Confidence

Are you dating, or are you collecting proof that somebody wants you? This week I'll tackle two questions. The first is about how to not get too attached in the talking stage, and what to do if you keep getting ghosted after good dates. Before I get to those, I share some wicked perspectives on reality and how I cut off my own validation: no story views, no likes, no casual dating, no DMing. It's pretty wild that right now I don't have a single person I'm interested in. I might have ADHD, but I don't believe in it, and that's a good way to describe this episode.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Moody In a Transition02:04 Arguing About Purpose At A Dinner Table18:16 Cutting Off The Validation27:58 I Sat In Stillness35:15 Talking Stage Without Getting Attached50:36 Ghosted Even When The Date Was Good

Boundaries Workshop Sign-Up: https://app.confidencechris.com/boundaries-pop-up-sign-upI found the secret to getting back into your good energy. It's actually really simple, yet so insidiously hard. Did you know that you are one direct communication away from freedom? Let's talk about it. I'll dissect three situations from people who are all post-relationship and all doing the same thing: trying to think their way out of a feeling. One of them wanted me to confirm that a guy's behavior was weird, but what she actually needed was to feel the disappointment and let go of solving it. Maybe your spark is on the other side of letting go of what isn't for you.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Free Boundaries Workshop01:22 Getting Your Spark Back19:41 Her First Date, Then He Unfollowed Her33:12 Trying to Change Someone Who Won't Change46:07 If the Shower Is Cold, Someone Else Is Using the Water

You're not missing them, you're missing a feeling. Let me explain. But first, I share a triggering message I received from a friend pointed at my avoidance. I'll give you an alternate perspective on how to handle harsh energy from those closest to you, while weaving in emotional wounds from how I grew up, and the layer of distance every girl I've dated has felt with me. I also cleared the decks again in my dating life, and I'll explain why easy and light still counts as saying no to yourself. Then two situations: a guy strategizing his final text, and a woman waiting on her gym crush to make a move (and my opinionated thoughts on women making the first move in general).Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 You're Missing a Feeling, Not a Person11:12 Putting All Your Peace in One Person17:29 Why I Cleared the Decks Again23:54 How My Avoidance Affects Others39:25 He Badly Wants Her Back54:49 Girls Shooting Their Shot First

Stop playing footsies with people who will never give you what you want. This episode is about getting deeper with yourself and your reactions. Many people feel stuck in relationships where they are frustrated, angry, and misunderstood. I'll give a personal example of how I recently got triggered when a friend showed up late, leading to verbal jabs and mental disconnection. I’ll break down how anger is usually a surface mask for underlying fear and why being "present" is the hardest work you'll do. I'll discuss the power of taking action on your truth, and how that action precedes the clarity you want. I also answer why guys go cold after sex and how to stop being indirect with your goals.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Action Precedes Clarity17:13 Being Indirect About What You Want52:15 Why Guys Go Cold After Sex

This week came out of nowhere. I feel like I got sucker-punched with some difficult feelings and some hard truths. This week's title is seeking heartbreak, which is something I told myself I wanted to do. I've been sick of running away from what I desire, but what's funny is that I asked, and I received just as quickly. I also made a major realization about how deep my avoidance runs. I've been so focused on not acting from fear that I closed off the possibility that people might actually just love me (mind-blowing to me). I get into why you can't separate love from fear, and how our desires inherently bring anxiety. I will also tackle how to handle someone being unresponsive. This episode is your push to say what you need to say, then let the rest go.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application