Confidently Insecure

The war over skinny jeans, side parts, and the 😂 emoji rages on — but what’s really behind the Millennial vs. Gen Z feud?In this episode we break down the cultural clash between two generations raised on Wi-Fi, caffeine, and emotional damage. From the evolution of humor to the rise of ironic detachment, we hilariously dissects why Gen Z thinks Millennials are “cringe,” why Millennials can’t stop oversharing, and how social media keeps us pitted against each other.But beneath the memes and middle parts lies a deeper truth: both generations are just trying to survive late-stage capitalism, mental health crises, and the algorithm — in their own weird ways.🧠 Chapters:00:00 – Intro: The Generational Feud Nobody Asked For02:02 – Millennials: The Analog-to-Digital Transition05:07 – Gen Z: Digital Natives & Social Awareness07:38 – Cultural Cringe: The Divide Gets Petty10:17 – Social Media: The Algorithm Loves Drama13:16 – The Evolution of Humor Online15:51 – Finding Common Ground & Collaboration18:28 – Why We Actually Need Each Other20:55 – Conclusion: Embrace the CringeOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Hoes Throughout History, we dive deep into the unhinged, unstoppable, and undeniably iconic life of Empress Wu Zetian — the first and only female emperor of China. From concubine to supreme ruler of the Tang dynasty, Wu played the political game like a damn chess master while rewriting what it meant to be a woman in power...and the brutal rumors spread by salty men who couldn’t handle her crown. Was she ruthless? Sure. Revolutionary? Absolutely.🎧 Chapters: 00:00 — Introduction to Empress Wu Zetian 03:08 — The Rise of Wu Zhao: From Concubine to Empress 11:55 — Wu Zetian’s Reign: Power, Politics, and Reform 15:59 — The Fall of Wu Zetian: Abdication and LegacyOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Breakups used to end when you gave back the hoodie and blocked their AIM screen name. But now? Your ex is still in your group chat, haunting your Spotify playlists, and popping up in your “On This Day” memories like a digital poltergeist. 💀In this episode of Confidently Insecure, I’m unpacking the new hellscape of digital breakups — from the psychology of why we hold onto those tiny online connections, to the emotional chaos of navigating shared group chats, and the art of a full-on digital exorcism (delete, block, cleanse, repeat).We’ll talk about what it actually takes to move on in the age of social media, how to reclaim your digital space, and why closure isn’t something they give you — it’s something you create.If you’ve ever said “I’m totally over them” while still checking their Venmo feed... this one’s for youOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when you go from corporate burnout to facilitating psychedelic healing in a church? Bobby Lennox, founder of Jaguar House Ministries, joins me to talk about his wild transformation — from miserable suit-and-tie life to deep spiritual work through Bufo (aka the mystical toad medicine 🐸).We get real about:💫 The power of psychedelics for mental health and trauma healing🌀 What actually happens during a Bufo ceremony💬 The crucial role of integration (because tripping is the easy part)🏛️ How Bobby legally created a psychedelic church to help others heal🌿 And why community + compassion matter more than “perfect enlightenment”This one’s part therapy session, part cosmic sermon, and fully life-changing. Whether you’ve done plant medicine before or are just curious what all the “toad talk” is about — this episode will open your mind and maybe even your heart.🧘‍♀️ Listen wherever you get your podcasts📱 Follow Bobby & Jaguar House Ministries: https://jaguarhouse.org/https://www.instagram.com/_bobbylennox_/https://www.instagram.com/jaguarhousechurch/💌 Connect with me on IG/TikTok: @kelseydarraghIf you love deep convos about healing, spirituality, and what it means to actually grow — subscribe and join the Confidant fam 💖Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A VLOG POD?! What is this?! it's a new thing i just made up!! its a vlog its a podcast! its a VLOG POD okay?! In this week’s episode of Confidently Insecure, I’m giving you the unfiltered scoop on everything from my latest documentary chaos to why my skincare routine is basically my church right now. We’ll talk stress, organization (or lack thereof), the makeup and nail hacks I swear by, and why I keep daydreaming about moving to Europe. Consider this part beauty vlog, part therapy session, and part behind-the-scenes peek at the wild ride my little life has become.Grab your serums, a fresh coat of polish, and let’s get into it. 💅Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates02:33 Documentary Insights and Creative Process05:26 Beauty Routine and Product Recommendations10:33 Skincare and Makeup Essentials15:59 Nail Care and DIY Techniques26:24 Conclusion and Listener EngagementOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I’m diving into the brain chemical that rules our lives: dopamine. Pulling from Dr. Anna Lembke’s Dopamine Nation, Andrew Huberman’s research on addiction, and the book The Molecule of More, we’ll cover:✨ Why dopamine isn’t about happiness—it’s about wanting more✨ How love, sex, drugs, and TikTok all hijack the same system✨ Why the honeymoon phase feels like a drug… and why long-term love feels different✨ The dark side of dopamine: addiction, tolerance, anxiety✨ How to reclaim dopamine for creativity, ambition & joyWhether you’re addicted to your phone, chasing love like it’s cocaine, or just trying to understand why Oreos are impossible to eat “in moderation,” this episode will make you laugh and maybe change how you live.👀 Watch, subscribe, and share your weirdest dopamine spiral in the comments.🎧 Full audio podcast on all platforms: Confidently Insecure with Kelsey Darragh📖 My books: Don’t Fcking Panic* + Screaming, Crying, Throwing Up (breakup survival guide, coming soon!)🐶 Dog videos because serotonin @hippothebabyOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Pack your bags, babe—we’re taking Confidently Insecure to Munich! 🎙️ This week I’m recording from the English Garden with my boyfriend (yes,THE ATHLETE). We’re talking alllll about what it’s really like seeing each other again after two months apart, the weird/funny/adorable cultural differences I’ve noticed in Germany (spoiler: everyone here is way cleaner than us), and debunking some wild dating myths about German men.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Setting the Scene02:38 Cultural Reflections: Comparing Germany and America05:22 Exploring Munich: Personal Experiences and Impressions08:13 German Cuisine: A Taste of Bavaria11:05 Language Games: Understanding German Words19:59 Dating Myths in Germany: A Fun Exploration21:25 Dating Dynamics in Germany32:14 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships46:19 Reflections on Munich and Future PlansOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this week’s Hoes Throughout History, Kelsey dives into the scandalous, petty, and downright iconic life of Theodora of Byzantium - the actress-turned-courtesan who flipped the script and became Empress of the Byzantine Empire.From slut-shaming gossip in the history books to changing laws for women, Theodora’s story is messy, powerful, and oh-so-relevant. We’ll cover:Her rise from stage girl to co-ruler 👑The social reforms that gave hoes rights in 500 CE ✨The infamous “Purple is a fine color for a burial shroud” speech that saved Constantinople from burning 🔥Get comfy, grab your coffee, and let’s talk about how a “hoe” became the woman who held an empire together.👉 Don’t forget to rate, review, and tell me: what’s YOUR purple shroud hill?Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

✨ mental health • feminism • community living • relationships ✨In today’s episode we’re diving headfirst into the big messy questions: what does it mean to build a life outside of men and outside of society’s “timeline”?I break down the Bird’s Nest community (a women-only living space where companionship > coupledom), the rise of the 4B movement in South Korea (spoiler: no men, no marriage, no babies, no problem?), and how timeline grief sneaks up on us when we realize we’re not living the script we were handed.We’ll talk money (aka financial independence = freedom), self-discovery, and why reinvention at literally ANY age is not only allowed, it’s necessary. Plus: I got featured in the Wall Street Journal (!!) so yeah, we’re celebrating that too.🔑 takeaways:Community living is changing the way women think about love + supportThe 4B movement is feminism… turned up to 11“Timeline grief” is real, but it doesn’t have to own youFinancial independence = the sexiest thing you can give yourselfReinvention is always on the table🕒 chapters: 00:00 Intro 04:34 Bird’s Nest Community 12:50 The Dynamics of Male Relationships 17:40 4B Movement: A Feminist Stance 25:10 Timeline Grief + Personal Reflection 32:48 Financial Independence + Future Planning💬 Drop me a comment if you’ve ever felt timeline grief, if you’d move into a Bird’s Nest house, or if you’re secretly (or not so secretly) 4B curious.Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this week’s episode, we are officially 35 — which means we'reold enough to know better but still young enough to make terrible choices...INSERT JADE EGG LITERALLY. We reflect on what this birthday actually feels like (spoiler: it’s not the crisis we thought it would be), gush about foster dog Fred... Plus, BOOK CLUB IS BACK as we dive into some recent books with badass female leads and why representation isn’t just a buzzword — it’s literally shaping how we see ourselves. Come for the birthday tea, stay for the vagina jokes and unsolicited life advice.Chapters00:00 Celebrating 35: A Birthday Reflection03:14 Viral Moments and Social Media Fame05:51 Family Dynamics and Expectations09:17 Adventures in Self-Care and New Experiences13:06 T-Swift and Celebrity Culture16:21 Book Club: Exploring New Reads25:34 Closing Thoughts and Listener EngagementOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week on Confidently Insecure, I sit down with returning friend of the pod, author, and cosmic hype queen Madi Murphy to talk about her brand-new book In the Cosmic Zone: Embodying the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius & Activate Your Authentic Self.We get into: 🌟 Why astrology should ALIGN you, not define you 🦁 The Leo Season mantra: “I need to be seen” — and why that’s not narcissism, it’s power 📅 How to actually use each zodiac season to fuel your goals ⚖️ What it means to create harmony, reclaim your power, and trust your damn self 💼 The Capricorn reminder that your life is your legacy 💥 Madi’s David vs. Goliath court case against Starbucks (yes, she won) 💡 How to turn cosmic wisdom into daily, doable actionWhether you’re astrology-curious, a chart-reading pro, or a total skeptic, this episode is your permission slip to step into your cosmic zone and start living like the main character.🎧 Grab your notebook, your birth chart, and maybe a sequin jacket — the stars (and Madi) have some things to say to you.Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A CONTROVERSY!!!! or is it all that controversial when you hear the facts? Child-free living has never looked more desirable, but countries all over the world are SO DESPERATE to make people BONE!!! What do you think, confidantes? Lets explore the societal, financial, and personal implications of choosing not to have children. Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Child-Free Movement01:46 Understanding Child-Free vs. Childless07:15 Personal Reflections on Being Child-Free09:30 Financial Considerations of Parenthood13:19 The Role of Partners in Parenting Decisions14:41 Concerns About the State of the World15:59 The Village Concept in Modern Parenting18:18 The Pressure of Family Expectations20:24 The Risks of Pregnancy and Childbirth21:24 Declining Birth Rates and Societal Implications23:57 Global Trends in Birth Rates26:58 Incentives for Childbirth Around the World30:34 Critique of Societal Pressures on Women31:48 Community Perspectives on Being Child-FreeOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is love supposed to travel this far?? This week, we break down the chaos, science, and comedy of long-distance relationships.From sexting over glitchy WiFi and jealousy spirals in different time zones, to real success stories that prove LDRs can work—this episode is your ultimate guide to emotionally surviving (or walking away from) long-distance love.Chapters00:00 Introduction: A Week in the Life02:32 Leo Season: Embracing Confidence and Creativity05:29 Fostering Fred: A Journey of Love and Care11:09 Long-Distance Relationships: A Personal Reflection18:40 The Science of Long-Distance Love28:51 Pros and Cons of Long-Distance Relationships37:19 Final Thoughts and Community EngagementOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

THE BABY GOES WHERE??!!! BREASTMILK CAN DO WHAT?!?! Yeah. prepare to have your mind absolutely BLOWN by these facts about BIRTHING A HUMAN CHILD! But first up...updates on trump, weird packages, and screaming. yep. Chapters00:00 Emerging from a Funk02:26 Navigating Bisexual Dilemmas05:47 Exciting New Ventures and Merchandise08:01 Exploring the New Show: Building the Band15:19 Diving into Childbirth Education29:17 Reflections and GiveawaysOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

IS IT TRUE?! IS THE GHOST OF JAMES DEAN THE HOTTEST OF ALL TIME?! Well....not in our humblest of opinions!! Plus, we're fostering a new dog and launching new merchandise! The conversation transitions into reflections on pop culture, mental health, and creativity, particularly in relation to the pressures of traditional Hollywood. And finally we CUMlminates in a lively discussion about the recent 'Hottest Men' list, exploring themes of attractiveness, representation, and cultural impact.tell us in the comments who is missing from this list?! Chapters00:00 Introduction and Housekeeping02:30 Mental Health and New Projects05:05 Pop Culture Reflections10:37 The Hottest Men List DiscussionOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

WE FRAACKIN DID IT!!! the next book is DONE!! This week - we got some good house keeping updates followed by AN EXCLLUUUUSIVE SNEEEEEEEEAK PEEEEEK into the chapter all about patriarchal programming...would you get this book even if you werent dealing with heartbreak?! Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

DROP THOSE CREDIT CARDS AND PUT YOUR HANDS WHERE I CAN SEE THEM!!! This episode we're talking about the oh-so-adulty financial stress and broader implications of a potential recession (Wtf is a recession anyway???). The discussion covers the definitions and indicators of a recession, coping mechanisms, and practical budgeting strategies (which were made by yours truly so you know they WORK!). TAKEAWAYS: takeawaysNaming your feelings around money is crucial.Recession can be viewed as a reset rather than a ruin.It's important to talk about financial stress openly.Indicators of recession can be seen in pop culture.Budgeting buddies can help manage financial anxiety.Micro luxury budgeting allows for small indulgences.Visualizing finances can aid in understanding spending habits.Coping mechanisms are essential during economic uncertainty.Understanding the definition of recession helps in navigating fears.Cultural reflections reveal a collective anxiety about finances.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates08:21 Exploring Travel and Home Exchange12:07 Understanding the Recession29:50 Budgeting Hacks for Tough Times32:50 Navigating Financial Stress During Recession35:09 Recession as a Reset: Embracing Change36:07 Community Support and Engagement in Tough TimesOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

BRING OUT YOUR DEAD!!!!! In this episode, we delve into the often-taboo subject of death, exploring personal fears, societal attitudes, and the funeral industry's practices. We emphasize the importance of discussing death openly, planning for it, and considering alternative burial methods. The conversation also highlights cultural differences in how death is perceived and celebrated, advocating for a more positive and less fearful approach to the inevitable. THE MORE YOU KNOW KIDDOS!!!!Chapters00:00 Embracing the Inevitable: A Conversation on Death04:54 Navigating Grief and Loss in Adulthood11:08 The Funeral Industry: A Costly Business18:13 Cultural Perspectives on Death and Grieving25:34 Planning for Death: Conversations and Considerations32:00 Alternative Approaches to Afterlife and BurialOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

CAAIIIIIIIOO BELLA!!!!!!! This episode, Kelsey shares her experiences while vacationing in Rome (PIZZA!!) , reflecting on the joys of solo travel, the disconnection from news and politics, and the beauty of embracing i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-c-e!!! Tells us - what are your solo travel tips?? Whats the best gift you gave a lover?! Our Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

ITS OUR FAVORITE TIME OF YEAR MATCHED WITH OUR FAVORITE SPECIAL CONPOD SEGMENT: a PRIDE THEMED Hoes Throughout History! This week, we celebrate Pride Month by sharing the remarkable story of Dr. Mary Edwards Walker, a pioneering figure in women's rights and medicine. Theres SO MUCH DRAMA from Walker's defiance of gender norms, her contributions during the Civil War, her experiences as a prisoner of war, and her lasting legacy in the fight for women's rights and gender equality. ENJOY GHAYS!!! Chapters00:00 Celebrating Pride Month02:59 The Life of Dr. Mary Edwards Walker05:52 Breaking Gender Norms09:09 Civil War Contributions11:58 Captivity and Resilience14:47 Post-War Activism and LegacyOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Secret Nature and use my code KELSEY for a great deal: https://secretnature.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy