Crystal Paine Show

Listen in this week as we do something a little bit different. Jesse interviews me! That’s right. I recently went on a retreat to Utah, and Jesse asks me questions all about it! I talk about my trip for a mastermind retreat with a group of women CEOs, a retreat focused on the theme of "flourishing" - exploring the gaps in their lives and how to move from areas that feel "dead or dying" to truly thriving.I talk about the various activities that we did, including an adventurous Jeep tour through the rugged Utah terrain that left us covered in dust! We also had intentional discussion times, including a "one question meal" where each person took turns sharing in response to a thought-provoking question. One of the biggest takeaways for me personally was the importance of creating more space in my life. I realized that I needed to be more intentional about shutting down work earlier in the evenings in order to be fully present with my family, and this has truly already made a noticeable difference in my energy and focus!The most impactful part of the retreat for me had to have been writing a letter to my future self, reflecting on the last five years of my life and envisioning how my new priorities will shape the next two years. I found myself very surprised by how much poured out as I wrote, feeling a sense of healing and clarity! Overall, this retreat provided me with valuable time for rest, reflection, and renewed intentionality around the areas of my life that matter most, and I am so excited to implement the changes that I identified and see the positive impact that they have, both personally and professionally!In This Episode[0:35] - Hear how I realized that my phone was under me the whole time as I searched for it![2:41] - My trip to Utah was one of three summer journeys.[4:09] - What was the purpose of my recent trip to Utah?[7:33] - I describe what the weather was like on my trip.[9:08] - I talk about how the Jeep ride was bumpy, dangerous, and beautiful but left me utterly uninterested in owning one.[11:41] - Hear how dust covered us so thoroughly that baby wipes revealed streaks of clean skin.[13:32] - Our dinner began with reflections on flourishing and times of feeling fully alive.[16:19] - I contrast empty success-chasing with the fulfillment of fostering and adoption.[18:31] - Hear how serving behind the scenes at church rekindled my lifelong joy in organizing meals.[20:40] - I cherished early nights and found healing in honest group sharing.[23:38] - Via journaling and discussion, I realized that my biggest gaps were sleep and marriage.[26:35] - Hear how I publicly committed to ending work by 7 p.m.[28:17] - Early shutdowns improved my sleep quality and made me more present in my marriage.[31:16] - Choosing “space” as my theme, I have delegated tasks and restructured priorities at home.[33:36] - Leaving space in my days has increased gratitude, connection, and joyful laughter![35:46] - I talk about how writing a future-focused letter brought healing reflection and clarity for the next two years.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have the honor this week of having not just one but two guests in the studio, both of whom I love dearly - David Thomas and Sissy Goff! David and Sissy discuss their new children's books focused on building resilience and courage in young kids. The books, featuring therapy dogs as the main characters, aim to help children with common challenges such as anxiety, fear, and emotional regulation.Listen as Sissy and David share how they have witnessed the powerful impact of therapy dogs in their counseling practice, helping kids open up and feel more comfortable expressing their feelings. They also discuss the scientific research showing the mental health benefits of interacting with dogs, including reduced stress and increased feel-good hormones.Our conversation explores how even very young children, as early as preschool age, can struggle with anxiety and fear that manifests in rigid behavior, meltdowns, and an inability to cope with change or big transitions. David and Sissy provide some practical strategies for parents, such as using "breath prayers" and feelings charts to help kids identify and work through their feelings.Highlighting the importance of building emotional intelligence from an early age, Sissy and David also reflect on some personal stories of how they've seen this make a profound difference, even in the lives of older kids who initially resisted. The books' themes of resilience and courage are brought to life via relatable examples that kids can connect with, and not only do I strongly encourage you to grab yourself some copies, I also really hope that you enjoy this incredibly informative conversation with David Thomas and Sissy Goff![Episode Timeline][0:35] - Welcome to the show, David and Sissy![2:42] - Why are the dogs at the center of David’s and Sissy’s children’s books?[4:52] - Hear how training a therapy dog revealed how deeply kids and dogs reduce stress.[7:49] - Sissy argues that dogs tend to put children in touch with an otherwise hard to access tenderness.[9:46] - Owen’s reluctance to enter the room became a metaphor for overcoming overwhelming moments.[11:59] - I reflect on my fear of entering a gym class and the relief after committing.[13:39] - David looks back on how his dad and Owen comforted each other, proving closeness can heal loneliness and fear.[15:56] - David explains how READing Paws shows kids read with less anxiety when accompanied by nonjudgmental dogs.[17:13] - Sissy points out how rising childhood anxiety often appears as rigid control.[20:46] - My jump-rope fear illustrates how we often exaggerate obstacles that actually prove simple.[23:27] - Hear how Sissy helps her nephew face Disney ride fears with the phrase, “a little scared, a lot fun.”[24:36] - I recall forcing my anxious daughter into school, a decision that ultimately changed her life.[26:45] - Fear often masks itself as anger in children, making it more difficult to recognize and address.[28:26] - David distinguishes normal challenges from debilitating ones by asking if a child can still move forward.[30:49] - David recommends workbooks and parent consultations as first steps before pursuing therapy.[32:24] - Sissy highlights the importance of finding warm, trusted therapists and framing therapy as building a child’s support team.[34:31] - David and Sissy describe using tools like feelings charts and thermometers to teach kids emotional awareness.[36:49] - I praise teaching kids emotional language at a young age, preventing unresolved feelings from damaging adult relationships later.[Links & Resources]Crystal Paine  READing Paws  Daystar Counseling  Books:- *Lucy Learns to Be Brave* by Sissy Goff  - *Owen Learns He Has What It Takes* by David Thomas  - *Happy Finds Her Calm* by Sissy Goff & David Thomas  - *Pippa Learns to Share the Spotlight* by Sissy Goff & David Thomas  - *Braver, Stronger, Smarter* by Sissy Goff  - *Strong and Smart* by David Thomas  Social Media:Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom, @crystaliscleaning)  Crystal Paine on LinkedIn, Twitter, Goodreads  Money Saving Mom on Facebook and Deal Seekers group  Email: crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Listen this week as Jesse and I share an unscripted update on our family's recent travels and the start of the new school year! We talk about some of the changes to our kids' school schedules, with David now attending the afternoon preschool program instead of the morning which has worked out really nicely as it better suits his natural sleep and wake cycle.We then reflect on our recent fun trips - first, my visit to Orlando to attend a business retreat where I experienced the thrills of the Volcano Bay water park and the serene beauty of Discovery Cove. At Discovery Cove, the highlight was definitely swimming with dolphins, an experience that left a deep impression and even had me briefly considering a career change! Then, following the Orlando trip, our whole family spent a week at the lake with extended family, enjoying activities like boating, tubing, and water skiing. Jesse and I note that this was absolutely our best lake trip yet, with even the younger kids fully embracing and delighting in the water activities!Throughout this update, we highlight the importance of making time for play and new experiences, which we personally find so rejuvenating for the soul, especially amidst the busyness of daily life. I would love for you to share your own experiences with water parks, swimming with dolphins, and/or family lake trips!In This Episode[0:35] - This unscripted update includes school changes and a surprising, career-shifting sea creature encounter![3:01] - Hear how David thrives in his structured public school program, although his schedule now differs from Micah’s.[6:06] - I reveal how adjustments to school routines have eased mornings, giving me calmer drop-offs and some brief quiet at home.[9:48] - I describe a refreshing Orlando trip with my coach’s group, including visits to two water parks.[12:29] - Volcano Bay proved thrilling for adults and teens, though its tap-in ride system created long waits.[15:21] - Hear how Discovery Cove felt like a tropical resort with all-inclusive food, relaxation, wildlife, and immersive water experiences![18:28] - I explain how above water felt like a resort, but underwater was pure ocean adventure with stingrays.[21:15] - Hear how our dolphin encounter lasted longer because our obedient dolphin contrasted with misbehaving ones nearby.[24:45] - Jesse compares dolphin interactions to African safaris, where animals perceive groups as single entities.[25:22] - I share how I unexpectedly rode a dolphin’s strength, sparking thoughts about becoming a trainer myself![28:46] - The dolphin swim reminded me of the joy and soul-refreshment found in play.[31:05] - After Discovery Cove, I joined the family at the lake, cherishing togetherness across all ages!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to be sharing my incredibly insightful conversation with author Ian Morgan Cron with all of you! Ian Morgan Cron is the author of The Fix: How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation for the Well-Adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone in Between! Listen in as he discusses the book and vulnerably shares his own personal journey with addiction and the power of the twelve-step program in transforming his life.Ian explains how addictions, whether they be to substances, behaviors, or relationships, are a common human experience stemming from an underlying "uneasiness" or "feeling of not-at-homeness." He highlights the fact that everyone struggles with some form of addiction that provides temporary relief but ultimately diminishes us.Ian touches upon the twelve steps and opens up about his battles with approval-seeking and workaholism, revealing how the twelve steps helped him let go of the need for external validation. He encourages listeners, however, to approach the journey of transformation with patience, as it is a slow process of rewiring deep-seated beliefs and habits.Our conversation also digs into Ian's expertise in the Enneagram personality typing system, and he talks about his new Enneagram assessment tool that provides accurate, in-depth insights into one's personality type and subtypes. He shares how understanding the Enneagram has profoundly impacted his own relationships and self-awareness.Throughout our conversation, Ian's vulnerability, humor, and wisdom truly shine through, making this a must-listen episode for anyone seeking greater wholeness, authenticity, and connection in their life! I hope that you enjoy my conversation with Ian Morgan Cron! In This Episode [0:35] - Welcome to the show, Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Fix![2:12] - Ian admits that writing so vulnerably was hard but that he chose honesty over image to help others grow. [5:55] - I do sometimes contort myself to get approval, seeking validation in relationships more than online. [6:39] - Ian explains how he outgrew childhood approval-seeking and now regards his self-worth independently from others' opinions.[9:32] - I reflect on how replacing self-critical lies with truth took me two years of intentional rewiring. [11:28] - Addictions ultimately stem from inner discomfort; we soothe it with “fixes” that quickly become destructive cycles. [13:50] - Ian explains how addiction comes from trauma, biology, and environment, offering temporary peace in a chaotic inner world.[15:16] - Addiction is often a misguided solution to a deeper pain. [17:55] - Ian further explains how addiction is any unhealthy dependency on people, behaviors, and/or substances to seek peace and self-worth. [20:36] - Hear how Ian fully embraced the twelve steps after a relapse. [22:46] - Relapse rewired Ian’s brain but ultimately led to humility and healing. [25:16] - Ian shares how open twelve-step meetings can feel sacred, filled with laughter, vulnerability, and genuine human connection. [26:41] - The twelve steps guide the healing process and eventually become second nature. [29:59] - Ian feels that making amends can deeply impact others and keeps us emotionally cleaned up. [32:24] - Hear how Ian co-developed a scientifically rigorous Enneagram test to replace misleading, clickbait personality quizzes. [34:35] - Accurate personality assessments reveal deeper truths, while cheap ones often mislead and waste emotional energy. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Ian Morgan Cron  Books The Fix: How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation for the Well-Adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone in Between by Ian Morgan Cron The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self by Ian Morgan Cron Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom) Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning) Crystal Paine on LinkedIn Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Angie Howell is the author of the recently released book Jewel of Heaven: A Beautiful Story of Brokenness, Redemption, and the Power of a Biker’s Prayer, and I am so happy to welcome her to the studio for this episode! She joins me to share her inspiring story about what can happen when your world unravels in a way that you never saw coming and God shows up through the last people you'd expect.Angie shares how she was a confident pediatric nurse respected, in demand, and able to fix almost any newborn feeding challenge – even though her personal life was a mess. In the midst of a failing marriage and parenting seven children, she found herself pregnant again and unraveling.Listen in as Angie talks openly and honestly about the shame that she carried, the guilt with which she wrestled, and how her faith had gone dormant until a persistent cousin named Rich (a Harley-riding, leather-wearing, tattooed biker who’d found Jesus) refused to let her stay in the dark. Angie shares the moment when she finally allowed his biker prayer group to pray over her fragile baby girl, Jade, a moment that truly changed everything for her.Angie and I discuss what it feels like to walk into a waiting room full of children with visible disabilities and have your pride shaken. We talk about miracles that can’t be explained, even by top neurologists, and we talk about what it means to become a warrior mother out of necessity, to join a community of parents who empathize, and to see value and beauty where the world often looks away.At the end of the day, this isn’t just Angie’s story. It is a story that will challenge how you see struggle, faith, and the people God chooses to work through! Tune in for Angie's inspirational and powerful insights! In This Episode[0:35] - I am interviewing Angie Howell, author of Jewel of Heaven![1:37] - Angie reflects on having felt successful at work but spiritually lost until her daughter and faith changed everything.[4:45] - Angie’s unexpected pregnancy crushed her sense of freedom during an already crumbling third marriage.[6:10] - Angie now understands the need for grace and support after struggling alone through overwhelming guilt.[8:46] - Angie wishes that someone had told her that God would meet her in chaos and never leave.[10:53] - Being helpless to save her newborn shattered Angie’s confidence and led to some deep emotional reflection.[13:27] - Over time, Angie learned to find small daily miracles in her daughter’s life and spirit.[16:32] - Angie reveals how seeing children with disabilities shattered her pride and forced her to confront her own biases.[18:22] - A simple act of kindness can uplift parents of children with special needs.[20:41] - Angie reveals how a brain scan confirmed her deepest fear, that Jade’s condition was severe, irreversible, and likely fatal.[22:40] - Angie feels that she relied too heavily on doctors and Google, forgetting that ultimate healing comes from God.[24:15] - Reluctantly allowing bikers to pray over Jade, Angie witnessed God move in a moment of doubt.[26:50] - After the prayer, Jade’s MRI showed a normal brain, an inexplicable but undeniable miracle.[29:41] - Angie believes that God used misfits and relentless love to rescue her when she was spiritually drowning.[32:48] - Angie’s story has become one of transformation, meant to help others find faith and hope.[35:03] - Angie now carries her book while traveling, offering it wherever the Holy Spirit leads her.Links & Resources Crystal Paine BooksJewel of Heaven: A Beautiful Story of Brokenness, Redemption, and the Power of a Biker’s Prayer by Angie Howell Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Today’s topic is a really vulnerable and honest one and I've been sort of hesitant to cover it. But while putting yourself out there like this is a little scary, it's been impacting my life so much that I wanted to share in hopes it might help and encourage someone else.In this episode, Jesse and I sit down and talk about my journey of changing my mindset around food and the major shifts that I have experienced in the last few weeks. I talk about why I signed up with a dietitian (it's fully covered by insurance for me and most people!) and what I thought I would get out of it and how it's completely not panned out like I thought!During my first session, I had some pretty big "a-ha" moments as the dietitian challenged some of my long-held beliefs. She asked me a lot of questions and then explained to me that in eating too few calories for years, especially while under immense physical and emotional stress, I have actually been hurting my body.I discuss how, over the following weeks, I really struggled to increase my calorie intake, as it felt like "too much food" after restricting for so long and I was scared. I went through a period of intense anxiety and stress as the weight didn't immediately come off, and I ultimately realized that I needed to break free from this unhealthy mindset and get rid of the scale altogether.I am now focusing on nourishing my body and listening to my hunger cues rather than obsessing over macros or calories. I have experienced a new freedom and energy, I'm working through and processing so much, and I hope to break this cycle for my kids and set an example of true health and wholeness!This is just the beginning of my journey, but I am so excited to continue to heal and share the process transparently!In This Episode[0:36] - I am discussing my as of yet unhealed struggles with food.[2:24] - Hear how I discovered a dietitian service covered through insurance, prompting some clarity around my health goals.[9:08] - Despite years of dieting, I couldn’t lose the last five pounds after my fourth pregnancy.[11:18] - Repeated dieting and surprise pregnancies left my body stressed and resistant to weight loss.[14:07] - Parenting, fostering, writing books, and business pressures overwhelmed me physically and emotionally.[17:46] - Realizing that my chronic stress and calorie deficit was damaging me, I began increasing my calorie intake.[20:00] - Although I was encouraged to eat more, I initially struggled emotionally when weight loss didn’t immediately follow.[21:27] - Hear how I realized that my unhealthy fixation on weight was an addictive, joyless pursuit of external validation.[24:17] - I reflect on how I clung to the scale for validation, not realizing how deeply it controlled my self-worth.[25:14] - Jesse and I discuss how I came to realize that true health isn’t about weight loss but about feeling nourished, energized, and balanced.[28:58] - I realized that my obsession with the scale was mentally and physically harming me.[31:37] - Not knowing my weight daily gave me relief and began to break toxic thought patterns.[33:30] - Hear how I replaced obsessive food tracking with photo-based check-ins, allowing space for more intuitive eating.[35:09] - Listening to my hunger cues and eating more gave me energy and modeled balance for my kids.[38:12] - I express gratitude for my dietitian helping me launch a healing journey.[40:13] - I now practice gratitude for my body’s function, rewiring thought patterns toward healing and self-love.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineMy Completely Honest Experience With NourishNourish - Hire a Registered Dietitian for $0 Out of Pocket!Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am really excited about this interview with returning guest Katie Reid, author of the new Bible study God, What Do I Do? which explores the book of Judges and the story of the prophet Deborah. Katie shares how she felt called by God to write this study, even though it took years to come to fruition, and she explains how Deborah's story has personally impacted her, especially in finding the balance between not shrinking back but also not steamrolling others. Katie highlights the importance of maintaining a close relationship with God, relying on His strength rather than our own, and being willing to step out in faith even when the path ahead is uncertain.Our conversation touches on the challenges of discerning God's calling, the power of prayer, and the value of community, with Katie encouraging listeners to approach the Bible study with an open heart, taking time to truly digest the lessons rather than rushing through. She also highlights key takeaways from Deborah's life, such as her godly confidence and collaborative spirit.Katie truly provides a compelling overview of what readers can expect to find in God, What Do I Do?, and her insights offer a timely message for taking on life's unexpected twists and turns by drawing near to God and leaning on His guidance. Her book promises to be a valuable resource for anyone seeking to make wise decisions and deepen their relationship with God, and I strongly encourage you to grab a copy!  In This Episode[0:35] - Today’s conversation is with returning guest Katie Reid, author of the Bible study God, What Do I Do?[1:10] - Katie reveals how, while visiting the Holy Land, she felt called to write about Deborah’s unique leadership.[4:37] - Knowing that God is good helps Katie trust Him even when life gets difficult or confusing.[6:02] - Hear how Deborah’s confidence inspired Katie to embrace leadership without shrinking back.[8:59] - We learn that Katie’s journey has involved learning to let go of perfectionism.[12:43] - Katie reflects on having reluctantly run for school board after many spiritual nudges confirmed that it was her calling.[14:44] - True callings often feel scary and require deep trust and reflection.[16:03] - Katie reflects on how obedience affects not just her but also her family and future generations.[18:27] - Hear how rejection led Katie to write fiction.[21:11] - I highlight how delayed fulfillment doesn't negate God's call; it often requires courageous first steps.[23:09] - Katie suggests taking small, faithful steps now, even if the larger calling feels impossible.[25:07] - Fear often hides beneath feeling stuck, and faith means surrendering control to God. [27:12] - Simple prayers still carry power and deepen our relationship with God.[28:56] - Inviting God into daily moments, even small ones, opens the door to His power.[31:58] - Katie realized that true strength begins when we stop striving and fully depend on God's sufficiency.[34:34] - Naming your spiritual obstacles invites God's power to free, heal, and transform from within.[36:56] - I discuss how chronic stress often signals self-reliance rather than true rest in God.[39:19] - Deborah’s legacy showed Katie the power of godly confidence paired with intentional collaboration. Links & Resources Crystal PaineThe Crystal Paine Show - 142. Worship Suffocates Worry (with Katie Reid)The Martha & Mary Show Books God, What Do I Do?: A Bible Study on Judges 1-5 About Making Wise Decisions in Uncertain Times by Katie M. Reid Made like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done by Katie M. Reid Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com    Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have truly been looking forward to this conversation with Dawnchere Wilkerson! Author of the book Slow Burn: The Work and Wonder of the Wait, I was so deeply inspired after reading it that I knew that I had to have her on the show. Her story of waiting through eight years of infertility and the profound transformation that took place in her heart during that time is incredibly powerful and encouraging.DawnChere shares so many gems of wisdom that I know will resonate with anyone who is in a season of waiting and wondering if their story will ever unfold the way that they hope, and she discusses how waiting is not just a season but a way of life - and that the key is learning to truly live in the wait, rather than just passively enduring it.One of the biggest breakthroughs for DawnChere was realizing her identity as a beloved daughter of God. When she grasped how deeply she is loved and accepted by her heavenly father, it gave her the confidence to live with faith and open arms even in the midst of her unreached goals. She didn't have to wait to be fulfilled or at peace because she could experience that fullness in the present. DawnChere also highlights the value of community and not isolating ourselves when we're in a hard season, sharing how investing in relationships, even when it's difficult, is where so much of our faith gets strengthened and our perspective gets broadened.If you're in a waiting period of your own, I just know that DawnChere's story and insights will encourage you to see this season as an opportunity for transformation, rather than just an obstacle to get through. Her book is a beautiful invitation to trust the timing and find joy in the journey, even when the outcome is still uncertain.  In This Episode[0:35] - I enthusiastically welcome the author of the book Slow Burn, DawnChere Wilkerson, to the show![2:00] - DawnChere has found that waiting is a lifelong journey in which purpose and transformation happen in the present.[4:58] - Answered prayers bring greater responsibility, which requires deeper trust, wisdom, and surrendering daily.[6:26] - DawnChere reveals that true strength came not from willpower but from surrendering to God and reaching out.[9:30] - Discovering her identity as God's daughter gave DawnChere confidence to trust and live boldly.[12:31] - DawnChere reveals that believing that she is loved by God helps silence self-doubt and recognize daily grace and support.[14:08] - A generous life widens your world, connecting faith and growth through meaningful community.[16:39] - DawnChere believes that community offers a new perspective, reminding us that there's more beyond what we currently see.[19:30] - DawnChere argues that true friendship requires time, sacrifice, and grace.[22:11] - Casual conversations can still carry divine impact, offering unexpected wisdom exactly when we need it.[25:22] - Supportive friendships are a vital, irreplaceable part of life.[27:22] - It’s important to not give up on community because authentic friendships require effort, patience, and continued pursuit.[30:44] - Surrendering control to God brings peace, deepens faith, and strengthens friendships.[33:24] - Seasons of waiting and hardship can ultimately transform you and lead to unexpected, meaningful blessings.  Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Slow Burn: The Work and Wonder of the Wait by DawnChere Wilkerson Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I honestly never thought that I would be recording a podcast episode about this, but join Jesse and I this week as I share how I started going to gym classes for the first time in my life! It all started when my friend Kate told me about a gym in our area that offers free childcare. Jesse and I signed up, thinking that we could just use the childcare and work while the kids were taken care of. After all, the childcare alone made the cost worth it.However, when it was suggested that I should take a gym class myself, I was initially completely against the idea. It truly scared me. After all, I had had a traumatic experience in PE as a young girl, where I was always the one who couldn't do the exercises and felt so embarrassed. I carried that shame with me for decades, but I ultimately decided that I needed to face that fear. I told the internet that I was going to do it, which helped hold me accountable.Walking through that door for the first class was definitely the hardest part, but the instructor was so kind and encouraging, helping me feel comfortable as a total beginner, and something amazing happened; I kept going back, week after week. I've even started making "gym friends" and look forward to the classes. It has been so incredibly empowering to push past this fear that's held me back for so long!Of course, it hasn't been without some embarrassing moments, like the time I had a little accident during an intense workout (listen in for those details!), but I am learning and growing through it all. This experience has made me realize how many other areas of my life that I have avoided due to fears and insecurities from my past, and I am so glad I didn't let that stop me this time. I hope my story will inspire you to identify things that scare you and help you find the courage to take that first step in facing them! You never know what good could come from conquering a fear!  In This Episode [0:35] - Jesse and I are talking today about how I recently did something I never thought that I would do - join a gym class! [3:33] - We initially joined the gym for childcare, but a tiny nudge led me to try a class. [6:55] - I reflect on how childhood gym class failures left me feeling humiliated, inferior, and determined to never repeat it. [9:42] - Jesse notes that proper coaching could have reframed my struggles as growth, not lifelong self-judgment. [10:23] - Hear how I began replacing old shame with courage, embracing things that once terrified me. [13:20] - To help hold myself accountable, I told the internet and asked one of our daughters to go with me for moral support. [15:34] - Hear how I chose a beginner class, asked for help, and felt welcomed by a kind instructor. [18:21] - Conquering my fear, I now attend regularly and look forward to it! [21:33] - I discuss how the instructor’s kindness and nonjudgmental attitude helped me rediscover confidence and encourage others. [24:48] - I really appreciate the inclusive, non-competitive environment! [26:55] - Hear about a little accident that I had during an intense class, hoping that others didn't notice. [29:36] - I stealthily exited the gym, horrified to find the evidence painfully visible and unforgettable. [31:38] - Jesse reminded listeners to stay clean and emphasizes that gym mishaps happen more often than people realize. [33:09] - I invite listeners to reflect on their own fears and take one bold, courageous step forward this week!  Links & Resources Crystal Paine  Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom) Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning) Crystal Paine on LinkedIn Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This book we are talking about today is so authentic and vulnerable and I really appreciated the authors being willing to open up like they did. In their new book The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons share their personal journey of overcoming challenges in their marriage, discussing how writing the book together was a vulnerable process that forced them to confront their own issues and communication problems.Join me as Rebekah and Gabe highlight how early trials in their marriage -- such as having a child with Down Syndrome -- could have torn them apart but instead brought them closer together. They stress the importance of leaning on and supporting each other during difficult times rather than retreating. The Fight for Us explores the "four dysfunctional dances" couples can find themselves in - avoidant, anxious, silent, and intense - and offers readers some guidance on how to recognize and break out of these unhealthy patterns.A key theme that we discuss is the need to look inward and take responsibility for our own contributions to marital problems, rather than automatically putting all of the blame on the spouse. Rebekah and Gabe encourage couples to better understand how past experiences shape their current behaviors and reactions, and they share how this self-reflection has been so integral to strengthening their own marriage over nearly three decades.Throughout our conversation, the Lyons are refreshingly honest about their own struggles, missteps, and growth, highlighting that even strong, long-term marriages require constant work, structure, and recommitment, especially during major life transitions. The Fight for Us offers practical tips for prioritizing the relationship and creating the emotional safety needed for vulnerable conversations – a relatable resource that I highly recommend grabbing a copy of!In This Episode[0:35] - I am excited to welcome Rebekah and Gabe Lyons, authors of The Fight for Us, to the show![1:59] - For Rebekah and Gabe, sharing their story via writing deepened their healing, clarity, faith, and connection as a couple.[4:43] - Gabe and Rebekah chose to face hardship together, building resilience via community and shared commitment.[6:15] - We hear how Rebekah and Gabe leaned on each other when their son's diagnosis changed so much for them.[8:11] - Gabe stresses looking inward rather than blaming your partner, while Rebekah stresses communicating hurt without automatically assuming harmful intent.[11:14] - Hear how the book identifies four conflict patterns in couples, urging awareness for deeper emotional connection.[14:43] - Despite initial incompatibility, the Lyons’ marriage succeeded via humility, growth, and choosing to fight together.[16:12] - Learn how vulnerability and honest conversation helped the Lyons push through hopelessness instead of giving up.[18:04] - Emotional safety ultimately requires mutual commitment and honesty, or vulnerability becomes difficult.[21:29] - Understanding generational patterns clarified Gabe’s and Rebekah’s roles and helped them redefine emotional and parental expectations.[23:46] - Reflecting on past wounds taught Gabe how vulnerability can lead to deeper connection in marriage.[26:07] - Rebekah argues that every stage of life brings fresh conflict but that awareness and honesty help couples navigate it better.[27:45] - Gabe has realized that, instead of fixing emotions, men must learn to validate their partner’s pain with empathy.[30:14] - Rebekah reflects on how saying yes to too much nearly cost them their intimacy, forcing them to reprioritize.[32:24] - Gabe argues that healthy marriages require structure, planning, and dreaming, even if it feels unromantic at first.[34:13] - Hear how a calendar audit helped the Lyons prioritize connection and value relationships over material things.[36:48] - Kids tend to feel safer when parents nurture joy and connection away from daily responsibilities.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksThe Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives by Rebekah Lyons & Gabe LyonsSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jesse and I recently had the chance to sneak away for a quick 20-hour overnight trip, and it ended up being exactly what we needed. With our busy schedules and the constant demands of parenting six kids, it's rare that we get uninterrupted time to truly connect and plan for the future, and this short getaway allowed us to do just that!Before we even left, we sat down and made a list of the key things that we wanted to accomplish - reviewing our goals, talking through some challenges we've been facing, and trying to map out what the next nine months might look like for our family (a time frame that, for the record, has nothing to do with pregnancy). Having that plan in place helped us make the most of our limited time away, having begun the trip by enjoying a nice dinner out, which gave us the space to have those important conversations.Listen in as we share the story, including how, the following morning, we headed to a local coffee shop (where we ran into several friends, much to my embarrassment since I hadn't even brushed my hair!), and over coffee, we were able to dive deeper into the practical steps we want to take to build our business around our family life and not the other way around. It was truly amazing how much we were able to accomplish in just 20 hours. We came back feeling refreshed, reconnected, and motivated.I feel so grateful that we didn't allow the short timeframe to hold us back, and this episode of the show will hopefully help remind you that sometimes you have to get creative to nurture your marriage, even if you can't take a full weekend away. I would, as always, love to hear from you! Reach out to let me know about how you have found ways to prioritize your relationship, even in the midst of busy seasons. What tips do you have for making the most of limited time together? I'm always looking for new ideas! In This Episode[00:35] - We have some exciting news to share - Silas now has a driver’s license![03:13] - Getting his license helps simplify managing Silas’s jam-packed schedule of sports, friends, and constant movement.[05:32] - We discuss how, after a delay for insurance, Silas safely drove alone and proved himself a careful driver.[07:23] - Hear how I researched DMV strategies and chose the best day and time to avoid long waits.[10:22] - I reveal that arriving early on Tuesday paid off, with fast DMV service and successful ID and license processing![13:33] - I talk about having to adhere to strict photo rules to renew my passport and hope to be fully licensed soon.[14:54] - We talk about our recent short getaway which offered meaningful reconnection and some much-needed rest.[16:15] - Hear how we created a written plan to stay focused without letting the time feel like work.[18:33] - Planning an ABC date night brought structure, clarity, and joy to our short getaway![21:03] - We discussed nine-month goals which will help us prioritize needs and communicate more clearly as a couple.[23:27] - Jesse and I discuss how people so often prioritize work over life, sacrificing needs and identity in a work-centered society.[25:50] - I am aiming to shift from overworking toward building business around life, not the other way around.[28:13] - With all six kids in school soon, we discussed how to use our new free time.[30:39] - We reflect on how caretaking responsibilities for David lingered on our trip, but we did finally get some restful sleep.[33:22] - Even though our time away was limited, we set goals, made a plan, and truly reconnected.[35:59] - I strongly encourage intentional living, not “balance,” and I invite listeners to share marriage and work-life strategies!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

So many of you have told me you loved Tilly's clever and quirky new book My Dear Hemlock, a book written in the voice of a demon mentor coaching her underling on how to derail a Christian woman’s walk with God. Taking inspiration from The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis, Tilly’s version is tailored to the specific struggles that Christian women face today - frustration in marriage, social media distractions, pride disguised as virtue, and the slow drift that can happen in daily family life.We talked about how the fictional format of the book gave Tilly room to say the hard things that are so easy to sidestep when we’re just trying to get through the week. She shares what it means to see homemaking not as a list of chores but as a sort of battleground on which small choices have big consequences. We also explore the temptation to fixate on a spouse’s flaws instead of tending to our own spiritual health as well as why that is so spiritually dangerous.Tilly doesn’t just offer observations; she imparts deeply practical wisdom, things like how to build upon gratitude when your first impulse is annoyance, how to recognize when the enemy is whispering half-truths, and why community and prayer aren’t just helpful but essential. This episode will be sure to challenge you, encourage you, and make you think twice the next time that you scroll through Instagram or silently stew over a spouse's mistake.In This Episode[0:36] - I welcome Tilly Dillehay, author of My Dear Hemlock, to the podcast for this episode![1:15] - Tilly reveals how the book came to fruition.[3:30] - Hear how writing a fictional book helped Tilly express real-life marital struggles and spiritual challenges that Christian women face.[6:03] - Although not from a charismatic tradition, Tilly finds value in acknowledging Satan’s real influence.[7:28] - I stress how small annoyances are spiritual battlegrounds on which we choose our response.[10:57] - Women's imaginative power can harm relationships if misused as criticism instead of praise.[12:07] - I warn against magnifying minor flaws in loved ones.[14:08] - Tilly advises cultivating daily gratitude instead of scrutinizing a spouse’s faith.[17:29] - By gently initiating nightly prayer, it's created deeper connection and communication in marriage.[18:34] - Many marriages unfortunately fall apart from unspoken contempt that could’ve been avoided with small, daily kindnesses.[21:34] - I point out how the media distorts women’s expectations and how prayer often gets derailed by distracting thoughts.[22:30] - Tilly suggests praying with others and using scripture as structure for focused prayer.[25:02] - Instead of promising prayer and then forgetting, Tilly prefers to pray immediately and let people know that she just did.[28:36] - Tilly disabled Safari on her phone entirely because phones are ultimately designed to steal time.[30:37] - Distractions vary per person; mine was audio, while a friend’s was compulsive online shopping.[32:24] - Tilly asserts that homes are spiritual battlegrounds and that women play a key role in their power.[35:55] - Tilly advises beginning with prayer and learning from godly women whose homes reflect familial, not material, richness.[36:54] - Neglecting prayer and community can ultimately open the door to spiritual vulnerability.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineTilly Dillehay’s Home Fires PodcastBooksMy Dear Hemlock by Tilly DillehayThe Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You by Tony ReinkeSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

We had to sit down and recount this story since it sort of went viral on Instagram and I got thousands of messages and comments and emails about it!A few weeks ago, we accidentally stumbled across something totally unexpected – that we may not have actually been legally married for the past 22 years! That's right! Listen in as Jesse and I fill you in!It all started with a passport - or rather, the lack of a current one. I was prepping for a trip to Colorado Springs for some filming and radio interviews when we realized that my passport had expired and that the window to renew it was way too tight. The backup plan was to try to get a Real ID, which turned into a long, chaotic day at the DMV, but the DMV line wasn’t even the wildest part.While confidently presenting my organized folder of documents (thanks to Jesse), I was told that our marriage license wasn’t valid because it wasn’t the right kind. Apparently, what we’ve had all these years was just the signed license from our wedding, not the certified marriage certificate with the state seal. We had used that same document to change my name, get a driver’s license, even get passports, but now, we weren’t so sure someone ever mailed the signed license back after our wedding like we were supposed to.The more we pieced it together, the more we realized what had actually happened, and we hope that you'll join as we walk you through this hilarious story of minor panic and the weird legal questions that come along with the realization that you might not actually be legally married... more than two decades after the wedding!In This Episode[2:24] - Jesse and I are sharing how we recently discovered that our marriage of 22 years might not have been legally recognized!​​[3:37] - I nearly missed a trip due to delays getting a Real ID required for flying.[6:43] - A week before traveling, I found that my passport hadn't been renewed like she had believed.[8:44] - I realized that there was unfortunately no way to get my passport renewed in time for my trip, meaning that I had to get a Real ID.[10:53] - Despite an estimated 15-minute wait time, I actually spent nearly two hours just to reach the DMV desk.[14:05] - Hear how DMV staff revealed that our marriage license wasn’t valid without an official state seal.[18:04] - Jesse realized that we likely never filed the marriage license, so no certificate was ever issued.[18:45] - I began to worry that Jesse and I were never legally married due to paperwork mishandling.[20:32] - Hear how we anxiously submitted an expedited request, unsure if Kansas even had our marriage certificate.[22:15] - I came to realize that many other people have also mistaken a license copy for a valid marriage certificate.[24:35] - Hear how we learned that there's a difference between a marriage license and a certificate with a raised seal.[27:20] - The official certificate finally arrived, relieving us and allowing me to finally apply for my Real ID.[29:52] - I found it funny that this rare paperwork error came from Jesse, since he is usually the more detail-oriented one!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Listen in this week as I am joined by not just one guest but two - Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, authors of the new book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time, a project which they themselves refer to as a labor of love. Together, Joanna and Matthew openly share their journey of rebuilding their marriage after Matthew revealed his struggles with sexual addiction and pornography. They go beyond just surviving to thriving, offering insights into how to create a thriving connection that doesn’t just survive the bumps but actually grows stronger through them. Their approach isn’t about perfecting your partner or expecting them to "fix" your emotional triggers but rather about learning how to heal and grow together.Listen in as we talk about the importance of small daily moments and how a simple interaction, like how we deal with frustration or small disagreements, can either draw us closer or create distance. They, for example, share some powerful insights into their own struggles with emotional dysregulation and how it often leads to disconnection, but it isn't just about avoiding the pitfalls. It’s also about learning how to show up as emotionally healthy individuals and what it takes to keep the relationship itself thriving!Hear how Joanna and Matthew learned to handle some tough topics like finances and how taking a step back to understand each other’s emotional states can truly transform conversations. We also discuss their “animacy pyramid,” a framework which they developed to conceptualize what makes a truly thriving relationship.Whether you’re struggling with small daily challenges or looking for ways to deepen your emotional connection, this episode is packed with real wisdom that can help shift the way you approach love, intimacy, and your partnership. If you're in a relationship or thinking about what it takes to make love last, you will not want to miss this conversation, and be sure to grab a copy of their book!In This Episode[0:35] - This episode’s guests are authors of the book Building True Intimacy, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith![1:43] - After overcoming betrayal and addiction, Matthew and Joanna's book helps guide couples toward thriving relationships.[4:14] - Maintaining emotional regulation leads to lasting connection, regardless of the issue or situation.[7:57] - Hear how Matthew learned that projecting insecurity onto others can affect the health of relationships.[10:23] - Emotional dependency in relationships can cause disconnection and halt personal growth.[12:42] - I have realized that self-worth should come from within, not from external validation.[15:45] - Joanna believes that healthy compromise means finding mutually beneficial solutions, not taking turns losing.[18:58] - To build a strong relationship, it's important to address underlying fears prior to discussing practical issues.[22:35] - Matthew adds that finding common ground in core values helps couples overcome differences.[24:11] - Joanna argues that taking a step back from pain helps you recognize that your partner does still care.[27:14] - Building a thriving relationship requires honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, and persistent effort.[30:59] - Ultimately, small, daily choices significantly shape the resilience of a marriage.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksBuilding True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time by Joanna Raabsmith & Matthew RaabsmithSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to be joined this week by Whitney Newby for an episode that is perfectly timed to be released before Mother’s Day! Whitney is the author of the book Lift Your Eyes: Daily Invitations to Behold Christ in Motherhood, and I have long admired her heart for motherhood. Her new book brims with the kind of grounded and graceful encouragement that so many of us desperately need when we are in the thick of it - tired, anxious, stretched thin, or even just quietly wondering if we’re doing anything right.We talk about what it means to see motherhood not as a detour from a more “important” purpose but as the exact work that we have been called to in this season. Whitney shares how her early postpartum challenges taught her dependence on God in a whole new way and how even something as simple as changing her response from “What?” to “Yes, love” transformed the atmosphere of her home. These are all truly just lived experiences, real shifts that she has made in the messiness of everyday life, and it’s these small choices that she says have shaped her most profoundly.Tune in to hear Whitney and I talk about anxiety, identity, and the constant pressure to “fill our cups.” Whitney’s stories and insights definitely are not sugar-coated, but they are soaked in truth and gentleness, so if you are in a season where the needs feel never-ending, your patience is paper-thin, and/or you're wondering how you’re supposed to keep going, this episode is for you, and definitely be sure to grab a copy of Lift Your Eyes!In This Episode[0:35] - This episode’s guest is the author of the book Lift Your Eyes, Whitney Newby![2:12] - Hear how motherhood has grown Whitney's faith, teaching her to trust God more than her own control.[5:50] - Whitney learned as a nurse that saying “I have time” builds deep connections with both patients and children when busy.[7:52] - Whitney feels that even being present with her kids for ten minutes can create lasting memories.[10:43] - True strength in motherhood doesn't come from cultural comforts or self-reliance.[12:38] - Praying with Jesse in weakness has revealed God's power to multiply emotional scarcity.[14:48] - Hear how Changing a snappy “What?” to a gentler “Yes, love?” has transformed Whitney's home atmosphere.[17:35] - Whitney believes that moms shape their homes' emotional climates.[20:33] - I really like the title of Whitney's book and cherish the image of lifting our eyes to God when experiencing overwhelming daily challenges.[21:15] - Whitney reveals that, in chaotic seasons, she connects with God through audio Bibles and quick “flare prayers.”[24:36] - We discover how Whitney added minimal watercolor art to her book to visually reflect calm and spiritual beauty.[26:01] - Hear about Whitney’s business Brighter Day Press.[28:39] - I value Whitney’s generosity, humor, and authenticity, calling her book a peaceful gift for mothers that listeners should read!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBrighter Day PressBooksLift Your Eyes: Daily Invitations to Behold Christ in Motherhood by Whitney NewbySocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

If, like me, you have ever told yourself, “Tonight, I will put my phone away by 8 p.m.,” only to find yourself two hours later mindlessly scrolling through TikTok, then you will probably feel seen in this episode, and I am sharing something that has made a huge difference for both Jesse and me: the Opal app.This app has really helped me set real boundaries with my phone… and actually stick to them. Jesse and I talk about how Opal helped me finally break a pattern I didn’t even realize had such a grip on my evenings and how reclaiming that time has changed way more than I even expected! We’re talking about better sleep, better connection with each other, a tidier house, and a return to things I actually love, like reading fiction instead of just perusing strangers’ Instagram posts!I also get honest about the struggles that I had at first (because setting boundaries with your phone sounds simple, but if it were that easy, we'd all be doing it already)! I share what worked, what surprised me, and why the goal isn’t perfection but awareness and choice, so if you are feeling like your evenings (or your whole day) keep slipping away one scroll at a time, this might give you some ideas!In This Episode[0:35] - Despite my plan to use my phone only as a landline after 8 p.m., I found that I lacked that willpower and needed additional help.[3:33] - I ended up downloading the Opal app to curb late-night scrolling.[6:17] - I explain that I set Opal to block social media apps nightly without any ability to override it.[8:56] - After some trial and error, I managed to customize Opal’s settings to avoid emergencies but still stay disciplined.[10:28] - Jesse notes that he has become more present and attentive at night after installing the Opal app.[11:12] - Hear how I realized that I could meet my work goals while limiting app use to three hours.[12:27] - Mindfully limiting phone use helped Jesse break habits of mindless scrolling.[13:20] - Choosing to read fiction at night instead of scrolling has revived so much joy and fulfillment for me.[14:38] - Without nighttime phone distractions, I also now get better sleep and feel more productive each day.[17:09] - I explain how shutting down apps early has improved our home organization, marriage, and overall sense of presence.[19:54] - Seeing how much of my lifetime I'd waste on my phone really gave me a huge wake-up call!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineOpal AppBooksLittle House on the Prairie (book series) by Laura Ingalls WilderThe Frozen River by Ariel LawhonSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Welcome to the 300th episode of The Crystal Paine Show! Joining me this week is Mary Marantz, author of several books including her newest, Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift to Quit Playing Small, Name the Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. This conversation is raw, honest, and deeply personal one, and in Underestimated, Mary explores how to stop playing small and move past the fear that holds us back, a message that resonated so much with me as I read the book.We talk about how Mary's childhood in a rundown trailer in rural West Virginia shaped her journey, including how she overcame immense insecurity and the fear of failure, only to find herself still grappling with feelings of inadequacy after achieving what seemed like the pinnacle of success. You’ll hear about her struggles with perfectionism, how she used it as a way to prove herself, and how she’s learning to let go of that.Mary’s openness about her own fears, especially about being unlovable after succeeding, is a reminder how easy it is to let fear's voice be so loud that it cripples us from taking action. And then we miss out on so many gifts and blessings and the fulfillment and strength that comes from not letting fear win.This episode of the show is a beautiful reminder to let go of the armor that we often wear and start showing up authentically, trusting that our worth isn’t defined by how small we started or how much we have accomplished. Listen in for an empowering conversation about stepping into who we are meant to be, even when it feels scary, and be sure to grab a copy of Mary's new book!In This Episode[0:35] - I felt deeply connected to Mary's introduction to her new book.[1:56] - Mary believes that being overlooked fosters empathy, shaping us into people who truly see others.[5:45] - Mary grew up in poverty and still wrestles with defining herself beyond the underdog narrative.[8:27] - Purpose outweighs proving others wrong.[9:59] - Fearing failure, Mary nearly skipped applying to Yale until a friend intervened and believed in her.[12:06] - Trying to mask insecurity with achievements.[15:02] - Mary used perfectionism as an armor, trying to prove her worth after her mother's abandonment.[18:35] - In striving to need no one, Mary ended up becoming isolated and heartbroken by her walls.[20:40] - Fear of failure can come from the pressure to always be the one who comes through.[23:07] - Mary asserts that those who lack true passion aren't afraid, but creatives fear whether their work will matter.[25:13] - Naming fear’s predictable patterns weakens its power![28:03] - I explain how facing fear in tough situations builds courage, preparing us for challenges in the future.[30:24] - As is scientifically supported, the brain predicts outcomes based on past experiences, but doing difficult things can reshape this.[33:17] - I express admiration for Mary’s gift for words in her book.[36:08] - Mary explains the five achiever types and invites listeners to take her free quiz online![39:28] - I applaud Mary’s perseverance and encourage others to read her work!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineMary MarantzAchieverQuiz.comNametheFear.comMary Marantz on Instagram (@marymarantz)BooksDirt: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful by Mary MarantzSlow Growth Equals Strong Roots: Finding Grace, Freedom, and Purpose in an Overachieving World by Mary MarantzUnderestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift to Quit Playing Small, Name the Fear, and Move Forward Anyway by Mary MarantzSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jesse and I are back in the studio this week together to talk all about raising financially confident teens, I have personally seen firsthand how a few key mindset shifts can totally change the game, not just for them but for the entire family dynamicIn this episode, we are unpacking five powerful money mindsets that can shape your teen’s relationship with money in ways that last far beyond high school! These aren’t just fluffy theories or one-size-fits-all strategies. We’re talking about practical shifts - some that may even challenge how you think about money!Tune in as I get into why a $20 hoodie "costs" more than $20 (and how that concept can seriously shift your teen’s thinking), why giving your kid everything might actually rob them of future success, and how the most valuable lessons often come from small mistakes. We also take a look at why compound interest isn’t just a boring math concept but one of the most exciting opportunities your teen can tap into if they understand it early enough.Jesse and I explore how creativity and contentment can become your teen’s financial superpowers and how you can help them develop those strengths without a single lecture. I’m also sharing a brand-new resource called The One Hour Budget for Teens, along with a freebie packed with 15 essential financial skills every teen should know, so if you have ever wondered how to raise a teen who is smart with money and not just good at spending it, then this episode is definitely for you!In This Episode[0:35] - Jesse and I are discussing talking to kids early about money, building lasting habits.[3:25] - Teaching kids to earn purchases shows them that money equals effort and thoughtful decisions.[5:33] - Jesse argues that teens shouldn't be taught to equate money solely with hours worked.[6:37] - It's important to show kids the value of long-term gains by discussing investments and risk vs. reward.[9:06] - I add that living below your means sets teens up for financial independence and effective budgeting.[12:41] - Jesse points out that failures are learning opportunities that often teach us more than successes do.[13:13] - I encourage allowing kids to make financial mistakes because they’ll gain lasting wisdom from the experience.[16:04] - I warn about online scams and introduce a fun, teen-friendly budgeting guide.[19:07] - Initiate financial talks with teens via shared activities and honest but non-judgmental conversations.[22:53] - I argue that excuses only delay progress, so start managing what you have now, even if it’s only $30.[25:37] - Contentment now is key to lasting financial peace and success.[28:32] - Removing screen time and ads has helped our son become more motivated to earn.[30:11] - I have realized that buying more can’t fix deeper issues that only contentment can address.[33:42] - Go to my store to download The One-Hour Budget for Teens, using the code TEENS at checkout!Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine15 Financial Skills for Teens FreebieThe One-Hour Budget for Teens (Use code TEENS at checkout!)Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to be joined this week by Rebecca George, author of the book You’re Not Too Late: Trusting God’s Timing in a Hurry-Up World. Listen in as Rebecca and I discuss the struggles that so many of us face when we feel like life is passing us by, talking about the pressures of measuring up to timelines - whether they be about marriage, career, or friendships - and how these expectations can often lead us to doubt ourselves and God's plan for us.Rebecca reflects on her personal journey of learning to embrace the waiting seasons of life, and we chat about the powerful truths in her book, especially how longing – whether it be relational or vocational - can really shape us if we choose to trust God in the process.She also opens up about the importance of community, even when it feels like everyone else has it figured out and you don't. We talk about the beauty of showing up for others, even in simple, everyday ways, and how those small acts of service can deeply connect us.If you have ever felt like you are behind or have wondered why your timeline doesn’t match up with others, then this conversation is definitely for you! Rebecca’s honesty and her insight are sure to help you shift your perspective on waiting, community, and trusting God’s timing. Remember – you're not too late, and be sure to pick up a copy of Rebecca’s book!In This Episode[0:35] - I introduce the feeling of being behind in life and welcome Rebecca George, author of You’re Not Too Late, to the show![1:29] - Rebecca shares how longing for the next season often distracts us from addressing inner emotions.[4:36] - Rebecca feels that longings in life require turning to Christ for hope during struggles.[7:05] - Rebecca stresses the importance of community to prevent loneliness and support growth.[9:42] - Asking for help builds courage, and Rebecca shares a story of having received unexpected support.[11:28] - I express gratitude for friends who show up without asking, offering help without expecting anything in return.[13:06] - Stepping out in faith to help others can lead to blessings and growth.[16:54] - I reflect on learning the difference between hospitality and entertainment, now embracing get-togethers that aren't necessarily “perfect.”[18:23] - A perfectly curated home doesn’t reflect Rebecca's everyday life; she instead values hospitality.[20:18] - Rebecca shares how personal longings made celebrating others’ milestones difficult.[22:27] - Rebecca highlights the importance of bringing emotions to God and learning from the process.[25:08] - Hear Rebecca reflect on the challenges and growth in her marriage while also managing external pressures.[28:13] - I share how having a prepared response helped me stay confident despite others' questions.[31:17] - Rebecca encourages women of all ages to trust God and find hope in life’s struggles.[34:34] - I discuss holding space for both longing and living, choosing joy despite difficult situations.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineFunction HealthInsideTrackerBooksYou’re Not Too Late: Trusting God’s Timing in a Hurry-Up World by Rebecca GeorgeHabits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Whitmel EarleySocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comSaundra Dalton-Smith on Instagram (@drdaltonsmith)Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week, Jesse and I dive into an much-requested topic - my recent experience with getting blood tests done through Function Health.In this episode, we compare my experience with Function with my experience with InsideTracker. I loved that Function Health didn’t just give me numbers; it actually provided detailed, personalized recommendations, including the top foods and supplements which I should focus on. I also really appreciated the way that they communicated, reminding me of important prep steps like fasting and exercise restrictions before doing my tests.One of the most interesting parts is definitely the internal age assessment. (Let’s just say that the results made my day!) Beyond that, though, I found myself very impressed by how comprehensive the testing was - two rounds of bloodwork, deeper insights into key health markers, and clear explanations of what my results actually meant (including which areas needed attention ASAP)!Jesse even found a way to integrate my Function Health results into my InsideTracker app, which gave me a cool side-by-side comparison of my health trends over time.If you have ever considered a blood testing service (or if you have tried one before and weren’t too sure if it was worth it), then this episode will give you an inside look at my experience. As always, I would really love to hear from you! Have you tried Function Health, InsideTracker, or something similar? Send me an email at crystal@moneysavingmom.com, and let’s compare notes!In This Episode[0:35] - I discuss my experience with Function Health's blood testing and am comparing it to InsideTracker.[2:04] - High school baseball games differ from middle school -- much longer and apparently with extra innings![4:24] - Managing kids at baseball games is challenging, but this year feels easier than last.[7:57] - Kathrynne and I had a relaxing, bonding trip to Isle of Palms over spring break.[10:28] - Function Health provided me with extensive health testing, offering a lot of add-on options.[13:04] - I found the $499 Function test affordable, detailed, and easily scheduled via local labs.[16:15] - The two rounds of testing help ensure accuracy by accounting for dietary and lifestyle factors.[18:22] - Function Health provides ongoing health tracking with personalized recommendations.[20:06] - Function Health's communication and reminders were better than InsideTracker's, keeping me well-prepared.[22:17] - The final results included doctor-reviewed insights, prioritized health concerns, and custom dietary recommendations.[24:51] - I was somewhat surprised that they so highly recommended magnesium -- but it makes sense![27:16] - I usually avoid using apps but appreciate Function Health’s communication despite being a newer company.[30:19] - I find it encouraging that I already limit certain foods, and Jesse and I discuss dietary recommendations.[33:44] - Function Health testing has grown more popular, although InsideTracker offers a more structured membership.[36:08] - I explain why I prefer Function Health over InsideTracker.[38:06] - I question how internal age results are determined, as I note discrepancies in different tests.[39:32] - Jesse plans to take the test next, and I encourage listeners to prioritize their health.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineFunction HealthInsideTrackerSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/CRYSTAL* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out Washington Red Raspberries: https://redrazz.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands