DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

In this episode of Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David interviews Ryan Christensen, a professional hypnotist, military veteran, and author of Winter Peace: How to End Inner Conflict and Make Success Inevitable. Ryan shares his journey of overcoming autism, bipolar disorder, and a life of emotional struggles to become a guide for others dealing with deep-seated mental and emotional challenges. Drawing from his own experiences, Ryan explains how men over 40 recovering from divorce can rewrite their past narratives, challenge self-blame, and embrace self-acceptance.Ryan emphasizes the power of the subconscious mind in healing and success. He discusses how divorce often leads men to blame themselves, but reframing these experiences and understanding emotions as survival signals—not wounds—can lead to transformation. He shares insights on recognizing small victories, reframing beliefs about love and relationships, and shifting from societal expectations to genuine personal growth.Listeners will learn about the concepts of "the cage" and "the treadmill," common traps that hinder men's progress, and how to cultivate curiosity instead of judgment during tough moments. Ryan also highlights the importance of self-care, reclaiming self-worth, and accepting one’s imperfections to move forward. This episode is packed with actionable advice, offering divorced men a roadmap to healing and rediscovery.10 Important Topics Covered in the Podcast:Reframing Past Experiences: How rewriting the meaning of past events helps men recovering from divorce redefine themselves and move forward.Self-Blame and Divorce: Why men often blame themselves for failed marriages and how to shift that mindset.The Role of Subconscious Beliefs: How deep-seated beliefs about self-worth influence emotional responses and relationship outcomes.Emotions as Survival Signals: Viewing anger, grief, and sadness as signals asking for help rather than wounds to "heal."Recognizing Small Wins: The importance of celebrating survival and small victories as steps toward personal growth.The Cage vs. The Treadmill: Understanding these metaphors for feeling trapped by societal expectations or past pain.Curiosity vs. Judgment: How cultivating curiosity can help men approach emotions and challenges with openness and growth.Self-Worth and Deservedness: How men can stop questioning their inherent worth and focus on what they truly want from life.Redefining Love and Relationships: The importance of self-love and reframing beliefs about love after a divorce.Practical Steps for Emotional Growth: Strategies like seeking external perspectives, embracing forgiveness, and redefining masculinity for personal development.Ryan’s Main WebsiteRyan on YouTubeHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this engaging episode of Don't Pick The Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Michael Read, a men’s coach and creator of The Adaptive Male YouTube channel. Michael specializes in helping men understand healthy masculinity by exploring the intersections of science, psychology, history, and culture. Together, they dive deep into how men over 40 can heal from divorce by reclaiming their sense of purpose, rebuilding their identity, and navigating emotions in a healthy way.Michael explains how societal expectations and "nice guy syndrome" often lead men to neglect self-care, making it crucial for men to prioritize their well-being and emotional health. He highlights the importance of moving past toxic masculinity narratives, embracing emotional expression, and fostering healthy masculinity based on self-regulation and authenticity. Michael also introduces concepts like "emotional language" and the "shadow self," helping men better understand their feelings and behaviors.The discussion touches on the unique challenges divorced men face, including the loss of identity, purpose, and self-worth. Michael offers actionable strategies for men to rebuild their lives by engaging in self-care, finding purpose outside of relationships, and fostering connections with other men. He also discusses the evolving role of masculinity across different life stages and how co-parenting can be an opportunity to demonstrate healthy masculinity to children. This episode is packed with insights and practical advice for men seeking to heal and thrive after divorce.10 Important Topics Covered in the Podcast:The Algorithm of Behavior: Understanding how childhood experiences shape adult behaviors and reactions, and how to reprogram these patterns.Emotional Language: Teaching men to reconnect with their emotions by recognizing physical sensations and associating them with emotional experiences.Toxic vs. Healthy Masculinity: Exploring the differences between toxic traits and healthy masculine qualities, such as emotional regulation and authenticity.Nice Guy Syndrome: Examining how trying to please others at the expense of oneself can lead to relationship breakdowns and self-neglect.The Shadow Self: Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow self, where suppressed parts of our personality resurface in unhealthy ways if left unaddressed.Self-Care for Men: Emphasizing the importance of prioritizing self-care to avoid burnout and foster healthier relationships.Rebuilding Identity After Divorce: Helping men rediscover their sense of purpose and self-worth by separating their identity from a failed relationship.Emotional Numbness in Men: Addressing the phenomenon of emotional disconnection and its physical and psychological consequences.Masculinity Across Life Stages: Examining how men’s roles and perceptions of masculinity evolve with age, from physical strength to wisdom and guidance.Co-Parenting with Masculinity: Using healthy masculinity to be a positive parental role model while navigating the challenges of co-parenting post-divorce.Michael’s YouTube Channel - The Adaptive MaleHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast", the safe space for men over 40 navigating the emotional terrain of divorce recovery. I'm your host, David, here to guide you toward healing, growth, and rediscovery. Divorce can leave wounds, but here, we focus on healing one layer at a time—without reopening the scab. Whether you're struggling to move forward, wondering how to rebuild your life, or simply looking for tools to thrive post-divorce, this is your tribe.Today, we have an extraordinary guest, Junie Moon, a transformational love coach and empowerment leader. Junie is an expert in helping people heal toxic relationship patterns, uncover blind spots, and create the love life they truly desire. She’s passionate about guiding men and women through the complexities of relationships and helping them embrace healthy, next-level love.In this episode, we’ll dive into the importance of self-care, rebuilding self-confidence, setting boundaries, and breaking free from destructive patterns. Junie will also share powerful insights from her expertise in shadow work, helping you uncover the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck.So grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and prepare to be inspired. Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. You’re not alone, and together we’re going to help you rediscover the best version of yourself. Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast. Let’s get started.10 Important Points Junie Moon Presented:The Importance of Self-Care: Men often neglect self-care, but proper rest, good nutrition, and surrounding yourself with supportive people are crucial for healing and thriving.Unpacking the Past: Taking time to reflect on past relationships and patterns is vital before moving into new relationships. Jumping into the next chapter without healing can lead to repeating cycles.Beliefs About Women and Relationships: Many beliefs about women—such as “women only want money” or “women bring drama”—stem from past experiences and societal conditioning. Breaking these beliefs is key to healthier relationships.Listening Over Fixing: Women don’t always want solutions; they often just want to be heard. Learning how to hold space and listen without jumping to fix things can strengthen communication and connection.The Role of Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries is essential for healthy relationships. Knowing what you want and what you will accept helps you communicate effectively and avoid being taken advantage of.Healing Blind Spots with Shadow Work: Unresolved issues from childhood or past relationships often influence current relationship choices. Shadow work helps uncover and heal these hidden patterns.Avoiding the Fixer Mindset: Men and women often fall into the trap of finding a “project” to fix in a partner. This stems from insecurity or a need to feel valuable, but it leads to unhealthy dynamics.The Power of Self-Confidence: Divorce often shatters self-confidence. Rebuilding it comes from trying new things, believing in yourself, and creating a vision for the future that aligns with your values.The Magnet of Repeating Patterns: Without healing, people unconsciously attract partners who reflect unresolved issues. Growth requires breaking free from these patterns by addressing the root causes.Seeking Support: Healing is not a solo journey. Whether through coaches, therapists, or shadow work practitioners, having someone to guide you can accelerate progress and help you create healthier relationships.Junie’s WebsiteJunie’s Free ConsultationHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to another episode of Don’t the Scab Podcast, the podcast dedicated to empowering men over 40 as they navigate the challenges of divorce and embrace healing, growth, and self-discovery. Today, we’re diving into the complexities of mental health, self-care, and redefining identity with an incredible guest, Dr. Marie Dona. Dr. Dona is a triple board-certified psychiatrist and therapist based in Tampa, Florida, who specializes in treating a wide range of mental health conditions while emphasizing holistic approaches to wellness. As a first-generation Filipino American with a deeply personal connection to the mental health field, Dr. Dona shares her inspiring journey, expert insights, and actionable advice to help men rebuild their lives after divorce. From advocating for mental health to fostering self-confidence and exploring creative outlets, this conversation is packed with wisdom and strategies you don’t want to miss. Let’s jump in with Dr. Marie Dona on Don’t the Sky.Dr. Marie Dona’s 10 Most Important Points:Mental health is for everyone – Therapy and counseling are beneficial for all, and seeking help should never feel stigmatized or shameful.Differences between psychiatrists and psychologists – Psychiatrists are medical doctors who can prescribe medications, but Dr. Dona uniquely combines psychotherapy and behavioral interventions in her private practice.The importance of addressing mental health early – Identifying and treating mental health concerns in children and adolescents can significantly impact their future well-being.Advocating for mental health – Removing stigma and normalizing discussions about therapy and mental health care is crucial in today’s society.Self-care is non-negotiable – Maintaining routines like exercise, healthy eating, and hobbies are vital for emotional and physical well-being, especially during challenging times.Co-parenting with empathy – Focusing on the children’s needs rather than unresolved anger or frustration with an ex can create a healthier dynamic.Signs men need help – Outbursts of anger, isolation, substance reliance, and neglect of hygiene or responsibilities are indicators that support is needed.Reclaiming identity post-divorce – Exploring past hobbies, building new skills, and reconnecting with supportive people can help redefine a sense of self.Creative and physical outlets – Activities like running, swimming, or even trying something new like pickleball can foster mental health and joy.New advancements in psychiatry – Innovations like transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) and ketamine treatments offer hope for those with treatment-resistant conditions.Everything Marie DonaHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to Don’t Pick The Scab Podcast, the podcast that helps men over 40 heal, grow, and thrive after divorce. Today, we’re diving into an inspiring conversation with Lucy Airs, a seasoned resilience coach and psychological safety expert. Lucy brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the table, offering practical tools and insights to help you rebuild your life and create stronger relationships post-divorce.In this episode, Lucy shares how resilience isn’t just about bouncing back—it’s about growing stronger through adversity. She’ll unpack the concept of psychological safety, showing how to create environments where you and your children can thrive emotionally. If you’ve struggled with co-parenting challenges, identity loss, or finding a balance between self-care and supporting your kids, Lucy’s wisdom will guide you. Get ready for actionable advice, heartfelt stories, and strategies to turn your toughest moments into stepping stones for growth and happiness.10 Important Points Lucy States in the InterviewResilience as Growth Through Adversity: Resilience isn’t just recovering from hardship but growing stronger because of it, embracing challenges instead of avoiding them.The Importance of Building Resilience Daily: Resilience is like a muscle that must be built and maintained daily, much like physical fitness, to prepare for life’s heavy emotional weights.Psychological Safety Defined: It’s the ability to take interpersonal risks and be yourself without fear of judgment or ridicule, crucial in both family and workplace environments.Rebuilding Psychological Safety Post-Divorce: After separation, individuals must create new “safe spaces” for themselves and their children to heal and thrive.Self-Care as Essential for Resilience: Good sleep, nutrition, exercise, and positive emotions fuel the brain’s ability to regulate emotions and face life’s challenges.Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships: Understanding and regulating emotions helps individuals connect better with others, including ex-partners, by fostering empathy and reducing conflict.Co-Parenting Challenges and Control: Lucy emphasizes focusing on what you can control in your home rather than stressing about the other parent’s household, as this benefits children.Nonviolent Communication Techniques: Identifying emotions and their underlying needs can help diffuse co-parenting conflicts and foster effective, respectful communication.Positive Psychology in Recovery: Recovery isn’t just about filling gaps left by divorce but building a new life by focusing on strengths, opportunities, and personal growth.The Role of Parents in Modeling Resilience: Demonstrating resilience and emotional stability to children is the greatest gift parents can give, teaching them life skills for future challenges.All things Lucy Airs on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucyairs-pp/Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Hey there, warriors of the heart! Welcome to "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," where we dive deep into the raw, real, and sometimes painful journey of divorce recovery for men over 40. I'm your host, David, and today, we have a truly transformative conversation lined up for you. If you're feeling stuck, lost, or simply searching for a new path after a major life shift, you're in the right place. Our special guest today is Mark Collins, a beacon of hope and transformation. Mark is the mastermind behind the "Freedom For Life" initiative and the author of "Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default." He's dedicated his life to helping men unlock their inner hero, guiding them to not just survive, but thrive through life's challenges. Together, we're going to explore the power of self-identity, mastering your thoughts, and building a life of purpose and fulfillment. So, whether you're driving, working out, or just relaxing with a cup of coffee, get ready to be inspired, motivated, and equipped with the tools you need to rebuild a life filled with meaning and joy. Let's dive in and start this journey of healing and discovery together. Remember, it's not just about recovery—it's about rediscovery. Welcome to the tribe!10 Important Points by Mark Collins:Identity is Key: Understanding and embracing who you are is crucial for personal growth and overcoming life challenges.Mastering Thoughts: Your life is shaped by your thoughts; focusing on positive, constructive thoughts can lead to a better life experience.Self-Care Importance: Prioritize self-care to maintain emotional and mental well-being, akin to putting on your oxygen mask first.Living by Design: Shift from living life by default to living intentionally and by design for greater fulfillment.Handling Past Influences: Recognize and heal from past experiences to stop them from defining your current and future identity.Co-Parenting Challenges: Stability in self-identity helps manage the challenges and emotional complexities of co-parenting.Changing Personal Relationships: Growth and change may alter friendships and relationships, often requiring boundary setting.Failure as Feedback: View failures as opportunities for learning and growth rather than as permanent setbacks.Developing Self-Assurance: True confidence comes from knowing who you are, not from external validation or accomplishments.Transformation Takes Time: Change is a journey that involves gradual shifts and aha moments, requiring patience and persistence.All Things Mark CollinsWebsite: http://freedom-for-life.netFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreedForLife/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_freedomforlife_/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw1A7tteCrpLj_d9ejzDWRgLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mark-collins-freedom-for-lifeHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Don't Pick The Scab Podcast," the podcast where we take a light-hearted dive into the world of men over 40 recovering from divorce. This week, we chat with Greg Payne, a certified life coach and holistic healer. Greg, a self-proclaimed IT-to-healing convert, shares his journey from tech grad to energy worker, proving that even spreadsheets can have a soul.Greg co-founded Awakened Roots with his wife, creating a healing hub that’s part advice column, part energy spa. They offer everything from Brainspotting to Kambo—yes, that’s frog sweat medicine—and if that doesn’t sound intriguing, nothing will. Greg explains that Brainspotting maps trauma to a specific point in your visual field, kind of like finding your emotional North Star, while Kambo boosts your immune system with Amazonian frog peptides. Who knew amphibians could be so therapeutic?Breathwork and Reiki also make the list, with Greg highlighting how these practices can tune you into your emotional radio station, clearing static and finding clarity. He emphasizes using breathwork to address emotions held in the body, making it easier to navigate life’s tricky transitions, like divorce.Ultimately, Greg’s message is simple: Self-care isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a lifeline. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend or indulging in a little pampering, taking time for yourself is crucial. So, grab your metaphorical toolkit and prepare to rebuild because healing is just a breath away.Greg gave it to us fast with no chaser.  New but refreshing.  Got to get him back on the show! We have more to discuss!Important Points:IT grad turned holistic healer and life coach.Awakened Roots combines energy healing and life coaching.Brainspotting maps trauma to specific visual field spots.Kambo uses frog peptides for immune and energy boosts.Breathwork releases emotions held in the body.Reiki promotes relaxation, aiding emotional and physical healing.Self-care and outreach prevent isolation post-divorce.Men face isolation and need connection for healing.Emotional intelligence aids in navigating post-divorce challenges.Everything Greg!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast” the podcast for men over 40 looking to bounce back from divorce with a sprinkle of humor and a dash of spiritual healing. Host David kicks off an enlightening and amusing conversation with Wendy Rose Williams, a certified past life energy healer. Think of her as the Marie Kondo for your soul, tidying up anxiety, depression, and those emotional cobwebs from yesteryears.Wendy shares her journey into spiritual healing, revealing how hypnotherapy helps release the emotional baggage we didn't even know we had. Divorce, she notes, is like a cosmic shake-up, triggering buried fears and anger. But don't worry, because past life regression is here to help unravel those old soul contracts. Who knew you might be repeating the same sitcom plot with your ex from the 1900s?David, ever the curious co-host, dives into the nitty-gritty, asking about practical steps for self-care during a divorce. Wendy's advice? Love yourself first! Whether it's meditation, kickboxing, or a therapy session, self-care is crucial. And remember, love your kids more than you dislike your ex. Wise words when you're juggling co-parenting and contemplating your past life as a spurned suitor.As the episode wraps up, Wendy leaves listeners with a Lucille Ball quote to ponder: "Love yourself first, and everything else falls into place." So, tune in, breathe, and remember, even post-divorce life can have its silver linings.Important Points:-Explore unconventional post-divorce solutions for men over 40.-Wendy Rose Williams: Certified spiritual healer and past life expert.-Release emotional baggage with past life energy healing.-Hypnotherapy helps discard anxiety, depression, and stuck energy.-Understand soul contracts and past life connections.-Embrace conscious uncoupling for healthier post-divorce relationships.-Discover self-care practices during emotional turmoil.-Love yourself first; everything else falls into place.-Children adapt better than expected post-divorce.All Things Wendy!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this unique episode of Don't Pick the Scat podcast, host David interviews Cathy Nesbitt, who offers unconventional approaches to healing after divorce. Cathy shares her journey from worm composting advocate to laughter yoga teacher, explaining how laughter can be a powerful tool for managing stress and emotional healing. She discusses the science behind "love drugs" - natural chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins that are released during laughter. The conversation explores how these natural compounds can help with divorce recovery and co-parenting challenges. Cathy emphasizes the importance of self-care practices, including morning routines and connecting with nature through indoor gardening. She explains how laughter yoga isn't about comedy or jokes, but rather a cardiovascular workout that bypasses the brain's stress responses and directly activates the body's relaxation mechanisms. The episode provides practical advice for men over 40 dealing with post-divorce stress, highlighting the importance of putting oneself first and developing sustainable wellness practices. Cathy's approach combines environmental consciousness with personal health, offering unique solutions for emotional healing and stress management.10 Important Points for Listeners:1. Laughter triggers the release of natural "love drugs" (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins) that can help counter stress and negative emotions during divorce recovery.2. You can only be in one nervous system state at a time - either stressed (sympathetic) or relaxed (parasympathetic). Laughter helps switch to the relaxed state.3. During arguments, your frontal lobe disconnects, making logical thinking difficult. Using laughter can help break this cycle and return to a more rational state.4. Start your day with three deep breaths and gratitude thoughts before getting out of bed - this sets a positive tone for managing divorce-related stress.5. For co-parenting challenges, remember that staying present and calm is crucial. Laughter can help manage tensions and keep focus on the children's needs.6. Indoor gardening and connecting with nature can provide therapeutic benefits during divorce recovery, especially as an activity to share with children.7. Self-care should be the top priority - you need to be whole yourself before effectively dealing with ex-partners or children.8. Practice emotional release rather than suppression - like a rabbit shaking off after danger, humans need to release trauma rather than hold it in.9. Our bodies don't know the difference between real and simulated laughter - both provide the same physiological benefits for stress relief.10. Finding a support group or community is crucial for men going through divorce - expressing emotions and "feeling the feels" is necessary for healing.Cathay’s Crawly CompostersCathy’s Laughter ClubHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Don't Pick Scab Podcast," where host David takes you on a hilarious yet enlightening journey to help men over 40 heal from divorce. This week, we're joined by the extraordinary Michael Ayala-White, a trauma-informed coach who isn't afraid to tackle the tough questions—like whether his degree in Biblical Studies from Moody Bible Institute helps him navigate life's trickiest dilemmas! Michael shares his unique insights into restoring identity and purpose, revealing why your childhood argument with your mom might not be the trauma you thought it was. Grab your oxygen mask because we're diving into self-care, emotional intelligence, and the wild world of co-parenting. Whether you're a fantasy football fanatic or a nature-loving Zen master, Michael has tips to help you find your groove. Tune in and come along as we uncover why communication is more than just grunting at your buddy during a Chiefs / Bills football game!Topic List:-Defining trauma and trauma-informed coaching.-Common misconceptions about trauma.-Techniques for men to restore identity and find purpose.-Importance of emotional intelligence in relationships.-Strategies for improving communication skills.-The significance of self-care for men.-Tips and challenges in co-parenting, especially after divorce.Wayward CoachingHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the "Don't Pick The Scab" podcast, where we help men over 40 transform post-divorce scars into superpowers. Today, we're diving deep into the art of turning sexual energy into life abundance with our special guest, Matt. Now, Matt isn't just any coach; he's a maestro in the realm of sexual energy transformation, having guided over 80,000 men to find their groove beyond the bedroom. Imagine a world where your sexual drive isn't just for procreation but for creating a life that feels like your own personal Nirvana. That's right, Matt's here to spill the beans—or maybe not spill them at all, depending on your retention schedule! He's been with his partner for nearly 40 years, proving that love can be stronger than a well-brewed cup of morning coffee and more enduring than a Wi-Fi connection during a thunderstorm. Join us as Matt shares how to harness that primal energy to conquer anxiety, smash through those societal stigmas, and build trust and intimacy—all while keeping a sense of humor. And remember, it's not about the destination; it's about enjoying the ride—literally and figuratively. So buckle up, because this episode promises to be as enlightening as it is entertaining!Important points:Transform sexual energy into life abundance post-divorce.Avoid porn to maintain strong sexual energy.Build oxytocin before engaging in sexual activities.Embrace nonverbal communication over excessive talking about sex.Approach women in person, not through dating apps.Schedule ejaculations to build and maintain sexual energy.Join men's groups for support and shared experiences.Be a "shock absorber" in relationships, not reactive.Frequent sex is crucial for a healthy relationship.Expect negative results initially when approaching women.Matt Cook’s Main Website:https://www.healthyto120.comMatt’s Medical Discoveries:https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In episode 57 of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David talks with guest Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist and relationship coach, about the challenges men over 40 face post-divorce. Kevin emphasizes the importance of self-confidence, navigating new dating technologies, and understanding modern relationship dynamics. He discusses common issues such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often rooted in psychological factors. Kevin advises men to embrace their masculinity while being caring and communicative while stressing awareness and action to break negative patterns in relationships for healthier futures.  Even if you’re not having a sexual relationship yet, please listen to this podcast!!  10 Main Takeaways:Rebuilding Self-Confidence: Regaining confidence is crucial for men post-divorce to re-enter the dating scene.Adapting to Modern Dating: Men need to learn new dating technologies and protocols.Physical and Psychological Challenges: Common issues include erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often more psychological than physical.Importance of Foreplay: Foreplay is vital for sexual satisfaction, particularly for women.Healthy Masculinity: Embracing classical masculine traits while being compassionate and communicative is key.Avoiding Old Patterns: Awareness and action are necessary to avoid repeating negative relationship patterns.Open Communication: Honest communication about sexual histories and needs can enhance relationships.Technology in Sexual Health: Emerging technologies are aiding in diagnosing and treating sexual health issues.Friends with Benefits Dynamics: These relationships often lead to attachment, particularly for women.Self-Acceptance and Growth: Men should focus on personal growth and self-acceptance before seeking new relationships.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, David and Chantel Landreville discuss the importance of love skills and self-awareness in navigating relationships, especially during and after a divorce. They explore how to create safe spaces for emotional healing, the dynamics of co-parenting, and the significance of self-care and humility in personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to seek support and be truthful with themselves as they recover from divorce and build new relationships.Takeaways:Everything I teach applies to any relationship.You need to be able to define what you want.Self-awareness starts with asking yourself why.It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings.Get support instead of going through it alone.You have to take ownership in it.Safety cannot come from alone; it's an environment.Self-care is about finding things that make you happy.Humility is such a powerful quality.Find your words and do that exercise.Sound Bites:"Everything I teach is applicable to any relationship.""You need to be able to define what you want.""It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings."Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David speaks with divorce coach Jason Scriven about the challenges men over 40 face during and after divorce. They discuss the importance of self-care, rediscovering one's identity, building connections, and navigating the emotional aspects of separation. Jason shares insights on setting boundaries, creating new memories, and the realities of dating after divorce. He also outlines a four-week program designed to help men master their separation and make informed decisions for their future.   Jason gave us some nice pearls and advice.  I’m definitely going to have him back on the show.  Enjoy!Takeaways:Self-care is crucial for men going through divorce.Rediscovering identity is essential after a long marriage.Building connections with others can aid recovery.Emotional health should be prioritized during divorce.Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being.Creating new memories helps in moving on from the past.Dating after divorce requires careful consideration.Men should avoid dating someone who resembles their ex.Communication through children can be harmful.A structured approach can help navigate the divorce process.All things Jason ScrivenYouTubeTwitterInstagramLinkedinHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the show - Patrick Eilers.  He comes to us from the great state of Michigan and his superpower is the application of psycho-education regarding anxiety and depression.  Discussions of the corrosive qualities of emotions, solitude vs isolation, self-care, a destination for self-care, allow yourself to feel the feels, and empathy.  There are so many great suggestions and advice tidbits in this podcast.  Enjoy!Takeaways:NarcissismYour divorce storySingle identityDivorced DavidVisualize self-careTherapy defining a man’s identityRediscovering the wholeness of being humanMindfulnessNumbing outWhen to seek helpSwitchfoot - Every Breath is a Second ChanceHope is for the things yet to be seenPatrick Eilers; MA, LPCEmail: bloomworkscc@gmx.comWebsite: https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/ Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Don't Pick The Scab podcast, I interview certified coach Cari Frame, who specializes in self-kindness and personal growth. We discuss the importance of self-kindness during difficult times, particularly for men over 40 going through divorce. Cari explains mindfulness, the impact of inner negativity, and the significance of self-compassion. She shares insights from her experience at a suicide hotline, emphasizing the value of being listened to without judgment. The conversation also covers overcoming self-sabotage, co-parenting challenges, taming the inner critic, and the power of pausing to make conscious choices. Ultimately, the episode highlights the importance of purpose in overcoming fear and fostering personal growth.  I really appreciate Cari for taking the time to hang with me and drop some great pearls on my men over 40.  We definitely will do this again!TakeawaysSelf-kindness helps ease the inner battle during tough times.Mindfulness allows individuals to stay present and reduce anxiety.Focusing on imagined futures can drain energy and increase stress.Self-compassion involves understanding and growth rather than judgment.Listening without conditions is a powerful gift for those in distress.Avoiding hard emotions can lead to a lack of joy.Self-sabotage stems from negative inner beliefs about oneself.Control in co-parenting often stems from unresolved grief or guilt.The inner critic often operates on negative assumptions.Pausing allows for conscious decision-making and self-awareness.Everything Cari!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, Simon Yeats shares his incredible journey through personal tragedies, including the loss of loved ones and the challenges of divorce. He discusses the importance of finding humor in life's difficulties, the drive to help others recover from setbacks, and the critical role of support systems in healing. Simon emphasizes the need to embrace emotions, be angry when necessary, and maintain hope for the future, even after experiencing significant hardships.You're not alone in this journey.Life is precious and can go quickly.Be angry, but get on with your life.Don't give up hope, even after setbacks.Find something you are passionate about.Exercise is crucial for mental health.Life can be stupid, crazy, and funny.Support systems are vital for recovery.You have to embrace your emotions.Do things for yourself after a divorce.My Second Life - By Simon YeatsSimon's Email: mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.comHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

We have a special guest on the podcast today - Jonathan Steele.  He has the distinction of being the first returning guest on DPTSP.  With his last podcast, we were only able to touch on cybersecurity and divorce recovery only slightly.  This time, the entire show is devoted to the subject - and Jonathan did not disappoint.  I found there were so many facets to divorce and cybersecurity that some even branch into the regular world.  Set back and pay attention.  You may have to listen to this one a few times because Jonathan drops quite a bit of knowledge.  Sidenote:  I’ve had Proton Mail for a year and love it!!  Take a listen.Discussions of:Phishing attacks are on the riseNigerian Price and 400K scamFamily safe wordRarely see a good application of social media in a divorce caseAI component is scaryBusiness impersonationsCo-parenting appsStop, pause and thinkPreying on your mind with urgencyMulti-factoring passwordAlmost too late when harm is doneTest your backupsDigital footprints - unavoidableEvery computer is built to fail3-2-1 backup mantraRansomwareBackup everydayMonitor your creditTime to change your passwords when you start the divorceHardware security keyEnd-to-end encryptionSteele FortressJOIN THE FREE MEN'S OVER 40 DIVORCE RECOVERY PRIVATE COMMUNITY-https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about -a judgment-free zone! #divorce#divorcemen#divorcehealing#divorcerecovery#divorcehealingmenover40#divorcerecoverymenover40#divorcehealingmen#divorcerecoverymen#divorcemenpodcast Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome David Nordel to the show.  After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans.  He has written two books on leadership.  We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce.  Some of the parallels are interesting.  Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast.  It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship.  Thanks, David.  Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet.  Talk to David soon!Other topics:Why listening is so importantWays to effectively navigate life, family and friendshipsThe value of timeSavoring each momentDeeper awareness of our surroundingsHidden potential withinMany people hear, but only a few listenHappy squirrelsRun your life like a CEOHarness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively.Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossibleCheck out egosWhen we are hurt, we want to transmit70/30 me timeGood quittingRecreate yourself from the inside outHandling hard betterRecovery from your failure and move forwardDivorce and moral injury run congruentEVERYTHING DAVID NORDELHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations.  Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery.  His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now.  Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast.  Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode.  In half an  hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show.  Thanks MattAdditional Subjects:8 primary moods that get in the way of our happinessVictim modeWe choose every emotion we are experiencingTake responsibilityGratitudeHappiness blueprintFlip the scriptHumilityRate your friends from one to tenself -care and happinessHope and happinessIf you want a better present, get a better and bigger futureEverything Matt O’NeillHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.