Confidence

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold partners. Then, we have a most unexpected update on a long-standing story for the OG podcast listeners: the tea is hot. Chapters: 4:18 The Science Behind the Talking Stage 17:11 Steps to Detach in the Talking Stage 41:25 An Update for The OG Podcast Listeners Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing losing yourself in an unhealthy relationship. Someone also submitted the statement, "I've worked on myself so much now I'm unrelatable and addicted to being alone." This week's audience question is about deciding if she should confront her ex on a major lie, which she found out after the breakup. Once you think you have it figured out, you probably don't, but that's okay because dating is fucking hard. Chapters: 00:00 Dating Stories 26:11 How to Heal Self-Abandonment 36:11 Addicted to Being Single 44:26 Audience Question For more information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power dynamics in relationships and how your worthiness dictates the energy you receive back from your partner. Plus, I’ll share some straight-up feedback on a situation from one of you where your end goal with your current partner isn’t lining up. If you’re feeling stuck, we’ll cover exactly how to move forward when you’re at a standstill. Chapters: 00:00 How to Take the Power Back 26:36 Should You Take Them Back? 35:15 Audience Question For more information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in the negative dating cycle of meeting new people and never being chosen. Welcome to your wake-up call to lean into yourself, set better boundaries, and show up as a partner worthy of love. No Chapters This Week! For more information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris." Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!) This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner. I start by breaking down the two types of avoidants: disorganized/fearful avoidant versus dismissive avoidant. I'll explain their differences and how you might develop these attachment styles. I also open up with a very personal story about my own experience leading to my own avoidant tendencies. From there, I'll give you the full playbook on communicating and setting boundaries effectively with an avoidant partner. Together, I will help you determine if getting your relationship back on track with an avoidant is possible. If you're currently dealing with an avoidant—or see yourself in the avoidant attachment style—you’re going to love this episode. No Chapters This Week! For more information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as deeply as possible.I also follow up on a question from the last episode about motivated men.Yeah, it can feel lonely sometimes, but I’d rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn't feel like home. Chapters 1:00 Motivated Men Follow Up 13:30 Overcoming the Hardships of Being Single 25:16 Sleeping Alone 39:02 Lack of S*x 43:36 Fear of settling vs. not finding a relationship 50:15 Biological Clock and Comparison 58:07 How to Love Yourself --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

As much as I have always been genuine and authentic on this podcast, there have been some things I have been resisting discussing. This week, I share my true, vulnerable feelings and experiences that I have neglected to open up about. I then get into your questions; we are going to be talking about how to find the cl*t, strategies for short kings looking to cuff, my biggest first date turn-off, and a situation where a woman is trying to understand why her soul mate who has so much potential will not get it together. I don't love showing my less positive emotions, but it is time I drop the ego and take off the mask. Chapters 1:36 My Untold Truth 37:32 How to Find the Cl*t 39:48 Short King Strategies for Cuffing 43:50 Biggest Turn-Off a Girl Can Do on a First Date 45:49 Is He Shy or Just Not That Into Me? 50:37 Audience Situation: Soulmate Doesn't Like Me Back For information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

This week, I asked you, "What's your #1 value in a relationship?" But before we dive into that, have you ever wondered how to stop attracting toxic partners? I’ve got the solution. In this episode, I walk you through a powerful exercise that uses your past relationships to help you uncover your dating blind spots. Turns out, those toxic partners taught us something after all!We’ll also talk about the top values women want in a man and how we can align your behaviors to receive them. Plus, I tackle some big questions like: Why does a man who seemed so nice suddenly turn cold and defensive? How can we communicate better? And do men really sabotage relationships to protect themselves?There's a lot to unpack, so grab your journal, and let’s get into it! Chapters 1:36 Identifying your blindspots from your toxic past 22:41 Women’s number one value in relationships 36:19 Audience Question: Men Struggling to Communicate 47:48 Do men really self-sabotage to protect themselves? For information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, we cover three main limiting beliefs when it comes to relationships. These include finding a balance between independence and dependence, trust issues, and giving too much energy but not receiving it. We then talk about the taxi cab theory, debunking any myths and affirming the truths that come with it. Men aren’t capable of commitment and women are jaded… who’s to blame? Chapters 00:00 Limiting Beliefs in Relationships  48:23 Taxi Cab Theory Apply to Work with Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, we explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and independence. We'll share powerful insights on building a life you love without waiting for a partner, finding joy in your company, and using this period to pursue your passions and goals unapologetically. We’ll In this episode, I'll explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery. I share my 3 step method to align your mindset and actions during this period of your life for maximum growth and peace. I then take on audience questions regarding intellectual stimulation, someone's fiance missing her birthday, and my thoughts on eating ass. It is time you embrace the singlehood and create a life for yourself that is 100% unapologetically you. Chapters 1:01 How to be Happy While Single 43:46 Audience Questions Apply to Work with Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication⁠⁠⁠⁠ Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, I explore the ever-complicated question: how to get your ex back and, more importantly, whether you should even want to. With help from the audience, I'll discuss the reasons why people seek to rekindle past relationships and help you determine if it's genuinely in your best interest. I then respond to a situation where an audience member called off her engagement and is now trying to get him back. I then tackle the question: what is the best way to get back at ex or situationship that did you dirty? Here is the guide for all those that want their ex back. Chapters 1:14 “Why do we want our exes back?” 9:18 Audience Response: Should You Reengage 35:12 Operation: Get Your Ex Back 45:36 How to Get Revenge Apply to Work with Me: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication⁠⁠⁠ Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Someone asked me this week, why are men in their "sassy era?" I give my thoughts on why people are having a harder time connecting, and how you can start creating more connections and purging the wrong ones. What makes you a hookup girl versus the wifey type? Let's discuss how you can begin to change their perception of you, and what you can do if you are stuck in that box. I go over how long is too long for a situationship and also take on an audience situation on whether she should stay or go. I end the podcast with an audience question for the women: "Is there a best time/way for a man to come back into your life to repair your connection?" Chapters 00:00 Why Are Men in Their Sassy Era 21:41 How to Get Out of Hookup Girl Box 32:20 Is an 8-Month Situationship Too Long? 41:18 Audience Situation: Should You Stay or Go? 50:43 Audience Question: When to Reengage? Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, I tackle how to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable but still wants to keep you around. I present two common pitfalls you might fall into while managing emotionally unavailable individuals. I'll share strategies for protecting your peace while deciding whether to stay or move on. Additionally, I will present a new perspective on trust that altered the way I handle my relationships! I also answer some audience questions, including how to handle your ex viewing your story and giving you their location, as well as whether you should reach out to make plans with a guy who has ditched you on your first attempt. Chapters 1:44 How to Handle the Emotionally Unavailable 9:08 Pitfalls of Emotionally Unavailable People 28:22 What is Trust Really About? 34:55 Audience Questions Apply to Work with Me: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication⁠⁠ Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠⁠ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, we explore the crucial question: how do you know if someone is real and genuinely cares about you? We'll discuss the key signs to look for and how to trust your intuition in relationships. From setting boundaries to understanding the importance of communication, we’ll also discuss empowerment during dating. Are you settling? This week, we cover the vital topic of getting your needs met in a relationship, offering strategies to ensure your voice is heard and your needs are respected. Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication⁠ Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Are you struggling to stay detached and find yourself stuck in cycles of attachment, comparison, and longing for specific outcomes? Whether you're having trouble moving on from someone or letting go of past failures, this episode will guide you through the steps to build fulfillment beyond the negative memories and the past. It won't be easy, but this uncomfortable accountability is exactly what you need to finally break free from what's holding you back. Plus, I'll be sharing some tips for dating in your late 20s, including how to find someone serious and willing to put in the effort for a genuine relationship. This podcast is all about shedding the fat and embracing beliefs that empower you to create the life and love you desire. Chapters 00:00 How to Actually Detach 38:32 Tips for Dating in Late 20s Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Where your attention goes, your energy flows. In today's episode, I share some exciting insights on refocusing your attention and consciousness, releasing guilt, and shifting your mindset during a separation. I addressed two questions: first, how to start over after losing everything; and second, how to navigate dating when you don't feel a spark but the person seems perfect on paper. Chapters 00:00 Letting Go of Guilt and Moving Forward 20:14 How to Start Over 34:50 Dating with No Spark Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

The dust has settled, and it's a time for deep self-reflection. In today's episode, I take an intense inventory of my past patterns and how I've missed the mark on maintaining healthy commitment. Through my mistakes, I will help you open your eyes to your potentially unconscious controlling and manipulative behaviors. I discuss learning from your pain, accepting it, and moving forward without holding onto guilt. Chapters N/A Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

It was not an easy week, to say the least. I recorded this podcast an hour after getting my heartbroken. I discuss the lead-up, the last call, lessons learned, and moving forward. An emotional and vulnerable episode, no sympathy needed. Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, I share essential tips on cultivating unshakable confidence in your daily life and relationships. We'll debunk the myth that dating is harder than it used to be, showing how today's challenges are simply different, not more difficult. Additionally, we'll address the misconception that men are less masculine now, exploring how masculinity has evolved over time. Don't miss this episode filled with valuable insights and strategies for your personal and romantic journey! Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠⁠ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, we explore the intriguing concept of Black Cat/Golden Retriever energy in relationships, decoding how these contrasting personalities interact and complement each other. We'll also tackle the Trad Wife vs. Boss Babe Phenomenon, examining the cultural and societal forces behind these archetypes and offering insights into their unique strengths. Finally, we'll address one of the toughest challenges: surviving no contact. Whether you're going through a breakup or setting boundaries, we'll share strategies to help you stay strong and resilient. Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/quiz/⁠ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support