Confidence

This week came out of nowhere. I feel like I got sucker-punched with some difficult feelings and some hard truths. This week's title is seeking heartbreak, which is something I told myself I wanted to do. I've been sick of running away from what I desire, but what's funny is that I asked, and I received just as quickly. I also made a major realization about how deep my avoidance runs. I've been so focused on not acting from fear that I closed off the possibility that people might actually just love me (mind-blowing to me). I get into why you can't separate love from fear, and how our desires inherently bring anxiety. I will also tackle how to handle someone being unresponsive. This episode is your push to say what you need to say, then let the rest go.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Do they ever come back? It's time to end the debate once and for all. I'll also talk about why you want them back in the first place (trigger warning). Before we get there, I reflect on my recent fuck it attitude I have gotten for life lately. I get into the way we all communicate indirectly: the jabs you call jokes, the "I just miss the friendship" story your brain feeds you, and them going cold on you. I finish off with what to do when you're happy being single, but also want a relationship. I will tell you why it's hard for you to attract genuine love into your life when you're obsessed with solitude. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Being Direct About Your Feelings27:00 Will They Come Back and Regret Leaving?44:07 Balancing Wanting a Relationship while Loving Being Single

When someone doesn't choose you, is it really about you? Let me tell you why it's not personal. Before I get into that, I pour my little heart out about feeling a little run down. I'll reflect on how tough it is to say no in the moment and how your exhaustion is a signal to recalibrate. Then I answer a question about handling the silent treatment without letting it wreck your confidence, saying a final goodbye, and being so far away from self-trust. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:0:00 Checking In: I'm Run Down14:14 Life Is Inherently Purposeless27:19 What If You Didn't Need to Matter?35:46 Situation: The Silent Treatment49:39 Value Mindset vs. Alignment Mindset55:07 Situation: One Last Goodbye59:20 Situation: I Don't Trust Myself

Most guys have a dream car, I have a dream cat. We are not the same. The cat does happen to be $15,000 though. Yikes, so my friend yelled at me, but then it hit me… You might be wondering what this has to do with a dating podcast episode. Well, because my off-brand desire relates directly to my dating life. No rushing, no settling, no second-guessing. I'll get into how my avoidance used to make me second-guess my choices, and how my relationship wants would get confused for attachment challenges. I'll talk about how to find your truth amidst your attachment patterns, and how both anxious and avoidant people get lost in the fantasy of what could be. Today's episode is about clearing the mist around what exactly needs healing and how to trust your intuition when dealing with inconsistencies from your partner (and I'll use two different situations as an example of that process). Let's do it.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters: 0:00 Forced to Slow Down & Pickup Videos9:51 My $15,000 Dream Cat26:50 Staying Grounded When She Went Quiet35:14 Living In A Fantasy46:18 He Disappears For 20 Days1:00:07 Fear Or Discernment?

This week we are getting into the contrast between anxious and avoidant patterns. I wrote something down that I feel describes the dynamic perfectly. I will discuss my own challenges with avoidance and how I am working towards healing it. I also recap a situation from last week's episode where a listener quickly backed off a relationship. I discuss how to lead with more curiosity and less defensiveness. This is not just about being the bigger person, but becoming so much more.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters: 00:00 Curiosity vs. Assumption20:08 High Standards or Just Avoidant30:27 Avoidant vs Anxious Patterns53:56 "You're Not Anxious, You're Just Dating a Loser"