Crimes of the Heart: a love and dating podcast

Hope everyone had a great labor day, clearly I did... I thought yesterday was Monday literally all day until about 11PM when I realized it was Tuesday and I hadn't dropped this episode... WHOOPS. Forgive me <3 No one fetishized Kaila Yu more than she fetishized herself. As a young girl, she dreamt of beauty. But none of the beautiful women on television looked like her. In the late '90s and early 2000s Asian women were often reduced to overtly sexual and submissive caricatures—Within that narrow framework, Kaila internalized a painful conclusion: The only way someone who looked like her could have value or be considered beautiful and desirable was to sexualize herself. We embark on a conversation about beauty, race and self love in this week’s episode. To learn more about Kaila you can visit her site here or buy her book here. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What really happens when trust shatters? In this powerful episode of Crimes of the Heart, host Rory Uphold sits down with betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker Lora Cheadle to unpack the messy truth about healing after infidelity, lies, and broken friendships. From discovering her husband’s 15-year secret double life to helping countless clients rebuild their identities, Lora shares the tools to move beyond grief and rage, reclaim your power, and decide whether to repair or release relationships. To learn more about Lora check out her website HERE. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine waking up with $10 million… and going to sleep with nothing. This week’s guest was married to the so-called Mormon Bernie Madoff, and she had no idea her husband was running a Ponzi scheme — until it all came crashing down. Andrea Merriman thought she had the perfect life: wealth, family, love. But when her husband’s secret Ponzi scheme exploded, she lost it all. This is the jaw-dropping true story of the ex-wife of the "Mormon Bernie Madoff" — how she learned the truth, raised four kids alone, rebuilt her world, and somehow… learned to love again. If you’ve ever wondered how someone survives the unthinkable, this episode is for you.To learn more about Andrea check out her website HERE or follow her on Tiktok HERE. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Think you’re too smart to fall for a narcissist? Think again. This episode breaks down the red flags you miss on first dates, what your first fight really reveals, and how to dodge manipulators before it’s too late. Already stuck with one? We’ve got survival tactics for marriages, messy divorces, and co-parenting with toxic people. Fasten your seatbelt—this is your no-BS guide to spotting narcissists and protecting your peace. To learn more about Carla click HERE or on IG HERE or buy her book HERE.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re halfway through 2025 — so let’s get honest: Are you living the life you actually want? Do you have the love you truly deserve? If not, today’s episode might just change everything. I’m joined by Jacqueline Hurst, the UK’s top life coach and a global expert in mindset mastery. She’s helped thousands of people transform their beliefs, upgrade their standards, and create the love and life they thought were out of reach. And today? She’s coaching you. We’re diving deep into the limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in cycles — in dating, in self-worth, and in playing small. This is your mindset wake-up call. I’m obsessed with her. I think you will be too. Let’s lock in. To learn more about Jacqueline visit her website or her Instagram or buy her Int. Best Selling book HERE.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hot Girl Summer is upon us and today's guest is going to tell us how to make the most of our single summer months. Amanda Thomas is your favorite influencers favorite influencer (and jewelry designer) and she's here to give us the skinny on how to have the perfect flirty summer. To follow Amanda click HERE and to check out jewelry click Luv AJ. Personally, I love these huggies. We also talked about our love of Naked, Dry Shampoo, Glutathione and soooo much more.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For OG listeners you might remember Kiersten Lyons' horror story from my episode with Monica Padman (which aired on March 21, 2023). Today she is back to discuss how she healed from that relationship and subsequently found the man of her dreams and the book that was based on her journey. That book is called CRUSHED and it's out today! (If you buy fro that link I can earn an affiliate commission!) To learn more about Kiersten you can follow her HERE or check out her website here. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokSelect links may be affiliate and Opening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alejandra is a no nonsense dating coach with a long wait list but today you can get her advice for free! She's on a mission to stop women from settling and to help people find the love that they desire and deserve. So, share this with a friend who needs to hear it. For more from Alejandra you can check out her classes here or follow her on on IG here. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shes back! Sex scholar, Nadege, is back on the podcast to talk to us about how to play to our strenths so we can improve our sex lives. To listen to our first episode on itunes click HERE and on spotify click HERE. To learn more about Nadege click HERE or follow her on IG HERE.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you, or someone you love, has ADHD this is a MUST LISTEN TO episode!! I have Leann Borneman, a licensed therapist and sexologist who specializes in ADHD. She sees singles and couples and helps people navigate love, sex and dating while living with or loving someone who has ADHD. To follow Leann on Instagram click HERE and to learn more about her and her practice check out her website here: https://www.bornemancoaching.com/servicesFor video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To suggest a topic or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokAnd for anyone wanting to learn more about skincare or wellness, check out my substack:  https://theladiesroom.substack.com/Opening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In 2025 what are the new dating rules? No one knows! But Shaun Galanos has been helping people with their love lives for over a decade, so he's here to give us some insight into how people are feeling, meeting and coping when it comes to love and dating. Shaun is a podcaster, blogger and love coach who answers questions from his 275K followers daily. If you don't already follow him, you should follow him on Instagram HERE or his substack HERE. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Nikki Boyer's best friend, Molly, is diagnosed with terminal breast cancer she does something unexpected: she leaves her husband to embark on a sexual journey. Together they document this journey in what is to become the hit podcast Dying For Sex and the soon-to-be hit TV show starring Michelle Williams and Jenny Slate. Today I sit down with Nikki to talk all things Molly, sex, fertility, cancer, their new show & so much more. This is a special episode! Speaking of special, mark my words DYING FOR SEX will be the show of the year so don't miss out -- catch it on FX, Hulu or Disney+ on April 5th!! If you want more of Nikki click HERE!!To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This might be the most important episode I've ever recorded. Nicole Bedera has dedicated her life to researching sexual violence and as a result she's an expert in navigating consent, Title IV, and maybe most importanlty, recovering from sexual violence. She drops information in this episode that I've never heard anywhere else and what could have been an incredibly dark episode left me feeling profoundly inpsired. Please share this episode with anyone you love because it might help them more than you know. To learn more about Nicole and her work click HERE and to read her book click HERE.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Julie and Yue from from the Dateable podcast drop by to share their best dating tips and top insights after a decade in the relationship space. Plus! They have a new book which you can get HERE. If you want more of Julie or Yue follow or to check out the show click HERE. Or, take the dating archetype quiz HERE. Disclosure: some links might be affiliat links where I may be eligible fo comission. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hi from Japan! My editor dropped the ball so instead of an episode today and break for xmas and NYE -- I will see you guys back here on the 31st!! Thank you, love you. xx, RSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's goest is an expert on compersion, which is the foundation of polyamory. She is going to tell us about compersion but also what we all can do to be less jealous in our romantic and non romantic lives. If you want more of Marie follow her on IG here or check out her website: https://www.mariethouin.com/To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I have the one and only Sabrina Zohar on the show today -- you're going to love her as much as I do!! Today's episode is full of tips on how to deal with dating anxiety, shifting your mindset and truly getting in the driver seat of your own love journey. If you want more of Sabrina you can find her on IG, TikTok or her Podcast.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Sherry Ross is one of LA's top OBGYN's and today she is here to answer all the questions you wish you could ask your doctor but never have -- PLUS she talks about her upcoming intimate skincare line which has me waiting with bated breath!! To learn more about Dr. Sherry Ross click HERE or to buy her SHE-OLOGY books click HERE or HERE. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Buckle up for some girl talk with the legendary Kay Brown. You might know her from The Betchelor but today we are gabbing about what it's like to be single in the second worst city for dating in the country aka Los Angeles. We talk dating icks, dating apps and of course dating advice. If you fell in love with Kay the way I did be sure to follow her on IG HERE.To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever wondered what it's like to date as a little person or as someone who is in a wheelchair? Today's guest is Alina Kasha and she has diastrophic dysplasia. We talk about her journey with love and dating, from low key catfishing to find love by being her true authentic self and so much more. To follow Alina click HERE. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/LINK TO MY SUBSTACK: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.