Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Are you in the middle of heartbreak, doubting yourself, or terrified of being “too much” for others? In this intimate session episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member through shadow work and inner child healing as she moves through fresh breakup grief, religious trauma, and the fear of disappointing others. Together, we uncover how old wounds show up in relationships, how to set boundaries with compassion, and how to finally choose yourself without shame.This episode is for you if:* You feel guilty for disappointing others or setting boundaries.* You’re in the messy middle of heartbreak or a major transition.* You often self-abandon to keep the peace or stay connected.* You’re ready to connect with your inner child and hear her wisdom.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Are you tired of sharing your feelings only to be met with blame-shifting, minimization, or deflection? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I break down what’s really happening when your partner won’t hear you and how to stop silencing yourself just to keep the peace. We’ll explore why invalidation feels so triggering, the role of self-abandonment, and the four key steps to shift the dynamic: self-validation, boundary-setting, preparing for pushback, and discerning if your partner is willing to grow with you.This episode is for you if:* You leave conversations feeling unseen or “too much.”* Your partner often shifts blame, keeps score, or minimizes your feelings.* You find yourself over-explaining, caretaking, or shutting down to avoid conflict.* You’re ready to stop self-abandoning and start honoring your boundaries.When someone resists your boundary, it doesn’t mean you’re asking for too much— it means the dynamic is shifting. Their pushback is information, not evidence that you’re wrong. Think of it like closing a drive-thru window they’ve relied on for years: of course they’ll get upset at first. But holding firm invites them into growth, while abandoning yourself only keeps the cycle alive.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Please listen to this episode with care, and caution. It may be triggering for people who experienced sexual abuse and trauma. I trust and honor your autonomy.This is the final episode in my four-part Camino series— and it’s the one that scared me the most to record, not because of the conversation with my dad, but because a lot of people don’t understand our relationship. In this conversation with my dad, we talk about what it looked like to repair after rupture, and why silence was no longer an option for us. As a family, we’ve been doing the work to stop cycles of trauma, especially around sexual abuse. And that meant we had to name what happened. We had to face the pain, the responsibility, and the fear… together.This episode is about what real accountability looks like— and how it can open the door to connection instead of cutting it off. We talk about the healing that became possible once my dad stopped avoiding and started taking ownership, and how that gave me, and all of us, something to rebuild from.If you come from a family that avoids hard conversations, or if you’ve ever wondered whether healing is possible after deep hurt— this episode is proof that it’s not easy, but it is possible.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is part three of my four-part Camino series — and I’m not going to lie: this was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had in my life.In this episode, I sit down with my mom to talk about the moment on the Camino when I finally told her the truth— the truth about how her choices impacted me, how much I’d been holding in, and how often I’d protected her feelings instead of honoring my own. It was uncomfortable, vulnerable, and deeply emotional… but it was also the beginning of something new between us.We talk about the roles we both played: her as the peacekeeper, trying to hold our family together at all costs— and me as the one who jumped into caretaking and making myself small to keep things “calm.” And what happened when we finally stopped managing each other’s emotions and started speaking honestly.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the emotional weight of your family, or that your healing depends on staying silent— I hope this episode cracks something open in you the way it did for me.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is part two of my four-part Camino series— where I’m sitting down with the people I love most to talk about the moments that changed everything.In this episode, I’m joined by my brother to talk about a pattern we didn’t even realize we were stuck in for years: me always trying to help, support, and take care of him… and how this codependent dynamic was negatively impacting our relationship. I share what it was like to realize that my need to feel needed was actually getting in the way of him building confidence and self-trust— and he shares what it felt like to grow up on the receiving end of that dynamic.This conversation is honest and tender. It’s about the unspoken roles we take on in families and what happens when we decide to lay them down. We talk about how we’re rebuilding trust, choosing new ways of relating, and learning how to see each other as the full humans we are now— not just who we were growing up.If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together for a sibling— or are trying to unlearn patterns that kept you “connected” but not close… this one’s for you.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Nine years ago, I walked the Camino de Santiago— thinking I was just going on an adventure with my little brother. But what I found on that path was something I didn’t expect: the truth about the role I was playing in my family’s pain.This is the first episode in a special 4-part series where I’m sharing the moments that changed my life and my relationships forever. In this one, I talk about three turning points on the Camino: one with my brother, one with my mom, and one with my dad. Moments where I realized that all my fixing, caretaking, and trying to keep the peace wasn’t helping... it was actually holding us back from the deeper healing we all needed.I share what happened, what it brought up in me, and how choosing honesty over harmony shifted the dynamic of our entire family. If you’ve ever felt responsible for everyone else’s emotions or found yourself avoiding the truth to keep others comfortable, I hope this episode lands in your heart.This is a story about forgiveness, accountability, and learning to tell the truth — not to hurt, but to heal.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect.We talk about:* How to respond when you feel disrespected or hurt* Why walking away isn’t weak— it’s a boundary* When you're ready for repair, and how to know* Questions to ask when you're ready to reconnect* How to avoid falling back into old, reactive patternsThis is a conversation about repair, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your voice, even when the moment feels messy.If this episode resonated, take a second to like this post, rate, review, or share it with someone who might need it too. It really helps more people find this work.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was safer to be needed than to be authentic.A powerful episode for anyone who wants to stop spiraling after saying no and start honoring their truth with compassion.This episode is for you if:* You overthink how others might respond when you set a boundary* You’ve ever felt like you had to be “useful” or “helpful” to be loved* You find yourself saying yes when your body’s screaming no* You’re ready to stop spiraling in shame after choosing yourself🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to gently start shifting it.This episode is for you if:You feel stuck or blocked despite all the inner work you’ve doneYou struggle to let go of control, even when it’s safe to do soYou carry guilt when things feel easeful or goodYou’re ready to reconnect with the part of you that knows how to flow**Want to join our next Podcast Live event? Make sure you become a free subscriber on our Codependency Alchemy Substack here.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow work and inner child healing, we explore the deeper wounds underneath indecision, and how to start trusting yourself—even when the future feels uncertain.This episode is for you if:You constantly second-guess your relationship decisionsYou struggle to hear your intuition through the noise of fear and traumaYou’re scared to leave… but also scared to stayYou want tools to help you discern truth from self-protection🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted in this episode:Healing the Mother Wound- 30 day journeyMuscle testing- learn how to trust you inner knowing/compass This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to hold two truths without needing to be “right”—this episode is packed with the hard-earned wisdom I wish I had a decade ago. Whether you’re in a relationship or healing after one, these lessons will meet you exactly where you are.This episode is for you if:* You keep trying to “fix” your partner instead of tending to yourself.* You’re struggling with space, boundaries, or unmet needs.* You want to stop reacting from fear and start responding with clarity.* You’re ready to take accountability without shame.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted in this episode:The Breakup That Healed Me EpisodeThe Situationship EpisodeNeeds, Wants, and Desires Episode This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections, what happens when our nervous system mistakes chaos for safety, and how dopamine addiction keeps us stuck.Sarah bravely reconnects with her younger self, healing deep childhood wounds and reclaiming her power. Listen in to learn practical tools to support your nervous system and break free from patterns that no longer serve you.This episode is for you if:* You struggle to let go of relationships that you logically know aren't healthy.* Your nervous system craves chaos or emotional unavailability.* You experience physical anxiety or panic when relationships end.* You want guidance on healing relationship-related nervous system triggers.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted from this episode:Power Animal JourneyTestimonial: How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety, and how making repairs after conflicts fosters genuine healing. Plus, we'll do a live shadow work practice together to help you understand your fears around boundary-setting and heal the root causes beneath them.This episode is for you if:* You find it hardest to set boundaries with family.* You feel unheard, invalidated, or triggered when boundaries are ignored.* You're unsure how to make genuine repairs after a conflict.* You want practical ways to support your nervous system when triggered.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted from this episode:Power Animal JourneyWhy boundaries feel hard & how to set them lovingly This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behind her self-judgment and the pressure she places on her partner, transforming these fears into deeper self-compassion and self-acceptance. Listen in and learn how to embrace relationship triggers as opportunities for growth, understand the cycle of anxiety and judgment, and build true emotional safety from within.This episode is for you if:* You feel anxious when your partner isn't "doing the work."* You struggle with unrealistic expectations about relationships.* You frequently judge yourself harshly for getting triggered.* You're ready to release old fears and reconnect with your inner child.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel uncomfortable but ultimately creates more authentic, fulfilling, and respectful relationships. If you're tired of feeling anxious about enforcing boundaries or resentful when they aren't respected, this episode is exactly what you need.This episode is for you if:* You feel anxious or guilty when setting boundaries.* You've struggled with boundaries being ignored or disrespected.* You're ready to move past people-pleasing into empowered action.* You need clear steps on how to enforce boundaries effectively.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence.We’ll walk through:* How to identify the root fear behind a trigger* Why somatic awareness is key to inner child healing* How to connect with your inner child (even if no memories come up)* What it really means to reparent and set your inner child freeWant to go deeper? Join Codependency Alchemy, our Substack membership for access to the Healing the Mother Wound 30-day journey — with daily prompts, poems, and guided practices, all for just $4.95 this May. We start tomorrow: just click here to join.Want a step-by-step version of this practice? Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child GuideWatch Masterclasses from our Membership LibraryRead posts From My Journal ✍🏾Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries?In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundaries, uncovering her underlying fears of abandonment and loneliness. We get to witness her reconnect deeply with her inner child and learn how nurturing herself with compassion and accountability can transform her healing journey. This session beautifully highlights why self-forgiveness, patience, and consistent self-care are crucial to breaking generational cycles.This episode is for you if:* You struggle with self-forgiveness and feelings of guilt.* You're navigating the complex feelings of abandonment or loneliness.* You find yourself trapped in patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment.* You're ready to heal your inner child and cultivate deep self-compassion.SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist!Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child GuideWatch Masterclasses from our Membership LibraryRead posts From My Journal ✍🏾Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through playful connection (think pillow fights and peekaboo!), and support sensitive children by tracking emotional triggers. You’ll learn to create structured yet nurturing routines that offer stability for your child—and yourself—as you navigate parenting with self-compassion, authenticity, and curiosity.This episode is for you if:* You worry about raising a people-pleaser or struggle setting boundaries with your child.* You have a sensitive, anxious, or energetic child and want actionable ways to support them.* You're looking for playful parenting strategies to build emotional resilience.* You want guidance on creating structured daily routines that benefit both you and your child.SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist!Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child GuideWatch Masterclasses from our Membership LibraryRead posts From My Journal ✍🏾Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising relationship ended abruptly. Using shadow work and inner child healing, Sierra reconnects with her younger selves, explores the roots of her shame and self-worth struggles, and learns to integrate their unmet needs into her present life. You'll gain practical strategies for increasing self-awareness, tracking relationship patterns, and making conscious decisions to stop cycles of emotional pain and trauma bonds.This episode is for you if:* You're healing from a difficult breakup or emotional abandonment.* You repeatedly attract emotionally unavailable partners.* You struggle with shame, low self-worth, or trusting your intuition.* You're seeking actionable steps to shift unhealthy relationship patterns through inner healing.SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child GuideWatch Masterclasses from our Membership LibraryRead posts From My Journal ✍🏾Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing, a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection.Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the three key steps for a conscious clearing, what tends to happen when we don’t have these, and why it can positively impact our relationships.This episode is for you if:* You feel tension or unspoken resentment in your relationships.* You struggle with how to approach difficult conversations without making things worse.* You want to learn a simple practice for clearing conflict and deepening emotional intimacy.Codependency Alchemy is a reader-supported publication and podcast. To support my work and join our community, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist!Watch the masterclass on boundaries here 👉🏾 Why your boundaries aren’t workingGrab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child GuideRead posts From My Journal ✍🏾Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe