0:00 intro 3:09 the pressure to live up to an ideal 6:36 pretending you’re okay11:50 ambition17:22 self-critical
0:00 intro 2:26 desire for friendship 4:32 being seen 8:13 validation 11:16 the value gap 14:55 diversify your identity 18:09 self discovery 19:49 live in the moment
0:00 intro 1:28 friendships have become more of a want than a need3:30 replacing friends with our personal hobbies6:20 effort8:10 social media11:43 millennial perspective13:37 having a thriving social lifeStolen Focus book https://amzn.to/3NT9wTSSource: Co-Op Foundation - One Small Step September 2021
0:00 intro 2:13 the 1 thing holding you back 7:49 the power of introversion 12:16 do less to get more 15:04 going out of your comfort zone
0:00 intro 0:50 very socially aware 3:19 you only pursue meaningful connection 6:05 you’re independent 8:45 control your emotions 11:58 you know yourself very well
0:00 intro 1:41 you expect yourself to be perfect 4:28 the illusion of completion 8:39 chasing perfection 11:36 we chase excitement and not peace
0:00 intro 1:17 validation 4:54 being busy 7:17 relationships 10:02 friendships 12:30 success
0:00 intro 2:22 prioritisation 5:29 self-sabotage 6:57 good news 8:03 wealth 11:08 rejection 12:56 vulnerability 17:01 love
0:41 you can have a conversation with anyone 1:40 you live in the present moment 3:31 you’re a good mix of relatable and aspirational 5:20 right mix sense of humour and intelligence 7:03 strong sense of self 8:36 negativity is just as important as positivity 10:56 you’re comfortable being seen
0:00 intro 1:52 you have to work to get approval 2:57 low self esteem 4:38 are you trying to save them 8:18 what do boundaries look like 11:50 boundaries are an act of self-respect
0:00 intro1:41 social media3:39 hyper individualist culture /hustle culture8:24 Lack of third spaces14:37 people are less open8:24 lack of third spaces16:06 neurodivergence
2:56 hating yourself became your safe space5:26 you make up for your lack of beauty elsewhere6:45 friendships9:45 relationships14:56 confidence
1:25 society places value on extroversion3:49 you’re exhausted from pretending7:38 lonely v alone10:01 you thrive 1:1 and not in groups13:00 feel like you’re in the outside looking in
0:00 intro 2:08 being your authentic self isn’t about adding, it’s about revealing4:50 Suppressed emotions 9:37 journal prompts to help you be yourself13:21 the authentic you doesn’t need approval
0:00 intro 2:17 self improvement creates excellence, but acceptance creates happiness4:39 what is self acceptance?7:53 forgiveness is your biggest barrier to self improvement (last chapter??)13:47 pursuing perfection only makes you more insecure16:18 elebrating yourself is a habit not an occasion
0:53 micro habit 12:41 micro habit 25:00 micro habit 37:31 micro habit 411:04 micro habit 513:48 micro habit 615:48 micro habit 7
0:00 intro2:16 respect is long term, likability is short term5:34 why respect matters more10:52 deep relationships over superficial relationships14:20 being liked = validation, being respected = confidence
0:00 intro 0:40 compliments1:50 being nice4:19 instagram5:45 groups7:02 saying no9:58 being alone11:18 unshakable confidence
0:00 intro2:10 placing too much emphasis on being similar6:53 self esteem 12:19 expectations15:04 difficulty in reading social cues17:58 fear of rejection
0:00 intro 2:51 hook up culture4:21 men are wick of women + women are sick of men9:00 we are motivated by fear, not by hope13:06 we don’t date people we date avatars16:12 unlimited options20:27 attachment styles