D's Nuggets

New Religion is a heartfelt message about religion, relationship, rules, and responsibility. Opinions are overrated and I did my best to share the third side of the story; The Truth!    Beliefs dictate behavior. It's time for us to be aware of our behaviors to develop more respect and responsibility.    Let your curiosities precede your conclusions.   Allow me to be voice of reason instead of the Devil's advocate.

June 17, 1999 marks the day I would’ve been married 23 years. Instead of being embarrassed, I choose to celebrate.  When I got married I thought I was doing it right, but I did it all wrong. In retrospect, I’ve come a long way, and I’m ready to right my wrongs. Looking back on June 17, 1999… • We eloped in Vegas instead of waiting for the wedding • We never received premarital counseling • I thought in order to be the best husband all I had to do was work hard, love hard, and follow God • I barely knew who I was and tried to be the best man I could be • I internalized a lot and my communication was poor • I did it for love and didn’t understand the lifetime partnership • I wanted to change her but didn’t change much • I labeled myself as “damaged goods” after my divorce • I divorced God after my prayers didn’t fix the problems in my marriage • I felt like a failure because I couldn’t save my family • I didn’t love them hoes but I liked the way they made me feel • I hurt a lot of hearts searching for the unadulterated love I once had • I didn’t talk to my kids about how I push through the pain. They were hurting too I’m going to celebrate this day because… • I’ve forgiven myself • I trust God regardless • I invest to appreciate who I am • I overstand how I feel • Less is in lessons and blessings • I’m a grown ass mature man • I’ll elevate my future (life, business, and accountability) partner WIFEY • My status isn’t stapled • I have peace, joy, and wisdom • My past was a process and not a problem • I’ll never get divorced again • Love’s in need of love today and I got mad love to give

Are you struggling with staying motivated? I know I did.  The pandemic has rusted some of our successful behaviors because we had the opportunity to "hide" for a while. We typically perform better when eyes are watching us, but many of us are working from home or "slowly" working on our personal goals, and some of us lost our mojo. Listen to the seven secrets to get you back on track and motivate yourself. No one is coming to save us! Who motivates the motivator?  Discipline and consistency are strong factors to reactivate motivation, but when you lack those critical behaviors, you have to know how to dig deep and find what motivates you.  You'll save tons of money and time trying to find out what motivates you because I provide the secrets the pro's use to get you going. 

Kemy Joseph and I had an amazing discussion on D’s Nuggets podcast about the strengths and challenges we face as DEI&B consultants. Kemy is the CEO and DEI Strategist at F.E.A.R.S. Advantage™. He has over two decades serving in leadership roles and he’s worked alongside Nobel Peace Prize winners to inspire social change intiatives around the world. Kemy is a two time graduate with his Masters of Science, in Brain Based Teaching and Learning. Oftentimes in leadership, we’re given the authority to seek out problems in DEI but lack the permission and knowledge needed to create effective change in building a culture of inclusion. Tune in to hear this informative episode about breaking barriers we’re challenged with in diversity, equity, and inclusion training. You’ll discover strategies to build trusting relationships, be an authentic leader, and apply simple communication strategies in the workplace.

We have the freedom to make choices and that’s our super power here on earth. How do you start make great choices? By consistently making good choices. Our freedom to exercise choice is so powerful and yet we sometimes underestimate the magnitude of how great this superpower is, until it costs us more than we bargained for or it gives us more freedom than we anticipated. Tune in to learn more about your super power, how to make it a super-duper power, and take control. 

Are we living in the best of times? A lot has changed since I was a child, and I wanted to share this new world with us all. It's time to look at the big picture. The world has definitely changed. What are we doing to adapt? Things around us aren't getting better, but that's no excuse for us not to become a better version of ourselves.  A whole new world A rude awakening point of view Everyone wants to tell us NO Restrictions on where to go And to say the "woke" are only dreaming A whole new world A dismal place I never knew But when I place myself way up here It becomes crystal clear That now I'm in a whole new world with you

The purpose of talking about a healthy sex life is to promote connectivity, calmness, comfortability, creativity, and control, which leads to a more committed intimate relationship. Sex is extremely powerful, but it isn't everything! Understanding how to direct that euphoric energy makes a world of a difference. During this episode you'll hear intimate details regarding the following topics: o  Monogamy & Polygamy o  Making Love o  Sexual Energy o  Masculine & Feminine Energy o  The Apple Doesn't Fall Far From The Tree Part III will conclude this three part series on sex. I'm sure you've enjoyed it as much as did. Embrace a healthy change , feel good about it, and love yourself and others better. 

Today I’m sharing more from a physiological approach to understand mostly what our body experiences during sex. Be prepared before you feel turned on. Prepare for your spouse / life partner by making healthy sex a priority. Sex is pleasurable, but it should be a controlled pleasure. Pleasure has a limit before it becomes its own form of punishment. The major points touched on in this episode are: o  Foreplay o  Oral Sex o  Breathing o  Ejaculation vs Orgasm o  Injaculation o  Diet and Exercise You're welcome ;-) Enjoy!

How did you learn about sex? Healing your sex life will help with pre-mature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, low/high sex drive, Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD), sexual abuse, and other sexual health problems. Healthy sex can boost your mood, induce sleep, reduce stress, and even lessen physical pain. I’m going to share with you different techniques and just a tip, to take Sex/Intimacy to the Next Level. Sexual Education will benefit the old, young, single, married, heterosexual, bi-sexual, homosexual, virgins, whores, and everyone else in between the sheets. Listen to part 1 of 3. This episode will be shared soon.  Be sure to follow this podcast so you don't miss out! 

Would you like an effortless way to attract more money, relationships, opportunities, and happiness? You'll hear all about attraction laws as well as some unspoken attraction rules to work on that’s within your control. Attract more of what you want, who you want, when you want.  Beware! In addition to attracting what you want the haters will come, so be prepared.  Attraction Nuggets provided in this episode are: Laws of Attraction Appeal to the 5 Senses Image is Everything, But Perception Isn't Always Reality Control Your Faces Understand Your Needs and the Ways YOU Can Fulfill Them Prove Yourself Wrong Reprogram: Become a Life Learner

“There is no health without mental health.” - World Health Organization There are things we must spend time on; Such as, grooming ourselves, working to make an income, raising and developing our children, learning, exercising etc.  M.E. time has it's long-term benefits and it is just as important of not more important than those things above.  Learn as I share information on how our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs dictate our behavior, and why we need more M.E. time.  "Failure and success begins and ends in the mind." - D's Nuggets

Therapy or counseling is a method of resolving behaviors, beliefs, feelings, relationship issues, and/or experiences. During this episode I extrapolate the name therapy and how to recognize why you need it, when to begin, where to look, and who to seek it from. You'll understand the difference between a Therapist, a Coach, and a Mentor and how they can contribute to your success.  Last but not least, I'll expose the "D's" that get you down, but most importantly, how to rise to the top.  Enjoy this episode and your introduction to THERAPY. 

In an abortion, justification of a ending (funeral) has to take place in our mind before life truly begins, and that “mistake” or decision is buried to Rest In Peace. Everyone has the right to decide; Is that decision right? There’s a huge difference between doubt, danger, and reality. All of those are critical factors when deciding to abort mission. Learn improved processes and make better decisions before it’s too late or before you abort mission too early.

If you have a child, pass them the baton. Don't make them start alone, from the beginning. Provide them with great values, life lessons, and wisdom. Give them the best handoff for their adult life. Being an example is a great start, but providing them with the tools and the know how to use them will prepare them the build the life of success.  According to an average lifespan, we spend less than 20% as a child. The rest of those years are spent in adulthood. Are you preparing your child for their adult life or are you babying them too long?

How do you stay focused in a world full of distractions? Listen to some vital techniques to stay focused or how to refocus and improve your performance output. You'll learn the four rules referenced from the book Deep Work by Cal Newport, and I sprinkle a few of my nuggets on how I manage my struggle with focusing.  Here are a few nuggets.  1.  Refocus when you’ve lost sight of the goal or your why 2.  Focus on the technique before the target.  3.  Multitasking may increase the quantity without the highest quality 4.  There’s no need to panic when you pay attention Tune in to receive them all!

There's too many things in life we take personally that we could've easily let go of. It's easy to apply this principle where there are policies in procedures in place for us to conduct ourselves in a manner suitable to the environment.  What if we applied those techniques in our personal lives and relationships? We would be much better off.  Check out the Nuggets I share on how to let go, learn, grow, and/or take responsibility if needed to elevate.  And just be HAPPY! 

Two Black fathers discuss the value of family and leaving a legacy for future generations. Planting seeds doesn’t stop in the secret garden of goodies; even though it’s fun dropping those bad boys off. It’s a lifelong commitment that requires a lot of unrecognized effort to create a productive household and community. My brother and I talk about our “family jewels” and the amount of pressure they bring. A man’s duties oftentimes go under appreciated, but his relentless contribution to family will always be priceless.

While listening to this episode you’ll discover the two types of cheaters. You’ll also hear fifteen different reasons I believe people cheat, what a side piece cannot do, five signs you’re in a relationship with a cheater, and much more. Tune in to receive the Cheat Codes that’ll improve or expose your relationship.

We can all use spiritual guidance in our lives. There are a lot of people having difficulties adjusting during this season. Here are a few reasons we're experiencing a spiritual awakening.  ·  More people have ways to connect with each other but feel disconnected more than ever before ·  Relationships are shifting ·  Dreams and nightmares are becoming reality ·  The truth seems convoluted ·  Some people are tuning in with nature ·  Our routines and habits are changing ·  There’s a lot of tension in the air We can experience God in multiple ways. As I sat and talked to my mom, she shared nuggets on commonly asked questions about church, how to stay true to our faith, and what a real God encounter looks and feels like.  Tune in! 

I was recently asked by an educator “why didn’t you become a teacher?” My response was “I am a teacher, but I didn’t follow the rules.” Everyone isn’t fit for the traditional “formal” educational system. And many of us that respect education in all aspects of life need to be reminded, self education is what changes lives. Our journey to personal development will never end. Do you need to drop out and get schooled?