SummaryIn this episode of Co-Parenting and Coffee, Jillian interviews Ally about her journey through divorce, parenting, and self-discovery. They discuss the importance of sharing personal stories, the challenges of marriage, the struggles of infertility, and the impact of external factors on relationships. Ally reflects on her experiences with loss, the process of seeking help, and the dynamics of co-parenting post-divorce. The conversation emphasizes the significance of maintaining integrity and the opportunity for personal growth during difficult times.Keywordsco-parenting, divorce, parenting, self-discovery, relationships, infertility, miscarriage, marriage counseling, personal growth, family dynamics
SummaryIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when one or more children have ADHD. They explore the challenges faced by parents in maintaining consistent routines and communication, the importance of structure for children with ADHD, and various strategies to support these children effectively. The discussion also highlights the significance of positive reinforcement, the need for clear communication between co-parents, and practical tools to help manage ADHD behaviors. The episode concludes with resources for parents seeking additional support.TakeawaysCo-parenting can be challenging, especially with ADHD involved.Routine and structure are crucial for children with ADHD.Communication between co-parents is essential for the child's well-being.Using positive reinforcement can motivate children to complete tasks they dislike.Transitions between homes can be difficult for ADHD kids.Visual aids and checklists can help children manage their routines.It's important to model calm behavior for children.Parents should prioritize the child's needs over personal differences.Using timers can help children focus on tasks for short periods.Celebrating small achievements can boost a child's confidence. How to get a hold of Kristina:https://linktr.ee/calm__minds?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=76e43704-8938-4150-902c-e6e26724798fADHD Freebies from Kristina:https://prodigious-inventor-7753.kit.com/878eb13da7prodigious-inventor-7753.kit.comKeywordsco-parenting, ADHD, parenting strategies, family dynamics, peaceful parenting, communication, routines, transitions, positive reinforcement, parenting tools
co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community Summary In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy and understanding in financial planning, especially for women who may feel overwhelmed by their circumstances.
Summary Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance of open communication, patience, and understanding in supporting their children's gender identity. We also address common misconceptions and offer advice for parents who may be struggling to accept their child's gender identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for therapy and professional support for both the child and the parents. Overall, we highlight the importance of affirming and empowering transgender children to live their authentic lives. Keywords transgender, parenting, gender identity, early intervention, gender clinic, medical care, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, acceptance, emotional journey, co-parenting, transgender child, open communication, acceptance, therapy, support Takeaways Early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics is crucial for transgender children. Medical professionals play a vital role in guiding parents and children through the transition process. Parents may experience a range of emotions and challenges, but it's important to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. Forgiving oneself for mistakes and being open to learning and growth is essential in supporting a transgender child. Open and honest communication is crucial when co-parenting a transgender child. Parents should be patient and understanding as their child explores their gender identity. Therapy and professional support are essential for both the child and the parents. Acceptance and affirmation are key to helping transgender children thrive. Parents should educate themselves and seek resources to better understand their child's experience.
This very special episode covers an important and serious topic: coercive control, a form of domestic abuse. Our Coffee Date today is with advocates Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT and Hilary Purtell. We will explore what coercive control is, how to recognize it, and what to do if you or someone you love is in a relationship with a coercive controller. Even if you have not experienced coercive control, this is a must-listen to know how to recognize it, either for your future self, or to know what to look for as you support friends and family going through a challenging relationship. Main Points Today’s Quote: “The truth is, it takes a village to get through the tough stuff in life. It doesn’t have to be a big village, but we all need people to help hold us up when life, loss, and grief knock us down.” -Michelle Deville Defining coercive control What to do and not to do Navigating court with a coercive controller Shared Story: Forgiveness and Letting Go Coffee Date Info Coffee Date Guest: Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT Coffee Date Bio: Larissa Crane is a psychotherapist and yoga teacher based in the Boston area who specializes in helping people overcome anxiety, depression, and eating disorders using a trauma-informed approach. Her practice is dedicated to supporting "high conflict" litigants who are navigating the Massachusetts probate and family court. Larissa is highly skilled in conducting GAL (Guardian ad Litem) reports, parenting coordination services, and counseling for those who have experienced coercive control or narcissistic abuse. Coffee Date Guest: Hilary Purtell Coffee Date Bio: Hilary Purtell is a professional actor, voice talent and on-camera host, and is co-director of the Jane Does Well Education and Advocacy Committee. Hilary holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology, and writes articles about family law best practices and divorce in Massachusetts. Coffee Date Links and Resources: Article on janedoeswell.com: National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233 National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: https://www.nrcdv.org/ Casa Myrna (Massachusetts): https://casamyrna.org/ Massachusetts Coercive Control Bill Information: malegislature.gov/bills/193/s1097
Ally and Jill invite their Moms on this special Mother’s Day episode. We talk about how they managed our divorces and watching us go through such challenging times as their children. We discussed how they felt, What was their biggest fears were, and how they feel now. Main Points Today’s Quote: “As you prepare for all possible outcomes, may you also remember to prepare for positive outcomes, too. May you prepare yourself for good memories, good lessons, and all the little places where sunlight will come shining through.” -MHN Shared Story: A letter to my sons Special Offer From Soberlink for Co-parenting and Coffee listeners! https://www.soberlink.com/partners/coffee
Jill and Ally discuss this common milestone in a co-parenting experience.
One of the most empowering experiences after a split can be arranging and decorating your living space to make it your own. Our Coffee Date today is with LInda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, a former nurse who turned her passion for working with people into an interior design and Feng Shui business. We will explore how even little things can bring positive energy into your living space as you work to make it your own, whether you stayed in the home you shared with your ex or you’re settling into a new place. Main Points Today’s Quote: “Under the anger, under the fear, under the broken-heartedness, there is a radiance that has never been lost, that is the truth of who you are.” Ganaji Decluttering Lighting Using the Ba-Gua Shared Story: The unexpected best part Coffee Date Info Coffee Date Guest: Linda Varone Coffee Date Bio: Linda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, is an award-winning consultant and professional speaker awarded Boston magazine’s Best of Boston©. Heading her firm, Nurturing Spaces, for over twenty-five years, she consults and lectures nationwide on Interior Design, Interior Psychology, and Feng Shui. Linda is well known for making complex subjects accessible and entertaining. She has presented at the Boston Society of Architects – Women in Design, Harvard, MIT, the International Feng Shui Conference – San Diego, IKEA, and Cisco Systems. She has been quoted in the Boston Globe and Boston magazine. She has appeared on WCVB-TV’s Chronicle. Linda is writing a book on Interior Psychology based on her home consultations and background in psychology. Coffee Date Links: https://www.lindavarone.com/ Ba-Gua:https://www.lindavarone.com/blog/ Special Offer From Soberlink for Co-parenting and Coffee listeners! https://www.soberlink.com/partners/coffee
Divorce and Co-parenting can be very lonely. In this espresso shot we talk about what loneliness is..How we have experienced it in our process and some things we have done to combat it.
Addiction in a relationship is complicated and challenging to navigate. It becomes even more complex when it is part of a divorce, custody negotiation, or during the co-parenting phase. Our Coffee Date today is with Laura Crossett, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and senior business development/outreach manager at Soberlink. We will explore how to navigate addiction as a part of your co-parenting journey, and how to help your kids through it. Main Points Today’s Quote: “You can’t save people. You can only love them while they learn how to save themselves.” - Lori Deschene Coffee Date: Addiction and Co-Parenting with Laura Crossett What to do if you are in a relationship with an addict Available Resources including Soberlink How to help your kids Shared Story: 1,000 Reasons Coffee Date Info Coffee Date Guest: Laura Crossett Coffee Date Bio: Laura Crossett is the Business Development/Outreach Manager at Soberlink, engaging with professionals in Addiction Recovery and Family Law to promote effective alcohol monitoring systems. Laura is a Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor Level II (CADC-II, ICADC) with CCAPP and has a BA from the University of Colorado at Boulder. She holds memberships with the Behavioral Health Association of Providers (BHAP), The Women's Association of Addiction Treatment (WAAT), and Treatment Professionals in Alumni Services (TPAS), underscoring her commitment to the behavioral health community. In active recovery since 2007, Laura attributes her success in maintaining long-term sobriety to a monitoring program she completed after inpatient treatment. Her firsthand experience is a testament to how valuable sober monitoring programs can be in the substance use treatment continuum of care. Coffee Date Links: www.soberlink.com Instagram: @soberlink.stories Email: lcrossett@soberlink.com Special Offer From Soberlink for Co-parenting and Coffee listeners! https://www.soberlink.com/partners/coffee
Recovering from your divorce or breakup is a process. It can take longer, especially if your divorce gets drawn-out. Eventually, we all get to a point of wanting to feel better, or examining our part in how things ended. For some, therapy is a lifeline in processing experiences. For others, coaching can help with moving ahead. Our Coffee Date today is with Lindsey Hall, a divorce and intimacy coach. We will explore how intimacy coaching can help people heal and give their lives the refresh they need after their relationship ends. And, how this work can have an impact on our kids. Main Points Quote of the episode: Your home is an extension of your energy field. This is why practices like cleaning your home, rearranging furniture, organizing your closet, and getting rid of objects that are cluttering your space can have a profound impact on your mind, body, and spirit. - Maryam Hasnaa Coffee Date: Intimacy Coaching with Lindsey Hall Recovering from your relationship Therapy vs Coaching The Intimacy Pyramid Shared Story: The Fall Leading into The Rise Coffee Date Info Coffee Date Guest: Lindsey Hall Coffee Date Bio: Lindsey Hall is a single mom to two young girls. She split up with her ex-husband in January 2020 when she had a newborn and a toddler and the world was about to implode into pandemic. A small-town American girl, Lindsey has been living in England for the past 13+ years. Supporting women to: own their power and their pleasure, deepen in their intimacy with self and others live a *joyful* life they love, LIGHTS. HER. UP! Coffee Date Links: https://www.lindseyhallcoaches.com/ Instagram: @lindseyhallcoaches
Episode Summary: Just in time for the holidays, we welcome Scott Pinyard from the Modern Co-Parent. If you feel stressed, anxious, and angry, either during a divorce or while co-parenting, our guest Scott explains his approach to helping his clients heal and find peace. His motto when it comes to healing is “the sooner the better.” If you’re in a good place, your relationship with your ex, and your attitude toward them will be better, regardless of the person you're co-parenting with. We laugh about how he has only ever worked with the “good half” of the divorced couple, about expectations around the holidays, how you can work to shift your thinking, allowing you room to enjoy your time away from and with your kids, and how framing your thinking can give you a whole new perspective on life. Main Points Our insights from last weeks grow work: Letters to our kids What’s most important to me? Unique opportunities in co-parenting during the holidays…something people don’t talk enough about. Coffee Date Info Coffee Date Guest: https://www.scottpinyard.com/ Our Links: https://www.coparentingandcoffee.com/ Follow us on Social Media! https://www.facebook.com/groups/118730217998302/ https://www.tiktok.com/@coparentingandcoffee?_t=8glEm42XRbb&_r=1 https://www.instagram.com/coparenting.and.coffee Grow Work Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFrlio1KMyA
Keywordsintimacy, divorce, motherhood, sexuality, body image, confidence, dating, therapy, self-exploration, empowermentSummaryIn this conversation, intimacy and sexuality are explored through the lens of divorce, motherhood, and personal empowerment. SkyeBlu Cutchie, a certified relationship intimacy and sex therapist, discusses the challenges women face in reclaiming their sexuality after divorce, the impact of motherhood on self-perception, and the importance of therapy in navigating these transitions. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-exploration, confidence-building, and redefining intimacy in modern relationships.TakeawaysIntimacy encompasses emotional and physical connections, not just sexual.Mothers often face societal pressures that de-sexualize them.Body image issues can significantly impact women's confidence in intimacy.Self-exploration is crucial for understanding personal desires and boundaries.Therapy can provide essential support for women navigating intimacy after divorce.Men also experience insecurities related to aging and performance in intimacy.Redefining what sex means can enhance intimacy in relationships.Women should prioritize their own needs and desires in relationships.It's important to model positive body image for children.Consent and comfort are paramount in any intimate relationship.TitlesNavigating Intimacy After DivorceEmpowering Women Through SexualitySound bites"I think it's a really important topic.""It's a journey around loving yourself.""What does sex mean to you?"Chapters00:00 Introduction to Intimacy and Transition02:43 The Impact of Motherhood on Sexuality06:33 Body Image and Self-Perception10:17 Building Confidence and Self-Love16:34 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics21:08 Understanding Personal Desires and Boundaries25:35 Navigating Differences in Relationships27:16 Exploring Sexuality After Divorce30:15 The Importance of Emotional Safety31:52 The Role of Sex Therapy34:48 Reclaiming Sexuality and Empowerment35:47 Men's Experiences in Intimacy38:42 Redefining Sex and Intimacy42:00 Navigating Self-Judgment and Societal Expectations
Keywordsover-functioning, relationships, co-parenting, boundaries, emotional intelligence, self-care, empowerment, women, parenting, mental healthSummaryIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the dynamics of over-functioning partners, particularly in the context of relationships and co-parenting. They explore the emotional toll of over-functioning, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for self-care. The discussion also emphasizes the role of women in breaking the cycle of under-functioning partners and empowering the next generation to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for change and healing, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth and seek supportive communities.How to Find Ashley!Her website is www.drashleysouthard.com IG and FB handles are @drashleysouthardTakeawaysOver-functioning often leads to burnout and resentment.Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.Women are often conditioned to take on more responsibilities in relationships.Co-parenting dynamics can exacerbate over-functioning issues.Recognizing one's own over-functioning is the first step to change.Empowering the next generation involves teaching emotional intelligence.Women are increasingly choosing to be single rather than settle for under-functioning partners.Healthy relationships require reciprocity and mutual support.Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.Communities of support can help women navigate relationship challenges.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Over-Functioning Partners05:58 Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing06:33 The Impact of Conditioning on Relationships06:43 Introduction to Over-Functioning Women09:40 Understanding Over-Functioning Dynamics12:50 Co-Parenting and Over-Functioning15:50 Weaponized Incompetence in Relationships18:44 The Gender Dynamics of Over-Functioning21:43 Breaking the Cycle of Over-Functioning24:43 Awareness and Change in Relationships30:50 The Importance of Balance in Relationships33:36 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help36:43 Recognizing Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning Dynamics38:42 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children43:40 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations46:46 Empowerment and Community Among Women49:54 Navigating the Challenges of Modern Parenting52:50 The Complexities of Co-Parenting55:47 Understanding Under-Functioning Partners59:05 The Burden of Expectations in Co-Parenting01:01:55 The Financial Dynamics of Divorce01:07:51 Learning and Evolving Through Experience01:09:42 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics01:09:46 Navigating Legal Aspects of Co-Parenting
Keywords:The Sparrow Collective, divorce support, women's empowerment, community housing, financial literacy, holistic wellness, nonprofit funding, collaboration, women in crisis, supportive livingSummaryIn this conversation, Susan Trippi of the Sparrow Collective discusses the challenges women face during and after divorce, including financial burdens and the need for supportive communities. The Sparrow Collective aims to provide a holistic living environment for women and children impacted by divorce, offering various support services, including legal, financial, and emotional assistance. The discussion also highlights the importance of community involvement and collaboration in creating impactful solutions for women in crisis.takeawaysThe Sparrow Collective is a response to the needs of women going through divorce.Women often bear the financial burden of divorce for years.Housing costs are a significant concern for women post-divorce.The collective aims to provide a supportive living community for women and children.Wraparound support services will be available to residents.Funding for the collective comes from state, federal, and private sources.The model of the collective can be replicated in other communities.Community involvement is crucial for the success of the collective.Women are increasingly seeking support and resources during divorce.Connection and community are vital for healing and empowerment.Empowering Women Through Divorce: The Sparrow CollectiveBuilding a Community for Women in CrisisThe Financial Burden of Divorce: A Call to Action"This is a significant need for women and children.""We are the disruptors of the status quo.""It's a game changer for us.""Divorce is challenging in so many ways.""We are done with that. We're not available for that.""We are always open to collaborating on workshops.""We all have something within us that we can contribute."
Ally and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.
keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases, the importance of shifting control to the court, and the role of attorneys in empowering clients. They explore the long-term implications of co-parenting, the function of guardian ad litem, and the cost-effectiveness of the conciliation process. The discussion emphasizes the need for a holistic approach in family law, highlighting the significance of finding trained conciliant professionals.takeaways A family doesn't divorce; they restructure. Divorce is a legal process, but it's not just legal. Women often face financial disparities post-divorce. Divorce teaches valuable life lessons. Managing anxiety is crucial during divorce. Support systems are essential for navigating divorce. The Concilium process offers a new perspective on family restructuring. Empowerment is key for individuals going through divorce. Litigation abuse can be a significant issue in family law. Creating a new family structure requires collaboration and understanding. Control needs to shift to the court in domestic violence cases. Attorneys play a crucial role in empowering clients. Judges have the ultimate authority in attorney changes. Conciliation offers a new approach to family law. Long-term co-parenting considerations are essential. Guardian ad litem provides a voice for children. The conciliation process can be cost-effective. Finding the right attorney is vital for clients. A common language among professionals enhances collaboration. Holistic approaches in family law benefit all parties. Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges The Role of the Concilium Process "The control needs to shift." "It's a snapshot in time." "It's a common language."
We discuss all things co-parenting and back to school in this short espresso shot!
In this epresso shot we discuss schedule changes, vacations, and how to manage summer break while co-parenting!