Conversations to Cut the Conflict

<p style="line-height: 1.15;">HI, I am Lisanne Iriks and I am deeply passionate about people having the ability to resolve conflict powerfully and negotiate effectively in their lives.   I am so passionate about it because I see how much suffering it is causing people on a daily basis and I know that it  just does not have to be this way.  When people truly get how conflict impacts their life and put the work in to get effective at conflict resolution and negotiation,  they get to experience deep connections with other people, freedom, self-expression, love, and happiness!</p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">So what is it that I do? I am a conflict resolution specialist and have been a mediator and facilitator for over 12 years specialising in family mediation and workplace mediation.   I have taken thousands for people through the mediation process and I have had the honour to be a finalist for the  Australian Mediator of the year award for the last two years. I train, coach, and mentor people to become highly effective in conflict resolution and negotiation so they can create the relationships they want in their homes and their boardrooms. </p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">I am so excited to welcome you to <strong>CONVERSATIONS TO CUT THE CONFLICT</strong>! This podcast is designed to create actual change in people’s lives and the world. </p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">I am committed to bringing you the conversations, insight, and tools you need for you to switch on your inner conflict resolution and negotiation muscles and get you to a completely different level where you can resolve conflict powerfully and create the relationships you want in your life. Think about it...what would life be like if you would not be afraid of dealing with conflict and you would deal with it easily and quickly. It would change the game dramatically, wouldn't it?  </p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">Thank you for being here and being willing to have these conversations and switch on your inner conflict resolution muscle. The world needs people like you! </p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">It would mean so much to me if you could share an episode with the people in your life. I put so much into these conversations and I would like these conversations to reach as many people as possible! Please tag me on Instagram when you share an episode so I can reshare your story. </p><p style="line-height: 1.15;">It is so great to meet you, now let's get into these conversations…</p>

Ep 50 - Modern Co-Parenting in the Age of Smartphones & Social Media

Co-parenting was never easy, but throw in constant notifications, texting wars, and social media exposure, and it can feel impossible. How do you set boundaries when your ex has 24/7 access to you? What happens when texts spiral into arguments that last all night? Should your kids have unrestricted phone access between homes? In this episode, I dive into the pros and cons of modern communication in co-parenting—when technology helps, when it makes things worse, and how to set boundaries t...

03-09
22:00

Ep 49 - How Menopause Impacts Women's Lives and Their Relationships

Did you know that menopause can have a profound impact on how we act, think, and handle conflict? Hormones have a huge impact on our mood, our relationships and how we deal with difficult situations. As women we often think that it's not just “part of life” to feel irritable or low before your period or to suffer through menopause symptoms. ( I know I thought this). But I am finding out that it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Louise Newson, a reno...

01-20
25:33

Ep 48 - Understanding and Addressing Domestic Abuse in Australia

In this episode I interview Annabelle Daniel OAM, Founding CEO of Women’s Community Shelters, to delve into the critical issues of domestic violence and women’s homelessness. Annabelle shares her extensive experience working with local communities in New South Wales to establish crisis shelters, transitional housing, and homes for older women experiencing homelessness. We discuss the complexities of domestic violence, the challenges faced by women navigating conflicting advice from vari...

07-23
38:30

Ep 47 - The Lawyer That Tells You Not To Go To Court and Why

I loved recording this episode with Ella Hickman from Hickman Family Lawyers. Ella is not only a great human being but also a great lawyer. She practices almost exclusively in family law, dealing with both parenting and property issues. Ella is a firm believer in mediation, and resolving matters sensibly and commercially without the need for lengthy, expensive, and stressful court proceedings. She is absolutely committed to getting clients the best outcomes, with her focus being o...

06-09
31:46

Ep 46 - How to Better Engage Fathers in the Family Mediation Process

I have had the pleasure of interviewing Nurit Zubery in this episode of Conversations To Cut The Conflict. I sat in Nurit's presentation at the Mediation Conference in New Zealand last year and I asked her to come on the podcast as this is not a topic that gets talked about a lot. Women deal with challenges in the family court system, in mediation and men do as well. In this episode we explore the research of Nurit who researched the experience dads have in the mediation and family c...

03-31
55:36

Ep 45 - How to negotiate and avoid family conflict in the lead up and on Christmas day

I have recorded a quick episode for you to give you some tips on how to get through the next couple of weeks without losing your sanity. I also cover how to negotiate with your family in the lead up and on Christmas Day so you can have a great holiday break without family conflict and fill your cup. Please share it with anyone who needs a little extra support right now.

12-11
22:03

Ep 44 - Parenting Coordination

Listen to my conversation with my fellow mediator and coach Anne-Marie Cade. We delve into the vital role of coaching in high-conflict separation and her parenting coordination research. Find out what parenting coordination is and what Anne-Marie's recommendations are for the future of parenting coordination in Australia To find out more about The Mediation Practice Program and join the waitlist, visit www.themediationpracticeprogram.com.

11-08
38:33

Ep 43 - Money Matters: Navigating Conflict and Finding Resolution

Money is one of the most common reason that people are in conflict. I have recorded a short and sweet episode for you on how to best deal with conflict relating to money. Have a listen and let me me know your thoughts. I hope it helpful

10-24
16:48

Ep 42 - The Power of NLP and Hypnosis in Self-Discovery and Resolving Conflict

In this episode, I interview Paul Eliseo, co-founder of Evolve & Relaunch. Paul trains coaches in becoming masterful at NLP, timeline therapy and hypnosis. This episode is one of my favourite episodes ever! We cover so much in 45 minutes it is packed with value for you. Paul and I discuss various topics, including how to work with triggers and resolve conflict, even when people have different values. Why it is important. This conversation is a must listen for anyone who ...

04-17
39:51

Ep 41 - The Importance of Coaching for Children

Unlock your child's full potential with the help of a Kids Coach! Listen to our latest podcast episode in which I chat with Nichole Hamilton, a clinical hypnotherapist and master practitioner in timeline therapy and NLP who specializes in coaching kids. Discover why coaching is important for children and learn tips and tricks to help your child work through difficult emotions and anxiety and get access to free resources to support your children. Nichole is offering a 5-day Kidz Coac...

04-11
29:23

Ep 40 - Navigating High-Conflict Family Separation

I loved having a conversation with Faiza Gabriel, director of Lighthouse Legal. Having observed her parents go through a messy divorce as a teenager, Faiza knew early on that there had to be a better way, and that her calling was to guide people in that direction. Since being admitted as a solicitor and barrister in 2008, she has worked predominantly in family law. Over the years she has gained extensive experience in family law matters, including advising and representing client...

04-03
35:02

Ep 39 - Overcome your Inner Conflict and Show Up with Confidence on Camera

This episode is for business owners who do not feel confident to show up on all the platforms commonly used nowadays to generate business. Or if you are someone that feels that you do not need to show up on all the different platforms, then this episode is for you too. I interview Carmen Braidwood and she is absolutely amazing. She has years of experience showing up on TV and Radio and is now transferring these skills to the business world. Carmen is giving so many tips and tricks in th...

11-28
37:09

Ep 38 - Emotions in Conflict- Debunking Myths and How to Work With It

Emotions are necessary and useful to have in our everyday life. We cannot survive without them. While emotions are so important, most people do not find it easy to talk about them, recognise them and work with (please note I said with, not against) them. A lot of people find this especially difficult when they find themselves in a conflict situation. In this episode I am debunking myths that surround emotions with Dr Sam Hardy based on her research. This new research is available to us but as...

11-14
38:05

Ep 37 - Legacy, Death and Conflict

In this episode, I interview Zinta Harris from Resolve Estate Law. Zinta is a succession lawyer, collaborative professional, and mediator who is amazing at helping people when they are in conflict while a loved one has just passed away. I loved having this conversation with Zinta. We discuss death and other topics most people do not like talking about but should be talking about. Zinta has a great approach and during our conversation I found myself looking differently at death and what...

10-31
40:08

Ep 36 - How can you negotiate effectively within the workplace and avoid conflict.

This episode is for anyone who is interested in preventing conflict in the workplace and creating an environment where people enjoy working and want to stay. I interviewed Jo Alilovic who is an HR lawyer that works with businesses to get things right from the beginning. She helps businesses with strategic planning, and preventative measures to avoid the legal claims that may arise when a working relationship breaks down. Jo and I talk about what bullying is and what it is not and how you can ...

10-10
33:26

Ep 35 - How Empathy Can Change Everything

This episode is a short one to remind you of the power of empathy. Empathy is amazing, but often we forget about it as we run though life in our fast moving society where we don't always get to connect with other people properly. When we are in conflict, or in a negotiation, we can get into a divisive mindset very quickly. Empathy is an easy way to get back into the space of collaboration. Listen to this episode to be reminded about the power of empathy in negotiation and conflict resolu...

09-26
14:44

Ep 34 - How To Negotiate Effectively

Negotiation is a fact of life. We do it every day in our personal and professional lives. When you are confident in your negotiations and you know how to do it effectively you will be surprised at the kind of results you can produce. A lot of people want to be able to negotiate effectively but they do not know how. In this episode I will be sharing with you what you can do to get better outcomes in your negotiations. When you are confident in your negotiations and you know how to do it ...

09-12
42:46

Ep 33 - Why taking responsibility will give you the power to make positive changes in your life

In this episode I talk about taking RESPONSIBILITY! Why do most people not like taking responsibility? Why is it the most powerful thing that you can do to make positive changes in your life? Listen to this episode to change the relationship that you have with by taking responsibility. Instead of it being a burden, it can create new possibilities and an opening for you to make positive changes in your life. Have a listen and please let me know what you got out of this episode and share it ...

06-28
18:12

Ep 32 - First Year of Separation

The first year of separation is very hard for most people. There is so much going on practically speaking and on an emotional level. I interview Nicky Thomas who is an amazing leadership coach who has been separated for 12 months now. We talk about: - What has it been really like the last 12 months. No fluff but the honest truth. - What to do with unsolicited advice from friends and family. - How to work through all your emotions. - How to find yourself again now your...

03-16
26:58

Ep 31 - Why is it important to focus and say no?

Oh my god! It has been a while since I have recorded a podcast episode. I have moved house and one of my children has started high school so my focus has been on my clients and my family and there was no space for recording podcasts for example. In this brief episode I talk about how you can focus so you do not feel pulled in different directions all the time as this causes a lot of inner conflict. And when you focus you have to say no to some request which is not always easy but so important...

03-03
09:24

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