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In this week’s episode, Chris has culled a series of listeners’ questions into a mystery theme to see if Mary can guess the theme of the show. What do all these questions have in common? Can Mary guess the theme? Can you? Play along with us and see if you can guess the theme before Mary does…In this episode we hear from:Writer’s Blocked in LA who is frustrated by his writers’ group who keep criticizing his “perfect” ideas? How dare those other writers question his genius?!A Pretty Ugly Situation in New York is an HR recruiter for urgent care centers and is frustrated that her hiring recommendation wasn’t accepted. How dare the head doctor disregard her advice?!Please Shut Your Piehole in Hoboken is sick and tired of this “entitled” younger generation who always seems to be asking for promotions, raises, and special treatment. How dare these whippersnappers advocate for themselves?!We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
In this episode, Chris and Mary share listeners’ thoughts and LinkedIn poll results on various workplace and career topics. Check out this episode to learn what you and other listeners think about office hookups, first impressions, networking etiquette, limp handshakes, and other topics!Show us your love! Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
I'm So Stressed Out!

I'm So Stressed Out!

2022-11-1633:07

Workplace stress appears to be at an all-time high. 55% of Americans report being stressed throughout the day and one million Americans miss work each day because of their stress levels. Working women report higher levels of stress than men and the Millennials and Generation Z reported the highest levels of stress—and the most difficulty in managing their stress. So, it’s no wonder that Chris and Mary receive lots of listener questions on how to manage and navigate workplace stress. In this episode we hear from:Running on Empty in Edina who needs some tips to manage an overwhelming workload…Time is Not on My Side in Cincinnati seeks advice on better time management…It’s Not My Fault in Fairfield is doing the work of two people and wants to know how to defend herself when her boss complains that she takes too long to complete projects…WTF?We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? Do you have career regrets? Do you feel envious when your friends succeed? In this episode, Mary and Chris answer listeners’ questions about FOMO (fear of missing out), career envy,  regret, and one hot mess for cleanup.Rethinking My Life in Minneapolis is green with envy over a friend’s success. Her FOMO is causing her to rethink her entire life. How can she get past this to find her dream job?Not Good at Doing Good in Dallas manages philanthropy for an investment bank. She loves being able to support so many great causes and non-profits but feels tremendous guilt for all the organizations that she can’t help. How can she get past this guilt?S**t or Get Off the Pot in Portland has a boss that wants to do everything but won’t decide anything. She is completely disorganized and is incapable of prioritizing. In short, the boss is a hot mess. What can she do to help her boss get her s**t together?We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
In honor of Halloween, this show is all about scary people at work! And a little bit about Halloween….Ghost Hunting in Georgia is plagued by a ghost boss who is never around. He assigns them projects, and then, poof! He disappears. How can she succeed with a boss that is NEVER around?Stop the Heckling in Houston has a colleague who is a passive-aggressive heckler. Houston is sick and tired of being heckled and wants to know how to shut this guy up. Tired of the Bully-Sh*t in Buffalo works with a bully. He screams, he shouts, and he intimidates. In fact, they call him The Intimidator. Even the boss cowers in his presence. How can he stand up to the bully and rebalance the power dynamic?Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Life and Death at Work

Life and Death at Work

2022-10-1933:58

Life and death at work is life and death in life. Yet, all too often the workplace doesn’t address the reality of the human experience. This week’s episode addresses several questions that arise from the circle of life.Silently Saddened in Oklahoma is saddened by the sudden death of one of her co-workers. Nobody at the company seems to want to talk about or acknowledge it. Is there something that she can do to honor the deceased colleague?Paying it Forward in Eau Claire wants to donate a kidney to his boss. His colleagues tell him that would make him the biggest suck-up in the world. And beyond that, is this even a good idea?Stark Stork Choices in Sarasota is expecting a baby! He wants to take his company-sponsored three-month paternity leave. The problem? His boss and his male co-workers are giving him sh*t about his choice. His boss says that this will impact his career trajectory and his bro colleagues are mocking him. What should he do?Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
On the Road Again

On the Road Again

2022-10-1232:59

Travel today sucks. And sadly, so do many of our fellow travelers. In this episode, Mary and Chris share their favorite travel tips, biggest pet peeves, and also make time to answer listeners’ questions about how to have an expeditious and stress-free experience on the road.But the big question is this: do you recline your seat when you fly?Missing Miss Manners in Memphis wants to know how best to handle rude seatmates or other passengers who are loud, rude, or encroaching into her space. Down on the Farm in Nebraska has to take a long business trip—which includes two five-hour car rides--with their boss to the middle of nowhere. She is not looking forward to it and wants advice as to how to make the best of this ordeal.Can’t Beat a Meet and Greet in Indianapolis wants to bring his team together for a team-building event. This will be the first time in two years that they will be together in person. The problem? A few of his team are balking at having to go and they want to attend virtually. Should he bring them in kicking and screaming or let them be virtual?Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Quiet Quitting

Quiet Quitting

2022-10-0534:13

Is Quiet Quitting a real thing? And what does it really mean? Is it a call to action or just an excuse to be a slacker? Is it media hype and should organizations be concerned? In this episode, Mary and Chris attempt to separate hype from reality.I Call Bulls**t in Baltimore thinks “quiet quitting” is just an excuse to be a slacker. Is he right? Man In the Middle in Milwaukee worries that his company’s fears about quiet quitting is driving their decision to begin using digital tracking software to monitor their remote and hybrid employees. Is spying on their employees actually the best way to get (and keep) them engaged? (Answer hint: NO!)Time to Grow Up in Galveston is frustrated with their Gen Z colleagues whose not-so-quiet-quitting means a bigger workload for them. How do they deal with a generation of workers who expect the payoffs without putting in the time? Should they set these young-uns straight? Or are they the suckers, here?  Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...#quietquittingThanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
This week’s episode is all about promotions. Or, rather, when good promotions go bad. We call this “Promotion Demotion.” What if you don’t want to be promoted? Or if you do get promoted and then realize, that “yikes!” it isn’t the gravy train that you thought it would be? Or, if someone gets promoted that you don’t think deserves it. What to do? What to do?Too Much Too Soon in Trenton got what they asked for—a promotion! And now they have cold feet. Suddenly they must manage their former peers—and nobody has taught them how to be a manager. Congratulations and condolences are in order. And some advice.I Prefer to Stay Put in Buckhead was just handed an automatic promotion.  The problem? They don’t feel ready. They fear that this promotion is well, too much—too soon. They fear that this promotion will only set them up for failure. What should they do?It’s Not What you Know, It’s Whom You Know is Chicago is bitter that someone with less technical expertise (than them) got promoted to manager. They are convinced that the promotion is only based on their “relationship” with the big boss. Mary & Chris talk them off the ledge.  Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts.  We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Authentic Authenticity

Authentic Authenticity

2022-09-2135:48

Authenticity is a huge buzzword in today’s workplace. Leaders are encouraged to be more authentic by being more vulnerable and transparent. Employees want to be able to bring their full true selves to work. But what does it really mean to be authentic? According to Webster's, Authenticity is about “being true to one’s own spirit or character.” But does that mean that we are the exact same person in every situation? How much authenticity is too much? What if being authentic feels risky? In this episode, Mary and Chris tackle what it means to be true to yourself at work.  Sunshine and Lollipops in Your Dreams is frustrated by their phony, two-faced boss. The boss is a jerk to his employees. But when the boss’ boss is around, the phony jerk turns into sudden sweetness and light. Is there any way they can “out” the inauthentic boss?Who am I to Judge loves his job at a religious charitable organization. The problem? He’s afraid to let his co-workers know that he is gay. How can he be authentic when he is hiding a major aspect of who he is?  He feels like a fraud. How can he reconcile working there and still being true to himself?Free to Me in Denver fears she can’t be her authentic self when she returns to the physical office. Not only is she the only woman in a team of male engineers, but she also is the only Asian American. Working from home was comfortable since she didn’t have to think about these differences—so how does she bring her full self to work when she worries she will be judged for being different? Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Episode is LivePublished: Sep. 21, 2022 @12AM EditAdd a TranscriptGet episode better indexed by search engines.Add Chapter MarkersListeners can tap through & see what's coming up.Create a Visual SoundbiteBest way to share to social media for engagement.Share Episode On FacebookTwitterLinkedInMore OptionsEmail Link to Episode CopyDirect Link to MP3CopyDownload MP3Embed this ONE EpisodeView Episode StatsThanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
It's Not Me, It's YOU!

It's Not Me, It's YOU!

2022-09-1434:33

Let’s be honest—sometimes other people are just a pain in the a**. In this week’s show, Mary and Chris address a myriad of listeners’ challenges in navigating difficult colleagues and situations. Feeling Like a Highschooler in Scottsdale is being iced out by her colleagues. They treat her like an outcast. Is there any way she can turn this situation around? Should she tell her supervisor? Confront the mean girls? Or just call it a day?Happy to See You in Hoboken is trying to convince her colleagues that hiring for culture fit is just as important as hiring for skills. How does she make her case and change their minds?Serenity Now in Santa Ana has a business partner (who is also her husband) who barrages her all day long with texts. How can she get him to stop or at least organize them into a semblance of a to-do list? Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Tell Me More...

Tell Me More...

2022-09-0731:14

Tell Me More…Listeners write in to learn more about topics such as self-promotion, managing up, and the merits of a four-day work week. Bewildered in Boulder disagreed with our recommendation to include a professional headshot-type photo in one’s LinkedIn profile. She thinks that including a photo just opens one up to wants to bias and judgment. Mary and Chris stand by their recommendation—and more importantly, they explain their reasoning... Two Heads Are NOT Better than One in Omaha has two bosses who are opposites. How does one navigate managing up to two different bosses? Can they just ignore the one that they dislike? Or does she just need to suck it up?Fingers Crossed in Philly is hoping that the “four-day” work week takes hold here in America. Is this a pipe dream or is he just smoking the pipe? Chris and Mary discuss the pros and cons of the four-day workweek and the likelihood of it becoming the norm in American businesses…Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Setting BoundariesWhat does it mean to set boundaries in our professional and/or personal lives? Are boundaries rules for others or rules for you? How do you even begin to know what your boundaries are? In this spirited discussion, Chris and Mary help listeners learn how to determine and set boundaries. Even in difficult situations….Making it Happen in Michigan is starting a new job—how does she begin to set boundaries with her new boss and team? Working for a Workaholic in Washington has a boss that is, well, a workaholic. How does he keep his career on the upswing without burning out? His friends tell him to set his boundaries, but he doesn’t even know where to start…Sort of Hating My Husband in Hawaii is challenged by her business partner husband who never turns work off. How does she set work boundaries while maintaining happy marital relations?Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
For Arguments Sake

For Arguments Sake

2022-08-2434:21

The ability to engage in “healthy” conflict at work is essential for promoting and encouraging diverse viewpoints. But how much conflict is too much? And what if your team doesn’t ever disagree with each other? Is that just as bad? In this episode, Chris De Santis and Mary Abbajay tackle listeners' questions about how to disagree without being disagreeable… Put a Lid on It in New Hampshire has an employee who likes to argue about everything with everyone. His constant contentiousness and criticisms are driving his boss and his coworkers crazy. What can be done? How should his manager approach this situation? Spine Free Zone in Manhattan has the opposite problem. She finds herself leading a team of “yes-men” and it is driving her crazy. She wants her team to engage in more healthy debate—so how does she get them to see the value of sharing different viewpoints?  Six to One Odds in Kansas City is one of six partners in a law firm. She has been tasked to lead the firm in its ESG efforts. The problem? She is the sole black woman in a sea of white male partners who are resisting all her ideas. How can she get them to stop arguing with her and start supporting her?Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Friends With Benefits?

Friends With Benefits?

2022-08-1734:15

Research repeatedly shows that having friends at work can boost employee engagement, productivity, and happiness. In a recent study, most people say having a best friend at work makes work more enjoyable. We see coworkers nearly every day, collaborate with them on important projects, maybe even share inside jokes about our boss—but do we consider these people friends? Should we? In this episode, Mary & Chris answer listeners’ questions about navigating workplace friendships.Alone But Not Lonely in Louisiana wonders why she needs to have work friends. She’d much rather stay in her remote cocoon rather than mingle with people in the office. Are there benefits to making friends at work? What Would Chandler Do…has just been promoted. He is now the boss of his friends. The problem? He wants to keep his friendships intact and doesn’t know how to navigate being their manager and their friend. Out of the Closet and into the Frying Pan has a crush on a same sex coworker. Should she make a move? She doesn’t know her coworker’s sexual orientation or if this coworker knows hers. How should she proceed? Or should she? Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
Are you using common words and phrases that are now considered socially inappropriate? Culturally appropriated or insensitive? Derogatory? Overly gendered? Non-inclusive? Or just annoying and overused? If so, you are not alone. In this episode, Mary and Chris explore words and phrases that are now deemed problematic.We’d love to tell you what they are, but we don’t want to get in trouble with the language police, so you’ll have to listen to learn what is acceptable and what isn’t in today’s enlightened and more inclusive world. Don’t say that we didn’t warn you. And just for the record, we’ll miss some of these expressions! Show us your love. Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts.  We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us:  info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent... Check out the University of Washington’s Guide to Inclusive Language: https://itconnect.uw.edu/work/inclusive-language-guide/Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
The Worst Advice Ever

The Worst Advice Ever

2022-08-0337:06

Advice is cheap. And sometimes bad. In this episode, Mary and Chris try to help listeners sort through good advice and bad advice. And one listener writes back to take us to task about our advice! Damned if You Do in Dubuque took advice from a mentor that backfired. The problem? The male advice giver didn’t consider how his advice to his female protege would play into a gender-biased workplace. While his advice may have worked well for a man, for a woman, not so much.Their Way or The Highway writes back to tell us that we gave bad advice. And by we, he means Chris. So, what does he do now? And how much can Mary gloat that he wishes had taken her advice instead of Chris'?Taking a Pass on Passion in Lincoln is a recent college graduate who wants to know if the advice to just “follow your passion” is good career advice. Mary and Chris call bulls**t. Can we please stop telling young people that all they need to do to succeed is “do what you love, and the money will follow”? Show us your love! Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
This week’s show is all about recognition, praise, and appreciation. Or rather, when recognition and praise go astray. Have you ever given a gift that was misinterpreted? Or have a piece of praise misfire? Tune in to learn strategies to align your recognition strategies to those being recognized!Yay For Me in Detroit wants to know if it is okay to nominate oneself for an award? Or should she just hope that someone else does it for her....Treats Not the Trick in Topeka gave an employee a gift that backfired. Instead of being appreciated, the recipient was offended by the gift. Deeply offended. How should they manage the situation? Do they buy a new gift or just let it go.Sneers of Service in Raleigh thinks giving awards for years of service is just about the stupidest thing ever. How does he get his company to find a better way to recognize good work?Show us your love! Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
How honest are you? While you might like to think you’re an honest person, statistically speaking we are all liars. Researchers estimate the average person lies a minimum of once to twice per day. But when do those little “white lies” become problematic? In this week’s episode, Chris and Mary explore listeners’ concerns about lying, cheating, and stealing at work!Mum’s the Word in Maryland suspects that one of their employees is handing in fake expense receipts. The problem? The employee in question happens to be the granddaughter of the owner. Yikes! Thinking Fast to Go Slow is a data entry contractor who has decided to work more slowly in order to make more money. Should he bring others into his scheme? Or is he about to get hoisted by his own petard…Been There, Done That in Tampa is a marketing consultant who wonders if he can plagiarize his own work—in other words, can he provide the same strategies to multiple clients in the same industry? Is this cheating?Show us your love! Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
While there may be nothing constant in this world, except change—it doesn’t mean that organizations are good at creating change. In fact, research shows that organizational leaders are getting worse at implanting successful change and not better. So where does that leave those of us who must navigate change and transition in the workplace? Flummoxed in Philadelphia is a new manager who has been tasked with “cleaning up” the culture of their department. Is it possible to change the culture? Is so, where does one begin?Can’t Take the Complaining in Kansas City is sick and tired of their team complaining about recent changes to their workplace. The team said that they wanted more flexibility, but now they are complaining about the result. What gives?Cope-less in Cleveland is exhausted by all the constant changes at her workplace. What can she do to become more resilient?  Show us your love! Please give us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We’re here to help you succeed! Send us your workplace dilemmas or career questions. Email us: info@cubicleconfidential.com or tweet us: @cubicleconfide1. All names will be changed to protect the guilty and innocent...Thanks for listening! Connect with us on LinkedIn or Twitter!
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