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Connected Families is committed to bringing you content that will challenge, encourage, and equip you to be the thoughtful and confident parent you long to be. Several times a year we take a break from our weekly articles to bring you themed series through podcasts.
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NOTE: This content is available as a video,  a blog post (below), or a 7-minute podcast. We trust this will serve every situation and learning style well. Here at Connected Families we realize this is a tough time for many in our community and in the world as a whole. In response to the current pandemic, we sent out a survey last week to hear, “What is it like to be you?” The response was overwhelming, with a thousand parents responding in just a little over a day. People shared a wide range of responses: About 15% of you said you are doing quite well, finding less stress, and deeper connection in the slower pace. Another 15% said that stress is about normal. Still, another 70% of you are feeling more stress than usual, some of you a LOT more than usual. We read through each of your responses, and what you told us you needed was practical encouragement in short, bite-sized chunks. So, today,  we want to share a word of encouragement with you - You are NOT alone in this! Jesus “GETS” you! Hebrews 4:15 & 16 says,“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”   It helps to have a little context to really take in this verse. Temptations often have more power under stress. And Jesus had more than His share of stress, some of which you may relate to right now:  He was so exhausted that He fell asleep, in a boat, in a storm.  He “managed” 12 disciples who often acted like selfish children.  He navigated a stressful religious and political climate.  He was primarily homeless during the 3 years of his ministry, and had no regular income.  So basically…. He gets us, because He has walked in our shoes! He knows how hard this is for many of you right now.  No matter what’s going on in your life right now, Jesus is with you and cares about you! Regardless of what the constant conflict, messy house, or undone checklist looks like. So how does knowing that “Jesus gets us!” help in a tangible way during this unprecedented situation, especially when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Stress happens when there’s a gap between expectations and your ability to meet those expectations. What does this mean for me, right now? Here are a few practical ideas to help you keep things in perspective:  First of all, lower the expectations you have for yourself. Stress happens when there’s a gap between expectations and your ability to meet those expectations. Maybe you’re feeling pressure to make this a purposeful, connective time with your family. Or shine the light of Jesus to those around you. Or just get that to-do list done. Jesus exceeded expectations so you don’t have to meet your own!  Next, consider what expectations you have that might feel burdensome, and release yourself from those expectations!  Emphasize God’s mercy in the middle of the mess. Claim God’s abundant, overflowing mercy during your messiest, angriest moments. And say it out loud! During an angry power struggle with one of our kids, Lynne had a “Holy Spirit insight,” and said it out loud. “You know what I think God just said to me? ...that He has so much mercy on us in our struggle! He knows how hard it is for you and I to get along. And He loves us.” They both experienced God’s merciful peace. So, in the middle of the craziness, take a breath and remember that God is with you, and say that out loud.   God has abundant mercy for us. God has abundant mercy and good purposes for us in all things. One of the most memorable sermons we’ve ever heard was the spontaneous testimony of a young man in a small, lively church. As this young man was asked by the pastor to share a word, and he stood up and said, “One thing I’ve learned is that God is always ...
When your kids misbehave, and you need to discipline them, have you considered what they are learning? Are they learning to submit to angry power? Or, perhaps, are they learning how to get better at hiding their misbehavior and sin? Guiding kids to right their wrongs is no easy task. Most families have one child that demands more of our parenting energy. Is that child hearing an unspoken (or spoken!) message that he/she is a “problem child”? Listen in as Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, dive into the “Correct” level of our framework - teaching the message, “You are responsible for your actions.” With plenty of practical applications and helpful stories from other parents, this podcast is packed with ideas for guiding kids to right their wrongs. These ideas will equip you to lead your family with grace as you guide your children towards reconciliation skills they will utilize for a lifetime. In this podcast you’ll: be given creative alternatives to yelling, time-outs, and punishment, while still holding your children accountable. explore how guiding our children to reconcile in a healthy way when they are younger can have a positive impact on their relationships both now and in the future.  learn a value system for correcting your child that does not just focus on correcting behavior. Mentioned in this podcast: Galatians 6:1 Galatians 6:7 Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode and others can find us more easily! We are excited to offer a Connected Families Framework magnet to you for only $5! (This price even includes shipping and handling!) It can help remind you of all you are learning through the podcasts. Order one for your fridge, your bathroom mirror, your car, or wherever you might need a quick reminder as you seek to lead your family with grace. (Live outside the United States? You can print a copy of the framework here.)
What skills would you like your kids to have when they go out into the world? Should you drop what you're doing to bring them something they forgot? How can you prepare your kids for conflicts they will certainly encounter in their relationships, family, and work environments later in life? Listen in as Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, explore what it means to have a vision for your family and give practical ideas for ways to mentor your kids in skills, wisdom, and faith. In this podcast you’ll learn: parenting skills that build emotional intelligence. how thoughtful questions and natural impacts can build wisdom. ideas to model faith and humility so we nurture our kids' faith in God’s grace and mercy. Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode and others can find us more easily! We are excited to offer a Connected Families Framework magnet to you for only $5! (This price even includes shipping and handling!) It can help remind you of all you are learning through the podcasts. Order one for your fridge, your bathroom mirror, your car, or wherever you might need a quick reminder as you seek to lead your family with grace. (Live outside the United States? You can print a copy of the framework here.)
You may have heard, “Move TOWARD the struggling child.” This phrase might seem counter-intuitive. Often, when our child is struggling, the last thing we want to do is connect with them.  When we show love unconditionally, especially when our kids misbehave, they will then genuinely understand that our love cannot be earned. And that our love is not reserved exclusively for when they are obedient, helpful, or behaving in the way we want. Join Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, as they discuss what it looks like to make sure our kids know we not only love them unconditionally, but enjoy them. In this podcast you’ll: be given quick, easy “fly-by” ideas for connecting with your kids. learn strategies to help kids understand you still love them, in the middle of misbehavior. receive scripts and words to use that show empathy. hear a story from a mom whose empathy helped her connect with her daughter and get below her daughter’s anger.  Mentioned in this podcast: Zephaniah 3:17 Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode and others can find us more easily! We are excited to offer a Connected Families Framework magnet to you for only $5! (This price even includes shipping and handling!) It can help remind you of all you are learning through the podcasts. Order one for your fridge, your bathroom mirror, your car, or wherever you might need a quick reminder as you seek to lead your family with grace. (Live outside the United States? You can print a copy of the framework here.)
We all want a peaceful home where kids feel safe. But sometimes safety is hard to attain, especially when life is stressful. How do we respond during hard parenting moments? How can we do better at walking in peace and joy with our kids? In this podcast Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, dive into creating a culture of safety at home. Applying what you learn as you listen can impact your family for generations to come. In this podcast you’ll learn to: look inward and ask the question, “What’s going on in ME?”. build a strong foundation for parenting, knowing who you are in Christ. show your kids, in a way they can understand, that you are a flawed human. communicate “You are safe with me,” in practical ways that can help your kids build a solid foundation on God’s grace and truth. Mentioned in this podcast: Blog post: Let Go of Shiny Grab Hold of Grace Blog post: How to Parent Together When You’re Total Opposites I Thessalonians 2 as a parenting chapter in the Bible Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode and others can find us more easily! We are excited to offer a Connected Families Framework magnet to you for only $5! (This price even includes shipping and handling!) It can help remind you of all you are learning through the podcasts. Order one for your fridge, your bathroom mirror, your car, or wherever you might need a quick reminder as you seek to lead your family with grace. (Live outside the United States? You can print a copy of the framework here.)
How do you define yourself as a parent? Do you feel stuck in your parenting and want to explore a new way?  In this podcast Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, are excited to introduce you to a structured framework for parenting that can help bring balance to your parenting. You CAN find balance between grace and consequences while teaching your kids wisdom, values, and faith. In this podcast you’ll: learn the origins of the Connected Families Framework and how Jim and Lynne came up with the idea. be introduced to a structure you can use and follow in your parenting to better reach your child’s heart during the messes of daily life. be equipped with a model for restoration and grace to be used during discipline that will train your child to make right what they’ve made wrong. hear a personal story from our online course moderator, Stacy, who has learned to change the trajectory of relationships in her family by following the Connected Families Framework for parenting. Mentioned in the podcast: How to Parent Together When You're Total Opposites Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode and others can find us more easily! Do you feel like a visual reminder would help remind you of these four messages and principles in your parenting? We have just the thing. Check out our Connected Families Framework magnet and order one for your fridge, your bathroom mirror, your car, or wherever you might need a quick reminder as you seek to lead your family with grace during the messes of daily life. Order one today!
Families on Purpose

Families on Purpose

2020-02-0523:52

The most successful companies usually have clear cut goals and strategies to accomplish those goals. However, most families float through life haphazardly. When families get dangerously off track, parents often say, “I just don’t know how we got here.” A lack of intentionality is often implicated when families’ find themselves sinking or even shipwrecked.  In this podcast, Jim Jackson and Chad Hayenga will challenge you to have a plan to move your family forward with purpose. In this podcast you will:   discover practical ways to keep this from happening to your family. be inspired to instill a sense of purpose for your unique family to be a blessing in whatever ways God calls you, whether that's in big* or lots of smaller ways.  hear Chad’s story of the surprising impact of repeated discussions around a simple question his family would continually use to evaluate their goals. Don’t miss these helpful ideas to guide your family away from shipwreck as you sail strongly toward God’s purposes. *In this podcast Jim mentions a story that Donald Miller shares about a wealthy dad “buying an orphanage” for his family. We recognize the verbiage used by the man in the story could be off-putting. We pray the story behind the words can challenge you to consider how your family might embrace a greater purpose to bless others. Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages All Children Long to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview.  Your ebook is being delivered to your inbox right now! Members of our mailing list receive one power-packed, grace-filled email per week. We hate spam & never sell our list. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Request ebook /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #030303; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #f26922; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.
In this podcast, Chad Hayenga and Jim Jackson will challenge you to think through what you’re modeling as you parent. They’ll equip you with natural, effective ways to “live your life out loud” in a manner that builds faith and wisdom in your kids.  You’ll come away with: practical tips on how to make prayer natural with your kids. ideas on how to guide great dinner table conversations. simple ways to keep kids engaged when you read the Bible.  You may be intimidated by the idea of leading your kids to Jesus. The staff at church seems so much better equipped, right? But in your everyday life, you are teaching, leading, guiding and discipling in both the big moments, the small ones, and a million in between. Your kids are watching you all the time. The question is, what are they learning?  Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! Take 10 to 15 minutes to find out your strengths and challenges with our free parenting assessment.  sending soon! There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Start assessment /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #666; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #f26922; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { width: 49%; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { margin-right: 0px; width: 50%; } /* max width 400 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 .ck_subscribe_button, .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="email"] { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_slide_up, .ck_modal, .ck_slide_up .ck_naked, .ck_modal .ck_naked { min-width: 400px; } .page .ck_form.ck_naked { margin: 50px auto; max-width: 700px; } .ck_naked, .ck_form_fields { padding-top: 0 !important; padding-bottom: 0 !important; }
If you’ve struggled in your relationship with one (or both!) of your parents, this podcast can give life-changing insight. Hurt and resentment left to brew under the surface can often perpetuate the effects of sin passing from one generation to another.  In this podcast, Jim shares his process of working through very difficult feelings and dynamics in his relationship with his dad. This enabled him to get to a place of an affectionate, grace-filled, restored relationship. As mentioned in this fall 2019 blog post, he learned to apply the Connected Families Framework with his own parents. In this podcast: You’ll learn practical ways to release bitterness, reconnect, and confront a parent about past hurts.  You’ll be encouraged to replace bitterness with forgiveness, and disconnection with affection and honor.  You’ll be equipped to set boundaries as needed.  As you learn to navigate your relationship with your earthly parents, you may even find your relationship with your heavenly Father growing deeper and more personal. In turn, this can permeate your own family for generations to come. Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! Sign up below to receive a weekly dose of encouragement straight to your inbox: Check your email inbox in about five minutes for a confirmation message. If you don't receive it, check your spam folder and whitelist info@connectedfamilies.org. If it isn't there, you likely accidentally gave us an incorrect address. Oops! Try again! :-) There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get encouraged /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #666; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #f26922; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { width: 49%; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { margin-right: 0px; width: 50%; } /* max width 400 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 .ck_subscribe_button, .ck_form.ck_naked.
In this podcast episode, Jim and Chad take a deeper dive into the dynamics of dads’ good intentions with their kids. If you sometimes feel like you’re doing your best and it’s just not good enough, be encouraged and equipped by the ideas in this practical podcast. In this podcast you’ll: listen as Jim shares some helpful insights from his own relationship with his dad.  hear a roleplay illustrating typical default parenting and the messages kids may actually be receiving. be given examples demonstrating how to communicate messages of grace and truth to your kids in clear and practical ways. Whether you are a dad (or mom!) who’s raising toddlers, tweens, or teens these deep and heartfelt principles can help change the trajectory of your family for generations to come. We invite you to listen to the rest of this podcast series and be encouraged to lead your family with grace!  Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! Sign up below to receive a weekly dose of encouragement straight to your inbox: Check your email inbox in about five minutes for a confirmation message. If you don't receive it, check your spam folder and whitelist info@connectedfamilies.org. If it isn't there, you likely accidentally gave us an incorrect address. Oops! Try again! :-) There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get encouraged /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #666; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #f26922; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { width: 49%; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { margin-right: 0px; width: 50%; } /* max width 400 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 .ck_subscribe_button, .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="email"] { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_slide_up, .ck_modal, .ck_slide_up .ck_naked, .ck_modal .ck_naked { min-width: 400px; } .
Join Jim Jackson, Connected Families co-founder, and Chad Hayenga, LMFT, Certified Life Coach and parent coach, for this first episode in a 5-part series for dads. Moms, of course you’re welcome to listen! But Jim and Chad will be addressing specific issues unique to dads.   Often dads are working outside the home and that can bring unique challenges. It’s easy to carry stress from work into the pressure cooker of home. Dads frequently, not always, feel they need to use strong authority to manage conflict in the family. The messages dads want to convey are often not the ones that kids receive. This can build disconnection and resentment in family relationships, despite the best intentions. In this podcast you’ll: learn 4 principles for parenting in a way that builds connection and respect. hear a story about a dad who finally achieved a life-long goal with his kids when he began to focus on these principles. receive 4-5 key questions to guide your thinking for inevitable discipline situations. So whether you are a dad (or mom!) who’s raising toddlers, tweens, or teens these deep and heartfelt principles can help change the trajectory of your family for generations to come. We invite you to listen to the rest of this podcast series and be encouraged to lead your family with grace! Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! Want to learn more? Jim recorded this 38-minute audio thinking about dads (although moms can listen too!). If your wife has recently been digging into our material and is urging you to “get on board!” this is a great place to start!  Your audio will be in your inbox in about five minutes. If it isn't in your main inbox, check your junk mail and whitelist info@connectedfamilies.org. If it isn't in your junk mail, you likely gave us a wrong email address. Oops! Try again! :-) There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Download Audio /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #666; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #f26922; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .
Family Gatherings

Family Gatherings

2019-12-0422:26

You’ve just had a family event and might still be recovering from the overt or passive-aggressive comments from extended family about your kids’ behavior and your parenting choices. Family gatherings can be HARD...especially if we sense that external pressure is shifting our parenting style to avoid criticism.  On this podcast Jim and Lynne Jackson tackle this tough and timely issue. In today’s episode you’ll learn: How to graciously talk to your parents (or other family members) about your parenting goals. How to stay consistent and confident in your own parenting. How to prep your kids for success at family gatherings. Listen in and be encouraged. You’ll be ready for any extended family gatherings (birthday parties, Christmas, Easter, reunions, etc.) as you make a commitment to stay consistent and confident in your own parenting. Want to dig deeper? Check out these helpful family gathering resources:  Read “3 Steps For Success in Holiday Chaos”. Read “What To Do When Relatives Criticize Your Parenting”. Read “Family Gatherings: Who’s In Charge” . If you have a child who struggles with sensory sensitivities, share “Viewing Your Child Through a Different Lens” with your family. Buy our Framework Magnet ($2!) to have handy as you explain your parenting goals. Encourage your parents, grandparents, or interested relatives to download and read, “4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear.” Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode!
In this podcast, Jim Jackson interviews Stacy Bellward, online course moderator, in a fun and heartfelt conversation. (Find out what even got Jim a little teary!)  You’ll get the real scoop on the Discipline That Connects with Your Child’s Heart online course, so you can know whether or not it’s a fit for you and your family. In this 15-minute podcast we explore: the history behind the Discipline That Connects with Your Child’s Heart online course. how Stacy went from being a student (2014), to moderating (2015), to project managing and producing the updated version (2018). what impact the DTC online course has had on families just like yours. what is included in the registration fee and what some of the key takeaways are from the course. One mom shared a realization as she began to walk in God’s grace for her parenting: “If I’m not defined by my past behavior then my kids aren’t either!” As God’s grace invades our messes, we learn that it’s who we are in Christ that defines us and empowers us to parent differently.  Don’t miss your opportunity to experience this life-changing course with hundreds of others from around the world! To learn more Read through our Frequently Asked Questions about this online course.   Register for our Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart (https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/online-course/) online course.  Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode!
Today, Stacy Bellward interviews Jim and Lynne Jackson as they dive deep into ways to correct kids’ misbehavior with the message, “You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions”. Misbehavior is like the tip of the iceberg. If we make misbehavior our primary focus we miss guiding our children toward lasting change and growth. During this episode, all four parts of the Connected Families Framework are brought together.  “You are SAFE with me.”  What’s going on with me?  Can I exchange my inner angst for God’s grace and truth so my child feels safe?  “You are LOVED no matter what.” Express unconditional love, which often brings a child to repentance.  “You are CALLED & CAPABLE.” Coach my child toward wiser choices and better use of their gifts; solve the problem together.  You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions.” Hold a child accountable to make right what they’ve made wrong.  In this episode we talk through: teaching your kids what it means to make right what they’ve made wrong. the story of a young boy who hits his sibling and reconciles well. how parents might respond when a teen misses the bus.   Want to learn more? Download our eBook Four Messages Every Child Longs To Hear Read this article about cultivating respect in your child. Register for our Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course. It is offered each year in the spring and fall. Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode!
Stacy Bellward is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson to talk about the third part of the Connected Families framework: You are CALLED and CAPABLE! They spend much of their time focusing on the idea of finding the gifts in your child’s misbehavior.  Listen to this podcast as we discuss the following: The mind-bending idea of gifts-gone-awry. Why it is difficult for parents to embrace this challenging concept. A biblical example of when Jesus sees a gift-gone-awry. The importance of not suppressing kids gifts. We also hear from Jessica, an alum from the Discipline that Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course. She shares a practical example of looking for the gift-gone-awry in a tough situation with her son. Before taking the course, in various ways she had communicated the message to her son, “You are a problem!” Now her relationship with him is being transformed as she is learning to view him as someone gifted for God’s purposes! Want to learn more? Download our eBook Four Messages Every Child Longs to Hear. No time to listen right now? Check out this article to learn more about finding the "gifts-gone-awry" in your child's struggles. Register for our Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course.  (https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/online-course)  Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode!
Stacy Bellward is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson to talk about a message that is essential for discipline situations: You are LOVED no matter what!  Why is this necessary? Don’t kids already know they are loved? During the frustration of misbehavior, kids can easily internalize a perception that their parents don’t like them. If we don’t intentionally communicate the message “You are LOVED no matter what” during challenges, kids will only become more discouraged. And if they believe they have to perform well to be loved, that can weave insecurity into the very fabric of their lives. In this podcast we discuss in-depth what it looks like to practically bring “love-no-matter-what” into daily discipline challenges. We explore the questions:   What can we do to prevent performance-based insecurity?  Start with a heart to sincerely connect with your child, not to manipulate them. Then offer the same kind of connection that is natural in your relationship in non-conflict situations - like touch, humor, or verbal affection. Doesn’t this let kids off the hook when they misbehave?  It actually helps keep them on the hook. Communicating love in the midst of misbehavior earns parents the respect needed to guide children to make right what they’ve made wrong. (See Romans 2:4)  What does “love-no-matter-what” look like in real life? In today's podcast, Nichole, an adoptive mom with six kids, shares her story with strategies for connecting during misbehavior and the impact it’s had in her family. Want to learn more? Download the free Romans 8:38,39 adaption mentioned in the podcast.  Register for our Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course (https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/online-course). Download our eBook Four Messages Every Child Longs to Hear. Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode!
Being an emotionally safe parent is not about being soft or lenient. It’s also not suppressing our anxiety and frustration and trying to look calm when we discipline our kids. If we engage with a heart attitude of “What is wrong with you?!” our kids won’t feel safe with us.  The starting place for making your home a safe haven is to take an honest look at how you might be contributing to the conflict with your child.  When you engage with a heart of grace and a sense of purpose for the discipline situation, it’s much easier to help your child feel emotionally safe.  In this podcast, Stacy Bellward interviews Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families about the foundational principle in the Discipline that Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course: What does it mean to be an emotionally safe parent? You’ll hear an amazing story written by a parent who transformed  her relationship with her troubled child through the principle of emotional safety. This podcast and story hold lots of practical ideas you can apply today! If you don’t have time to listen, read our article Becoming An Emotionally Safe Parent.  Like what you hear? Be sure to subscribe to Connected Families podcasts so you don't miss a single episode! To learn more about Connected Families framework for parenting download our eBook Four Messages Every Child Longs to Hear.
We’re in back-to-school season, bringing all the joy and anxiety that comes with it. One question we hear when we talk with parents is, “What do I do when my child won’t get ready for school on time?” This week Stacy Bellward and Jim Jackson interview Chad Hayenga, LMFT and parent coach about how to respond in a kind, but firm, way to this high-stress time of day.  Short answer: The natural impact, without parental intervention, is what will be the greatest teacher.   Listen in as we explore a deeper dive into this frustrating issue:  Step 1 - IDENTIFY: Be clear in your expectations and ensure that your child has the ability to understand and clearly knows what to do to get out the door.   Step 2 - EMPOWER: If kids are struggling, empower them to identify exactly what they may need from you to help them get going in the morning.  Step 3 - TRANSFER: Try to avoid lecturing and nagging, and implement your plan so you transfer the weight of responsibility to the child. One resource we recommend is our free eBook Consequences that Actually Work where you will learn about natural, logical, and restitution consequences. Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts. Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies/ and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams/ Subscribe to never miss an episode!
My Child Hits Me

My Child Hits Me

2019-08-1421:57

Your child is escalating quickly and you have a pretty good idea where this is headed. You know the scenario...the anger turns to screaming, which then becomes a full-blown tantrum.  Pretty soon your child hits YOU. In today’s episode Stacy Bellward and Jim Jackson interview Lynne Jackson, OTR as she helps to answer the question: “What should I do when my child is so out of control they hit me?!” She draws on her occupational therapy knowledge to help us understand how brain function impacts this tough dilemma. The quick answer: Work to figure out and verbalize what your child’s hands are trying to say. If their mouth could say it, their hands wouldn’t need to. If it continues, try to find the most loving way possible to keep everyone physically safe. In this podcast we’ll explore this common scenario based on the Connected Families framework:  FOUNDATION: You are safe with me. What’s going on in you? Are you responding back with anger because you are embarrassed or ashamed? (“What is wrong with this kid?!”)  Instead, step away with calming thoughts like: “This is normal.” or “These emotions are too big for my child." CONNECT: You are loved no matter what. Heartfelt, sincere empathy is very powerful. State what your child is feeling and wanting. COACH: You are capable… of using your words to solve problems. Help your child with the messy process of gradually learning respectful self-advocacy as you teach emotional awareness outside of conflict times. CORRECT: You are responsible for your actions. Help your child choose a way to use their hands to restore the connection in the relationship.  As mentioned in this podcast, the Connected Families framework is also available on a magnet that is available for purchase.  Keep it visible anywhere you typically look, for constant reminders and encouragement in your parenting! To learn more about the topic of your child being too physical when they are angry, order our Discipline That Connects book and take a look at the appendix on aggression. Also, consider registering for our 8-session online course of Discipline That Connects With Your Child's Heart this fall.  Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts.  Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies/ and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams/" Join our private Facebook group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ConnectedFamilies) to ask YOUR “What should I do when… ?” question. Subscribe to never miss an episode!
“I don’t WANT to practice my trumpet.” “My piano teacher is mean!” “I don’t have time to practice with all this homework. I want to quit!”  Sound familiar? In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward and Jim Jackson interview Chad Hayenga, LMFT and parent coach to explore how our parenting framework gives insight into the question: ”What should I do when my tween wants to quit music lessons?” Quick answer: In most cases, help your child understand that it’s important to stick to their commitments (for the duration of that commitment), and provide the support your child needs.  Listen to our full podcast to explore:  SAFE: Is the word “quit” a trigger for you, the parent, for some reason?  LOVED/CONNECT: Can you understand and empathize with what it’s like to be your child? Maybe there’s a very logical reason why music lessons are not working.  CAPABLE: How might you encourage capability in a way your child would receive: “I know this is hard, but you can do this hard thing!”?  RESPONSIBLE: How do I help my child develop a sense of ownership for this?  In conclusion: Be in prayer and ask God for wisdom about this difficult decision.  Encourage your kids even as you keep them responsible for their commitments. But if music lessons (or any other commitment!) isn’t benefiting your child don’t let it cost you the relationship. Find other ways for your child to learn responsibility.  To learn more about our parenting framework, download our FREE ebook Four Messages Every Child Longs To Hear.  Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts. Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies/ and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams/ Join our private Facebook group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ConnectedFamilies) to ask YOUR “What should I do when… ?” question. Subscribe to never miss an episode!
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