Convergently Speaking

Dr Tracy is a the Feminine Boss Academy Founder and she helps women from all walks of life on their journey to true self-love. Through her program "Reclaiming Me" she walks with women coming out of narcissistic abuse situations, helps them make sense of what has happened, and how to move forward and thrive in life. Dr Tracy joins Dan to talk about her new book "Narctionary" which brings together all the "lingo" that is used in the Narcissistic recovery world and is an amazing tool for people who are trying to make sense of what has happened to them. She uses this in her programs and her work with people and finds it is amazingly helpful for people to use this shorthand to explain what is going on for them. This was a great chat, thanks Dr Tracy for coming on the show! You can find her at: https://www.drtracy.tv/ Find Dan at : danielanear.com

Local friend and colleague Addie Michlitsch joins us to share about her work as a trauma therapist. We discuss how trauma is stored in the body and some of the ways that she brings people through the process of resolving this. We also discuss codependency and boundaries. Overall, Addie shares her amazing grounding energy and a beautiful vision of what life can be like beyond our triggers and coping mechanisms. Find Addie at: Illuminate Counseling, LLC | Therapy in Roseville, MN (illuminatemn.com) Find Dan at (brand new website!): Daniel Anear

Jumping off from last week's episode about positive vs. negative sentiment in relationships, today Dan shares some practical ways that you can increase the positivity between you and your partner. Find Dan (including bookings for couples therapy and personality coaching) at danielanear.com

In this episode Dan discusses how negative feelings in your relationship can pile up and create their own momentum, so that it colors every interaction you have. He also shares how to get out of this pattern and why it's not as hard as you think! Find a helpful article on this topic HERE Find Dan at danielanear.com

We're back!  Join us for this incredible chat with Line, who is a Nervous System Coach and a wealth of information about the way our nervous system works, how it always has a reason for doing what it's doing. She shares how to know if your nervous system needs more up regulation or down regulation, and methods what we can work with it in these ways. That, and lots more! This was such a comprehensive overview and is such an interesting topic. We have found ourselves thinking about it and using some of her techniques daily! Thanks, Line! Find Line at: linesilseth.com and Instagram Find Dan at danielanear.com

Enjoy the last episode in this series - the differences between Judgers and Perceivers.  We'll be back with a new episode next week! Find Dan: danielanear.com

In  the 3rd episode of this series on relationships and personality, Dan  discusses the difference between thinkers and feelers.  Do thinkers still have feelings underneath all that cold, hard logic?  (yes!) Can we ever get on the same page?  Listen to understand where your partner may be coming from and how they  see the world, and you'll begin to speak the same language and  appreciate what each other is bringing to the table.   Find Dan: danielanear.com

This second episode in the series about personality and relationships,  Dan discusses the differences between Sensors and Intuitives.  Understanding this difference between people can make a huge impact on  how we relate to each other, maybe more than any of the other 3  dichotomies of the Myers-Briggs system. Sensors and Intuitives see and experience the world in very different ways and yet these polar opposites can be complementary making for a great partnership dynamic. Find Dan at danielanear.com

We're taking a break from podcasting for the month of January, but we won't leave you hanging!  In case you missed it, here is a re-release of our series on Myers-Briggs and relationships. This week, Introverts and Extroverts - how this difference plays out for couples and how to manage some of the struggles that come along with it.  And we hope you didn't miss our conversation with an actual couple (who are an introvert and an extrovert) last week - listen HERE! Find Daniel at danielanear.com for more info and to book an appointment.  We'll be back in February, stay curious!

We are SO excited to bring this episode to you. This is an awesome conversation with Kyle and Laura Friesen, owners of Friesen Holistic Wellness in Manitoba, Canada.  Kyle is a Life and Relationship Coach and Laura is a Neuromovement practioner and they are both well-versed in Myers-Briggs and cognitive functions. They share how this knowledge has helped their relationship, what hurdles they face as complete opposite types, how they actually have a lot of similarities, and how they have found ways to bring out the best in each other. They are an incredible example of a couple giving each other space to grow and change and allow that to improve and strengthen their relationship.  We really enjoyed the chat, you will too! Find Daniel at danielanear.com for more info and appointment bookings 

Happy New Year and enjoy this re-release as we work on a big episode for next week!  Find Dan at danielanear.com

This episode is part 2 to last week's about the Dreaded Drama Triangle.  Learn how you can flip the script on the vortex that is the Drama Triangle, and change your mindset into a more empowered one.  Find more info into Dan's practice HERE  Book an appointment with Dan HERE  Stay Curious!

Do you find yourself stuck in relational dynamics that are just never-ending drama? You want to break out of it, but feel powerless to the pull of the drama and the familiar cycles.  On this episode we share a very simple and yet profound model to look at these dynamics called the Drama Triangle. You will hear:  - what is the Drama Triangle and how it shows up in popular culture, religious stories and our everyday lives and relationships. - explanation of the 3 roles in the triangle: the Victim, the Rescuer and the Persecutor.  - an example of how this can look in a family system  - how you might feel like you're playing one role but the other people in the dynamic see you as something else And don't miss part 2 next week when we cover the healthy flip side to the Drama Triangle - the Empowerment Dynamic.  Some more great info on the Drama Triangle:  https://www.mygrow.me/the-drama-triangle/ Find more info into Dan's practice HERE Book an appointment with Dan HERE Stay Curious!

You may be in a situation in your relationship that you feel completely powerless over. You don't like how your life is going, but you don't know how you could possibly change things. You are tired of the status-quo, and feel like if your partner could change, then things would be better.  But what if you have more power than you think? What if changing yourself or the way you interact with the dynamic would have a bigger impact on things that you even realise?  Listen to Dan and Caitlin discuss how the system of a relationship can be changed and share some examples from their own experience of big shifts they have experienced from small actions.  Find more info into Dan's practice HERE  Book an appointment with Dan HERE

Intro to our new ongoing series where we will be interviewing couples about how understanding personality types has impacted their relationships.  Dan and Caitlin discuss some examples of how personality types have massively helped their relationships and those of clients.  danielanear.com

Do you feel like you and your partner have started drifting apart, or lost your spark? Or you're feeling bored in your relationship?  Maybe a baby will fix it!  This is a question that is often asked, and Dan speaks to this as a marriage therapist.  Is having a baby an experience that may bring you and your spouse closer together than before? Definitely!  Will it amplify the issues that were already there and put more pressure on you as a couple? Also yes.  Listen to Dan break down some of the dynamics at play and how to proceed if you'd like to have a baby but are unsure about your relationship.  Find Daniel at danielanear.com Sign up to get updated on our "Baby-Proof your Marriage" course HERE

Dan talks about a concept he uses in his practice, which was coined by Terry Real as "Bad Deals". This is when a couple gets into a pattern or unspoken agreement that really doesn't work for either of them, but they just keep continuing their side of the "bargain" because they are just stuck and aren't aware of another way of operating.  Dan also shares how he works with couples who are in this situation to break out of these cycles and come up with better ways of operating.  If you would like to work with Dan, you can find more info and bookings at danielanear.com

Caitlin has her little sister, Heidi, in for a chat about the Enneagram. Heidi is a certified Enneagram Coach and takes us through an overview of what the Enneagram is and a brief rundown of all the numbers. She also shares how she uses the Enneagram as a coach and how it has made a huge difference in the ways that she approaches her life and relationships.  It was so fun to witness her impressive understanding of the system and hear about all she has going on! You can find Heidi, including her Free Intro to the Enneagram Course at formedtoflourish.com TikTok Instagram And as always, find Dan at danielanear.com Instagram LinkedIn Next, listen back to these other episodes where we discussed the Enneagram: Ep 25 Why I Love the Enneagram Ep 14 with Enneagram 2 Steve Johnson Stay Curious!

Dan and Caitlin share a huge change they've undertaken as a family. They've recently moved from Adelaide, Australia to live in Caitlin's hometown in Minnesota, USA.  You'll hear a bit about the reason for this big move and also plans for Dan's practice going forward.   Dan is an INFJ and Caitlin is an ISFJ in the Myers-Briggs system, and anyone who knows a little bit about IxxJ's knows that they are not very good with change. The couple discusses how their individual personalities played out under the pressure of a big move, how their similarities were helpful in having an understanding of the other person's experience but also how those similarities meant some blind spots that made it more challenging. Dan, as an INFJ, leads with the cognitive function "Introverted Intuition" (Ni) and Caitlin leads with "Introverted Sensing" (Si). These 2 functions relate to time and stress very differently and you will hear specifically how that played out in this situation.  Dan is now consulting in person in Roseville, MN as well as on Zoom for international or out of state clients.  You can see available appointments at danielanear.com. 

We're back! We've been quiet on here, for reasons we'll explain in the next episode. But we're back with this chat about what it means to be curious in life and especially in relationships. Are you more likely to get stuck in your own perspective or are you able to keep an open frame of mind? How can we change these impulses to embrace curiosity?  Find more including bookings for appointments for couples and individuals (in person or via zoom) at danielanear.com