Episode DescriptionDr. Frank Anderson is a renowned trauma expert, psychiatrist, and author with over 30 years of experience. In this episode, Dr. Anderson explores how trauma shapes behaviors and relationships, offering practical tools for healing and fostering genuine connections, while providing hope for those on their recovery journey.Episode Resources Podcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 101: Matthias J. BarkerDr. Anderson's WebsiteDr. Anderson's Newest Book: To Be LovedTrauma InstituteInstagram: Dr. Frank Anderson
In this episode of Consider Before Consuming, we host a panel featuring four individuals deeply involved in the fight against pornography addiction. Chandler, Co-founder and CEO of Relay, shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography and how his experience led to creating a digital platform for recovery. Chris, a licensed professional counselor and certified sex addiction therapist, offers expert insights on the psychological effects of pornography and addiction recovery. Matthew and Dayne, both in recovery from long-term porn addiction, open up about their personal experiences, challenges, and victories in their healing journeys. Together, the panel discusses the power of connection in recovery, the importance of vulnerability, and how community plays a crucial role in breaking free from addiction.Episode ResourcesArticle: How Porn Can Change the BrainArticle: Why the Opposite of Porn Addiction Isn’t Only Sobriety—It’s Real Human ConnectionPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 93: ChandlerJoin RelayBook: The Body Keeps the Score
Melanie Thompson is a survivor of sex trafficking and prostitution, as well as a dedicated speaker and activist in the global fight against commercial sexual exploitation. Trafficked at just 12 years old, Melanie was later arrested and placed in foster care, where she began her advocacy journey at 14. She now serves as the Outreach & Advocacy Coordinator at the Coalition Against Trafficking in Women International.In this episode, we delve into Melanie's powerful story and explore the complexities of trafficking, the misconceptions surrounding platforms like OnlyFans, how pornography promotes violence and harmful stereotypes, and the urgent need for awareness and systemic change.Episode ResourcesArticle: How Mainstream Porn Normalizes Violence Against Black WomenArticle: How Porn Can Misrepresent and Fetishize LGBTQ+ Individuals and RelationshipsPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 90: Taina Bien-AiméMelanie's Podcast: Exit WoundThe Coalition Against Trafficking in WomenRebecca Bender Initiative
Breanna and Brandon Vales are Directors and Founders of Red Light Rebellion, which exists to educate young people about the dangers of child sex trafficking.In this episode, they cover how their experiences influence their work and how they aim to empower youth to recognize the red flags of grooming and exploitation. They also share about Brandon's recovery journey from porn addiction, the impact of pornography on relationships, and how unresolved childhood trauma often leads to addiction. Episode ResourcesArticle: How You Can Spot, Report, and Prevent Human TraffickingRed Light RebellionRed Flag Cards: Text REDFLAGS to 602-922-1040
*Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of sexual violence. Listener discretion is advised.Episode DescriptionShelby’s early exposure to pornography impacted her understanding of sex, leading to misconceptions about consent and contributing to feelings of hypersexuality during her teenage years. In this episode, she shares about a past relationship where her partner's use of pornography had a detrimental effect on her emotionally and physically, and how sharing her experience over the past year has helped in healing and finding connection.Episode Resources Article: Does Porn Normalize Sexual Violence in Teen Relationships?Article: National Study Finds Porn Linked to Sexual Aggression and Coercion in RelationshipsArticle: 5 Ways Porn Has Lied to You About ConsentArticle: Is My Partner’s Porn Habit Harming Our Relationship, or Am I Just Insecure?Podcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 111: BaileyVictim ResourcesResource for Partners of Porn Users: Bloom
Justin Euteneier is the Program Director at Epik Project, an organization that works to disrupt the demand for commercial sexual exploitation.In this Consider Before Consuming podcast episode, Justin shares the efforts the Epik project is using, including engaging with sex buyers to talk about the choices they're making, collaborating with law enforcement, educational initiatives for youth, and efforts to engage men in the fight against trafficking. Episode ResourcesFTND Resource: Porn and Sex TraffickingPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 96: Valiant RicheyEpik Project
Trigger Warning*The following episode contains descriptions of disturbing porn themes, discussions of child sexual abuse and sex trafficking. Listener discretion is advisedLaila Mickelwait is an anti-trafficking activist, Founder and CEO of the Justice Defense Fund, Founder of the Traffickinghub movement, and author of "Take Down: Inside the Fight to Shut Down PornHub for Child Abuse, Rape, and Sex Trafficking,”In this Consider Before Consuming podcast episode, Laila continues to share about her efforts to expose and combat illegal content on Pornhub, including the fight to hold credit card companies accountable.Fight the New Drug is a non-religious and non-legislative awareness and education organization. Some of the issues discussed in this episode may be legislatively-affiliated. Though our organization is non-legislative, we fully support the fights against already illegal forms of pornography and sexual exploitation and against sex trafficking.Episode Resources Laila's Book: TakedownTraffickinghub PetitionJustice Defense FundLaila's Article: Why Are Visa And Mastercard Still Doing Business with Pornhub?FTND Resource: Porn and Sex TraffickingPodcast: Consider Before Consuming, Ep. 35: Nikolas KristofArticle: What's Going on with Pornhub?Nikolas Kristof's Article: The Children of PornhubSheelah Kolhatkar's Article: The Fight to Hold Pornhub Accountable
Trigger Warning*The following episode contains descriptions of disturbing porn themes, discussions of child sexual abuse and sex trafficking. Listener discretion is advised.Laila Mickelwait is an anti-trafficking activist, Founder and CEO of the Justice Defense Fund, Founder of the Traffickinghub movement, and author of "Take Down: Inside the Fight to Shut Down PornHub for Child Abuse, Rape, and Sex Trafficking,”In this Consider Before Consuming podcast episode, Laila shares her journey in the anti-sex trafficking movement and her efforts to expose and combat illegal content on Pornhub. Fight the New Drug is a non-religious and non-legislative awareness and education organization. Some of the issues discussed in this episode may be legislatively-affiliated. Though our organization is non-legislative, we fully support the fights against already illegal forms of pornography and sexual exploitation, and against sex trafficking.Episode ResourcesLaila's Book: TakedownTraffickinghub PetitionJustice Defense FundLaila's Article: Time to Shut Pornhub DownFTND Resource: Porn and Sex TraffickingPodcast: Consider Before Consuming, Ep. 35: Nikolas KristofArticle: What's Going on with Pornhub?
*Trigger Warning: This episode contains brief discussions of sexual violence. Listener discretion is advised.Miyo Strong is the director of The Elizabeth Smart Foundation's self-defense program, Smart Defense. As a mom of two daughters, Miyo began training in Brazilian jiu-jitsu and other martial arts. She joins us for this Consider Before Consuming Podcast episode to share about Smart Defense's unique, trauma-informed approach, combining physical techniques and breathwork with education on sexual violence, consent, and self-worth.Episode ResourcesArticle: How Porn Can Promote Sexual ViolencePodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep.89: Elizabeth SmartSmart DefenseUtah Coalition Against Sexual Assault (UCASA)Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel VanDerKolkBook: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker.
Chris McKenna is the Founder and CEO of Protect Young Eyes, which exists to help create safer digital environments. As a child, Chris was exposed to pornography, and as an adult, he realized how many problems there were with digital spaces and wanted to find a solution to that.In this episode, Chris helps us understand the importance of both having relational connections and technical controls when parenting in the digital age. He underlines the importance of having open conversations about pornography with children to reduce shame and secrecy, stressing the significance of addressing these issues from a young age.Episode ResourcesProtect Young EyesFight the New Drug's Parenting ResourcesConversation BlueprintArticle: Discover the 2024 “Dirty Dozen” Companies Profiting from Sexual ExploitationJonathan Haidt's Book: The Anxious Generation
Trigger warning: The following podcast episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse, sex trafficking, and image-based sexual abuse. Listener discretion is advised.Dawn Hawkins is the CEO of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, which exists to build a world without sexual exploitation and abuse. She joins us for this Consider Before Consuming Podcast episode to shed light on the pervasive influence of pornography, the normalization of sexual harm, and the alarming risks posed by AI-generated content. The episode underscores the urgent need for reform to protect vulnerable individuals from exploitation.Episode ResourcesJoin us: The Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation Global SummitVisit: The 2024 Dirty Dozen ListVisit: BarkVisit: Street GraceArticle: The Misuse of Artificial Intelligence in Producing Child Sexual Abuse Material
In this Consider Before Consuming Podcast episode, we had the opportunity to sit down with a panel of young adults about their experiences and perspectives on sexual exploitation, social media's role, and dating culture. Participants include survivors of human trafficking and sexual assault, former porn consumers, and anti-trafficking advocates. They highlight generational differences in addressing sexual exploitation and the impact of internet culture. Additionally, they discuss the challenges in modern dating, emphasizing the shift toward online interactions and the need for safety measures.Episode ResourcesVideo: Daniel's StoryVideo: Emma's StoryVideo: Jose's StoryVideo: Bri Ray's StoryArticle: How Porn Can Fuel and Normalize Teen Dating ViolenceArticle: How Sex Traffickers Use Social Media to Contact, Recruit, and Sell Children
Victoria Sinis is the founder of Creating Gems, an organization created to help young women break free from harmful narratives about themselves. She is also a former OnlyFans recruiter and marketer. In this episode, she helps us understand what an OnlyFans agency is and the coercive and destructive realities faced by OnlyFans performers.Episode ResourcesArticle: Why So Many Teen Girls Are Planning on Becoming OnlyFans StarsArticle: What Porn, Loneliness, and OnlyFans Have To Do with Men Buying SexPodcast: Consider Before Consuming, Ep. 109: You Asked, We AnsweredVictoria's Website: https://creatinggems.com/
Join us in this Consider Before Consuming episode as Rachel Denton shares her experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Rachel talks about the complex layers of pornography addiction and the strong influence of shame. She'll also explain how self-compassion is essential in navigating the labyrinth of shame and breaking free from its grasp. Rachel provides valuable insights into the process of seeking therapy, explaining different therapy modalities, and how each can be helpful in the journey to healing. She also shares some transformative practices outside of therapy, empowering individuals to reclaim their agency and cultivate resilience.Episode ResourcesArticle: These 4 Studies Show How Recovering From a Porn Habit is Absolutely PossiblePodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 110: Matthias J. BarkerKristin Neff: Self-compassion.org
Ralphie Jacobs is the founder of Simply on Purpose, a platform focused on positive parenting. She brings her expertise to this conversation, emphasizing the importance of connecting with children in today’s fast-paced digital age, offering tips for parents to ensure strong bonds with their kids, and encouraging parents to strike a balance between freedom and boundaries.Episode ResourcesVisit: Simply on PurposeArticle: Teens Who Have Good Relationships with Their Parents Tend to Avoid Porn and Sext LessPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 99: Kristy McVee
Robert’s porn consumption escalated into an addiction while he was in the military. In this episode, Robert shares how the culture of pornography in the military had a profound impact on his consumption habits. He also talks about how pornography affected his relationships and personal well-being. After realizing the negative effects of his addiction, Robert made the decision to quit pornography and is now well on the path to recovery. He emphasizes the importance of seeking help and support and encourages others to explore their own emotions as a starting point for overcoming addiction.Episode ResourcesArticle: Your Answer Guide to “What Does Porn Kills Love Mean?” and Other Fighter Gear QuestionsArticle: Benefits of Quitting Porn According to 90 Real PeoplePodcast: Consider Before Consuming, Ep. 110: John Foubert
*Trigger Warning: This episode contains brief discussions of sexual abuse. Listener discretion is advised.Bailey was first exposed to porn in high school by her boyfriend, whose porn consumption fueled her abuse and led to her own porn addiction. Once Bailey started to realize the harmful effects of porn, she was able to understand the role porn played in her experience and now publicly shares her story to help others understand the negative impacts of porn. Bailey discusses the importance of having conversations in order to shift the conversation around porn and reject its normalization.Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.Episode ResourcesArticle: Does Porn Normalize Sexual Violence in Teen Relationships?Article: 3 Ways Porn Culture is Becoming Normalized in Every Day SocietyPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 9: Rachel
Dr. John Foubert is the Dean of the College of Education at Union University and the principal of Dr. John D. Foubert, LLC. Dr. Foubert worked for 20 years to apply research to rape prevention programs on college campuses, in communities, and in the military.In this Consider Before Consuming Podcast interview, Dr. Foubert helps us understand the correlation between pornography and sexual violence, highlighting over 50 studies showcasing their connection and the ways this is impacting today’s youth. He also discusses his newest book, Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography: Understanding the Science, Risks, and Ways to Protect Your Kids, which helps parents and caretakers understand the harms of porn and how to navigate conversations about this with children.Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.Episode ResourcesJohn's Books: Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography and How Pornography HarmsVisit: John's WebsiteArticle: Parents—If You Don’t Teach Your Kids About Sex, Porn Sites WillPodcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep.4: John Foubert, Ph.D.Resource: Get help with Fortify
In our latest episode of Consider Before Consuming, we delved into the questions posed by our amazing Fighters on social media. The thoughtful inquiries ranged from the effects of partners' pornography consumption to the concept of "ethical porn" and beyond.Throughout the episode, Natale and Parker navigate a wide array of topics, offering insights into pornography's harm on individuals, relationships, and society. Central to their discussion is the necessity of fostering open dialogue and the importance of removing shame. They also share helpful resources for support.Episode ResourcesArticle: 1 in 4 Sextortion Victims Are 13 or Younger, Survey FindsArticle: If You’re Stressed, Bored, or Lonely, is Watching Porn a Healthy Escape?Article: Watching Porn to Escape Negative Emotions like Stress Linked to Compulsive UseArticle: Can Internet Porn Fantasies Affect Your Sex Life In Reality?Article: The Growing Popularity of AI Porn and DeepfakesArticle: Let’s Talk About “Ethical Porn”Article: Your Partner Just Told You They Struggle with Porn. Now What?Podcast: Consider Before Consuming Ep. 35: Nicholas KristofVideo: Jane Doe Sex Trafficked by GirlsDoPornLive Presentation ProgramConversation BlueprintFTND Resources
Katie Bulmer started Truth For Your Twenties to be the person she needed when she was younger. She mentors young women, shares advice on her podcast, and speaks nationwide.In today's Consider Before Consuming episode, Katie shares wisdom on navigating the dating world. She suggests setting realistic expectations and having constructive conversations about pornography. Additionally, she discusses different types of intimacy that can exist in relationships, romantic or otherwise, and stresses that porn should not be used as a substitute for genuine intimacy.Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.Episode ResourcesArticle: Has Our Culture’s Obsession with Porn Changed Dating Expectations?Article: What Are the Risks of Choking a Partner During Sex?Visit: Truth for your Twenties
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I know once I realized the true feelings I had when I watched porn, it was harming my mental health and my thoughts about myself. I love knowing I’m not alone in the world.
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Thank you so much for this! I thought I was the only one who was believing how detrimental porn is and now I have found this amazing community!
Alex to Ally
Thankyou great story Really motivated me to get back on my program after a slip.Bwtter get on the phone :.✌️
NoahArkwright
I consider myself to be a more or less radical feminist, and the "sex work is empowering" narrative is one of the best gifts we've ever given the patriarchy - especially white men. The women who feel "empowered" by sex work are overwhelmingly white middle/upper-middle class white women who are doing it for a lark because it pays well. It's embarrassingly entitled and tone deaf, and I don't know why mainstream feminism tolerates it. The fact that men can buy and sell our bodies only severely reinforces the existing objectification/dehumanization of ALL WOMEN, whether they're sex workers or not. Women will NEVER EVER achieve equality as long as we continue to enable the patriarchy. You'd think we'd have learned by now, because the same thing happened with first wave feminism ("sexual revolution" commandeered by men who then used it to exploit us), and second wave feminism (embracing "women's sexuality," which was just men's sexuality sold to us by advertising). But apparently we haven't
Brendan MacKenzie
yes, this is very real. thanks for all the work you are doing