) feel invisible or "not enough" when it comes to dating, relationships, and self-image. The transformative power of truly being seen—how a single photo shoot, or a shift in body language, can spark radical self-confidence. How to exude feminine energy and body language hacks that showcase your sensual and open side The crucial importance of self-care and setting boundaries—not as selfish acts, but as the foundation of healthy, empowered relationships.   If you are feeling invisible, small or holding yourself back from finding love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and to help you find ways to shine.  Book it here https://go.oncehub.com/kimbreakthrough Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is.  But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you.  And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt.  In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, "When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy" Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation.   After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She's now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified.   Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self.    You'll hear: Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief Body image realities: what it's really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional "hookup culture" The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic   If you relate to some of Nicolle's story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy's next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You'll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Without Attachment: Lisa's Dating Transformation Journey" In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from emotional pain to empowered dating will resonate with anyone who has ever felt invisible, stuck, or scared to put themselves back out there. After years of hiding behind layers of oversized clothes, fear, and insecurity, Lisa took a chance encounter into a life-changing adventure with Kimmy aired on TV NBC 9 News segments filled with self-discovery, a striking outer makeover, and the even more profound work of building her inner confidence.   In this episode, Kimmy pulls back the curtain on what it really means to "date without attachment"—a liberating approach that prioritizes curiosity and self-awareness over pressure and expectations. Listen in as Kimmy coaches Lisa live through her fears of being "too accommodating," wrestles with old patterns shaped by conditional love, and guides her toward setting healthy boundaries, pacing herself emotionally, and embracing playful, purposeful dating.     You'll hear: How Lisa went from feeling invisible to glowing with new confidence. Why "dating without attachment" is the most freeing mindset for re-entry. Real talk about people-pleasing, boundaries, and the power of self-worth. Actionable tips you can use to break free from old relationship patterns. If you are hiding and have some love shields up which is preventing you from dating or feeling attractive, come to Kimmy's next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You'll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now.   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, "400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love" we're looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and conversation hacks. This special episode dives into the heart of her most popular coaching: how dating yourself and learning the skills will lead to love. You'll hear highlights from the most downloaded and talked-about episodes—featuring expert guests like Dr. John Gray, Kym Douglas, Allison Raskin, Katie Krimitsos, and Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. You'll also hear clips from episodes featuring some great client calls and Where Are They Now stories about how to get over common fears that come with dating. Discover actionable conversation hacks for introverts, high achievers, and anyone stuck in the perpetual "boring date" loop. Kimmy shares how to create instant chemistry, break out of perfection paralysis, and make a memorable impression—without feeling fake or forced. Plus, there's a peek into her upcoming interactive workshop, "Conversation Hacks That Convert to Dates."     You'll hear: Highlights from our most popular episodes (including date-turning advice from experts like Dr. John Gray) Real client breakthroughs and success stories Proven strategies for making small talk easier and turning conversations into unforgettable connections Ways to break through awkwardness and perfection paralysis, especially if you're an introvert, high achiever, or just feeling rusty in the dating scene If you struggle with your confidence and not getting anywhere on dates that seem boring or contrived, come to Kimmy's next interactive co-ed workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you'd seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, "Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley" Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life. Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You'll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it's better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you. You'll hear some of Jena's most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it'll work out.    You'll hear: Why "perfect" opening lines actually don't matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or "scavenger hunt" dates, can massively boost your social confidence Jena's favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present  Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy's next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com