Conversations with People Who Hate Me
Author: Dylan Marron & TED
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In an internet era characterized by comment section wars, devastating clapbacks, and anonymous vitriol, Dylan Marron explores what happens when online feuders step out from behind the keyboard and get to know the human on the other side of the screen. Join Dylan as he connects people who have clashed online – from old friends to complete strangers — to explore why we believe what we believe, how we relate to each other on the internet, and just what a phone call can accomplish. Don’t be fooled by the title! It’s actually a loving show that fosters unlikely connections in an age of increasing digital isolation. Whether Dylan is speaking with someone who wrote him a negative comment or is moderating a call between two strangers at odds, the results are often surprising, usually heartwarming, and always compelling.
Webby Winner, Best of 2018 (Apple Podcasts), “The Timeliest Podcast” (Fast Company), “Essential” (Vulture), Podcast Pick (USA Today & The Guardian)
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Some really good points.
Guy should've got his notes together first.
I think a major thing in this conflict was misunderstanding meanings, like "far left" doesn't mean what you think it is (I don't know you beyond this podcast, but you don't sound like an anarchist or Marxist) and she hasn't investigated beyond the surface or media definitions of terms.
Be #Mahsa_Amini
It seems this outcome may be a good example of white male cishet privilege? We can get so blinded by our own "truth" that is seems almost impossible to get our eyes opened to another's reality. I do not believe, in our current world, it is even possible to have a "justice" system. We have only a very flawed politicized legal system which, like most other large systems, is ultimately controlled by those already in positions of wealth and power who are desperately working to maintain or add to what they are already privileged to have. This seems to limit their ability to put themselves in the shoes of the people negatively impacted by those systems, as well as limiting their ability to see the need for reform. Thank you for the courage to have, and make space for, these kinds of vital conversations, despite the fact that this episode left me feeling quite sad.
I find it wild to imagine that Andrew made his way onto a social media platform, on the world wide web, only to not search what he clearly doesn't understand. He is walking privilege and ignorance.
Ugh, this dude is insufferable. He's unwilling to admit that he is irrationally scared and has decision paralysis about the vaccine and just wants the decision taken out of his hands.
Hurt people hurt people is so right. I'm so glad I left religion behind, the reality is religious people are incapable of "hating the sin, not the sinner".
That guy made me sick. It's incredibly hard to listen to him speak with such a delusional and ignorant individual. It's hard to hold empathy for him at all.
it was the cutest and the most honest talk, loved it
they're not gonna play the clip? I have no idea what these people are talking about.
For someone who teaches children about this stuff for a living, they really flopped when asked simple questions or when posed with flawed statements. Lindsay barely even spoke and when they did they were like "wow fascinating" or "that's ok that you think that." have they ever met a conservative before? You dont get anywhere by throwing your technical terms at people and then saying "it's fine that you think that." Its condescending and it pushes people away from you. Lennox was extremely open and you two wasted this opportunity to just agree with each other and make no effort to communicate with him. Somebody put me in contact with this Lennox guy and we'll figure all this out together productively.
Very life affirming
I had initial biases coming into this episode because I am a queer Latinx Bernie Bro, but I was pleasantly surprised. Thank you, Dylan, for delivering this type of content. With that being said, I don't appreciate that Warren supporters tend to tone police Bernie and his base for being rightfully angry with the Establishment. Just some food for thought about an individual's privilege to tone police.
feel bad for this blokes wife, imagine marrying someone with similar views as you and then being stuck with them as they become a completely different person
this guest has a beautiful voice!
I absolutely love and endorse the idea of using a spouse or partner or other trusted loved one to edit one's social media comments. I'm very emotional and thus prone to outbursts, which I sometimes later regret, so I almost always ask my husband if what I'm writing is too passive-aggressive / aggressive-aggressive / hurtful / ignorant / etc. before posting... particularly if I'm in the throes of passionate anger or depression. The best way to trust myself to be the best version of me is to be aware of when it's not safe to trust myself to be the best version of me. Sounds like an oxymoron but that sums up my personality so I'm good with it.
Acts 10:9-16 for an explanation of the shellfish bit
You are doing something amazing here. Mad respect, my friend. Thank you for doing this and for sharing it. I have a little more faith in humanity now, thanks to you. xoxox
I feel so bad for Lindsay having to have an entire conversation of "you don't exist" without even really getting to speak for themself.