In this episode, I reflect on my experiences with relationships, particularly focusing on the duality of personalities in men, likening them to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I share a personal story about reconnecting with a long-time acquaintance, and the complexities that arose. The conversation delves into themes of love bombing, emotional availability, and the lessons learned from navigating modern dating dynamics, ultimately emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and trusting one's instincts.Sound Bites"I fall victim to love bombing a lot.""You fell in love with Dr. Jekyll.""I was trying to get cracked like a glow stick.""He was licking my cat like a cat.""This is who I am, right?""He just didn't keep an erection.""He didn't want to rip my clothes off.""That was definitely a red flag.""I did not want to talk now.""Watch those red flags.""I came home a lot more clear-headed.""Beware of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey03:00 Beware of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde06:13 The Story of G: A Long-Standing Connection09:11 Navigating Relationships During COVID12:03 The Dynamics of Support and Expectations14:48 The Decision to Meet in Person18:08 The Build-Up to the Visit20:52 The Meeting: Expectations vs. Reality24:09 The Disappointment: A Lesson Learned27:07 Reflections on the Experience36:09 Navigating Attraction and Disappointment39:14 Conversations and Career Aspirations42:40 Awkward Nights and Unmet Expectations45:21 Reflections on Connection and Communication49:24 Lessons Learned from a Disappointing Visit57:33 Red Flags and Moving Forward
SummaryIn this conversation, I share her journey through relationships, exploring themes of sexual education, emotional connections, and the complexities of modern dating. I reflect on my experiences with friends with benefits, the impact of loss on my relationships, and her struggles with intimacy and vulnerability. Throughout the discussion, I emphasize the importance of self-awareness and the challenges of navigating emotional dynamics in contemporary relationships. In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional availability in relationships, the challenges of sexual satisfaction, and the lessons learned from convenience in dating. I reflect on my experiences with a partner who was emotionally distant and how it affected her self-worth and happiness. Through candid storytelling, I emphasize the importance of recognizing when a relationship no longer serves you and the need for open communication and emotional connection.Sound Bites"I'm gorgeous, as you imagine.""This year has been not great for...""I had a friends with benefits situation.""I don't accept half stepping.""I was utilizing him to help me numb myself.""He started calling me on the phone.""I had to get better at self-regulating.""I really don't want to like you.""I was bored out of my mind.""I don't want to have to keep on telling you.""I wish I could satisfy you.""I didn't believe you anyway.""I want someone who's obsessed with me.""Bad sex gives you a bad life.""Convenient things come at a higher price.""Don't wait until it completely depletes you."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey03:08 Reflections on Past Relationships06:06 The Friends with Benefits Dynamic11:57 Navigating Emotional Connections18:00 The Impact of Loss on Relationships24:02 Exploring Sexual Dynamics and Preferences29:56 The Complexity of Modern Relationships42:32 Navigating Emotional Availability49:11 The Complexity of Relationships56:06 Sexual Satisfaction and Boredom01:04:23 The Turning Point: Realizations and Decisions01:12:32 Lessons Learned from Convenience01:22:53 Final Thoughts and Moving Forward
Back from a much-needed hiatus with the age-old topic: Does size matter? In this episode, I discuss the misconceptions surrounding size in sexual encounters, emphasizing that technique and communication are far more important than size. I share personal anecdotes about my experiences with different sizes and the importance of mutual pleasure in sexual relationships.I encourage listeners, especially women, to express their needs and desires openly to ensure satisfying sexual experiences.Sound Bites"I like schmedium, not too big, not too small.""Size doesn't matter, it's all about technique.""You can find someone who rocks your world.""Do you eat pussy? That's my first question.""I had a big dick experience that changed everything.""You should never hesitate to tell him, your dick is trash.""Sex is for your pleasure, mutual pleasure.""Don't let a man use your body to masturbate.""Communication is the most important part of sex."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Podcast's Purpose01:29 Exploring Size and Sexual Preferences10:42 Personal Experiences with Size and Performance25:03 Navigating Sexual Encounters and Communication38:49 Conclusion: The Importance of Mutual Pleasure
In this episode, I recount a personal story about a troubling encounter with a man named Alpha during my college years. The narrative explores themes of betrayal, self-worth, and the lessons learned from a painful experience. I reflect on the emotional turmoil caused by discovering Alpha's girlfriend while we were intimate and how this incident shaped my views on relationships and boundaries. Throughout the conversation, I emphasize the importance of honesty, self-respect, and the need to protect oneself from emotional harm. The episode serves as a candid exploration of the complexities of dating and the impact of past traumas on present relationships.Sound Bites"Men are whores, treat them as such.""This situation set the basis for why I don't do sleepovers.""I was just getting a lot of attention that summer.""I never want to be your side chick.""Listen to your heart and not in the cliché way.""I don't want chaos. I don't want drama.""You are the prize.""I learned to never let nobody treat me like that again.""You need to practice discernment.""Don't let your lust for somebody make you stupid."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Story02:46 The Encounter with Alpha05:47 The Revelation of a Girlfriend08:52 The Aftermath and Reflection12:00 Lessons Learned from the Experience14:47 The Impact of Trauma on Relationships17:56 Moving Forward and Setting Boundaries20:53 The Role of Honesty in Relationships23:47 Final Thoughts and Conclusion
In this episode, I delve into the complexities of slut shaming, exploring the double standards surrounding sexual freedom and the societal pressures that contribute to feelings of shame. Through personal anecdotes, I reflect on her own experiences with relationships, body count, and the impact of her upbringing on her sexual choices. I emphasize the importance of sexual education and empowerment, encouraging listeners to embrace their authenticity and reject societal judgments. Ultimately, I assert that no one can make you feel shame but yourself, advocating for self-acceptance and personal growth.Sound Bites"I wanted love, but I settled for sex.""I felt like I sold my soul.""I don't give a fuck.""I was happy, joyous, joyful.""I was a dropout, but I was happy.""Slut shaming is lame as fuck.""No one can make you feel shame but you.""I took that power away from people.""You are enough.""Your value will never depend on how people perceive you."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Slut Shaming02:58 The Double Standards of Sexual Freedom05:50 Personal Experiences and Body Count09:04 The Impact of Upbringing on Sexual Choices12:04 Navigating Relationships and Sexual Encounters14:54 The Struggles of Financial Independence18:00 The Reality of Working in Adult Entertainment20:51 The Emotional Toll of Transactional Relationships24:10 Reflections on Regret and Shame26:48 Empowerment Through Authenticity30:12 The Importance of Sexual Education32:59 Concluding Thoughts on Shame and Self-Worth
In this episode, I explore the intoxicating effects of great sex, sharing personal stories that highlight how passionate encounters can lead to temporary insanity. I discuss the emotional rollercoaster that comes with intense sexual experiences, the impact on mental health, and the complexities of navigating relationships influenced by physical intimacy. Through my candid reflections, I emphasize the importance of self-awareness and emotional stability before engaging in sexual relationships.Sound Bites"Good dick creates temporary insanity.""It's pure euphoria, pure goodness.""That shit can be as addicting as crack.""It's the dick, baby.""I was in a depression.""That's what good dick will do to you.""I sound like a drug addict, honestly.""I loved Mighty.""Good dick will really, really cause temporary insanity.""Make sure that your head is screwed on tight."Chapters00:00 The Allure of Great Sex09:30 The Impact of Good Sex on Mental Health19:43 Navigating Complicated Relationships32:14 The Consequences of Temporary Insanity52:15 Lessons Learned from Passionate Encounters
In this candid conversation, I share my experiences and insights on navigating sexual relationships, particularly focusing on the importance of communication, mutual satisfaction, and understanding one's own desires. I emphasize the need for women, especially in minority communities, to advocate for their own sexual health and pleasure while also sharing personal anecdotes that highlight the challenges and lessons learned in her journey. The discussion serves as a guide for young women to empower themselves in their sexual experiences and relationships.Sound Bites"You want to feed him. Trust me.""The woman was too stunned to speak.""I got the sex that I deserved.""Never give head first.""Don't feed into what these men say."Chapters00:00 Navigating Sexual Relationships: A Candid Discussion03:01 Understanding Sexual Health and Communication06:02 Personal Experiences and Lessons Learned11:48 The Importance of Mutual Satisfaction17:47 Red Flags and Misleading Expectations26:51 Empowerment Through Knowledge and Experience
The story of how I lost my virginity at the age of thirteen😅. The events leading up to the event and the major consequences I had to deal with after the fact. A very cringy coming-of-age story.Sound Bites"I just wanted to feel love.""Always bring your own condoms.""I felt so happy.""You need to always practice safe sex.""I was very lucky nothing happened to me.""I grew up in an African household."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey00:27 The Struggles of Adolescence04:05 A Trip to France: A Turning Point10:16 The First Experience: A Lesson Learned14:12 The Aftermath: Consequences of Actions20:18 Family Dynamics and Misunderstandings25:08 Reflections on Love and Support30:55 Cultural Context and Personal Growth33:48 Conclusion: Moving Forward with Lessons Learned